Lucky Girl is the newest self-help crazy blowing up on TikTok. It's based on manifesting what you want and spreading good vibes. Can you hop on and activate Luckygirl Syndrome at Midlife?
This is how it's works: Tell yourself that everything works out for you - big and small. The universe is rigged in your favor. You are the luckiest person. And this attracts more good things coming your way.
Is this 'new idea' simply a repackaging of the Power of Positive Thinking that we have heard so many times before? We want Midlifers to think of this as a refresher course on the power of Positive Thinking…. Yes, let's call it Lucky Girl and Ellen and Tish will put it to the test and talk about other ways you can update this philosophy in midlife.
We all can have Lucky Girl Syndrome in Midlife.
Things we talked about in this episode: TikTok, Laura Galebe, Power of Positive Thinking, Weight Watchers, Zig Ziggler, Manifesting, Hearts of Palm lasagne, High Five, Lucky Girl Syndrome, Elf Putty Primer, Nevelle Goddard.
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Tish: Elf Putty Primer - put it under your foundation for a midlife dewy look
Ellen: Palmini hearts of palm lasgna sheets - gluten free, keto and vegan.
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Hey Ellen, have you heard about this lucky girl syndrome? That has been absolutely blowing up TikTok since about mid December?Ellen Gustafson:
You know, I have because you told me about it. But you know, I'm a little bit more of an Instagram Gal.Tish Woods:
I know that. But on this week's episode, I really wanted us to dive into what this lucky girl syndrome is all about, and why we should really care about it, right? Because in a lot of ways, it's really a repackaging of this power of positive thinking that we've heard before. But despite that, I think there's something that all mid lifers can really get out of this concept. So we're just going to call it lucky girl.Ellen Gustafson:
Well, I like calling it lucky girl. It makes me feel like I'm still a lucky girl, Tish. But, you know, I strongly believe in this mindset. And I have a few things in it around this area. I do have my morning routine. I'm going to share a little bit about that, too. But I think before you teach me how to be a lucky girl, we go back over this power of positive thinking, we need to get to our obsessions. You know, I love this part of the show. What do you got for me this week? Tish.Tish Woods:
Okay, so I have something I know you're gonna laugh at the name of it, but it's called luminous Putty Primer.Ellen Gustafson:
Here, hang on, you're okay. The putty primer makes me think of very thick makeup. Share this with me.Tish Woods:
I know. But you know, it's not this is a product by the company elf. Elf makes all these really affordable products, makeup products. So my daughter really got me hooked on to elf products. And they they do tons of dupes and stuff for other products. But this luminous is an I hate calling a putty primer, but that's what they call it. But you you work it on your skin under like a foundation. And it just gives this amazing dewy glow under your foundation. So I don't like to use a lot of foundation. I use very, like thin foundations. But it almost I don't know there's something about there's something so youthful, when you have that dewy glow to your skin. And this party primer actually gives that it's very subtle. So it's not it doesn't look like you have a ton of makeup on it doesn't have layers of makeup on. But it does give this great effect to your skin under your well.Ellen Gustafson:
I'd have to say that you always look great when I see pickleball pictures and that that foundation is staying on their test it's staying on.Tish Woods:
It does help it stay on and I actually even use it without putting foundation over it because it gives that like dewy glow. But I do I do I love me some ELF products they come up with these fantastic dupes to really high end products as well.Ellen Gustafson:
Okay, we'll put a link in our show notes to the elf luminous putty primer.Tish Woods:
So L What about you? What is your obsession this week?Ellen Gustafson:
You know, it always cracks me up how different our obsessions are. And just so our listeners know a lot of times we don't share these with each other before the show. So I think it's pretty funny, but I know I've mentioned that I was diagnosed with Hashimotos last year and I have been gluten free now for three weeks. It took me a long time to jump into this. And I am obsessed with these lasagna sheets that are made out of hearts of palm. I found him at Whole Foods and you just make like a lasagna. You know you layer the cheese and if you're doing meat or if you're doing veggies and you bake it and low carb keto, I was a little skeptical but desperate and they worked for me.Tish Woods:
Well, that's great. I think there's a lot of people that are really getting on this kick of beat going gluten free. So I think that's really important to know like what products are out there. Nobody wants to get like something bad and that just throws them off wanting to do that type of diet. How has it been helping you? Is it been working well.Ellen Gustafson:
I haven't felt any difference but you know I'm gonna give it more than the three weeks right and just keep going I think I probably need about three to six months but I'm just going to say that these hearts of palm are by a company called pound meanie in case anyone's looking for them. And he went going vegan, gluten free or keto will Got a link in ourTish Woods:
