Do the sex . Welcome to masturbation Monday with me , annette Benedetti , your host for locker room talk and chats . This is your invitation to join me for coffee and bed and a candid conversation about the masturbation practice I'm developing to support my mental , physical and emotional health and help manifest my dreams . Masturbation Monday is a guide to self-pleasure , better sex and using the power of the pussy to open new doors to a better life . Ring loop .
Speaker 1Today's masturbation Monday topic is grief , blended orgasms and vaginal dearmoring , and it's brought to you by the womanizer duo too . If you want all the details on this incredible dual stimulating toy by womanizer , I have a full review that I've written and it's linked in the show notes . And , of course , don't forget my special code explores 15 . It's good for 15% off all womanizer products at womanizercom . But suffice to say it is a clit sucking toy that also has a G-spot vibe . It's shaped kind of like the spaceship enterprise for all my Trekkie fans out there , and it has definitely taken me to strange new worlds and where I'm pretty confident no one has gone before . I know last Monday that I said I wasn't really up for penetration these days , but this week was rough folks . I experienced just a lot of numbness in my pussy . It was hungry and insistent on being taken care of but at the same time not really receptive , and I had some crazy orgasms that really were grief driven , not satisfying and , frankly , ended up in tears . So I decided to sort of take my masturbation sessions to the next level and that's what I wanna talk to you guys about today . I thought when I started masturbation Mondays , I'd kind of start at the 101 level of like different methods of just external clitoral stimulation , because everyone says the clit is king . Does everybody say that ? Or maybe the clit is queen ? And that's where you go if you want to be satisfied , if you wanna satisfy a woman or someone with a vulva . But I'm just gonna get real with you and we're gonna start talking about blended orgasms and the G spot and the work I did this week work at my calling masturbation work . I think I just did that . But whatever , I have my coffee , I am in bed and I am ready to talk about this guys . So you know , grab your coffee and hey , cheers , let's talk about masturbation . So if you have listened to my podcast , locker room talking shots , in several of the episodes we've talked a little bit about vaginal dearmoring and also the many different types of orgasms . And today I'm going to tell you a little bit about my blended orgasm experience and why I decided to shoot for the moon for this masturbation Monday .
Speaker 1I have had hard week . It started with a therapy session that really just left me kind of tender and raw , and usually I can kick you know , I can kick a mood within 24 hours . I like to think of myself as being proactive when it comes to my emotional state , but this week I just my mood was low . And so what I found is when I was going to masturbate because , as I told you in my last masturbation Monday episode , I haven't really been in the mood for internal stimulation . But I've also been super , super , super , super , super turned on and my girl has been asking for a lot of attention lately , my girl being my pussy . But I would go and I would do sort of my typical masturbation .
Speaker 1Go back to last week's episode with the Vim Wand . You know where you take out the buzzy thing or the sucky thing and you pop it on your clit and maybe move it around your vulva for a bit and you get your orgasm . But I was just experiencing a lot of numbness . It was taking me forever to come , and then when I would come , I would burst into tears . Not so fun .
Speaker 1And if you go back to some of the episodes where I talk about my 365 days of orgasms experience last year , I do talk about how one of the things I discovered about a really deep masturbation practice and , even more importantly than that , the power of orgasmic energy is that it moves emotional things that you may not even know are there . It opens doors and lets the skeletons out of the closet , and sometimes those motherfuckers are brutal and they often come in the form of grief , sometimes for things that have recently happened , sometimes for things that happened way in your past , sometimes grief for things that you haven't even really acknowledged yourself . And yeah , this week it was just . It was not only , not only did I kind of find myself crying , sometimes really crying , sometimes just like a little weepy . I was then also left unsatisfied , so I was still ragingly turned on , which was very frustrating , as you can imagine , because again I've been very busy .
Speaker 1I have been writing for the Blam week here in Portland and had several articles go live . I did a little news appearance . It was busy , awesome week , except for this situation , and as I was trying to work , then my pussy would be yelling at me for like attention , and then I'd masturbate and then I'd be frustrated and kind of sad . So I decided to shoot for the moon , which is one of my favorite kinds of orgasms , the blended orgasm .
Speaker 1Now , the blended orgasm is something that I've only truly started enjoying in the last maybe two years , but yes , it requires some internal G-spot stimulation . Something I do wanna share really quick with you that I don't do that , I realize , is something I need to start doing is I don't internally masturbate with my own fingers . It's just something I've never . I've tried a couple of times , for sure , throughout my life , but it's not something I've been into . That I do think I need to do more of , and maybe I will give a shot for an upcoming Masturbation Monday podcast episode . But as for now , I just rely on toys that are designed for the G-spot . Now , the duo to is the tool I knew that would do the job . I've used it in the past and it's funny I was thinking I don't use it often and it's because , like I know , when I use this toy , I am going to have fucking crazy intense blended orgasms .
