Rebeccah Steele; Business and Lifestyle Wellness Intervention Coach

Starting a new business can be intimidating and overwhelming. I know it was for me, and I was constantly seeking online mentors to assist and guide me. So many choices, so much fear about making a mistake.

Rebeccah Steele has had a long journey as an entrepreneur. She is currently a Business and Lifestyle Wellness Intervention Coach for entrepreneurs who are ready to ‘Break free of the limits and create powerful transformation through biofeedback online’.  She provides simple yet innovative solutions based coaching to step up and create the impact that is empowering both in personal and business wellness. 

Rebeccah is also the creator of “The Healthy Entrepreneurs Formula”. Her next complimentary virtual oasis retreat meet is being scheduled for 6-8 participants on October 21st for 10 AM Brisbane Australian time zone which is 7pm Central Standard time. 

Contact details are:

Email: hello@rebeccahsteelewellness.com

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/businesswellnesswisdom/

Instagram: @mindset4biz_coach

LinkedIn: http://linkedin.com/in/rebeccahsteelebusinesswellnessinterventioncoac

Website: https://www.rebeccahsteelewellness.com/meet/

Transcript

Sharman: 0:02

Welcome to the Live Your Bloom Podcast, where I interview people stepping out of their comfort zones to fulfill old dream seeds or plant new ones regardless of age. And I also interview people who have specific interests or programs that could benefit us on our journey to Bloom like my guest today, Rebeccah Steele. She's a business and lifestyle wellness intervention coach for entrepreneurs who are ready to 'Breakfree of the limits and create powerful transformation through biofeedback online.' Rebecca is also the creator of the healthy entrepreneurs formula. Welcome, Rebecca! How are you today?

Rebeccah: 0:44

Right? That is a pretty loaded question.

Sharman: 0:48

Why is that?

Rebeccah: 0:48

Because with such a question without projecting the fact that one might be in a wellness dip or in a wellness high, how do you phrase that, that allows the person receiving that information to feel that they have nothing to fix. They have just to be present to the communication and nothing has to be done. We're all in charge or our own presence. And so, that is how I would answer that question. And I'm on a wellness high speaking to you.

Sharman: 1:27

Good, good, good to hear. But that is true. That we always ask each other, "Hi, how you doing?" And normally people will say "I'm doing good. I'm okay." Or sometimes people will say not so good today and let you know exactly what's going on. But it does seem like a very generic kind of a question, there must be a better formulation of that question. No?

Rebeccah: 1:49

You know, I think, you know, over time there will be a different way of asking that question. I think now it falls upon all of us to phrase our responses in a way that feels that we're not projecting any information to another, especially if feeling that they're in a wellness dip themselves.

Sharman: 2:15

Right.

Rebeccah: 2:16

Right? And I think that's why there's the generic response "I'm okay." Right. But people will go away feeling 'Uh, you know, that she said, or he said that he was okay, but I don't think so, but I don't want to ask.' Right? And that actually doesn't build relationship. It builds a miscommunication and then allows assumption to take place. But if I genuinely really wanted to know, then perhaps I would say, "Is this a good time to talk with you?" And perhaps phrase it that way.

Sharman: 2:56

It's a loaded question because there's just so many things. And also, like I always take into the perspective of what's going on in the world or what people have to deal with in my little thing today that might be bringing me down in light of what people have to deal with. It's just not worth talking about, because I know that it'll pass. It's just a little cloud that will pass and why impose that on somebody else, you know? That's how I feel often. So I do give the generic."Oh yeah, I'm good. I'm good." Meaning there's nothing that I can handle that's on me, right?

Rebeccah: 3:32

That's a very, very interesting thing that you just shared Sharman because it's like, we feel that in our world, what is going on with us is very small compared to what's going on in the outer world. However, that is the thinking. I mean, I feel the same. I was brought up in that condition thinking, that what's going on with me is not so important. I got to think of the starving people and the people that had no food, no water, and think myself lucky that I had all those things. And I think to a certain level that absolutely is key. However, I think in that conditioning also, we can make ourselves so small that when it's time for us to shine big to say, "Oh, I don't know if I can do it.", "I don't know."

