Expand with Whitney Jean Buck
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Expand with Whitney Jean Buck
85. Rebuilding with Authenticity: A Journey of Empowerment and New Beginnings
How do you rebuild your life and business when everything falls apart? Join me as I share my transformative journey over the last 16 months, where the collapse of my old ways led to a profound rediscovery of self and purpose. From the chaos and uncertainty emerged clarity and growth, highlighting the importance of reclaiming personal power and authenticity. Every individual's path is unique, and through my experiences, I emphasize that there is no single right way to achieve success. Through heartfelt reflections, we explore the significant lessons learned during these challenging times and the beauty of new beginnings.
As I approach my 30th birthday, I discuss the astrological shifts influencing my growth and how I’ve integrated past lessons into a more authentic and empowered existence. We delve into the transition from maiden to mother, shedding fear and doubt to embrace a more powerful self. This episode touches on the value of genuine relationships in business, breaking traditional boundaries, and living from a place of love and inspiration. With a commitment to speaking unfiltered and owning my power, I invite you to embrace your unique potential, recognizing that true authenticity leads to infinite possibilities and meaningful connections. Join me on this journey of empowered creation and self-authenticity.
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one of the things that I've learned to love about myself is that I take a short story and I make it long. Who else out there has to make sure that you have every single detail of every single person's life that's involved in the story, so that you really get the oomph of what I'm trying to tell you, like I want you to really feel it or is it just me? I was sitting here and I had an extra opportunity to dive in with you guys. I was supposed to do a podcast recording with another gal and her computer started restarted and so I had all this extra space and I and by all this extra I have like 20 minutes. So I wanted to jump in here because there's this message coming through about the power of new beginnings and to rewind this, I used to say all the time so careful about the words you choose to speak into existence. I used to say that if I had to start my business all over again, I would be in a better spot because I have me. I have all the growth, I have all the expansion, I have all the things that I've learned over the years. That restarting would be easy, and I'm going to let you in on a little secret, that it isn't as easy as I thought it would be, but what happened was, as I discussed in the previous episode, was that I forgot who the fuck I was.
Speaker 1:In the dismantling of my business, in the dismantling of my identity, in the dismantling of who I was to who I am now shifting from maiden to mother, one of the things that I've realized and found greater clarity in is that there can be aspects of the dismantling that is for you in your personal growth, and there can be parts of that where you forget who you are in the mix of it, because there's so much falling apart, there's so much crumbling, there's so much of the tower card, like in tarot, where it's like you get lost, like everything's crumbling and you have nothing to hold on to. And that's what the last 16 months have truly felt like there was, like in this void, there was nothing to hold on to, and it can be scary and you can forget who you are in this space, but it's so crucial because it's in this space, that when you do remember, when you do realize, oh my gosh, all of this is happening for me, and there will be a moment where there is clarity on why it all happened, which is what is happening now. I have clarity and I needed to dismantle all of the different ways in which I was creating my business from someone else, by someone else, instead of the authenticity piece of like who am I, how do I want to run this business? And one of the key pieces of this that I've recognized recently with recording podcasts with people and being on podcasts is that everybody does it differently and there is no right or wrong way to do it. And so really reclaiming that power of I know what's best for me, I know what's best for my business, I know what's best and really reclaiming that power and like making decisions from that place of power is really important. And so when you are faced with new beginnings, when everything crumbles, everything falls away and you're like what the fuck am I supposed to do now? This is the episode for you, this is the transmission for you. The thing that doesn't crumble, in times it'll feel like it does, and in times that you may, is you, is your knowledge, is your wisdom.
Speaker 1:The pieces that are falling away are the pieces that are no longer a vibrational match for where you're going. The pieces that fall away are the old identities For me, moving from maiden into mother. The pieces that crumbled were any area in which I was still knight in shining armor to ride in and save the day. Any piece of people pleasing. Any piece of not holding and claiming my power. Any piece where I was unable to hold the boundary peace where I was bypassing my own experience. Any peace where my voice wasn't strong, where it was wavering, where any peace where it was complete fear, where there was no courage. The maiden, like she is playful, she is charismatic, she is magnetic, she is the life of the party. Those aspects I'm taking with me, those aspects of like loving the play, of being curious, of exploration, of exploring who I am, of another level in the mother, but like all of those aspects of me that were fear, that were doubt, that didn't claim her power, that chapter is closed. Those pieces fell away so that I could step into the space of mother.