Speaker 1The body part of it is the part of it that does what they call it pleasure air technology , also known as clit sucking technology . But it's not really all clit sucking , it's sort of this puffing . It's like a very quick sucking and puffing movement that this round part of it that fits around your clit offers right . So you put it on your clit and it just starts this puffing , puffing motion and it is one of my favorite sensations . I have the best orgasms with clit sucking , pleasure air technology . But the duo to has that part of it on the body and then it has this arm that comes around and it's just long enough that it fits right inside your vagina and lands on the G spot perfectly and then it vibrates . That part of it vibrates .
Speaker 1The do2 also allows you to operate these two different parts of the toy separately , so you can just start with a suction , which is what I do to warm up , like I need to warm up before anything goes in my vagina . Anything goes in my vagina . So I usually use that either the vibrating part on its own , to just vibrate on my outer labia , around my clit and get warmed up . Then I'll turn on the puffing part . Give it . You know , give it a little bit of that suction action and then use lube . Gleam lube , folks , is one of my favorite kinds of lube . I believe I talked about it in my last episode . You can get it at thethrustercom and you get it for 30% off . 30% off with my code explores30atthethrustercom . So always put lube on any toy you're putting inside your vagina . That's my number one piece of advice . But yeah , so then I insert the vibrating arm once I'm feeling warmed up and really ready to masturbate .
Speaker 1Now I want to talk about here the concept of dearmoring , vaginal dearmoring . It is a new concept to me and I discovered it because one of the things that happened on my 365 days of orgasms I had always been someone who hadn't really enjoyed penetration . I hadn't felt the true pleasure from it , like I had never really felt my G spot or my A spot , which is about two inches above my G spot . I had never felt them activate until I did my 365 days of masturbation journey and then I really met them and what I had always experienced was more like just internal pressure when I would have sex and sometimes it was . It was pleasurable , but it is not the same as when these hot spots in your body really light up .
Speaker 1And what I learned through talking to different sex spirts and sexologists and therapists was that sometimes the woman's body , the vagina , people who have vulvas store trauma and grief in their vaginal area and it causes something called armoring , and armoring of that area really can manifest in different ways . The way it manifested within my body was just numbness and sometimes pain . Right , I would experience penetration as pain and like the pounding part of sex as pain and what doctors and , when I was younger , my mother told me was well . Well , some women just don't experience G spot orgasms . Some women just don't they . It has to be their clit that gets them off . That's , that's kind of the lie that was sold to me . But what I learned is that through a dearmoring process now the way that quote professionals do it is more of like they insert fingers inside of you and they apply pressure and they release some of the stored trauma .
Speaker 1Well , I essentially did dearmoring of my own vagina through my own masturbation process , where I gained trust with myself and I started to really learn how to like , touch those areas and feel again . I'm sure a lot of that is why crying and deep emotional release took place while masturbating . But I had started feeling and it was coming out this week an armoring of my pussy and my vagina again . It was numbing out to me . And yes , you can have this sort of armoring take place and still be a horny . It's such an unfair experience .
Speaker 1So I thought to myself , instead of continuing to sort of avoid vaginal penetration , avoid my G spot , I was going to work with it and pleasure it in the way I had learned through my 365 days of orgasms and see if I could wake up that G spot and really get it to sing in harmony with my clit . And that is really the best description I can give you of how a blended orgasm happens . It is essentially getting both the clit and the G spot to light up , create sensation and work in harmony with one another until you build to this incredible release . And and the thing that I love the most about a blended orgasm is it can really sustain itself right . So once you climax , staying in that orgasmic state and riding the waves is a lot easier than when I'm just working with my clit . My clit will sort of burn out really quickly . Like you know , I can . I can definitely , as I did last Monday , prolong it by kind of moving whatever stimulating it it around the vulva , but the blended orgasm is like a next level version of that .
Speaker 1So what I did for this master patient session is I was really careful . I was really careful with myself . I started with warming up my clit , like I said earlier , with the vibrations and just using the vibration and the sections separately until I was pretty excited . And then I put lube on the vibration and I did not turn the vibes on , but I did have the section part on and I slowly inserted , and carefully , not to cause any pain , because any kind of pain while entering a vagina that is armored , which mine clearly was meaning it was sort of kind of like a tight muscle is the best way to explain it , but it was just tense , holding a lot of pain , holding a lot of grief . So I very slowly worked it in , while keeping my vulva and my clit awake and happy , and then , once I had it positioned in the way that I wanted , I turned on the vibration arm at a very low level , but I waited for a little bit .
