Do the sex . Welcome to masturbation Monday with me , annette Benedetti , your host for locker room talk and chats . This is your invitation to join me for coffee and bed and a candid conversation about the masturbation practice I'm developing to support my mental , physical and emotional health and help manifest my dreams . Masturbation Monday is a guide to self-pleasure , better sex and using the power of the pussy to open new doors to a better life . Ring loop .
Speaker 1Today's masturbation Monday topic is humping your way to happiness and it is brought to you by the Leia 3 , leon vibrator by Fun Factory . Now , after listening to this podcast , if you think to yourself I need to get a Leia , you can go to usfunfactorycom , check her out , find out more about her and get her over 20% off with my code S-E-L-S-20 . Well , you can get her or any other hot Fun Factory product . I love Fun Factory , but let's get down to business here . This is gonna be an interesting podcast episode , so I'm trying to mix stuff up . I'm trying to do things I've never done before folks . So this week I really wanted to focus my pleasure practice on cultivating joy and happiness , and that's kind of how I ended up deciding to use the Leia 3 , because there is a way in which I don't ever masturbate , that I do know a lot of other vulva owners . I don't know if cock owners do , but I know a lot of other vulva owners masturbate in this particular way that I have never done and I've always kind of been baffled by . And so we are gonna talk about being a happy little humper and what that means . And I thought happy humper , that's what I need to do to try and cultivate happiness and joy through the dark season , through the holidays , which have their ups and downs . And so I started thinking about how some women hump pillows or blankets or apparently towels I was reading about it to get off Like that's how they learn to masturbate . It's how they like to masturbate , especially women who have sensitive clits , and this is just something I have never done , nor had any interest in doing .
Speaker 1So I thought , well , I have the Leia 3 and I've used the Leia 3 . It's a handheld vibrator , fits in the palm of my hand , fits in the palm of your hand , curves to the palm of your hand . I've used it just as like a typical vibe laying on my back , getting myself off that way . But I thought , huh , it is called a lay on vibrator . Maybe I'll give this a try . So that is what I did this week and I'm gonna talk about it , but first you're joining me for coffee in bed , so grab your coffee . I am still waking up . Can you hear the sleep in my voice ? Oh , I feel like I'm kind of gravelly today . Cheers , let's talk about masturbation . All right , guys .
Speaker 1So I embarked on this adventure . I thought why not ? Why not give it a try and see if I can get off that way and see if it's pleasurable . The other thing that I was thinking about it is like laying on my . So I mean , I assume you mostly lay on your front for this right . That would also give the front of my body stimulation .
Speaker 1As I have mentioned in the past podcast , I have a very , very , very luxurious bed . I have a velvet bottom sheet , my pillows are fleeced and velvet . All of my sheets are super fuzzy . I just I let sleep naked . I like that sensation against my skin . So I thought to myself you know , as someone who is having sex with herself at this point , I'm not getting sort of the full body stimulation that , if you're with a good lover , you're going to get . How do I do that for myself ? I mean , it's complicated . It's not easy to give yourself the same amount of that full body stimulation that you're going to get if you've got a great lover who likes to touch you and run their hands over you . But I thought , okay , well , if I get the layout and I'll put her on my pillow , that's I wanted to simulate whatever this is that other Volvo owners do . I didn't want to like hump my pillow with my underwear off and then get you know , get it stained or whatever . That just seemed like I'm going to lay on it at night or I'd have to go wash the pillow case . So it only made sense to put the lay there and then lay on the layup and see how it goes . Now , as I mentioned , you are going to be able to go down to the show notes and click a link and check out the layup and see what she's all about .
Speaker 1But she's Lea is a woman in my mind , by the way Fits in the palm of your hand , made of soft well , I mean , at least the material that covers her is the soft silicone material . The lay is actually rather hard herself . So I used one of my , one of my softer pillows that she would sink into so that humping her wouldn't hurt me . It's not something I've done before , so I knew that there would be a learning curve . But she has seven vibration speeds and three patterns . And the thing that is supposed to be really cool about the laya is she vibrates and taps at the same time , which gives sort of a unique vibration experience . But I took Lea and I put her on my pillow so that she would curve towards my body , my pelvic bone , my vulva , and you know , decided to go for it .
Speaker 1I decided to hump at the laya and again , my goal here was to cultivate happiness , joy . So I figured , you know , I'm gonna be able to like feel the velvet on my breasts and my stomach and my arms , and I have a lot of pillows , so I had kind of pillows lined up . So it felt like I was laying on top of someone and you know it turned her on and I started humping . And I have to tell you , right off the bat I just I was cracking up Like it's such a foreign thing for me to do and I mean it felt good . It felt good , it was just awkward . It was awkward as fuck for me to lay on and hump and then that's when the whole happy humper thing came into my mind , which then made me feel even sillier and , before I knew it , like I definitely was filled with joy . I was laughing my ass off at myself . So in that way I accomplished what I needed to .
