Hi , this is Annette Vinedetti , your hostess for a locker room talk , and shots , the podcast that likes to think of itself as the queer NPR of raunchy women's sex talk . You are about to sit in on the kind of conversations women have on their girls' nights out or behind closed doors , while enjoying delicious drinks and dishing about sex , think , fun , honest and feminist as fuck , and always with the goal of fighting the patriarchy , one orgasm at a time . Welcome to the locker room . Today's locker room talk topic is facials how women really feel about men's semen . That's right , we're talking about come shots to the face , although , let's be honest , we are not limiting our conversation to come on the face , but we are definitely . This topic was inspired by the concept of come upon one's face , and my guest today is one of my favorite gals , ruby , aka Deanna , who has joined me on multiple podcasts . Deanna , what is your favorite so far ?
Speaker 2I'd have to say it was the most Googled questions . Sex questions yes , because there was some questions that I was like really you're asking this ?
Speaker 1Yeah , there were some funny ones . So if you guys have not yet listened to it , it's a couple episodes back and we covered the most searched sex questions from the COVID years and it was pretty fun . We had the whole crew on it . It had been a while since I had done a podcast with everybody on it , so today it's just Deanna and I talking about giz on the face .
Speaker 2That's right , just a little intimate conversation about come .
Speaker 1And so , in the spirit of today's topic , we did not search for a drink at all because , well , I didn't have time . So instead I thought I'm just going to look at what's left in my booze cabinet from all of the drinks I've been creating over the last several months , and I'm going to create a shot just for this podcast . So I created a shot that I am calling Deanna . We are calling Deanna actually came up with the name and we're calling it the money shot , and you can make it for very little money . It's cheap . It's from the leftover booze in my fridge . I will put up the recipe at some point and you will be able to make it at home on your own and raise your class along with us .
Speaker 1So let's just dive right into the spoo . Sperm , giz , come . Protein pack , protein pack , our protein packed conversation . So let's talk about sex . I'm ready . Yeah , it is actually . It's a refreshing drink . It's very spring , like you know , it's not quite spring yet . But onto what's important . Come in the face . I was inspired by . I was inspired to address this topic Because , while I love fucking , and I love fucking in all different ways , I personally have not until very recently appreciated specifically the male coming from a penis and testicle , come just boo what it spits out into an upon me . I have not appreciated it , I have not liked it . I would say , in fact , for a while I would have actually said I hated it . Deanna , what has your historical relationship been with come ?
Speaker 2That's what I want to know about .
Speaker 1Way back when Right .
Speaker 2I'm not going to say when we have to have some secrets anyways , I have never had a problem with it , you've never had a problem with it . Yeah .
Speaker 1But have you liked ?
Speaker 2Yeah , I have and yeah , I have liked it . Well , I still like it . You know , when you get that warm load on your ass , it's , I think it's sexy and it's a turn on . You know , I imagine it's probably the same as how people feel when they're with a woman and she gets really , you know , wet and you feel her juices . It's about the same thing when a guy you know food is especially so . There's like that pre come .
Speaker 1Yeah , and you know I have not found that quite as offensive in the past .
Speaker 2So it's just a little bit . It's not like it's the wad coming out .
Speaker 1Exactly .
Speaker 2Yeah , so yeah , I like all things come .
Speaker 1Can we just talk about the word wad ? I mean , it's also a gross word . Maybe part of the problem is the words you nut , oh yeah , nut wad . We need to be pulling up a list of fucking synonyms .
Speaker 2Well , with wad , you know it's from the phrase blow your wad . And now don't quote me on this . I'm not saying I'm a historian on slang , but thinking about income or slang , just slang but thinking about you know , blowing your wad is when you ejaculate , and I wouldn't be surprised if it's per . It's an old term because when you think about gunpowder , like rifles , they have a wad in them and so when you shoot off , it's called a wad .
Speaker 2When you shoot off the gun , you're blowing the wad out , so maybe that's where it came from . I'm just guessing .
Speaker 1Wow , that's very intellectual of you . I am Tiana . You're bringing some integrity to this fucking conversation . Hey , we're intelligent women .
Speaker 2That's right . We're not just all about sex and cum .
Speaker 1Oh , I bet you know . Anyways , I did look up . I tried to look up synonyms for ejaculate . I refused to call it ejaculate . By the way , I will not write about it as ejaculate . I do study a little bit before I do these podcasts to see if I can bring any fun facts to you folks . And something that really I found kind of funny was most of the articles and mainstream publications throughout there . I think they're just afraid , like I don't know they're trying to be proper about it . So when the ejaculate is on your it just I'm not using the word ejaculate . No , but beside the point , I like your point about WOD . I don't . But when I think of the word WOD I think of like spitting a wall , you know , like a loogie .