Speaker 1What I allowed to have happen is I allowed that arm to be in there without vibration , just putting pressure on my G-spot while I was experiencing clitoral stimulation and I allowed my vagina to kind of accept this pressure and the sensation , and what it did was it began to relax and it began to tingle , and that is the feeling . There is this kind of tingling , almost a warming sensation , almost like icy hot . That's what it feels like when it starts to wake up . Once that sensation starts , I know that she's working with me . I know she is like trusting that what's going to come next is only pleasure , and so that's when I turned on the vibrating arm to its lowest vibration and that's when things started to really pick up for me . Oh God , I love that sensation . I think it's still so new and exciting to me because I didn't have it most of my life , so that G-spot stimulation is exciting even to share with you . Then I played with the settings a little bit as I got more excited .
Speaker 1Now , something that I do wanna share about the Duo 2 that also really worked for this session is that it has a smart silent technology , and I don't know , if you don't have a womanizer products , you may not be familiar with it , but the smart silent technology is really cool because basically what happens is the suction and the vibration only take place when there's contact with skin . So and that is on the suction part of it . So it's kind of exciting , like to use , in the sense that you can almost get this pulsation if you rock against it , if you pull it off of your clit a little bit , it will stop and then you rock back against it , it starts back up , which is pretty erotic . It's pretty erotic . The other thing that's really key to that is that then your masturbation session becomes fully embodied . You're not just sitting there really stiff , putting a toy on your body and expecting it to do all of the work . Your whole body is getting involved in the process and you start undulating and moving your hips , and that's erotic and that is making love to yourself . That is fucking yourself . Sitting there stiffly and putting a toy on and in your pussy is not making love to yourself . And look , I have spent a lot of time doing that . But what I'm trying to share with you is a masturbation practice that's going beyond just trying to knock out an orgasm . It really is about making love to yourself , finding self-love , so you can start manifesting a life that you want from a place of deeply loving yourself .
So I started that rocking process , enjoying the benefit of that smart silent technology , which is also like a bonus for people who just want discretion . And if someone walks in and you need silence really quickly , you can pull it off your clit and it goes quiet . It's not a very loud toy anyways , but that's beside the point . And then what I did next , once I had sort of gotten into it and I was building towards that blended orgasm which happens , by the way , this happens real quick , like the do-oh-to . If you take the time to insert it and work up , it's gonna knock out your orgasm pretty quick . And it's not just like a quick , low-grade orgasm , like you're going to get a toe-curling full-body orgasm . But then I put it on autopilot function , which is pretty cool . It's where , basically , the do-oh-to just does its deal . The setting basically takes you on an unpredictable vibration journey , which is super fun , but it also replicates being with someone who's moving inside of you and the shifting energy of really good sex in my opinion . So I put it in autopilot mode and just kind of let it do its thing , which allowed me .
Speaker 1At that point I was warmed up , my G spot was fully awake , fully and gorgeously awake . My clit was , you know , happy as could be . The numbness had dissipated . I was feeling the heat in my clit and vulva . I was feeling the heat in my G spot and by putting it on the autopilot function , I could really just like , let go and let my body enjoy the ride , react to it . I could relax again .
Speaker 1As I kind of explained in last masturbation Monday with the Vim , I have a bed that is packed with pillows . When I do these sessions I create kind of a nest for myself , or my legs are fully supported by soft pillows and I could just relax . And what was really wonderful about this is that I could just kind of unjolate a move freely as I let go . As you know , the vaginal de-armoring I feel like not only was it my vagina that de-armored , but the stiffness and sort of like you know when you're experiencing depression , when you're experiencing anxiety I don't know about you , when you're experiencing anxiety , I don't know about you , but I tend to stay , feel very rigid , I feel very armored everywhere . It's hard to just let go when at times you feel like you're just trying to hold yourself the fuck together . And having an orgasm isn't about holding yourself together , it's about letting go and being in pleasure and flowing in pleasure and being in ecstasy . Right , it's hard to do that when you are sort of arms wrapped around yourself , sometimes curled in fetal position , just trying to survive . So for the first time all week I was able to just let the fuck go , let my body react to the duo chew , and then I surprised myself .
Speaker 1If you've listened to my podcast for any time now , you know one of the things I struggle with is verbalizing and sound . I just I . Sometimes I'm quiet , like it really takes the right person to get me talking . It just does . Or just me like critically thinking and being like you need to talk sexy right now . So obviously when I'm masturbating I don't do that . But I found myself vocalizing during this masturbation session and groaning like loudly and it was like I had to stay out of my head because in my head I was like , oh my God , oh my God , I'm going to have a blend . It's gonna be amazing , you know . And certainly my pussy was super excited too because I needed some relief and I did . I had a really strong blended orgasm that was loud , loud , I was loud . You know what ? I loved the sounds that were coming from my body . I loved the groaning Like I was like . As I was groaning , I was like God , that sounds sexy , like I was turned on by my own voice .