I love that. Well, Ellen, you know how I like to show notes. keep my pulse on what is happening on TikTok because I do love that TikTok our Trinity tribe member faily got me hooked up into this. Like that TikTok. It's soEllen Gustafson:
funny. I love that both you and Felicia, send me tiktoks Because otherwise I would have no idea at all what was hot and happening in the Tick Tock world. That guy you sent me Lord, so and so I mean, I was just bowled over by him just talking at me what it did. It was amazing. SoTish Woods:
it takes talks are fun. Sometimes they're educational. Sometimes they're just silly, but they're, they have something for everybody. But this lucky girl concept. Okay, so it was corn coined by Laura galbi. And she claimed that ever since she started using this phrase, I'm so lucky that she became the luckiest person she knows.Ellen Gustafson:
Wow. Well, let me start by asking, does she have a lot of followers like did this blow up because she already has them or?Tish Woods:
Okay, so she announced to her audience of 2.8 million users that follow her that she wanted to talk about. She tells them listen to what I'm about to tell you. She's really passionate when she doesn't listen to what I'm about to tell you because I'm going to change your effing life. And I mean, she's like, you know, she's younger, so she she can get away with all of that. But it she was saying that ever since she started this, she's like shits just starts flying at my face. And I genuinely consider myself to be one of the luckiest people I know.Ellen Gustafson:
Well, tell me a little bit more like what did she start doing? So basically,Tish Woods:
this new Lucky girl syndrome, as they call it, is, you know, starting back again, about you know, mid December, on Tik Tok, and it caused a ton of controversy, right? And all she was really doing was telling herself, and anyone who would listen, that she's the luckiest person she knows. And she just assumes that things will work out. And she says that they do.Ellen Gustafson:
Well, you know, it sounds like one of these, as we said, probably repackaging of something we've heard before. Those kind of speak it out to the universe, and it will come true, combined a little bit with a power of positivity. And you know, out here in California, we would call it manifesting, right? I like that word.Tish Woods:
I like it, too. So yes, it's based on this law of assumption. And the law of assumption idea was coined by another author and mystic, Neville Goddard. And she said that the law of assumption is basically thinking and acting in such a positive manner, for things to come to you. And what you put out there is what is going to come back to you. Well, you know,Ellen Gustafson:
I believe that and I think we can even go back further than that. When I first started working. We had to read some books by sales, the sales guy, Zig Ziglar. Do you remember that name? Oh,Tish Woods:
yes. My mother, always. My mother was big into a lot of sales. And she always talked about and Zig Ziglar?Ellen Gustafson:
Well, he would go your attitude, not your aptitude will determine your altitude. And it's so true that, you know, it's not always the smartest people are the most talented that are the most successful, is it? No, right. Right. And his other one, if you can dream it, you can achieve it. And I really like this one, because why not dream big? I mean, come on, especially at midlife when we got to lose to not dream big atTish Woods:
this point. Absolutely. You know, but there's this. There's a reason that I believe that this same concept keeps popping back up.Ellen Gustafson:
Yeah, I think it's because it works. I mean, we're both positive and it's worked for us. And, you know, some people might call it affirmations. Some might call it fake it till you make it. You know, it this this concept just has so many names, but there's something to it. And you know what? Tish I use this on my kids too.Tish Woods:
Oh, interesting. How have you used it on your kids?Ellen Gustafson:
Well, now they're a little bit older, but I used to say flip the cup when one of them was really, really kind of just really negative like me. Make the cup half full, not half empty. Right? And it was just a way to pull them back from going further down a path of negativity.Tish Woods:
Well, you know what, we always have to go back to some research to look back to? Of course you do. You know, I love my research. So an article in US prevention medicine concluded that our thoughts, whether it's positive ones, or negative ones, that they just don't have a psychological effect, they also have a physical effect on our bodies. So the advantages of Positive Thinking include less stress, overall physical and emotional health, even longer lifespans, and better coping skills. So just having a positive outlook on things can have a amazing impact on our bodies, and the longevity of our lives.Ellen Gustafson:
Well, you know, what, as I said, this manifesting your destiny and I think doing it through journaling, or scripting, you know, I'm really into writing, whether it's notes or lists or, you know, in in the morning, and really writing it down, what it is you want, you can change your future, because you've actually really thought about it and put a goal there.Tish Woods:
Right, you know, it was similar to that when they had that Harvard study that found that 3% of their MBA graduates that had written down their goals, ended up earning 10 times as much as the other 97% of that class put together just 10 years after the graduation. Now, if that doesn't speak volumes to the power of writing positive things down, and what your goals are, I'm not sure what more proof people are going to need.Ellen Gustafson:
That's insane. Statistics. Right. And I love that you found something from Harvard Tish, because your research takes you far and wide, but are and wide are and wide. I really think Lucky girl works because we start focusing on positive thoughts, positive words. And naturally, actions follow. You know, it's this idea of also being kind to yourself, right, when you're saying positive thoughts and positive words, even internally, so just like the Harvard study, they wrote what they wanted, I'm sure they worked for it. I mean, I know things just didn't appear for them. But they had really clarified what those things are that they wanted to appear for them.Tish Woods:
Exactly. You know, you've been in those moods before, that you're going to tell yourself all day, I'm unhappy, I'm unhappy. And then well, we shouldn't be surprised if our actions followed that and reinforced what we were thinking. So that's where this comes in to that, where it's not just saying it, it's that the actions that we put into place behind these, whether they're positive or negative.Ellen Gustafson:
Yeah, and I also think if you tell yourself you're happy, you'll seek out the positive things, things to be happy about. Even the smallest thing, you know, oh, I got a coffee today. And it was delicious. I mean, we're not talking about necessarily life changing things and and those unhappy things, we just, you just don't let them be the center of your life. It's that whole you know, kind of being resisting, resisting that and being resilient.Tish Woods:
Yes. So you know, I've been journaling is part of my morning routine and stuff about things that I'm so grateful for. Right. And since I've started to do this, I can tell you that I just feel more and more blessed than I did just even a month ago. And my reality hasn't changed at all. What I've changed by doing that is my mindset. I'm focusing not on the negative stuff but I'm starting my day off with those positive thoughts. And they are just pulling me through the rest of the day.Ellen Gustafson:
You know what I think what you you saying that it's first thing in the morning starting your day off with that positivity is so important and I know we talked about that in our our episode on Morning Routine right that it's it's really good and for me, you know the essence of Lucky girl manifesting high five in the mirror which you know, I do in the Robins, giving yourself the high five the law of assumption and all of the others in in, you know, the high five philosophy, it's part of my daily morning routine. And you get up and you give yourself a high five in the mirror, and you kind of thank yourself just for showing up for the day. Right. And for me, it's not just being positive, it's being kind to myself, right, showing myself that kindness. So the most powerful thing we have is our minds. And simply changing that focus really can make amazing things happen.Tish Woods:
You know, I'm gonna liken it to kind of like an emotional form of weightwatchers. Okay, you all know what we need to do. But we just need to be reminded that our mental and emotional diet needs to be, and it needs to be fed with positive thoughts. And those actions will follow it. So think of Lucky girl as your emotional weightwatchers diet.Ellen Gustafson:
Well, I also like calling it lucky girl because it makes me feel youthful and hopeful. And like there's a whole bunch of things ahead of me in midlife. And so I know some people do journaling, some people write down intentions, place them in a jar, others create vision boards. What are you doing Tish? How are you going to stick a claim here for us?Tish Woods:
Right? Well, you know, I'm writing it down here. And now that we are going to have 100,000 listeners to our podcast by the end of 2023. And so it begins.Ellen Gustafson:
Wow, well, that is setting the bar. Freakin high. Tish? Ah, yes. Hi. And do you know that at the end of 2023, we will be two lucky girls with 100,000 listeners. I could just say that. And I think it's because we've always approached our podcast with positive thoughts and energy. And we've been willing to do the work that comes with it. And I just want to say, you know, we had a big hiccup having to change our name. And I just want to give a shout out to my friend Laura Heinerich, who came up with positively midlife for us. And it was an even better name. And I think our positivity throughout that process really pulled us through and showed that we are lucky girls.Tish Woods:
Exactly. So to me, you can call it anything you want to call it. I'm going to call it lucky girl. But I want to challenge everybody listening right now. For the next month, I want you to try, I really just want you to try this. Let start speaking these positive thoughts. Tell yourself every day, I am the luckiest girl that I know. And see if your actions don't start to follow what you're saying. You know, again, that positive moment I used to tell my kids positive momentum or negative momentum started either way you want that that's the way it's gonna roll. So I'm going to challenge everyone to be a positive momentum for their next week, not next month of theirs.Ellen Gustafson:
Well, I like that challenge. And I'm going to say that you and I will check in on one of our shows upcoming shows here in February, and talk a little bit about how lucky girl has been working for us. I think we'd love our listeners to post on our socials how that's been going or send us an email out there because we love to hear from you. Don't we Tish?Tish Woods:
Oh yeah, we do. We love that feedback. I love to hear from people. Well, so lucky girl. Yes. Have a good week until next Wednesday.Ellen Gustafson:
Alll right lucky girl.