Sharman: 4:33

That's a good point. Good point. And I'm wondering if some of my listeners picked up on this, but your statement 'Break free of the limits and create powerful transformations through biofeedback online.' okay. Can you tell me exactly what that means?

Rebeccah: 4:52

Yes. So I think if we take it phrase by phrase.

Sharman: 4:56

Okay.

Rebeccah: 4:56

Breakfree. So right now, we can either feel like the bird in the cage. And the door of that cage is open. Can we see the open door? Breakfree- it's about creating awareness, having that open awareness. So you break free and then you see the open doorway and then you see the possibilities of that open doorway. That involves courage, fear, if we've always been in this in enclosed or in cased comfortable atmosphere. You think, "I don't know if I were to join the other birds up there." Even though I love what they're doing, I don't know if I could do it as good as they can. And so I think it needs that awareness. And sure we've heard about it, 'Don't compare yourself to anyone else.' However, we need that support to be shown that we can fly. We can fly. So there's a transformation. Who said, who taught you that you cannot fly? Where did it begin? And biofeedback is all about that. It's on line within you. It's bio and feedback. So your biological signals are giving you signs. They've been giving us signs from the moment we were born. And then once we could translate those signs into spoken language, you know, from the age of three or four, whenever we started to speak and go past yes or no, we started to explore what the signs and signals were saying to us. However, again, referring to back to that question 'How are you?', we find that so much of our conditioning was based from what naturally our parents or those who looked after us when we were younger gave to us. So we had no other concept other than, 'Oh, that's how you be.'

Sharman: 7:13

Right.

Rebeccah: 7:14

And so I think our own signals to interpret them got dampened down, became small.

Sharman: 7:22

Yeah. I understand that. You know, there was a song I wrote 'cause you know, I'm a songwriter among other things. A song about knowing your place. But the song was called 'My space'. Claim my space as opposed to know my place. So I was raised old school, my mother was Greek, my father was English, we were taught to know our place. So well that for some of us, it became hard for us to look at that cage, see the open door and actually feel like we belonged out there. So that in, you know, something like *sings* 'Mama taught me to know my place. Thought if I didn't, I would fall from grace.' But in the end I talk about. Claiming your space, you claim it, it's yours. And if you're curious about what's outside that cage, then you got a little bit of work to do in order to find your courage.

Rebeccah: 8:16

And, I'd like to speak into that a little bit, Sharman, to say that we can't do this alone. There's so many of us who have been in this condition comfortable space for so long that we cannot expect to be told the rules and said, "This is what you have to do." So I'm even thinking of changing the word ' The Healthy Entrepreneur's Formula' to 'The Healthy Entrepreneur's Journey', because the formula is very customized. Not every bird is going to fly out at the same time.

Sharman: 8:52

So your program, though, is geared for entrepreneurs. What I really like is that you speak, you say, create the impact that is empowering both in personal and business wellness, because entrepreneurs are people. And so as they're changing and growing, they're still building and maintaining relationships that may be changing as they're growing. You know in my program, I encourage people to live your bloom.'What is it you want to do?' Many people want to start nonprofit or some kind of a business that's been on their mind and they don't know where to start, but more than that, they don't have the courage to say "I belong in business." So what are the mistakes that you notice that entrepreneurs are making?

Rebeccah: 9:40

You know, thank you for asking that question. What I see entrepreneurs making, and not all, but a good number of them, is that we are, we're being curious. We got the formula, we're trying out the deviations. We're playing all the melodies, right? So to speak. And then we can, we get overwhelmed because we can't decide which melody is the right one for us.

Sharman: 10:09

Right.

Rebeccah: 10:09

And, I see that this over whelming sense occupies the mind, the intellect to the point that creativity just goes dead. There's "Am I doing the right thing? Is this the right song? Is this the right image? That's going to draw those people that I need to work with. And, is it the right image that empowers me as in my personal life? Am I feeling good about this?""Oh! Yes. In this moment, I feel good, or but maybe not, maybe I should ask my friend, if they can listen to the you know ." In the end, there are so many cooks mixing the broth there. It's like the soup isn't unique anymore because there's so many customizations being put in, and it's so easy to give up and feel exhausted.