Speaker 2Yeah .
Speaker 1Which is probably why I had an aversion to cum for a long time . I have had a change of heart in the last little stint of my life . For the first time in my life I have not felt repulsed and literally gotten up to run to the bathroom after someone has put their cum in or on me , which is what I did in the past . That might have been Well I mean , look , I was not always overt about it , but you know , I think most people understand it after sex the woman's like , oh , I've got to go potty , right , and you slink off to the bathroom and stuff like that . But recently I have actually found myself really turned on by it and as I have sort of started deconstructing you know , my shame around my negative view of different sex acts , it has caused me to ask myself , like why do you feel this way about cum ? And specifically because I have been asked in the past if I would like if someone could come on my face , and I've been like , what the fuck are you talking about ? Fuck you . No , like very . I had a very violent reaction to it .
Speaker 1And so , as of recently , as my relationship with semen and common spoo has changed , I've been like what is this facial thing all about ? Let me be clear no one has requested that I do a facial , but I'm like . I'm like , well , maybe I'm open to seeing why . Why would someone be into that ? Maybe it's something I should consider . So I decided I would turn to science first , friends second and , believe it or not , folks , as I searched and searched and dug through the internet , there is there has not been a lot of scientific study done on facials . Are you surprised by that , deanna ?
Speaker 2No , not at all .
Speaker 1There have been a handful of articles about facials and very publications willing to tentatively approach the subject and mostly the articles I wrote . The older articles I read . It was very , it was very almost it was shaming about the idea of facials and and how it's hurting and no one should think that's normal and it's . You know , there was Dr , was it Dr Ruth ? Remember she's got . I can't believe she's fucking still alive .
Speaker 2She's still alive .
Speaker 1Well , she was as of the time that article was written . I think it was 2011 . I don't , hey , alexa , is Dr Ruth still alive ? Folks ? I don't know how I just got an Alexa and I don't know how that's going to come through on the recording , but apparently yes , I just fact checked myself Dr Ruth is still alive and she had I don't know if it was . I think she was on Twitter or something like that but she had . Oh no , maybe it was pulled from a book .
Speaker 1She wrote that , basically , young people should be taught that facials are not a normal part of sex . And I'm saying , you know , I sort of , whenever I bump up against these conventional norms around sex , I have that sort of rebellious spirit in me that's like well , why does it have to be so yucky ? Well , as you move , as I started to read , articles kind of that were released closer and closer to current date . There are things like Dan Savage , I think , had had a conversation about it and he was like , yeah , it's humiliating , but that makes it good , because humiliation for some is a fetish . And turn on .
Speaker 1Now I want to fast forward to modern day , 2022 , to queer ass women sitting at the table and we get to talk about it . I want to dare to say perhaps it's not about humiliation , perhaps it's just about sharing bodies and fluids , like all of sex is , and not limiting yourself . Now , this is coming from a woman who's never had sperm on her face . Well , I mean , for the most part , outside of normal oral sex activities . But what do you ? What do you think , dana ?
Speaker 2I don't think it's really about humiliation . I'm going deep again . I think it might be about vulnerability and letting yourself be vulnerable . We all don't like to be vulnerable , but when we do that it I don't know it kind of centers you and stuff like being able to be vulnerable . What's more vulnerable than having someone come on your face ? I don't see it as a humiliation thing . I'm not in . I don't have a humiliation , kink or degradation . I actually do that and it's gonna be a hard no .
Speaker 1So can you ? Will you explain to our listeners a little bit about degradation and humiliation ? I mean maybe some of you know , but degradation and humiliation is a kink . Can you explain a little bit ?
Speaker 2Oh yeah , I know quite a few people who that is a kink . So what that entails is you are sexually excited and turned on by people making derogatory remarks , having you do embarrassing things , you know calling you a dirty whore , having you wear a dog collar and eat dog food out of a bowl it's a little more extreme type thing . So some people that is a kink and they get off on that . They get off on being treated that way . No , it's the opposite for me . But I mean there's nothing wrong with it and that's why yeah , we don't shame kinks like that
either .
Speaker 1However that's , you know that's a kink , it's not mean strange conventional vanilla sex .
Speaker 2And I mean to a person that's into that type of kink when someone comes on them and comes in their face , maybe they see that as degradation .
Speaker 1Well , and it could be done in an integrating way .
