How To Lose The Room

We've all witnessed it – someone losing the room. Here's how to prevent that from being you.

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Transcript

How To Lose the Room

Have you ever been trapped in a conversation where someone just . . . keeps . . . talking?

You can almost see the moment they lose you. But they don't see it. They're like the Eveready Battery Bunny – they just keep going.

That's what it means to lose the room. You continue talking without realizing that no one is listening anymore.

Most teachers, comedians, and public speakers experience this early on.

The successful ones eventually recognize the signs that their audience has checked out – and they adjust.

Because if they don't, it's going to be a short career.

NASA engineers understand this principle well. Rockets headed for the moon are actually off course about 90% of the trip. The mission succeeds because they're constantly making small corrections.

Great communicators do the same thing.

They aren't successful because they always say the perfect thing. They're successful because they notice, in real time, when they've drifted off course and they adjust.

That's called sensory acuity – the ability to notice how you're being received.

We've all met people who seem to talk at us instead of with us. Their goal isn't communication; it's simply getting everything they want to say out of their heads. They don't notice the glazed-over eyes, the wandering attention, or the subtle signals that say, "You've lost me."

Don't be that person.

And here's the tricky part: it's much easier to notice this habit in someone else than it is to see it in ourselves.

So start paying attention while you're speaking.

Notice facial expressions. Notice body language. Notice when people lean in – or when they mentally leave the room.

And while someone else is talking, really listen. Don't spend the whole time rehearsing what you're going to say next. That's one of the quickest ways to kill real communication.

I once watched a very successful self-help author give a presentation. He's a terrific writer, but he may have been the weakest professional speaker I've ever seen.

He was so focused on delivering his message that he completely missed the fact that more than half the audience had disengaged.

His attention never left himself long enough to notice what was happening in the room.

That's a lack of sensory acuity.

Here's the takeaway:

Communication isn't just about expressing yourself. It's also about receiving feedback while you're expressing yourself.

The more aware you become of how you're being received, the more likely your message is to get through.

And unlike that rocket headed for the moon, the course corrections are usually very small.

Sometimes all it takes is a bit of noticing.

All the best,

John