Sharman: 11:08

Yes.

Rebeccah: 11:08

That's what I'm saying.

Sharman: 11:10

And, I find also that sometimes we seek support from people we know are blindly going to give it. And, I've heard this a long time ago that believe about 5% of all praise and all criticism. So for example, when my mother was alive and she used to come see me perform, she would always say, "you sing like an angel from heaven." And I don't think I did. But that's what she would always say. And it was good to hear, but I know that I had work to do. On the other hand, there are a lot of reasons why people offer criticisms, and it's not always coming from what's good for you. Sometimes, it's coming from a place within them. Sometimes, you can't really rely on your friends to support you either because here you are working and growing and moving, and maybe you are reflecting that they are not. Or, you know, on the other hand, you could have friends who love you and are happy to see you grow. You just don't know, but also, you know, step outside, step outside of it. And maybe have a, maybe take a course with a business person or someone who really has nothing else to do, but be objective and pass on information to help you grow.

Rebeccah: 12:28

I totally embody that what you just said, because this is about supporting people to own their own genius, right?

Sharman: 12:41

There's a geniu s within each of us, you only share that song. And I phrase it as a song because it has rhythm. It has harmony, ,and it moves. And I feel when I have that connection, I am so creative in that moment. And I think it's to own that and find that space and really embody that. And, that's the genius within all of us. I love that 'own your own genius.' And so, when entrepreneurs do come to you, what are they seeking from your coaching? What is it they hope for?

Rebeccah: 13:21

Thank you again for that great question. That what they're looking for is this reminder, if you like that they are actually home. They are actually in control, and they were never out of control. The thing is that, we all have the answers, but we'd need the right person who's the right fit to just like you say, when criticism is all constructive, criticism is offered in a way that can be heard, right?

Sharman: 13:58

Yes.

Rebeccah: 13:58

It's that languaging, I find that the clients I draw, it's the way I have my languaging around growth. It's to say you haven't got this wrong, if there's no right, wrong, good or bad. It's like, let's look at this. This is where you are, and ways that you are wanting to go, and let's explore that space together. Right? There because it's in that exploration with me, not, you know, raving on their parade, so to speak, but you know, being an echo chamber, if you like.

Sharman: 14:39

I understand.

Rebeccah: 14:40

That's a lot in an echo chamber and with my work. I used the combination of two biofeedback devices, which is the indigo biofeedback system and the genius insights. These helped me to see on the realms, on the physical, the emotional, the mental, and the subtle energy realms and the auric realms. So, the subtle energies involved the auric realms. If you've heard of Kirlian photography, where you could photograph the subtle energy bodies and get a color from it. So a color can look muddy or it can look bright. And so, I get that information and the client is aware of this information. I say, "okay, where you were aware that this was going on?" And they said, "well, the used the sign I got, the signals I got, but I wasn't a hundred percent sure." So how many of us would run to the doctor or someone? Because we aren't sure, right? With that is also a conditioned response. And when we are not sure, what is our condition response? And I use that to say that we can retrain our signals to come back into homeostasis. So, that is what I mean by awareness. So, I use these devices as a tool to, you know, as a point of discussion to say, "okay, this is what's going on for you, and let's see how much of this feels like you want to retrain." We can't fix everything in one go, and it's not up to us to fix anything. It's up to us to be, have that awareness and allow through the awareness to make decisions, and at the end of the day, it's the clarity in our decision-making that empowers and impacts our growth. Right?

Sharman: 16:55

Yeah,

Rebeccah: 16:55

And that is what I would say.

