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Returning to Us
How Other Cultures Teach Emotional Control - Part 1
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In this episode Lauren continues her discussion of how other cultures raise their children to be a part of the family unit in a helpful and cooperative way. To raise helpful, cooperative, and motivated kids you have to teach them emotional control and how to return to a calm, neutral state.
The first way we do this is to model calm to our children. How do we do that when they are pushing our buttons, not listening, or throwing a tantrum? This episode walks you through some techniques to return yourself to a calm state before dealing with your kiddo.
Lauren discusses two other methods to calm kids down. One is giving the kid information so they know they are doing has consequences and is not part of your family values. The other method is touch.
Listen to this episode to learn more about these methods and hear the next two methods in next week’s episode.
Lauren answers this week’s listener question during the episode: How do I get my kids to cooperate and do things like chores?
Try-at-home tip: Ditch the caffeine
Mentioned in this episode:
- Bringing up Bebe - Pamela Druckerman
- Hunt, Gather, Parent - Michaeleen Doucleff
- There's No Such Thing as Bad Weather - Linda Akeson McGurk
- Achtung Baby - Sara Zaske
- The Danish Way of Parenting - Jessica Joelle Alexander, Dissing Sandahl
- Kicking Horse Coffee - Decaf
Other related resources from The Behavior Hub:
Blog Post:
Podcast:
- Neuroscience of emotions
- All the Coping/Calming Strategies
- Instilling Intrinsic Motivation in Your Kids
- Grit, Growth, Mindset and Intrinsic Motivation with Matthew Davidoff
Our Online Courses:
- From Conflict to Calm: How to Communicate with Challenging Children
- From Wild Emotions to Tamed Feelings: How to Self-Regulate
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