Speaker 1But again , you guys , this is all about creating a practice where you are making love and in love with yourself , because that's where things start to happen for people . Falling in love with yourself is what gives you the power to chase your dreams and go after the things you know you deserve right . It gives you self-confidence when you're like , damn , I fucking love you and you're saying that to yourself like that's a place of confidence . And confidence allows you to do hard things , and if you are in a place in your life where things feel hard , you need something that helps you remember you can do hard things right . But it takes confidence and it takes love , and sometimes you don't have someone else to give you that , you know , or to prop you up that way . So you got to be the person that does it yourself .
And that's really what came out of this session . You know , like I really felt , like I was having sex , real sex , real love making and it was just with me . I had the movement going , I had the sounds going and it felt good and I felt sexy . And not only that , I had a sustained blended orgasm . Now I'm going to run you through a little bit what that means in with a blended orgasm for me . Again , what I'm sharing here is really what happens personally with me .
Speaker 1I hope that you will take what you learn here and and then see how it shows up in your own body . Right , and I would love to hear from you If you're listening to this and you're doing this with yourself or with a partner , like you're taking , if you are a penis owner , a cock owner , a guy , a dude , and you're listening to this and you're like , oh , I want to try this with my partner who has a vulva , or my girlfriend I would love , which would like . That would be great . Guys like seriously , if you are , if men are here listening to this , like this , can inform what you're doing with her . In a big way , it's a game changer in sex . But I would love to hear how this technique whether you're using the toy or you're finding a way to replicate it with your fingers in your mouth Like how does it show up in your body ?
Speaker 1What do you feel when you experience it ? But once I hit my climax and remember , if you go back to past episodes that we talk about I talk to a sexologist about the difference between a climax and an orgasm , right , but once I hit that climax brought on by you know both the sensation in my G spot and my clit then what happens for me is usually one like . Usually it's my clit that peters out the first , but my G spot will stay juiced up and so I get to keep enjoying that heightened pleasure and staying in that orgasm state and I'll kind of like with a do to I can . The nice thing is I can pull off the clit a little bit or move to another place on my vagina to give the actual clit a little bit of a break and maybe add sensation to my vulva or the labia with a suction and then just really ride the vibes on my G spot and then , once you know the clit's chilled out a little bit , I can go back to it and usually around that time the G spots kind of coming in and out , blinking in and out . But yeah , I can play with those two sensations and then heat up one area , cool off the other , go back and forth , I mean the other thing that's kind of nice about the duo is that you can actually operate the two parts separately , right , so you can turn off the suction and keep the vaginal vibe going .
Speaker 1After I was done , like as I I like , literally , I was done . I was like I'm done , I think , I don't think I know I yelled out fuck yeah . I was like it was just this full body , like fuck yeah , oh , I would . Oh , the relief and the release and the joy I felt after . And remember , all week I really my orgasms had not , you know , resulted in a joyous feeling , disappointing , frustration , sadness , that was kind of what I'd been having . So it was amazing to have that like happy , happy , motherfucking ending . So that is the story of this master patient Monday . It's hopefully this practice and how I went about it . We'll give you some ideas .
Speaker 1If you're someone who just doesn't like penetration or feels like penetration is fine but doesn't bring you joy , or someone who's just in a really challenging time in your life and you're like I'm just not in the mood , I'm just not in the mood . This is a kind of masturbation practice that you can give a shot and you and you don't have to use the duo to for it . You know you can use your fingers to stimulate both areas . Seems like a lot of work to me , but I usually , when I want to have a blended orgasm and I want to be able to relax while doing it , I do try to find a rabbit style vibrator , but it can be very healing and charging and energizing and confidence building . The blended orgasm is powerful , man . It's powerful in ways that I just don't necessarily experience with clitoral only orgasms , and you know we'll come back to this .
Speaker 1I'm saying this now . Maybe , as we get down the road of the masturbation Monday journey , I'll change my mind . You can always say , hey , but you said this and that , so I had a lot of success this masturbation Monday . I think it's going to lead to definitely some more penetrative masturbation , but we'll see and I will check in with you next Monday .
Speaker 1But between now and next Monday , I really want to encourage you to reach out to me and talk to me about what your thoughts are on what I'm sharing , what you'd like to know more about when it comes to a masturbation practice , if you'd like some tips , or if you'd like to offer me some tips , something to try . Hey , I am open to suggestions , guys , feel free Reach out to me at Annette at . She explores lifecom . Also , again , you can go to womanizercom and check out the duo to . I have a full review . I am posting in the notes below so you can read about it , what I have to say about it , below as well . If you have one , let me know what your thoughts are . So until next Monday I hope you all have a fantastic week filled with lots of orgasms and a juicy masturbation practice . So until next time I'll see you in the locker room . Cheers Bang lube .