Sharman: 16:58

Well, that's a lot because having confidence and making decisions that you're not used to making, taking that leap of faith, you know, I know my husband is like this with decisions. I mean, it's amazing. And, they usually work out. He just, always says, "well, that's because I'm from the streets, you know?" And he said, "there's something in the water from where you were raised because all your friends take too long," you know, but I do just kind of perseverate over. I just like, well, maybe this, maybe this may, and then you waste all this energy trying to make what you think is the right. Gotta be the right decision. And, If you ask yourself, well, what if it's not, what's the penalty in many cases. So you learn, you made a right and maybe you didn't mean to make a left, but maybe it just don't have, you know, maybe you can adjust, but we really obsess about the right and wrong. The very fear that we try to assuage and children so that we can give them the courage to be free to try. We do not apply that to ourselves. We are very much, yeah. I don't have time for a wrong decision, you know, but why not?

Rebeccah: 18:10

Right? Do you know, there is an, if we reframe that to say, is there a right or wrong? Because after all, we're in the school of life. And if we look at the school of life, there's fear, there's courage. And you know, my parents grew up in a generation where they had at their world, didn't have as many choices as the world offers us today. And with that, I think, it's more a case of overwhelm now with making the right choice.

Sharman: 18:48

That's true.

Rebeccah: 18:50

Right?

Sharman: 18:50

Yeah, that is very true. I just I'm finishing up co-writing a book with my husband. That's about his life as a musician, cause that's all he's ever done, and as he's a little older than I. And as he talks about life back in the thirties, forties, so simple. And this thing, this computer technology, which is a big boost for people in business is also, it can be very overwhelming. If you don't know that you need to control it, you need to get away from it, you know. Have that quiet time, just that quiet time, when some of your best ideas come in that quiet time, you know?

Rebeccah: 19:30

Absolutely. I could so agree. And you see here today, a lot of go out in nature and, you know, and experience the simplicity of life by just watching nature. Like, nature is so simple.

Sharman: 19:46

I read an article last week. I posted on my Facebook sites. That's at advocated and or walk, A W E, not the same as just running your dog around the block, but actually stopping your life and choosing a place to go, where you're overwhelmed. You're not, you can't even talk. It's just a beauty and the simplicity of nature, or I'm trying to incorporate that. And you know what, I find it challenging because I'm just so busy. You, yourself had a lot of business experience, so that is the place where you're coming from.

Rebeccah: 20:21

So, the business experience comes from, again, the personal experience, which has formed a tapestry of choices, and that tapestry, if I look at I've got what I call, a colorful tapestry, and I only have to pick from the tapestry to turn that into that business idea or that interpretation. And, we all do it, you know, and we can all do it. And so mine can with my health, and you know, from childhood right up until teen years and twenties and thirties, I had compounding health issues. And during my childhood, it involved hospitalization and doctors. And during that time, I knew one thing, Sharman. I used to think as a child, I used to look up at the stars and think I was definitely born on the wrong planet, I used to say. And then when I saw a star wars, I'd say, "oh! I like the expression beam me up Scotty, because I'd like to go somewhere else."

Sharman: 21:31

I know that feeling. I don't want to be here. Or else Samantha, the, witch which she just used to like wiggle her nose. I wanted to be a witch. I want it to be a witch so badly.

Rebeccah: 21:41

Oh, I tell you what I think everyone's wishing that right now. Right?

Sharman: 21:47

Yeah. Yeah

Rebeccah: 21:48

And it's that sort of simplicity, and I just remember however, being powerless, in that time, because you did as you were told at less you fall from grace, as you shared with me. And so, it was to be the good person, right? Be the good person, do good and be the good person. However, I looked, I had the time as I got older to see that I, as my husband later said to me you know, this was in my twenties, "G, you're like Jacqueline high gear, you know, you can be like this, and then as soon as someone knocks at the door, you opened the door, and it's like, the sun is shining." and he goes, "can you turn some of that over into the house?"

Sharman: 22:38

Interesting. That's a nice way of putting it. Yeah. Yeah.

