Hi , this is Annette Vinedetti , your hostess for a locker room talk and shots , the podcast that likes to think of itself as the queer NPR of raunchy women's sex talk . You are about to sit in on the kind of conversations women have on their girls' nights out or behind closed doors , while enjoying delicious drinks and dishing about sex , think , fun , honest and feminist as fuck , and always with the goal of fighting the patriarchy , one orgasm at a time . Welcome to the locker room . Welcome to the inaugural episode of Master Baytian Mondays with me , annette Vinedetti , your host . It is brought to you by Lockroom Talk and Shots and for today , fun factories , them vibrating wand . She was very good to me this morning .
Speaker 1Master Baytian Mondays is an invitation for you to join me for coffee and bed . Yes , I am recording this from bed , and coffee and bed is one of my favorite things to do period , but especially after a yummy , wonderful orgasm . So I'd like you to join me for coffee and bed for a candid conversation about the love making practice that I am creating for myself , and I am actively drawing on things that I've learned , not only over the two and a half plus years of doing locker room talking shots and talking to an incredible variety of professional sexologists and just people willing to be open and share information about creating incredible sex lives , but also my experiences during my 365 days of orgasms challenge , for those of you who haven't been listening long . Last year , I gave myself an orgasm every day for 365 days and it blew my mind the things that I learned . But I am now taking all of the stuff I learned and I'm using it to create a sexual practice , a love making practice , with myself as a now single woman who has taken herself off the market , meaning I am single and I'm no longer seeking any partner . And so now I found myself in a very interesting place because over the past month and a half , two months or so of being single , I've been really working on my self care and I'm in the beginning stages of manifesting what I want for the future , and , as a result , my libido is . It's crazy . I'm like teenage boys status right now , with a sex drive , and so I'm creating this practice in an effort to not only really , but maintain and nurture that libido , because it's part of what I love about myself is my sensuality and my sexuality but also in an effort to nurture and maintain my mental health , my emotional health , my physical health and wellness , my spiritual health and wellness because , as many of you may already know from listening to past episodes , orgasms come with a whole host of health benefits for the people having them . So in these conversations I'm going to be talking to you about not only you know what I used to get off and how I used it and some of the techniques I'm using to make sure that I have incredible relieving orgasms , but also a lot of the fantasies and thought processes I'm including in my sex practice to get there . Guys , so let's grab our coffee cups minus right here on my bedside table , because I'm ready to talk about fucking myself with a Vim wand this morning . It was a good one , so let's raise our glasses and talk about sex Cheers . All right , folks , I'm gonna be real honest with you . I said these would be candid conversations .
Speaker 1My sex drive is driving me insane , I'm not kidding you , like it's literally painful . Sometimes I will be sitting and trying to work and get things done , and right now , one of the things I've been manifesting is like abundance in jobs and income , and it's been very successful . I've been writing for different publications , stuff I'll be sharing with you , but I've been busy , busy , busy , and it requires focus and work and my posse is just so demanding , just so demanding and , as someone who now has no one else to take care of her , it's all on me . And part of what I've been manifesting this year is I now know what I want when I find my next person . Like , I woke up one morning and it was just like I was hit with this clarity of the kind of person I want , how they feel , what the most important traits are .
Speaker 1Last night , when I went to bed , I decided I really wanted to swim in the energy and thoughts of this person who I want to manifest . And I'll just give you a little quick rundown . This isn't about physicality . I don't have a body and mind , I don't have even a gender in mind . What I have is this energy I want . It's strength , it's security , it's groundedness and passionate . Like passion , somebody with passion for me , let's just be clear . But also generally , those are just some of the traits that my mind is combining and putting together and I just imagine , like what it would feel like to be embraced by that person , to have skin on skin contact with that person , to grind against that person . So last night when I went to bed I kind of let myself just swim in the feeling , the sensation . And when I woke up this morning , that was not only was I raging , ragingly horny , that was sort of the energy I was in . And I haven't been masturbating that much every other day , so not as much as my body wants . And so this morning I woke up and I'm like I want a long , slow fuck . I want a long , slow fuck in this energetic presence . And so I decided to use Fun Factories , them one to be specific . Just so y'all know , you can go to funfactorycom , you could check it out there . If you decide you want it or any other product at Fun Factory , you can use my code S-E-L-S 20 for 20% off , including the supplies to the VimWand and any other product there you want . But I had the honor of getting the VimWand is actually brand new at Fun Factory .