Speaker 1:And here, when I'm recording this, in a few days, it's my 30th birthday. So by the time this reaches your ears, I will be 30. And I truly feel so, like, astrologically, a lot of shit's going on for me as I move into this next space. It's not leaving all of it behind, but it's taking the pieces that I choose. It's taking the wisdom. It's taking the wisdom from the lessons and being able to incorporate that into my existence, being able to incorporate that into my existence, being able to incorporate that into my, being being able to truly code that within my existence. So, moving forward, I create from a new reality, I create from a new space, I create from a new being. I create from a space that is more expanded, that her voice is heard, that her voice, that she is fully expressed, that she no longer lives in the space of fear and creates from the space of fear and creates this palatable from the space that people are going to perceive well and trying to control all those pieces, but rather from a place of true wisdom, the space of true connection, the space of true power and really the space of true authenticity.
Speaker 1:Because it's no longer about fitting in. It's about finding the places that allow you to thrive. I'm going to say that a million times to you guys. It is no longer about fitting in. It is about creating and curating and generating, magnetizing the spaces in which you thrive. We don't want to sit at tables where, when we get up. We are the topic of conversation, the topic of gossip. That doesn't feel good. They're rejecting you for who you are. We are not available for that in this next season, in this next chapter, and so, with this new beginning, I'm bringing this power of recognizing.
Speaker 1:I am fucking incredible. I love to serve. I have a heart of fucking gold. I am magnetic. I am powerful. I am love. I lead myself with my heart. I wear my heart on my sleeve. Chances are, if you haven't heard me cry, you're going to hear me cry If you exist within my world long enough.
Speaker 1:I am sensitive, I care, I care deeply. I do things differently than a lot of people. I trigger a lot of people. I advocate, I advocate for your, your dreams. I will speak to your dreams instead of your fear. I will speak to your potential instead of your. The story of limitation and that's hard for people and that's part of what I'm leaving in the maiden is like. Is the aspect of like speaking to the fear, validating so that I don't step on any toes and bringing forward the space of like, recognizing and holding space for what people are available, for having the emotional maturity of knowing what they are available for and speaking to their potential. Speaking to their potential, asking them, inviting them to step up.
Speaker 1:And so, with this new beginning, it's like the crumble can be really hard. You can experience so much fucking fear, so much fear, and there are an infinite amount of possibilities out there for you when you're living authentically, when you're living in alignment with you key piece being you, nobody fucking else when you are living authentically, living for you and serving from that place. Because I think, equally, you need both pieces. You it's not just like the Whitney show. I am main character, energy and I will own that and I will embody that and I I won't feel shame about that and there is so much value and so much purpose and share in serving other people and it's and like I know that that's one of the pieces that I'm like.
Speaker 1:And it's, and like I know that that's one of the pieces that I'm like when I talk with my husband, I'm like, how do I teach soul to really honor himself and have a heart of service? The best way to teach is through example, obviously, and so that is the example I'm leading with. But like there's also this added pressure of like there's so much ooey gooey magic in serving people Like I get so much from it and like it is for me too, but like to truly honor and serve people. I love it and so being able to take both of those forward and speaking with power, speaking with purpose, speaking with power, speaking with purpose, speaking authentically, speaking unfiltered. It's no longer about can they take what I'm speaking Like? What if it's too much? What if I'm too much? I'm willing to be too much, I'm willing to speak over people's heads, and that's the piece that's coming into this next chapter too, is that I'm going to speak fully expressed and those that hear me will hear me, and those that don't don't. And what else is possible? What other miracles are we going to experience? The incredible connections we're going to experience?
Speaker 1:Because I am living unfiltered, I am living unapologetically, I am living in my full expression. My authentically expansive, big, quick. That's been one within the maiden was like. It was this from the space of like, the wounded service, where I was like I don't want to leave anybody behind, my wounded inner child of like I don't want to abandon anybody, I don't want to leave anybody behind, I don't want to be too quick, I don't want to.