Rebeccah: 22:42

And so I realized that, 'wow! These are patterns. How many of us are doing a Jekyll and Hyde?' . In our situations, because we don't want to project out, and how much of that impacts on our own personal health. Right? And wellness. And so from that, you know, I became a counselor with Jenny Craig, weight loss centers. Many months ago, I was a skinny person, and I had to teach behavioral classes and I remember going into the class thinking, I'm sure these ladies are thinking, "how would you know, what clues do you have with what we are going through?" And at that time, I felt it . And I felt so like, I had to retrain my thinking. And when they had me, one-on-one, we got to the right down to the bone, 'what is the problem?' And, I realized that I'm very much the very gift I have is when I can get, have people open up their situations that had them playing Jacqueline hive. You know, as we will turn them for so long that they didn't know how to recognize themselves and sought to even hide behind some format, whether it's food, whether it had to do with food or are any sort of addiction at the time, you know, whether it's, procrastination, addiction, even if, you know.

Sharman: 24:33

It's interesting, cause I do deal with a lot of people who have that procrastination, and I never put it in the same boat as other things that basically unnecessary as you escape drugs, food, alcohol things like that. But yeah, that procrastination thing.

Rebeccah: 24:51

It's so easy. It's like saying, "I'll just read this comfy book first, and then get to address that later." Well, later is comes around knocking so much harder that then this right or wrong decision becomes imperative, and the fear of making a wrong decision because we've spent so much time in the procrastination and feel good about my procrastination. Tomorrow's another day. Well, how do we know that we have tomorrow?

Sharman: 25:25

We don't. And you know, of course I wrote about that, too. Cause then one month songs I say, *sings* days turned into weeks, months turned into you. Life just disappears, because we'd like built the wall, this just by brick, brick by brick. It just gets higher and higher, and especially if we are into that thing of putting everybody else first, because it's such a nice thing to do. It's just like, you know, don't we look great? Aren't we wonderful? We're always giving, but not to ourselves.

Rebeccah: 26:00

That is where the discrepancy is. And there is no good about that. There, that the good person that we feel in being 10 feet tall, because we have just helped someone else. It's like, I love this expression that I heard recently, you know.' your cart overfilled, and feed people from the source. Feed people from the sourcer because your cup,' I learned so much from that expression. In that, I am always tending to keeping that cup full, so that I know that I am offering with grace. I am definitely offering with grace.

Sharman: 26:46

Yeah, Yeah. But you have had a lot of business experience. So, when you are, is that how you chose entrepreneurs? Because you related to their struggles?

Rebeccah: 26:58

Yes. And, this is where I was in incorporate for a while, and I just thought, do you know, I'm not being seen, I'm not being heard, and I know that there is a song within me, which is all about understanding health from the perspective of the emotions and the subtle realms. And I knew that, that was where I needed to go. And, how was I going to understand this was by you know, leaving corporate behind, and focusing on working with clients. And I started off with hands-on therapy work and consultanted work in the therapy field, and that was in the health field, and that was where my training began. And my expertise for me was formulated further from amalgamating the experiences of coming out of corporate into the open field as I'd call it, and running my own business. And then seeing, asking myself the question, "who is it that I can help, truly? Who is it that I can help?" I remember a shaman when I came out of my first health training and I thought, 'this therapy is going to help the whole world. I need not market at all.' People was, I didn't attend the marketing module, because I just felt the presence of that therapy, and I would, I felt sure, I'd have a line outside my door, you know? Well, I of course had no one. And so, it was learning that, there is an art to this, the art of transforming myself into expressing what it is that I am here to support, teach, educate, impact others. That realization came from within, and then using the tea cup and salsa metaphor to then feed from the sourcer. And so, you know, I realized that from that, as an entrepreneur myself, it was through that experience of what we have been speaking about, being overwhelmed, going after the bling bling objects, the shiny objects. That's going to help, and, having been there and done that, I don't say that I'm not going to be there and do that again because that's not being human then. Right. I'm being real, and just saying, I can't, I'm being real and say, I can't help the whole world. However, I'm opening to help those who are ready to join me in this process.