Speaker 1And look , I know almost all of you probably have the or have heard of at least , if you do not have your own magic wand . The Hattachi is the old school version and almost everybody I know is like I've got the magic wand . I've got the magic wand , I have one . It was the first prop I used as my microphone in the images I had when I kicked off this podcast . But the VimWand came to me and I I have to tell you guys it was such an upgrade . I don't use the magic wand at all . You should take some time to look at it and I will be sharing some pictures . Of course , if you sign up for my E news letter , you just scroll down and I have the link in the podcast .
Speaker 1But the Vim wand is gorgeous . The entire thing is made out of buttery soft silicone . The one I have is in this kind of sexy purple blue color and the thing that I love about it is it's pretty simple to operate . And once I get going like as much as I love toys that have a lot of options I like to keep my masturbation and self love making practice pretty simple , because I don't want to be thinking about my toy . I want to be thinking about whatever sexual fantasy I have at the time .
Speaker 1Now , the cool thing about the Vim wand is it has five speeds . So for those of you who like to just like slam one out at high velocity vibration I can't masturbate with the highest level of vibration because it's just too much for me . But the other thing it has that I wanted to play with this morning is three different pattern settings , and one of them is like set to give you this deep orgasm experience . The other one is like quickie mode , just hard and fast , and then it has an edging option where it builds in vibration intensity and then falls off and builds and falls off . So today I decided I was like , hey , I can just set it up on that setting I can put my favorite lube on , gleam lube .
You can get it at thethorustercom for it's not that expensive at all . But you can get it for 30% off when you use my code explores30atthethorustercom . Gleam lube is just one of my favorite lubes . It goes on clean , it sticks around . But the other thing that's cool about the Vim wand is which is very much unlike the magic wand is it has these beautiful waves and ridges on the head of it . And when I first thought I was like , why , why did they do that ? Well , I found out really quick when you put lube on the head of this baby , the riches hold it .
Speaker 1So I did not have to reapply the lube for my whole masturbation session , which lasted about , I want to say , between 30 to 40 minutes , and so I started to think about it for like 40 minutes , and so what I did was I wanted to stay in a really restful state , so I kept my lights off . I had my Vim wand setting out my lube right there . Yeah , I just put lube on . I have a bed that is built for my pleasure . I have very velvety covers and pillows lots of pillows so I propped my body up , I used my pillows to hold my legs , I butterfied my legs , I put the lube on and set it to edging and I just honestly started really slow .
Speaker 1I started with massaging my vulva area , not right on the clitoris , not on the vagina , just around the lips , and I really settled into this fantasy space , the idea of skin on skin with this person . It was an interesting fantasy because , again , I've assigned no gender at this point , and so it's very I don't know what the word is for this fantasy . I'm usually someone , when I have sexual fantasies , it's very specific . Like you know , there are , there's a penis in me and I'm like going down on a woman . You know , I set up the scenario Like usually I involve a couple of people , but this was very much just the idea of me and this other person presents energy , swimming and grinding and touching and just yummy , sexy , energetic exchange .
Speaker 1Now , another reason why I chose the VimWand is I have not been in a space where I've wanted to have a lot of penetrative sex with myself . I haven't been using toys over the last month and a half that involve penetration , which is something I want to work back up to . So the VimWand was perfect for that . It's not a go inside toy . This is a massage the outside of your vulva , your clitoris , your vaginal opening , which the vibrations in the VimWand are strong enough . If you do put them over your vaginal area , your G-spot gets some great stimulation . In fact , one of the cool things about the VimWand is its technology . So the VimWand is designed with a weighted motor and if you've ever noticed with the Magic Wand , when you turn on it starts vibrating like everything vibrates . That motherfucker shakes the shit out of your pussy and your entire arm . Well , the VimWand is designed with a weighted motor , so most of the vibration is happening in its head , which creates what I can only describe as like this low , rumbly kind of vibration , and it's really strong , but it's very concentrated . So when I move it over my vaginal opening . Those deep vibrations sort of have a ripple effect into my vaginal canal , which is wonderful because I'm just not in that place and I know that there are a lot of all the owners and women out there who go through phases where they're like they don't wanna be penetrated and there are some women who really like penetration is like a touchy thing for them .