Speaker 1:That ends, that's gone, it's like no, I'm going to run fucking fast and I believe that you can keep up. There's no more viewing people like they can't keep up. There's no more viewing people as they. They don't have the, the gonads, the conas for that. It's like no, I believe that I believe in you, I'm betting on you, I believe in you and I'm betting on you and I'm going to be fast and I'm going to be quick and I'm going to create and I'm going to change and I'm going to evolve, and it's all going to be so rapid you can't wrap your mind around it. It's all nonlinear and I'm willing to step out of the linear, to be in the nonlinear, and willing to step in the space of the infinite possibilities, into the quantum field, and create and generate from the space, unapologetically. And you're all welcome to dance and fly and soar and create and generate with me. That's the piece Like, let's all do it together In this next chapter, like the.
Speaker 1:What I'm leaning into is is like more connection, more connection with myself, more connection with those around me, more presence, more presence for me, more presence with you, more presence in the present moment, like more stillness. And so the foundation is different, the reason why it needed to crumble was because we're creating from a new foundation. We're leaving the bullshit stories, we're leaving the limitations, we're leaving the lack, we're leaving the life is happening to me in the past and we're creating from the present moment, which the foundation is. I am made for miracles. The foundation is I am made for miracles. I am made for expansion. I am so highly supported and favored by the universe. Everything I create and generate comes back to me tenfold. Everything I do for another person comes back to me tenfold.
Speaker 1:I am circulating energy. I'm circulating money, I'm circulating love. I'm circulating every form of currency that you could possibly fucking imagine, including presence, including connection, including whatever else you want to plug in there. I am circulating that. That is my power, and I am creating this new beginning from a foundation that is so strong, that is so aligned with who I am, that is so authentic, that is so unapologetic. At a risk of like repeating myself over and over and over, I want you to hear me and while I want you to hear me, I'm also not attached to that and I think that's a huge piece that all of us could hear a few times. Is that what if you began to speak with love, be fully expressed, be the embodiment of who you are, be the embodiment of your authentic self and, as a byproduct, it moved people. As a byproduct, it helped people, it inspired people, it created and generated all the things that you could ever fucking imagine and dream of.
Speaker 1:And be detached from the people that reject you. And be detached from the people that can't hear you. And be detached from the people that reject you. And be detached from the people that can't hear you. And be detached from the places it doesn't land, because the focus is on where it's growing. The focus is not on the graveyard. The focus is on the flowers. The focus is on the space that these seeds are being planted and these flowers are blooming in this beautiful space of growth and evolution and expansion. And you're going to water those areas, you're going to focus on those areas. That's the power of a new beginning.
Speaker 1:So, when we make it through the crumble, which can feel like surviving, let me tell you, when we move through the grief and we actually allow ourselves to fully experience it, there's so much freaking gold, like we are dripping in gold on the other side. What if you allowed the crumble so you could allow yourself to see the gold. It's like you have to have the rain to have the rainbow, to have the pot of gold. Allow yourself to feel the grief, stop avoiding the emotion, stop avoiding this pain, stop avoiding the things that want to move through you and stop living in it, stop allowing it to spiral out of control and allow yourself to be sucked in that spiral and to continue to swim into that spiral. What if, instead, you were like wait, I am the creator, you know? What's coming to mind is if you've seen Divergent the series, if you haven't, I highly recommend it.
Speaker 1:When she's doing the testing, it's like she can come back to the point of like, oh, I'm being tested, like this is within my mind, I get to create this. She's in. So she dives in the into a puddle at one point to escape whatever is in front of her, to get out of that situation. And they're like how'd you do that? And it's like it comes down to her realizing like she's the creator of that reality. These are all her worst fears, but it's created within her mind. And so if we take that into our life, we take that context and we apply it in front of us, what we will find is that sorry, my mic is I have to fix my mic and we apply it to our life, we begin to implement that. What we will find is that that is so relatable within the real life, like it's not just out of a movie, like we are the creator.
Speaker 1:When we, when we realize, holy shit, I am the one creating all of the shit, like I am the one making the shit sandwiches that I'm eating, by plugging into this energy, by putting this energy out, by coding this into my reality, what we find is that we get to change that instantaneously, any moment we get to change that. We get to change that instantaneously, any moment we get to change that. We get to change that. So, if you're ready for change, if you're ready for new beginnings, maybe you're in the crumble. I see you. I see you, the crumble is hard. All of these cords that are being severed, all of these cords that are being severed, all of these pieces in which no longer serve us, all these pieces of operating that we're operating from someone else's points of views and perspective, all need to fall away so that you can emerge and you can build from a new foundation.