Speaker 2Right , and what some people have a hard time with that kink is they think that there's no consent , because basically your partner is doing these things to you . They're just doing them to you . You might not like them , but there is consent there . You know they're gonna do these things and in the degr we're talking about degradation . Right .
Speaker 1Well , there's consent , because the you don't like them but relationship .
Speaker 2But they make you horny .
Speaker 1Yeah , so , so , but the thing is that what we're we're trying to say is I wanted to clarify around degradation it's kink , it's people , yet people get turned on by that that's . But we're arguing that facials aren't necessarily degradation . I want to go back to really quickly . I did find a study . It's rudimentary , maybe at best , but I found a study . It was done by the . Let's see the study . I gotta pull it up here . It was done by the people at Batgirls Bible . I don't know if you're familiar with it .
Speaker 1I don't know how I came upon them , but I did and so they did a study . That was a stir . It was actually a survey of 740 heterosexual men and women . I'm a little confused about why they chose only heterosexual folks , but they did , and it was the only study I could find and they asked them where they or their partner had most recently ejaculated , where they most enjoyed coming and where they believe the opposite sex love and hates to have a jack you'll it put upon them . All of that is I don't really give a shit about . What I gave a shit about was what a little bit of information I was able to take away , which was that one in four of the people from that survey sometimes do facials ejaculate on their partners face , so one in four people are doing that , and men prefer giving facials 3.3 times more than women prefer receiving them . If that all is , that does that is that you follow all that yeah so .
Speaker 1And then 26% said facial come shots are degrading . Alright , well , we're in top , we're gonna go back into the degrading element of up . But here is what I found really , really interesting and I had to read it a couple of times because I read it to be the opposite at first . Feminists were less likely to think so . Feminists were less likely to agree that facials come shots to the face sperm upon your brow was degrading , which I'm like . Okay , that makes a little bit more sense to me .
Speaker 1Now , how have I gone from praying that someday men's sperm would somehow or come it's not just sperm , it's come , it's boo , it's ejaculate would somehow turn into a puff of baby powder that left me feeling fresh and clean afterwards to saying maybe some come on the faces I'm powering .
Speaker 1Well , first of all , I started to let go some of my shit . I met someone who I could really enjoy and I felt respected by and we can get kinky . And then I was listening to this book I keep mentioning it on this podcast called total sex , by Nina Hartley . She was a porn star to a nurse , turn porn star , I don't know sex advocate , sex positive advocate , and I was listening to her book and she made this comment and I thought that it was really important that she was not okay with people acting like the fluids that came from men's body meanings , you know come ejaculate ejaculate was disgusting , like she wasn't okay with people acting like ejaculate on your face or anywhere else was disgusting , and that the fluid itself was disgusting and bad , any more than she was okay with men .
Speaker 1Acting like when women's menstruation or anything that comes from you know , whether it's you know , breast milk , you know , after we've had a baby or we're on our period , is disgusting , and it really was just a moment where the light went off in my head . You know I do have men in my life . I have a lot of issues with men and the patriarchy , for sure , and living within a patriarchy and the patriarch keys hold and control on the conversation about sex . But also I'm like , yeah , that's really fucked up , it's really . And it harkened back to the one experience most recent last handful of years .
Speaker 1I had a man ask if he could come upon my face and I was like nah , no , no , like not unless we get a whole lot more serious , and he looked confused and we had a little conversation that went something like this he asked me why . I thought what ? Why was so problem , problematic for me ? And I'm like I think it's disrespect , I think it could be an act of disrespect , it seems rude and humiliating . He's like why , why would you think that there's nothing wrong with my come ? I come isn't a bad thing ? Like he was literally .
Speaker 1I don't want to say her , I don't know if he was hurt , but he was insulted by it . He's like my , my come isn't a bad thing . Why are you acting like it's this awful evil thing to have on you but yet you'll fuck me , you know ? So that was a little bit like in that moment of listening to her book and having these conversations with my partner and starting to be turned on by my . My partner with a penis is ejaculated . And then thinking back to that conversation , I was like , huh , I've been programmed . Perhaps the idea that come on your face is horrible , something that fucking Dr Ruth is willing to like . Stand firm against that . It's just so bad . Perhaps that's part of the conditioning around the patriarchal conditioning around sex shaming and the idea of what's good and bad and acceptable and not acceptable in bed .
Speaker 2We're supposed to be good , proper women , not porn stars . So most of the time when you think of money shots , cheers to the money shots .
Speaker 1Cheers to money shots , as that , we're not drinking unless we're cheers .
