Mind of Snaps - Positivity Podcast | Ep. 18 - "Get comfortable with being uncomfortable"

The regular Mind of Snaps podcast is on a hiatus still, but I'm working on bringing it back. There ARE still more podcasts available on my Mind of Snaps Youtube channel, but they just haven't found their way here yet.

I have been releasing Positivity Podcasts from my Patreon here for a while now and I'd like to know if you'd like more of these to be released. I'm doing my part to put out as much positive and encouraging content as I can during these intense times we're faced with. If you'd like to make it easier for me to dedicate the time to continuing these on a daily basis after that, subscribing to my Twitch channel, tipping, dropping bits in Twitch and/or subbing via the Patreon can make a massive difference - but so can just tweeting out my content, sharing it on socials or telling a friend you think could use a boost. Every little bit counts...literally.

This is my 18th Positivity Podcast on the Patreon and I hope it reminds you that discomfort is a part of life. The sooner you accept that without trying to blame yourself for all of your discomfort, the sooner you can begin to feel the peace that comes from seeing things clearly. You deserve to feel good. Accept that feeling good includes feeling discomfort too. 

The format for these podcasts definitely evolved over time, but I hope you enjoy listening, even though times have changed.

Listen, and let me know your thoughts.

Hang in there friends, we're all in this together.