Speaker 1:And you may feel, because, like I feel and I and we are all mirrors for one another there may be this feeling of like I've already fucking done this, like I've already faced crumble, maybe two or three, like why is this fucking happening again? For me it's like I felt I experienced a crumble in my early twenties. I experienced a crumble in my teens. I experienced a crumble in my early twenties like two or three, literally two or three in my early twenties and then here at the end of my thirties, I'm experiencing like the biggest crumble of my life and like it feels like a cellular level crumble, like it. It is a bigger crumble that I've ever experienced in my life. But those set me up for this, even if in the moment I forgot, even if in the moment I'm like why the hell is this happening to me? And I forget that I'm divinely supported and I forget that I am the creator and I forget that I'm divinely supported and I forget that I am the creator and I forget that I can change things instantaneously.
Speaker 1:All of that needed to be shedded Shedded is that a word? I needed to shed all of that. I needed to release all of that. I needed to find clarity and recognize and have awareness around those patterns. Where was I functioning from my mother's money mindset, her relationship with money? Where was I functioning from her relationship with fear? Where was I functioning from my father's ability to communicate or lack of ability to communicate my grandmother's point of view on life? Like an old partner, a like old teacher, put in anybody that you want. Where was I functioning from anywhere other than me, an old mentor, an old business coach, a teacher?
Speaker 1:As this is how it has to happen, this is how it has to be created. We're moving into a paradigm and a reality that you can create from any point of view, from any place, from like in any way. It just has to be authentic and in alignment with you. It has to be authentic, it has to be in alignment of you and you can create any, anything and everything. And that's where I say I do business completely differently. I leave a heart led business and it feels so nourishing and it's a place of service and it's a place of like support and it's a place of like calling people up and it's a place of relationship. Do you know how many teachers told me that it is unethical to have relationships with clients, to have friendships with clients? How many people said you can't have relationships with people that you're in business with? I have relationships with all of them, intimate relationships. I know more about them and they know more about me, and there's vulnerability on both sides and zero shame. And that's how I do business.
Speaker 1:Business to me is personal. Business to me is heart-led. Business to me is about embodiment. It's about a space of being like. It comes from a space of being. For others, it may be a logical place that it comes from. For others, it's all cognitive. For others, it may be this like very strategic. There's lots of structure, there's lots of like. That's how they function For me.
Speaker 1:I function from being activated. I function from love. I function from being activated. I function from love. I function from being inspired. I function from a place of like, truly making my life a living prayer. That's where I function from, that's where I create from, that's where I generate magic. So it's not about where or how or like the nitty-gritty details. What it's about is living authentically and creating from a space that is of you.
Speaker 1:And so, in this new beginning, from this place of power, because nobody, nothing can ever take your wisdom, can ever take your joy can ever take your wisdom, can ever take your joy, can ever take your love without your permission. No one can take your power without your permission. Knowing that, weave that into this next reality, weave that into that next timeline, weave that into this next chapter. No one gets to take you, no one gets to dictate your response. What dictates your response versus reaction is whether or not you've dealt with the trauma, dealt with the triggers, dealt with the shame and the shit that has been underneath and truly like.
Speaker 1:For me, it feels like that chapter is closed, while I still believe that there will be shame and guilt and resentment and fear and worry and doubt and like all of those things in this next chapter. Like that, I will walk alongside and there'll be more layers of that. Sure, but I am choosing the codes, I'm choosing the frequency, I'm choosing what I am putting out, I am choosing how I respond as a conscious creator. And that's for me, moving from the maiden, taking those lessons into the mother and curating and creating from a space that feels so nourishing to me. That is an extension of me, that I shine through that archetype, I shine through that identity.
Speaker 1:It's not a one size fits all, it's actually you put it on and it looks different on every person. Motherhood looks different. It's like sisterhood of the traveling pants, the four girls that wore the pants. They all look different in them, they all fit them differently, they all, they all accentuated different things or different things, expressed Like. That is the magic your differences, your uniqueness, your authenticity. I love you. I see you in the struggle, I see you in the space of the crumble. I see you, and there's so much fucking magic on the other side if you allow the crumble, if you lean into the crumble, knowing with the pure belief that all of this is happening for your greater good.