Speaker 2I mean . What most people associate the spooge facial with is porn , because that's the big money shot , that's . And when it's on the face , oh man , and I will let you know . That's like my favorite part . I also read that and don't ask me why , but I love a good porn that ends with a great money shot to the face . I don't know why , I don't know why I don't . And it's always been that way . Like it turns me on , okay , I still gag a little when it happens .
Speaker 1when I see it happen , we'll be right back .
Speaker 2And like when it ? I'll mind you . My , I have rules and please don't get anything in my eyes , but when there's like spooch dripping off someone's eyelashes , oh man , that was the best .
Speaker 1All right , see , I'm just I don't know me .
Speaker 2There might be something wrong with me , and if there is , that's okay , because no one's perfect .
Speaker 1And that's the whole point Right .
Speaker 2But you know , have I ever really admitted to people about me liking that ? No , because . Do you know the looks and comments of it ? Not until now , when you decided All right . Now everybody knows , I've come out . I've come out as being a fan of come shots to the face .
Speaker 1I still don't , and I do watch porn a lot , even like more since that , since I've been doing that's 365 days of orgasms and there's a lot of money shots going on in that .
Speaker 1And I still like , sometimes like , because sometimes porn goes overboard . It's like you would think that it just happens all the time . Sometimes I have to like turn it off . I'm like all right , enough enough , I don't get turned on by it , but I'm definitely feeling like I need to put a facial on my sex bucket list to try it , because I have become super turned on by my partners Ejaculate and mostly just the feel of it inside of me and then I really enjoy like using it afterwards to masturbate with as we continue to have sex . Because I am very fortunate and have a partner who , like continues to have sex with me long after the ejaculation part has ended , which is something I need . I am someone who I like to continue to have sex after I've had an orgasm . I like to continue to have sex after my partner has . That's not where sex really ends for me , and so this within this particular sexual relationship , I realized , oh man , maybe I do like it and it has turned into .
Speaker 1I sometimes I ask can this be a kink ? Can liking your partner's sperm or it's not sperm ? I know that is not the correct term . I don't want to say ejaculate . Does liking your partner's wad ? Is that a kink Sure , or is it just like a normal thing that someone would , of course , like because they're having sex with someone that they love ? I mean , don't you think you like ? I would hope that if someone loves me or is really into me , they're into my come , and if you're not really into my come , then maybe there's something about me you don't like . Wouldn't you feel that way ?
Speaker 2I mean , I think so yeah .
Speaker 1Who knew talking about facials and men's come would be so deep and complicated ? I mean , I would think I would think that's good .
Speaker 2I'm sorry , I'm just laughing . Anyways , back on track . So I yeah , I think that's a good point . You know , when you are attracted to someone , you know their pheromones get you going and stuff , and so it makes sense that their juices whether they , she's getting so excited over here . She's like grabbing the mic , whether they're you know , I think that would include their juices like their bodily fluids . Yeah , you know .
Speaker 1Well , again , I'm talking all hypothetically because I have not had come in my face . But you know what , deanna , I'm doing it right now and I am , I am committing , I am committing to having a facial before the end of this year , before 2023 come will be put upon my face . I support that . So , before the end of this podcast , we're going to have a plan in place .
Speaker 2Oh , you know , I don't know about you , but sometimes my male partner , you know , sometimes they're like where do you want it ? Yeah , look at him and say my face , that is going to be in a moment for both of you .
Speaker 1Yeah , yeah , so that's a . That's so . That's how I introduce it . He never asks me where I want it . I don't think .
Speaker 2Well , if you know he's close to coming , yeah , you could just look at him with a dead sexy look and say , come on my face .
Speaker 1Oh , I think I'm going to plan that perfectly . I've got to really be prepared for it mentally and emotionally .
Speaker 2Because that way it's in your control . I like that .
Speaker 1All right , all right , let's do wait , let's do a cheers before we put this plan together , and then we're planning out my facial , all right , so let's talk about it . Okay , now I know how to ask for it . So for women out there , or men , because if you're a gay guy listening , or a bi guy or a pan guy or a non-binary person and you're like , maybe I want to try a facial too , fuck , if you're a heterosexual guy and you're like , well , maybe I want to try this before I knock off , this is going to be a plan we can all use or try together . Right , yeah , we can do this . Folks , I will say this . I want to note a word of caution in advance .