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Transcript

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Hello, my friends. So today is Friday, April 3rd, and I'm going to be sharing a positivity podcast from October 21st 2019. And it's interesting, right? Because I've been giving you these little updates, Um, as I post these videos daily. I was in the middle of stream yesterday when it clicked that my morning had been so hectic that I had completely forgotten to release another positivity podcast. I had been on a roll. I released two weeks of these every day. I was partially through the third week, and then it just, like, disappeared out of my mind, and I had, Alert said. I had reminders ways to make sure that I kept doing it, and somehow I still missed it. The person I was in the past would have been ashamed would have been so upset. I spent so much of my life dealing with guilt and shame, not just the internal guilt and shame that I directed at myself with the guilt and shame that came from kind of like my family. Dynamic guilt was a common way to accomplish certain certain end goals, and it really dug its dug its way into my life. So it's been a couple of years now, you know, if me putting in all this work. And I'm really grateful to have this additional little bonus opportunity to recognize the mother growth, the past version of me would have beat myself up for yesterday. I would have been so upset. So ashamed. How my how how could I forget something? I'm letting people down. I said that I would have one of these out every day for three weeks. And then here I go and fuck it all up. I'm so grateful Did not be doing that. I realized that I forgot it yesterday and it was like a fuck. Okay, well, I'll get one out tomorrow. What can you do, right? I can't change it. I can't go back in the past and release the podcast. Yesterday, I had an appearance to do on the destiny community podcast on DCP. So I had a long worked at a bunch of stuff to get done. I had a couple calls and then I had the podcast. I basically worked yesterday from morning until pretty late at night. So it happens, right? Like it was just a little mistake. No big deal. No need to be upset. No need for it to be a regret. Even I don't need to carry this forward. Just a mistake. So this is your podcast. You should have gotten yesterday. But I hope that you enjoy it today and again. The message really still reigns true here the amount of times I have People tell me I don't want to do that or I can't do that. Whatever the thing is for their mind and body, you know, for their health. Overall, it's too hard. I don't like that. It doesn't feel good. I take after I get it. Friends. But really listen to the the the primary message here behind the podcast I'm about to share with you. You are going to be uncomfortable in your life, no matter what. There is no future scenario where you wake up in the morning feeling great and nothing hurts. Nothing frustrates you. Nothing shows up by surprise. You know nothing takes you, takes you by surprise. Like that's just not the way life works. You could find the most comfortable seating position and it will become uncomfortable soon. You can start doing these exercises that you know we're good for your body and you will have soreness. There is no version of your life where you feel just perfect. Happy, joyful. No pain, no discomfort at all. So let that go. Let go of that expectation of that peace of mind is something entirely different. It is recognizing that those things are a part of your life. It is allowing them to be there, allowing yourself to be uncomfortable and know that it is okay. You are okay. So I hope you enjoy this podcast for today. I do still have a couple more podcasts to drop it the end of this week or, you know, tomorrow through Sunday. If you would like more of these, hit me up, let me know. And I can potentially do another week or so we'll see. Like I said, I know that things are scary right now and I'm doing my best to put out as much positive, encouraging, mindful content as I can. And if you want to help make it easier for me to do things like this. Release more podcasts daily. Get back on YouTube. Get more regular podcasts going etcetera, etcetera, etcetera. consider checking out the patriot and supporting through there, we are gonna be doing a live video chat again on the 11th. For everyone who's in the patri on and all the tips, all the bits, all of the subs, all of the follows, all of the retweets, all of the comments, all of that. It matters. It helps. It's so appreciated. So thank you for helping me to continue doing what I love to do and what I really want to do, which is to help. If you have any other ideas or ways that I can help, please let me know otherwise. Make today a good day for yourself. You deserve it and enjoy the podcast. Happy Monday and welcome to another positivity podcast this week. I want to talk to y'all about discomfort. I think you're pretty well aware that I talk to people about their lives on a daily basis this point so money folks reach out to me to ask for my advice on how to change their lives. And I think one of the most common responses I get to my suggestions is I can't do that. It's too hard or I try to do that, but it's uncomfortable. So I stopped. I think it's time we address this fear or concern So many of us have the fear of being uncomfortable. If you thought about your life and future imagined a life where everything just flows and his easy, breezy, beautiful I'm sorry to tell you this kind of, but that future isn't gonna go exactly as you planned. Even if you get whatever place you feel will change your life or you get the job or the relationship that you want, you will still encounter discomfort regularly. It's a part of life. The best thing you can do for yourself is accept it and know that well, it will only stop you if you allow it to our bodies. And our minds were designed through natural selection to be an almost perpetual state of discomfort. Why? Because it had helped to force us into action. If we were allowed to feel amazing non stop without any effort, how would we be driven to improve or grow in any way we wouldn't. We'd simply do things once and then bask in the glow of our completed tasks or of our exciting adventures. Never thinking to complete more tasks or to seek out more adventures or excitement. So the way I see it, you have two choices. Pursuit growth, new experiences and the life you want and deserve, which will be uncomfortable or sit still in your life and allow the external world in your devices to numb the discomfort that comes with inaction, knowing that you will feel it again any time you give yourself a moment of stillness or quiet. So which will you choose? The option that allows you to work towards the things you love and crave, or the option that leaves you stagnating in your own discomfort? There are a few different types of discomfort in my view. One emotional discomfort to physical discomfort and three spirituals. Discomfort At various points in your life, you're likely to experience each of these types of uncomfortable experiences. Lately, I've been working really hard on paying more attention to the voices in my head so I can decide which I'd like to listen to, in which I'd like to tell to fuck off. This is an incredibly beneficial process, but it is uncomfortable in order to pay more attention to what's happening In my mind, it means I can't just be a reactive person bouncing through my life and heading whichever direction the wind blows. Intentionality is not a comfortable sensation, but it is an empowering one. Sitting still and meditating to gain more awareness of my internal state can be super uncomfortable because my mind and body want to resume their usual level of control and they fight like hell to get back in the driver's seat, so to speak. I think this is a great example of emotional discomfort. Being being vulnerable is another. To paraphrase bring a Brown, you can either be courageous or comfortable, but not both. Opening up and talking to a friend, a family member or therapist about what's going on in your mind can be a horrifying prospect. It's easy to believe that if we open ourselves up to much, people will see the rial us and will be turned off by it. Well, that is, unfortunately, a real possibility, and some of the relationships you may have it is still in action worth taking. You may just find out that unburdening yourself, while uncomfortable in action, leads to a more comfortable mindset afterwards because you gain more strength through the struggle of opening up. Physical discomfort will show its face regularly in your life. If you sit still too long, you'll end up uncomfortable in a key. If you exercise, you will experience the discomfort of challenging your muscles to grow, along with the aches and pains that can occur from taking action. If you have a terrible diet, you'll feel the discomfort of that every time you use the bathroom. If you choose to change your diet, you'll probably have a weaker, more of discomfort as your body adjusts to its new energy sources. So in a situation like this, it's easy to think. What's the point if I'm going to be uncomfortable anyway? Well, the difference is some of these actions lead you to growth that can help you to live a longer, healthier and happier life. I think the discomfort is well worth it. If the end result is a healthier body, a healthier mind and energy levels that can help you achieve all of your goals. So if you're going to be uncomfortable either way, lean into the discomfort that leads to changes able to help you move forward rather than suffering through the discomfort of complacency. Spiritually discomfort is one I understand not everyone will agree with, as some of you may consider yourself spiritually and others may not. But regardless of terminology, it's something I think we'll all deal with in one way or another. To me, an example of spiritual discomfort is the craving many of us have to matter the desire. We have to be, someone who helps make a difference in our families and our communities or in the world. It's part of our design to crave community and companionship, and we like to feel connected and important. So I think spiritually discomfort also comes from our desires to share our feelings with world. But not knowing how I feel that arts and music are a great way to work through and learn how to connect ourselves with our spirituals, sides with our hearts, with with our souls, if you will. It's the diff difference between knowing something and feeling something from expressing something to someone with words to showing them how you feel through art or music or dance. These hobbies or habits can be uncomfortable to get into, because it's easy to feel as though we have to be perfect at everything right from the start. But I think logically we all know deep down that nothing good comes easy. Skills are built up over time. So when it comes to spiritually discomfort, you can either sit listlessly and hope that somehow the connection you seek and the understanding you crave will fall into your lap. Or you can challenge yourself to join the dance. As Alan Watts would say, I hope you choose to join the dance, knowing you may fall down and bruise your knees. But ultimately the dance can help you feel connected to everyone and everything. If you allow yourself to become fully immersed in it, every day of your life will put you face to face with some form of discomfort. It is up to you. If you're going to lean in to that discomfort or hide from it, which will still be uncomfortable. Would you rather have a life of growth and progress or a life of inaction and regret shoes? As you begin this new week, I hope you'll take some time to notice all the different times you're feeling uncomfortable and choose toe Welcome that discomfort in as we do in meditations or mindfulness training. We actually great our discomfort and say Hello. Welcome. I'm interested in getting to know you. And then we proceed to get curious about the discomfort and where it lives, how it feels. We learned to build our skill of focus so we can choose to accept that there will always be some form of discomfort, but that we don't have to leave our focus with it. We can acknowledge it, welcome it in, and then refocus ourselves on working towards our goals and growing as people. You deserve great things. You deserve a life of joy and contentment. Except that discomfort will be a part of it. No matter what you D'oh! And manifest some dope Shit, I believe in you. Go kick some ass.