Speaker 1Did I have an orgasm ? Of course I did . Of course I did . I mean , I am not one especially knowing I'm doing something for masturbation Monday to fail . But it was a wild ride , like I would get turned on and then start humping and then feel silly , which is , you know , I don't know what my deal is with that , because I've humped women , I've used a strap on before . It's not like I don't hump or I haven't humped , but this was different for me for some reason , and it's interesting to me that this is how many women masturbate . I will say this I did like the sensation on the front side of my body . That was nice . I took full advantage of that .
Speaker 1While I be humping my pillow again , probably , I think it's only fair that I give this method more than one shot . What do you guys think If you are a vulva owner out there who humps pillows , towels , blankets , whatever . You have a special teddy bear that you like to hump . I am not laughing at you . I am not laughing at you . I am not putting your practice down , but I would love to talk to you about it . Do you have a very sensitive clip ? Like if the laya hadn't been there for me , I would have not got . I could not . I couldn't get to orgasm humping a pillow , that is for sure . Like I definitely need more stimulation than that . I will say that I did love the sensation of laying on top of the vibrator . I think it's when it came to like humping like actually I'm humping the air right now just thinking about it . When it came to that humping motion on the pillow , I just I felt a little silly . I felt silly and I don't know why .
Speaker 1Here's the lesson I got out of this Master Patient Monday exercise . Sex should be fun and we talk about it on locker room talking shots often that you should be able to laugh during sex with your partner . We had the podcast episode on what to do during embarrassing moments . Of course , my go-to was lie at the time , but the thing we came back to was you should be able to be honest and laugh and like if you queef , you can laugh together . Lie and blame . That was my other tactic blame the other person for your queef . But sex should be fun and funny and joy filled with a partner . We talk about that all the time . But it also should be fun and funny and joy filled when you're with yourself . And I don't know how to make that happen all the time .
Speaker 1I'm clearly a well-versed master-bater , but I think what I realized doing this exercise and trying a new way of masturbating are technically fucking myself right . I basically tried a new position in bed with myself , which , when I think about it , isn't something I do a lot Like . I usually take a position . Maybe that's something I'm gonna start doing . Maybe I'm gonna start trying different positions . And I laughed at myself . I laughed with myself . I had funny conversations in my head about it . Was my orgasm mind-blowing ? No , because the whole thing was sort of comical , but that's okay , because the purpose wasn't really I wanna focus on having this long , hyper-intense orgasm . It was .
Speaker 1I want to cultivate joy , I want to cultivate happiness within myself . I want to feel good and like I had this positive , intimate moment and I did . To sum it up , I'm doing masturbation Monday to improve my relationship with myself , to fall more in love with myself , to know myself as a sensual person better and better , so that when I am cultivating an intimate relationship with someone else , it's gonna be so much easier to communicate my needs , my wants and to know how I want to be made love to or fucked or banged or whatever mood I might be in . And one thing I want in an intimate relationship with someone else's joy I've been talking to you in the past episodes about . I'm in this phase of really envisioning so that I can manifest the kind of partner I want to have . Right , I want to be intentional with my intimacy .
Speaker 1I want to have intimacy with intention , because I think what I realize most of us are doing out there in our dating lives , in our love lives , in our relationships we're currently in and certainly in bed , is we are moving without intention . I don't know how many times people you ask them what they want from a relationship , what they want in their relationship , what they want from sex , and they're sort of this blank stare or this grappling at , just kind of saying the obvious things . And if you don't know exactly what you want , you can't do something with intention . If you're not doing something with intention , then you get what you get and you don't get a throw of it about it , right ? So yeah , I'm trying to be intentional .
Speaker 1I know now for sure that with my future partners along with security and stability I've talked about that in the past I want to cultivate a joyful life , intimate experience , connection . I want it to be joy filled . I want long stretches of joyfulness with the people I invite into my life . So if I can have and create and cultivate joy within my own practice and with myself , I believe 100% that's gonna show up in my relationships intimate and personal with other people . And I will say this week's masturbation Monday was definitely joyful and hilarious and I will be laughing about it for quite a while , but I'll give it another try
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Speaker 1So to all my happy little humpers out there , you folks with vulvas or penises if penis owners , cock owners do this too who like to hump pillows , whatever you're hump , reach out to me , annette at sheexploreslifecom . Explain to me how you go about it . What do you think about ? I couldn't fantasize very much because I was so busy just feeling awkward about what I was doing , but I would love to know how you make this kind of masturbation practice like hot , sexy , feel good for you and then do you have big , explosive orgasms . Do you put something over your pillow like a towel to protect the pillow , because even though the lay-out was there , I'm still having to wash that pillow cover before I put my head on my pillow again tonight . I wanna know . I need you to teach me , so reach out to me . It's annette at sheexploreslifecom . Tell me your secrets , be my guide in the world of humping pillows or the Leia three . If you haven't tried her out , I have to imagine she will upgrade your experience humping things . So that's that .
Speaker 1Go out there today , be a happy humper . I don't care how you hump . You wanna hump a pillow ? Hump a pillow . You wanna hump the Leia or a Leia on vibrator ? Do it . You wanna stick a strap on and hump your partner ? Do it . But go out there , be a happy humper today and have a fantastic week . Cheers , oh Ring loop .