Speaker 1In my research and the deep research I did for all of us , I did find out . In fact , male ejaculate in the eye is a real bad deal . It is made of something called spermine Spermine , I believe . I don't know if that's how it's pronounced . It is what gives men's ejaculate that bleach-y scent and it's a very alkaline . And if it does actually get into your eye , it is not only a severe irritant , it can cause your eye to swell , it can really fuck up your eyes . So it's no joke , you could wear sunglasses or do the sexy school girl guy thing and keep your glasses on , but if you do , make sure your eyes are shut and you're , you know .
Speaker 2Yeah , you should always have your eyes shut . So , and then if some gets on your eye while it's shut , you should immediately go and flush it , like go to a sink in .
Speaker 1Yeah , don't open your eye again , and although I have noticed those porn stars are really good at making like sweeping it away , but that's their job . They're very good at it . So caution , caution . Also , if you're going to come on someone's face , don't like , use some fucking self-control and don't go for the eyes . There's plenty of space going on there . You can avoid the eyes .
Speaker 2So that was a side note , and it's always good , whether you're planning on a facial or not . I think it's always good to have a towel close by when you're engaging , or even like baby wipes just under the bed .
Speaker 1So , which brings me to what I am very curious about . How do you pull off the aftermath of the facial and keep it sexy , like now ? You are stuck with cum on your face . Presumably your partner is above you with a very quickly deflating cock . You know , one of you is probably going into your refractory period . How do you keep ? How do you go from you know baby cum on my face to you know , not an awkward end that makes you go . Well , that feels just weird . Now I've got to get this off my face . Any tips ?
Speaker 2Well , I mean , there's a lot you could do . You could gently swoop it and ingest it .
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Speaker 2Oh , I'm not ready for that . You can use it as lube that , that .
Speaker 1So you just take it off your face and then you put it Downtown .
Speaker 2give yourself a little rub , rub and keep going All right . I mean because it is a lubricant .
Speaker 1It is a lubricant and , yes , some of the ejaculate I'm using it now . This is it . This is it , guys .
I'm now using the proper fucking words for things like cum and sperm , spoo , spooch , wad . Yeah , so there is still going to be some wad on your face , but here is the good news because , again , as I was like googling terms that I thought would be the best search terms , it's actually much more difficult to look up this stuff and not just get to Thornhub than you think . What I found is only I think , 2020 , 2021 sperm . They weren't calling it sperm , I'm sorry .
Speaker 1Were they Sperm facials . Is that what I said ? That they were ?
Speaker 2called ? Yeah , I think so .
Speaker 1Sperm facials . Wait , hold on Alexa . Were sperm facials a beauty craze ? Here's something I found on the web , according to goodhousekeepingcom .
Speaker 2According to researchers using sperm and facial treatments . I'm like stop .
Speaker 1So , according to the research I did and fuck you guys good housekeeping wrote about this . I shit you not . Good fucking housekeeping wrote an article about sperm facials , saying that they are good for you and leave your skin refreshed and blemish free . True story . Go look it up yourself . If everything goes well , the wad doesn't end up in your eyes or anywhere that you need to immediately really remove it from you . Just use your hand to sweep away the maybe excess . You leave a nice shiny layer still wherever it fell . It cleanses your skin , while you then use the ejaculate as a loop and continue to get off .
Speaker 2Look at that .
Speaker 1Goddamn , that's a plan . Yep Fucking A . Cheers to that .
Speaker 2Can I also get a cheers to good housekeeping .
Speaker 1To good housekeeping . Wow , well , guys , I wish I could just redirect you to sheexplorerslifecom for that fucking shit . But miss the craze , because I also think there was a backlash that people were like that's not true . But whatever , who cares ? So fuck , we put together a plan for everyone's first second , maybe all the facials that you ever get . Absolutely no , I would say . Intermediate level facial is , as Deanna , her first approach , which is putting it oh , then eating it . I've got to tell you guys , something . I do know that , look , I do . I give oral sex . I don't mind swallowing . I'm working to overcome my cum phobia , but I definitely struggle with after it's out of the human . I'm not like a person who really wants to go and lap it up . I see it in the porn . I know that everyday people do this from conversations with my girlfriends . But , deanna , you don't have the same a person , I'm assuming .
Speaker 2No , I don't . I do know that . I recommend that you know the person rather well , so you know what they've been eating lately . That's a good part of the conversation , Because I will debate you all day , every day , if you try to tell me that diet does not affect the taste , because it does affect the taste . If they have been having a lot of red meat it's going to be very bitter . They have a lot of fruit in their diet . It has a sweeter taste . It can be more salty if fried food .
Speaker 1Really oh crap , yeah .