Speaker 1I do think vaginal penetration is an important part of a self-love practice for the health of the vagina . It's very important to use the skin that's inside your vagina in order to keep it healthy and strong and to keep sex and just keep that area less painful in general . But for me at this point in time I'm wanting some vulva love . I'm wanting some clitoris love . I was edging this morning and wanting to draw out my pleasure , so the Vim Wand was perfect for that . As I said , I started with my outer lips , moved into my vulva area . The waves of vibration were just God . They hit me just right this morning .
Speaker 1Now , usually in the past well , in the past , prior to my 365 days of orgasms experience like I , was definitely like let's just hit it hard , let's go full blast with any vibration tool and get off . But I learned through 365 days of orgasms that laying with waves of pleasure , staying in the mental space of sensuality , of passion and of pleasure and fantasy , helps cultivate orgasms that are deeper , longer and more relieving . And I need relief , folks . So my fantasizing this morning wasn't , again , really specific . There weren't cocks flying in my face , nothing was in my butt , there weren't pussies waiting to be eaten or pleasure . It was this very surreal , ethereal , sexy place to be and it was a wonderful match for the edging vibes of the Vim Wand , because I was just moving in and out of a space of feeling and manifesting skin on skin contact .
Speaker 1Now , of course , I was using my free hand to add sensation to my breasts . I learned over the last year that if I just run my fingers lightly over the top of my pubic bone and my lower belly and up and down my inner thighs while I'm masturbating or during sex , if I do that , it enhances everything . It brings me quickly close to orgasm . It can even shove me into my orgasm if I'm not careful , if it's not what I want to have happen , or if it is what I want to have happen that sensation of light fingers tickling my stomach and my pubic bone , my inner thighs . Well , help me get to my orgasm now .
Speaker 1This morning I rode the waves . I rode the delicious waves . I got so close to orgasm . I even had like one of those moments where I kind of like twitched and I'm like , oh , did I just come a little and I may have ? And then I pulled myself back and just really tried to feel the presence of this person , this individual that I believe I am going to meet someday , this person who I will eventually be having this experience with , but until then it's just me and the Vim Wand . So eventually , after about 30 minutes , I was like I've got stuff to do today . I can only masturbate so long . I could have kept going for a while , and that's another thing that I love about the Vim Wand .
Speaker 1I had , with a magic wand , I think , the material I hope . Does anybody know what the head of the magic wand is made out of ? Because I don't know what it's made out of . It not only would get kind of hot but it would rub me raw really quickly . Now I'm imagining it's because of the material the Vim Wand is made out of . The silicone , again , is buttery , soft , but the fact that it holds on to the lube as long as it does , is just helps a lot and keeps those vibes because they are strong vibrations . I mean that's why everybody loves the magic wand . Right , it is the tool that will get almost everybody there . Well , the Vim Wand is equal . It's beyond its equal , it surpasses it . It gives you the ability to go a little bit longer . I love the added texture , feel . So , if you were wondering , can you feel the ridges on the head ? Absolutely , absolutely . Now , they're so subtle . It's not like these big , sharp , high ridges . Maybe I should call them waves .
Speaker 1That , I guess , was the theme of my masturbation session this morning waves , waves of ecstasy , waves of vibe , waves of sensation . It was a great way to kick off Monday morning and it brought me to an orgasm . And here is the coup de gras of my morning masturbation session I got to have multiple ongoing orgasms this morning . It was definitely an orgasm that came on and came in waves , and when it felt like that orgasm was getting a little too intense , I just kind of like rode it a little bit and what I did was I pulled off my clit and then just continued to use the vim kind of around the clit .
Speaker 1I think everybody feels like when they masturbate , the focus has to be right on the clit . It does not . It does not especially with a toy that has this much vibration to it . You can put it on the outside of the hood that's over the clit , or the skin that is right under the clit and leads into the vagina and your clitoris is still going to receive that deep rumbling vibe If you are in an orgasm . It's going to keep you in the orgasmic state , which is where I wanted to stay .
