Do the sex . Welcome to masturbation Monday with me , annette Benedetti , your host for locker room talk and chats . This is your invitation to join me for coffee and bed and a candid conversation about the masturbation practice I'm developing to support my mental , physical and emotional health and help manifest my dreams . Masturbation Monday is a guide to self-pleasure , better sex and using the power of the pussy to open new doors to a better life Ring-loop . Today's masturbation Monday topic is pleasure in public . That's right . Today I wanna talk to all of you about the idea of taking your masturbation practice , our masturbation practice , out in public .
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Speaker 1All right , so let's dive into why I've decided to discuss pleasure in public this week for masturbation Monday . I obviously have been now doing this masturbation Monday practice with you guys for a little while and I realized that really , it's really about having a sexual relationship with myself practice , right . And so it is inevitable that when you're really focusing on your sexual relationship with yourself , you are going to run into the same problems that you do in your sexual relationship with a partner you're with for a very long period of time . So one thing in my research because , yes , I'm actually researching my masturbation practice that I came upon was the concept of changing up where you fuck yourself , and , of course , the first thing that came to mind , we will talk about that . We will talk about that . But you know me , I like to go from zero to 100 . So I could talk about , oh , moving masturbation to my couch or a different room in the house , but I'm like , why start there ? If we're gonna do this , let's do this thing right . So I decided this week to get a little spicy and take my masturbation practice out into the public . So let's get ready to talk about it really quick why , how and what I think the result is , and why and how I think you should implement it in your life and how that's going to improve just your overall experience in the world out there . Grab your cup of coffee , hop in bed and let's get ready for masturbation Monday and talking about masturbating in public Cheers . Okay , folks .
Speaker 1I came across an article that talked about changing up the location for where you masturbate . It was an article that was kind of all about enhancing women's sexuality and I went down the rabbit hole and I started thinking about it . I live in a very small place that I built myself and I thought , well , yeah , I could go out to the couch and that could be sexy , and it's a little bit spicy because in my home there's windows that have no blinds everywhere , so it could be kind of exciting like someone might catch me or see me masturbating . But I thought to myself something I used to do on occasion , when I actually had a job that I had to go to outside of my home which it's been quite a while , is you know , on my lunch break or on my 15 minute break or whatever I would go to the bathroom and masturbate , and I just haven't done it in so long , you know . And when I would do that in the past , it was usually when I had someone I was sexting with and being sexy with and I'd tell them about it . But I thought to myself I mean , it has been maybe years since I've done something like that , and so I thought I'm going to give it a try this week .
Speaker 1But I also was thinking like where , where is it going to be sexy to masturbate , and when and why would I do that ? And so I have come up with a couple of scenarios that I tried out oh , I hope some people aren't listening and I found that this actually was a great experience for me , because , when properly implemented and not inappropriately , do not do not go and masturbate in public , where there are , you know , people who are going to be traumatized by seeing you or catching you . You know , remember this is all consent based . But what I found is when you masturbate in public spaces , meaning a public bathroom or at a friend's house or a restaurant or whatever , in a stall with a door closed , folks remember consent . We aren't traumatizing other people . There are a lot of benefits and I'm going to talk to you about them . So , first of all , it's just sort of a naughty little secret , and who doesn't like that ?
Speaker 1I also want to say that , going into this masturbation practice , I did not go in with the idea that I had to have an orgasm , and that's something that at some point will focus on on masturbation Monday , understanding that having a masturbation practice doesn't have to mean always orgasming . Right Having is a pleasure act , whether without the orgasm , and you get all of the benefits , meaning the happy little hormones that are released whether or not you orgasm . So it is a worthwhile endeavor , even if you don't have like , let's say , it's going to take you half hour to have an orgasm . You can't like take a bathroom break while you're out , having you know lunch or dinner with your friend or whoever , and like sit in the bathroom and masturbate for a half hour . I mean you could , but that would be really rude .