Speaker 2So I've done an unofficial study where I paid attention to these things because I'd heard the debate . People would say no , it's not affected by diet . Yes , it is affected . So me being a curious mind that I've always been , I just decided to observe some things , and so I paid attention to what my partner's nutrition was and what their gum tasted like , and then I was like oh , definitely what they're eating does affect it .
Speaker 1I've always wondered because , like I said , so we made that decision . I've definitely been with partners where the ascent and taste of their ejaculate really grossed me out .
Speaker 1And so I was like I can't , I can't all be just chemistry with someone . I can't just be that . I'm really into my current partner and suddenly their spooge is like this is amazing , it doesn't bother me at all . And look , saying it doesn't bother me and that it even turns me on sometime is like coming a serious long way from where I was . My aversion , my real , my very real aversion to it , so that would ring true . Like I have to imagine that some of the things that I found gross about it with past partners has to be , you know , diet .
Speaker 1And I think it was Abby and I did the Felicio how to give a good blow job podcast and in that podcast I remember her bringing up the diet of partners and how she will not swallow and it's because people don't take good care of themselves and eat shit and it tastes like shit and she's not putting that in her body and so I kind of like logged that in my head and it's funny that you now bring it up . There's two guests , two female guests , who have brought up diet and the taste of men's ejaculate . So hey guys , if you have needed a reason to work on your diet , get healthy , work out , take care of yourself , take better care of yourself you got one .
Speaker 1You got one . You want women to want to like . Gobble up your cum to lick you like an ice cream cone in June and bake for more . Pay attention to your diet . Take care of yourself . Eat some fruit , veggies . Stay away from all that red meat grease . Some people like it salty , I don't know . So that is our advice and we are sticking to it . Cheers Okay , so you don't want facials ? You don't want facials , but your person with a penis , your guy , needs somewhere to put his cum and let's say , you can't put it in you because you don't want to get pregnant or whatever your reason is .
Speaker 1Deanna and I took some time together to look at , to look up different sex acts that include where men can ejaculate , and we were fascinated . We were fascinated by the options . So we're going to share some with you because we don't want you to feel like you've listened to this podcast this far and you're like I'm a feminist and I'm just not like I get it . Everyone might shame anyone for their spooge , but I still don't want it on my face . Or if you're not a feminist and you're like you dirty , dirty girls , gross , but deep down you're like so what do I have them do . That's still kind of hot . We have options for you because we love all of you , so we came up with a cum shot sex , a cum shot sex act list . Now , most of these are fine , some of them not so much , so we're going to quickly discuss them .
I'm going to let you start off , deanna .
Speaker 2What's number one ? Well , actually it's not first on the list . But for those feminists out there , if you want to give it back to the patriarchy , the spitting dragon is for you . This is where you give head and they ejaculate in your mouth and you spit it back on them . That's amazing , yeah . So you want to give it to the man ? There you go .
Speaker 1You just spat . You know what I think ? I have a spitting dragon story .
Speaker 2I didn't realize it was on .
Speaker 1Oh , I was in college . So this is where consent comes into play and maybe where guys are getting a bad rap . It was college . I was at a party . I hadn't met this guy , I hadn't met him over the years . We had hung out and talked . He was very , very hot . We hooked up at the party , not being sex , but we were like oh , hey , cutie , hey cutie , and we're going to go get it on in some fashion . I had no intention of having sex with him , but I definitely wanted to mess around with him . So we walked to a park and at the park I ended up going down on him under the stars . It seemed sexy and exciting and I sat him on the way down . I sat in some way or other like don't come . And this sexy , interesting guy turned out his hippie , turned out to be kind of a dick and came anyways , and I was so fucking pissed I managed to hold it in my mouth long enough to crawl up and spit it right on his face . Nice .
Speaker 2I mean Spitting dragon .
Speaker 1That is what I was kind of right . Yeah , I do notice in the porn though that's a thing where men come on women in their mouths and then they do spit it out in it . It turns people on . So I think maybe seeing the come come out of a woman's mouth can also be a fun , sexy thing . I was very angry and it was an empowering thing . I was once a spitting dragon .
Speaker 2Perfect .
Speaker 1And I feel good about it . You should All right . So number two well , the cream pie , which seems very basic to me . I feel like this description of it doesn't do it justice , but the one that I , because I'm a little bit confused about the cream pie , I'm going to be honest with you . It sounds like it's just like coming in a woman and then watching it come out of her vagina , or ? But is that correct according to what you understand , Deanna ?
Speaker 2Um , so , I've heard that , but I've also heard a cream pie is when , uh shh , the she's come in and someone eats her out , yeah , yeah .
