
The Tracey Coates Show
Some couples grow together. Some grow apart. The Tracey Coates Show helps you take the next steps. We tackle all things relationships - not just what to do when divorce is on the horizon but the practical tips, advice, and information you'll need to possibly save your marriage, rekindle that spark and put your relationship back on track. Get the emotional, financial, and legal information you'll need to begin your journey - no matter the destination. We'll help limit the overwhelm, frustration and worry so you can effectively prepare for the road ahead. Each episode will guide you to make informed decisions that will benefit you & your family so you can stop spinning your wheels and getting lost in the process.
The Tracey Coates Show
Before You Hit the Nuclear D Button
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Show Notes:
[02:50] I welcome Kongit to the show and she shares who she is and the nature of her work.
[03:45] Kongit’s background and training which qualifies her for her work and who is her clientele?
[06:45] What is couple’s therapy in Kongit’s counseling center?
[10:50] Kongit sees individuals and couples, but she can’t see you as a couple if you come to her as an individual.
[13:07] She describes the biology behind a couples relationship.
[16:13] How relationship dynamics change when you have children.
[19:41] Be honest and clear with yourself and your partner on your vision and quality of relationship which you want.
[21:23] Relationships need clarification, skill building and cultivation to work.
[23:49] One person is usually a bit more emotionally evolved than the other partner.
[27:54] Once one partner becomes emotional, you are no longer problem-solving.
[28:31] Issues that are being presented with couples in crisis.
[30:12] Differences between not having relationship skills and not knowing there is a problem in the relationship.
[32:10] Time involved in therapy and how Kongit approaches how much time she spends with her clients.
[33:45] How race and background play a role in relationships.
[35:31] Can you see Kongit if you live outside of LA?
[36:39] Kongit gives her words of advice to couples who are thinking about divorce.
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