Speaker 1I found that the times , first of all the times I implemented it or a friend's house they had left , though , so I had some free moments , but it was still like , oh , I'm at someone else's house , at a restaurant on a bathroom break , and I was out shopping and feeling anxious and I'm like , oh , I know that masturbating brings down my anxiety , and I found , you know , a single stall bathroom , and no , I did not come in any of these instances . Well , I don't know . I would say one time I had little mini orgasm , but it was pretty exciting . It was just kind of exciting to hear people outside and , you know , with just a wall between me and them , and I found that really arousing . So a couple of things that I found this practice did for me was A it lowered my stress in all situations , except for at my friend's house , it kind of like . That was like oh , are they going to come back ? And created this sort of fun anxiety of getting caught . So my friends would be really understanding about it and laugh .
Speaker 1And while I was out shopping , for instance , I was like , oh , I'm going to get a massage . I had felt very anxious , I was trying to find the right outfit . I was by myself I find shopping anxiety inducing often times and it definitely took the edge off of my anxiousness , which was awesome and which made me think , if I was somebody who had to go to work and be in a workplace and had a project or something , do like masturbating at work would be fucking hot and fun . And it's also a little bit of a stick it to the man feeling of like , oh , I'm using some of my work time to get off . I don't know , that is something I definitely would do . So if you ever want to hire me to work at your place of employment , just know that I will be like rubbing one out and I may not wait till my 15 minute break . But the other thing that was really interesting for me About doing something like this taking like five minutes to excite myself , to get a little wet , to get aroused was that when I re-interred public I had a little bit of an extra swagger to my stuff .
Speaker 1There's something about giving your like , taking space for a couple of minutes Somewhere where you're not necessarily supposed to Arousing yourself , getting that sexual charge , getting the endorphins , and probably a big piece of this is you're getting an extra , extra , extra endorphin boost . Right , because not only do you have the endorphins you get from getting aroused , you've got endorphins from worrying about getting caught or somebody you know . Every time someone would like make a noise on the other side of whatever , while I definitely jumped and , you know , felt that I guess what I can only call was sort of the like naughty , get caught factor from , like , my youth when I would be messing around with people and not want my parents to catch me or whatever . So , yeah , you get the endorphin boost . So if you're tired at all like I don't know about you guys , but definitely malls , zap the life energy out of me you get that endorphin boost . And then , yeah , you feel sexy . So you go out into the world with the power that comes from feeling like a sexually charged , empowered woman person . I don't know if this works the same for men , I
don't know .
Speaker 1Again , I'm a Volva owner and I'm talking about masturbating a Volva and it's made me think that I need to be doing this more often . Now I'm gonna admit there are some restaurants in town that have , you know the bays and those make a quick little . You know masturbation sessions super sexy and fun . But I mean there are just so many opportunities when you're out , especially now a lot of places have just the single person bathrooms where you can close the door and it's just you , when you don't have to worry about . You know it's not like a bathroom stall at , like fucking Fred Meyer or whatever , where you know there's just the half door and so it feels safe and private and like you're not going to traumatize anyone else . No one else walking by is gonna be like , are they fucking getting off in there ? But what a fantastic discovery for me . Like you can take your masturbation practice anywhere with you .
Speaker 1And when you stop thinking of it as like in order to have a masturbation practice I have to come , like I need to do it to this extent and you start looking at it as more of a . This is a practice that's gonna give me a little energy , that's gonna I need to . Instead of you know , going and taking a fucking Xanax , I'm gonna go and just pleasure myself for like five , 10 minutes and get some of those nice relaxing hormones released . Or I'm exhausted . I can't keep my eyes open while I'm working on this report . I'm gonna go into the work bathroom and get my little endorphin boost , or I'm feeling like I'm about I'm at a club , I'm not feeling hot . I'm gonna go and touch myself a little bit and kind of like , get that , like I'm fucking sexy , release those pheromones so that people around you like get a sniff of them . It's user friendly for all kinds of situations and it certainly made a difference for me and my confidence and my ability to regulate my emotions , my state of mind , my happiness , without taking pills , without having to get drunk , without you know .