Speaker 1Oh , yeah , yeah , maybe that's the other part of it I left out . So , oh , that would make sense . That makes it more interesting . But I have , I've seen in porn where it's just , or you know more than one person comes under her and then they are in awe of it coming out .
Speaker 1So there you go , folks . You can come in a woman if she allows you to , if you have no STIs , if you are a trusted partner . I'm not going to do the STI talk with you guys . I'm going to assume you all know to do your homework ahead of time , and then you can either stare it as it comes out in awe or treat it as though it were a cream pie , which is a dessert . Your turn .
Speaker 2Let's just go with the good old fashioned pearl necklace . So for those of you who may have never heard of this term , it's a very popular one , and that is when you come on a person's neck and it's like at the base of the neck and they're laying down and they come kind of parts and rolls to the back of their neck .
Speaker 1Thus the pearl necklace If the come behaves properly . Otherwise you just have a bunch of spoo on your neck , but we pretend it looks like a pearl necklace and this is perfect for the pearl clutches out there who are afraid of the facial . Start with the pearl necklace and then , you know , maybe every once in a while he loses control , you get a little on your chin and you can claim the status of a wild and godly woman and say you got your facial .
Speaker 2The pearl necklace is the gateway .
Speaker 1come shot it totally is it totally is All right . The next one I don't . This is beyond my ability right now and again , I'm not going to say I'm not going to judge it , I'm not ready for it . Felching , felching , felching is coming in a butt , okay . So look , first of all , anyone who's been listening this far and just can't handle too much more . Now is a good time to like fast forward . But if not , stay with me . It's when someone comes in someone's ass and then , I believe , licks and sucks it out . Deanna just gagged and cringed over there . So I feel better about my own aversion to this one . I don't know , but you know we're all into some stuff and I'm not judging you . If you're out there and you're a felt sure , hey , I want you to know I accept you . But can you please email me at annette at Shakespeare's lifecom , because I want to understand . I want to understand you , I want to talk to you . I might even interview you , annette , at Shakespeare's lifecom . Please contact me immediately .
Speaker 2So when you graduated to a facial , there's a thing called the turkey shot .
Speaker 1I would call this intermediate or advanced .
Speaker 2Definitely Facial , and so actually , this is more for our male listeners or listeners with penises , because you play a key part in this one . You have a role . You have a role to Acute . So when you , when there is E-Jack , you lit on around the person's mouth and it rolls down under their chin . The ejaculator then goes gobble gobble .
Speaker 1And that is called a turkey shot . A turkey shot , a turkey shot . So did you catch that ? You eject . No , maybe it's not . Do they eject in the mouth , even or around the mouth ?
Speaker 2I just said , when the cum drips down the chin and so it comes under the chin , then gobble .
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Speaker 2People should celebrate with a turkey shot .
Speaker 1I see it as kind of a fall , kind of activity , seasonal . I feel like it has a seasonal feel to it . Definitely , yeah for sure . So turkey shot this fall . It is not on my sex bucket list as of yet , so we only have one more left .
Speaker 1No we have two . I'm going to go for the snowball , the snowball , the snowball . It can be done any time of year , but especially during the winter months . So , guys , your girl is going down on you , you come in her mouth and then she holds it in there and she comes up and you French kiss , and you can pass it back and forth , back and forth , back and forth , and as you pass it back and forth it will actually increase in size and fluidity . I should have put a warning on that one ahead of time . I just had to take a moment , but yeah , I've seen that this also , I think , in group activities sometimes happens , or in threesomes where then ?
Speaker 1the other . You know , maybe not the person who ejaculated , but the other two people involved will pass it back and forth . I'm Audi . That's not happening for me , Maybe ever .
Speaker 2I don't see I don't see snowballing in my future either , but doesn't mean there's anything wrong with it .
Speaker 1No , not shaming you Not shaming you , really trying not to shame you . Yeah , now people are into what they're into . And finally , the boo cocky .
Speaker 2So this is in a multiple partner sex act or a gang mate , uh huh , where there is multiple people ejaculating upon an individual . That is some boo cocky .
Speaker 1That's some boo cocky . I really like the word .
Speaker 2I love the word boo cocky , I do too .
Speaker 1I wonder how that came to be a word for that act .
Speaker 2I don't know . You know thinking about blowing your wad . Now I almost kind of want to research these slang terms and where they originated from . We will do a whole podcast on that . We can do a follow up podcast . Yeah , we're going to research these .
