What Happens When Consequences Backfire

Returning to Us

Returning to Us
What Happens When Consequences Backfire
Jul 15, 2025 Season 5 Episode 66
Lauren Spigelmyer

If you've been questioning why traditional consequences often fail to create meaningful behavior change, this is for you. Lauren walks through the whys of this failure and how traditional consequences may harm relationships and regulation. She unpacks common disciplinary practices and explains how these strategies can backfire when they’re disconnected from emotional support and repair. Instead of punishing behaviors, Lauren encourages us to understand the nervous system and the unmet needs driving those behaviors. 

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