The Antidote to Fear is Love

This episode is among other things, a conversation about gratitude, curiosity, love and connection.  Things that cultivate meaningful relationships, drive us to grow, find fulfillment and enrich the lives of those around us.     

Over the years I have had many conversations with my guest for this episode.  Every one of them has both deeply engaged, as well as fascinated me.  This was no exception.  Paul Chek talks about the things that make us human, and what happens when fear cuts us off from them?

We talked about Joseph Campbell’s archetypes and how they give us the framework to understand our world, ourselves and others.  How to break free from our dependency on receiving validation from others, from belief systems that create rigidity in our thinking, limiting our personal growth, and how to discover the dream we have for our lives.  

Paul explains what he calls the Attractor Factor and the 4 most important doctors (Dr. Quiet, Dr. Diet, Dr. Happiness and Dr. Movement) you’ll ever need.  

Paul Chek is a world-renowned expert in the fields of corrective and high-performance exercise kinesiology, stress management and holistic wellness. For over thirty years, Paul’s unique, integrated approach to treatment and education has changed the lives of many of his clients, his students and their clients. By treating the body as a whole system and finding the root cause of a problem, Paul has been successful where traditional approaches have consistently failed. Paul is the founder of the CHEK (Corrective Holistic Exercise Kinesiology) Institute, based in California, USA and the P~P~S Success Mastery Coaching Program. He is a prolific author of books, articles and blog posts and the host of the popular podcast Living 4D with Paul Chek.

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Transcript

In this episode we discuss:

0:47 – An interesting couple of years

1:48 – Resilience 

2:40 – Having connection and community 

3:27 – Being cut off from what makes us human

5:03 – Values are different from social contracts

5:24 – Core values, what you’re willing to die for and your dream, what you chose to live for

5:50 – Your attractor factor

6:07 – The 4 doctors

7:38 – Needing external validation

10:04 – Ways of being.  Being is a pre-requisite of becoming

10:33 – The 3 qualities of the soul

11:48 – Spirituality is the practice becoming whole vs. being a collection of ideas

12:35 – A belief system is a closed set of ideas

12:58 – Belief systems are dangerous because you think you know

15:12 – Primal archetypes 

15:40 – There is something behind matter organizing it

17:12 – Sitting still and asking yourself questions

17:37 – The archetypes of The Hero’s Journey that help us navigate through our questions and understanding of ourselves, one another, and the journey we are all on

25:10 – Connection with self as the path to making a contribution to those around you and being caught in the domain of the ego.  Authenticity or a photocopy of everyone else’s beliefs.  

28:44 – Love cannot function without relationships.  If you want to have more love, you must give more love

29:30 – Subscribing to beliefs that didn’t work for them either

30:27 – The ego is a collection of ideas passed onto you by your parents, your teachers and society.  If a belief system is worth living it better be worth challenging

31:58 – Is fear the root of beliefs that haven’t shown efficacy?  

32:54 – Living in a state of fear when there is in reality nothing to be afraid of

35:48 – Recognizing the patterns that affect our lives 

37:19 – The ego is made up of yesterdays ideas

39:33 – Resilience is the willingness to take care of yourself so you’re able to adapt to change instead of living in fear

41:28 – Gratitude and forms of meditation as a daily practice for vitality 

44:46 – Gratitude, love, curiosity and connection