Sharman: 30:05

Yes, I do understand. I mean, in my business, I can't help everybody either I can help. I can help them identify what it is they want to do, and then I usually try to point them to another source where they can get more hands-on information, but in the process of identifying what it is they want to do, there is an acknowledgement that their life will change, their relationships with their loved ones will change. There's many things that are going to change in order to make that dream happen. And then, we go about, maybe I'm trying to set up a schedule, where we become aware that every time we sit down to work on our dream, for some reason, we got to get up and clean the kitchen. I don't know why that, and I know what that feels. Oh, I'm going to sit and work on my latest CD, but, first, not only do I have to clean the bathroom, but I think I'm going to paint it, too. We do this, this is what we do, you know, I laugh about it, but this is what we do. So, we get some of those bricks, got to get those bricks down. We try to bust that wall and it's challenging.

Rebeccah: 31:24

Yeah.

Sharman: 31:24

It's challenging.

Rebeccah: 31:25

It is. And having the last two years, shown us how to sit with this discomfort, of that, you know, you might want to clean the bathroom, but you haven't got the right color to paint the bathroom with, and the shop isn't open to get that right color, so you've got to sit with that color, right?

Sharman: 31:46

Bright, you have a choice to make, sit with that color and do something else, or sit with that color and wait for the store to open. That's your choice, you know, so I'm in human beings and myself included, that's why I know about this, cause I learned. You know, a lot of people don't want, they feel like they're not worthy to invest in themselves, but the joy that comes from that kind of fulfillment and expansion is just something many people tell me I've been waiting to feel like this my whole life. I didn't know this when I was younger. I wish I, you know, but I'm doing it now. And it's beautiful.

Rebeccah: 32:26

You know what Sharman, this is where I love. I have, I've got this dream, and this dream is that, we are like an umbrella, and that as people come into our sphere that we, those were offering help and resources to others, we link arms so that the person of the people coming in, don't ever feel that they are without the resources. So if I don't know, or I am not the right person, then I can say with full confidence, "please, I need you to see, Sharman." because she has got this great business for, business tool for you. This is what she can guide you with. This is where after working with me, after you do this, you can go to this person or you can go. It's a journey.

Sharman: 33:31

It's always the journey. Yes. It's a journey.

Rebeccah: 33:34

It's always a journey. You're never done.

Sharman: 33:37

No, and that's I think I have bloom is they. It's the beautiful journey of evolving. It's never done. It's just the ongoing journey of evolving, and I love it. I do love that sense of like, there's something else. That's why I love this podcast. I meet the most interesting people, and so grateful for it. They inspire me, and make me think, and and that's, that's an important to my bloom. You know.

Rebeccah: 34:05

I so appreciate you doing this for all of us. This is such a joy.

Sharman: 34:10

So, we could talk for hours, you know that, but we are going to bring this to a close right now.

Rebeccah: 34:16

Yes. And I'd like to do this for you and your audience for this amazing opportunity of sharingof what you're doing for all of us in this world as for the world of entrepreneurs. And, what I'd like to do is offer to your audience a way of connecting directly with me, where I then do complimentary sort of meeting many intensive, if you like on a biofeedback online. And for that, I'd like them to, you know, to offer your audience that they contact me personally. And message me personally, that they would be interested in this zoom. And, I would take up to a group of 10 because between, you know eight to 10 people, so that everyone can be heard, and for two hours, I will, and this is complimentary, and this is what I'd like to offer. And so, for those who are interested to contact me personally, and to mention where they heard about this. So on your podcast, as well.

Sharman: 35:31

That's very generous of you, and I will be sure to put something together. Maybe we can pull a group from all my community, and see what we can do for each other. So thank you so much. I know you're moving soon, right? You're moving from England to New Zealand.

Rebeccah: 35:48

New Zealand.

Sharman: 35:49

Yes.

Rebeccah: 35:50

So excited.

Sharman: 35:51

Exciting. Yes. Okay, Rebecca, thank you so much. This has really been very interesting and enlightening. Gave me a lot of food for thought here. So we'll be working together again. Thank you.

Rebeccah: 36:03

Thank you. Bye-bye for now.

Sharman: 36:05

Bye bye. Happy blooming.