Speaker 1I mean I'm not promising it , it sounds like a good idea in this moment , but I mean , if we can't find anything , then we won't do a follow up , but if we do find , we definitely could do a what do you call it ? A sort of a dictionary terminology , dictionary , dictionary terminology , sex terminology , follow up ? Oh , I like that idea . Yeah , so , guys , look , I feel like we've covered quite a bit .
Speaker 1Now I would love to hear from women about how you feel about men's come more women . I mean , like I've talked to a lot of girlfriends about this . It seems to be like there's a wide variety of feelings and assumptions about , like , how women react to the whole thing and I think , probably what you've gotten a little sample of between . I mean , deanna and I were a good duo for this podcast , because Deanna is very come positive and I am a recovering come rebelled person , so , and I do think that that covers sort of the extremes of how we can all feel about it . I think the things that are really important in my opinion and I'd love to hear yours is that there's consent , not just consent ahead of time , but like a conversation which should go along with your conversation about STI's being safe and what kind of fluid exchange is possible within your relationship . But also like what do you like and how do you feel about this and how can I make you feel more comfortable ? Right ?
Speaker 2Yeah , definitely . And I think another thing that's really important is you talked about that study from the bad girl Bible and it said one in four which I think I wanna assume that it was an anonymous survey and I think there's more people out there who like it but like the come shot , like the come shot anywhere , but maybe are quiet about it . And so I really encourage people not to have shame in liking it . There's nothing wrong , it is normal . Don't listen to Dr Ruth . She's an old woman , very conservative . It is okay to like it . There is no shame in getting a face shot . There's no shame in felting . It might not be for everybody , but I really wanna encourage people not to be shamed anymore by their feelings and their liking of come activities .
Speaker 1Right . I think that what struck me when I was looking up articles for this podcast and I kind of went into it laughing a little bit . I'm thinking maybe it's a silly topic , but the more that I read or mainstream articles about it , the more I was like , hmm , it really bothers me that this act has been turned into something dirty . And then people say , oh , it only happens in porn . And even more than that , what I saw was you know a lot of quote sex experts saying porn has , like , convinced people they have to do this . I would like to challenge the idea that porn is convincing anyone to do anything . I would like to say that porn is a reflection of the things that we want to do deep down .
Speaker 2Or that we are doing and not talking about .
Speaker 1And not talking about right and that we're enjoying , like that's the fact . Yeah , it's not a fact , I haven't proven it , but I believe porn is that reflection and it gets blown out , sometimes blown out of , like movies do right Movies take most cinematic experiences or based on some little small semblance of truth . But yeah , it's okay to like or be interested or want to try these things . It's nobody else's business unless you decide to like , have a podcast on it or write about it or put it out there . So we're stripping the shame from it . Sorry , if I gagged over your specific kink , it's just me . It's just my own opinion or personally , and most likely , if I gagged , that means I haven't done it . So what is my opinion matter ?
Speaker 2right .
Speaker 1Right . So , deanna , this was a fun one .
Speaker 2It was . It was a good one .
Speaker 1I feel like I've learned a lot .
Speaker 2Yeah , educational .
Speaker 1Yeah , so we're gonna have to have you back soon , because I would love to come back soon , nice .
Speaker 1Ah nice , all right guys . So a couple things I wanna put out there real quickly before we move on . I launched . I launched at the YouTube channel . It's not got a lot on it yet , but there are videos coming . I'm covering a whole bunch of sex toys , doing some reviews . I am going to be covering some book reviews . I've been reading some cool books . I am going to be sharing some tips and tricks that I've been learning through my research and I am considering doing some outtakes from the podcast , meaning things we run through the podcast and a lot of really good information comes out , but for listeners it's not always easy to go back to , so I'm looking at translating those into videos , short like little three to five minute videos that sum up the highlights from the podcast , and also in articles . So head over to SheExploresLifecom . We're adding new articles to that all of the time with great tips , information , book reviews , toy reviews . We've got some fun columns going up by some incredible women who are out there on their own groundbreaking sexual adventures , so that's pretty exciting too .
Speaker 1If you have questions , thoughts , things you'd like to contribute , I will be doing some mini episodes that answer questions that are being sent in to me . I've already gotten some questions sent in to me . I wanna encourage both men and women to send thoughts and questions into me . Things we've talked about that you need clarification on . Also , I would like , if you have a topic you want me to discuss , send it my way . Anything like that , send it to AnnetteAnneette at SheExploresLifecom . You can also find us at lockerroomtalkpodcastcom , sheexploreslifecom and on social media . I can cover it .
Speaker 2I think you did .
Speaker 1All right , so , deanna , until next time , cheers , cheers . See you in the locker room proven entries in the Series .