Speaker 1I was like today is a long day . I have a lot to do . In fact , after this I am going to be interviewing Lisa Finn for a podcast on sex talk . So I'm going to be doing a lot of sex talk here in a few . And I was like I really need my my posse to quiet down a little bit . She needs to be a little bit quieter , less demanding of me , I would say . My orgasm lasted about I don't know . It's hard to tell in orgasm , time seems different To me . It felt like I got a good one to three minute long orgasm . It was probably closer to like one , one and a half , but that's what it felt like . It was like . Can we just a round of applause for me ?
Speaker 1The other thing I wanted to point out about the Vemuan that was wonderful for me this morning . I have some powerful toys that give me fantastic orgasms that are noisy I mean , I'm all by myself in my home so it doesn't matter but I was trying to be really gentle with myself this morning and just sit in this restful , sexy , sensual space , and so I wanted a really quiet toy , and so this is one of the biggest bonuses of using the Vemuan . In comparison to the Magic Wand , it is super quiet , in fact . I'll turn it on and see if I can get you to . I've got it right here with me , come on . Well , you can hear that it actually picks up on the mic really well . Now , can you hear that ? Yeah , I'm gonna assume we'll see . When I go to listen to the recording , you can hear how it's like a very low rumble when you're not on the mic . When I don't have my headphones on , you can barely hear that at all . It's near silent , and that's a huge plus for me . It's also a huge plus for people who have kids or wanna take a wand on vacation with them and maybe write their parents and wanna use it and not be caught . So that's another plus .
Speaker 1But let's sum up my masturbation Monday experience I played with , first of all , not watching porn , but really I wanted to see what it would be like something I don't do often , either in sex or in masturbation , in just being in the sensual space , in having a fantasy that was abstract and that was built towards manifesting what I'm hoping for in the future . I use the famois and the things that I really love about it it's quiet , the vibrations sit in the head and I can still get G-spot stimulation even though I'm not going inside myself , which is a space I'm not in right now . I love using the edging and I always hear people ask who uses these other vibration patterns . It isn't something I did in the past , but I loved using the waves of sensation to reach that eventual climax . I find edging and drawing out an orgasmic experience allowing my vulva the full vulva , meaning the lips , inner labia , outer labia , the clit , but also the vaginal opening and where the G-spot sits to enjoy sensation leads to longer , fuller , undulating orgasms and I believe and I know that I can replicate this experience because I have done it before . But those are just some tips If you wanna have a long ass orgasm that goes on forever and really satiates your libido or encourages it , consider making love to yourself in this way set yourself up to be relaxed .
Speaker 1I was completely propped up by pillows . My muscles had to do zero work , zero work Outside of my hand holding the Vim Wand , zero work . And even with the Vim Wand setting up that pattern , I didn't have to do a lot other than just move it to the spaces I wanted it to be in so I could just beat in my head and really manifest the sensation that I wanted . It was so sexy and so relieving . But , funny enough , talking about it makes me wanna do it again . Oh well , that's how it is , folks . The point is to build that sexual energy and maintain it , and I am sure doing that .
Speaker 1So if you wanna check out the Vim Wand , I have already written a full review on it . I have a video review on it . I will be linking those below . Again , you can use my code SELS 24 , 20% off of the Vim Wand and any other Fun Factory products . Gleam Loop guys , gleam Loop . Always have Loop and lots of it , especially if you are working on creating your own masturbation practice . Having Gleam Loop on hand is so important and you can get it at thethrustercom for 30% off . 30% off Just use my code EXPLORES30 .
Speaker 1Thank you for joining me for coffee and bed . This is lovely . I feel like this was just what I needed this morning and I am so glad that you were here to join me . So stay tuned Every Monday , masturbation in bed with me . If you have a toy or tool or question about masturbation , about making lift it yourself , or if you happen to have a penis and you wanna take some of the things I talk about here and use them in your sex practice with your partner , with a vulva owner or a woman , please feel free to reach out to me . You can email me at annette a-n-n-e-t-t-e . At sheexploreslifecom .
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