Speaker 1So public pleasure guys , I am challenging each of you who are listening to head out this week . Find a place that's not you know your bed , that's not in the morning , where you're literally in your day . Shit's happening . I don't know if you work somewhere . Well , you know what I think you should do and , hey , you earn a little bit of money while getting off . I mean there is a whole , there is a whole sexy thing happening there , getting paid to fuck yourself . That's gotta feel good . See how it feels . Do a time frame thing right Five minutes , 10 tops in the bathroom , so people don't start wondering what you're doing at work , out shopping , whatever it is . You're out at your friend's house at a party , like you're getting bored , whatever . Go to the bathroom , lock the door . They're not going to , they're not gonna wonder what you're doing , but you're gonna know , charge yourself sexually , charge yourself and then walk back out and see if you've got an extra , you know , hop in your stuff .
Speaker 1I am going to continue to try and use this throughout my daily life over the next month and I'm just really curious to see what kind of effect it will have , and not only that . It's because I doubt . For me , like I tend to take a little bit longer to orgasm . It's gonna help me hopefully decondition the idea that masturbation is tied to orgasm , just like we need to be doing when we're having sex with other people . We need to stop putting ourselves in the stressful position of thinking that sex being pleasurable and awesome is dependent upon an orgasm happening all the time . The orgasm isn't the purpose . It's wonderful to have an orgasm , it's wonderful to have two orgasms , three , four , I don't know , can you have multiples ? But the journey of masturbation and pleasure and indulging and pleasure and feeling like I deserve , you know , five minutes of pleasure today , 10 , 15 , hopefully way more than that , but at least five minutes of pleasure , without putting a rule . This pleasure is only worthwhile if it ends in an orgasm , and I feel like that happens in sex so often . Sex is only worthwhile if I'm going to make her come or if I'm going to come , and that is so sad and it really ruins sex for a lot of people .
Speaker 1So I am going to say , in my opinion , taking your pleasure practice out into public is gonna do a couple of things for you . It's gonna build your confidence , help you learn to self soothe , emotionally , regulate using your own body parts as opposed to drugs or whatever , and it's also gonna start deconditioning the idea of the worthiness of a pleasure practice is dependent on the outcome being a climax or an orgasm . And even though I think most of us who have taken any time to learn more about being a good lover learn more about sex and having quality sex , most of us know this is it's a problematic thing , thinking that sex is only good , pleasure is only good if it ends in an orgasm . But even though I think we know it , like we don't know it deep down . We've gotta like learn it deep down and know that we can indulge in pleasure throughout our days and with partners without adding the pressure of an outcome . Save that for your job . That sounds like work , right , that's work . I'm doing something fun , but it's only worthwhile if it has this outcome . That's not fucking fun , and sex and pleasure should be fun and joyful and stress-free , in my opinion . So , yes , if you see me out and about ha ha ha in public and I disappear into a bathroom , leave me the fuck alone . So I am curious about how this goes for you .
Speaker 1Again , do not do this and then be like , oh , a net on locker room . Talk a shot , said I should go jerk off in public . No , not what I'm saying . Remember consent , consent . Do not expose yourself to people . You might put yourself in risky situations , maybe in the car or whatever , but come on , you know , oh , the car , do it in the car . You know how fun was that when you used to hook up with your partner in the car , in the backseat of the car , and worry about getting caught . I hadn't even thought about that , not while driving . I don't want any of my listeners getting in wrecks because I told them to masturbate in the car and they think it meant while driving , pull over , I didn't know , in a garage , a parking garage , park back in the back . Oh , that sounds sexy . Yeah , that's sexy Little risque , good idea , net .
Speaker 1So tell me what you think , tell me what your experience is . You can email me at annettecom . You can scroll down and there is a voice message app below . You just click the link and send me a voice message . Talk to me . You can talk to me and tell me how it's going for you and if you have something you want me to try or you have suggestions , leave me your suggestion and it may very well turn into a future masturbation Monday topic . So for all of you pleasure seekers out there , I'm hoping that you're sticking with me on this journey . Good luck this week . Go forth and masturbate in public , privately , and let me know how it goes . So until next Monday , I'll see you in the locker room . Cheers , hi , point . Different ways .