Do the sex . Welcome to masturbation Monday with me , annette Benedetti , your host for locker room talk and chats . This is your invitation to join me for coffee and bed and a candid conversation about the masturbation practice I'm developing to support my mental , physical and emotional health and help manifest my dreams . Masturbation Monday is a guide to self-pleasure , better sex and using the power of the pussy to open new doors to a better life . Ring loop . Today's masturbation Monday topic is how to get me wet Libido boosters for women that actually work .
Speaker 1Look guys , no one likes to feel pressured into sex when they aren't in the mood , so why would it be any different when it comes to my own masturbation practice ? My essential energy and maintaining my sexual health and interest is super important to me , as you guys all know , as is maintaining a healthy relationship with myself , and I've been thinking lately . People really invest in maintaining their libido , sexual interest , sexual health all of the time is part of their relationship maintenance . When they have a partner , relationship maintenance with others always involves some piece that has to do with maintaining , you know , the sexual chemistry , having sex regularly , making sure you're having good sex . People always talk about how important intimacy with their partners is and how the lack of intimacy hurts their relationships . I mean , how many divorces have you heard were caused by ? Well , she didn't wanna have sex with me anymore , or we just never had sex , or I don't want to have sex with them anymore . I personally look at relationship maintenance with myself in the same way . When I go a long stretch without being in the mood or having any interest in masturbating , touching myself or having an orgasm , it's a pretty loud indicator that my relationship with myself is struggling or in trouble or that something is wrong that I need to look into . If I don't feel that special tingle enough , I don't wanna touch myself at least a couple of times every week . It's a red flag , folks .
Speaker 1So in today's masturbation Monday topic , we are going to talk about the reasons my libido tends to crash and some of the fixes I found that work consistently right . So I'm gonna be sharing libido boosters tips and tricks . These all primarily apply to women and people with vulva , but I feel like a good 75% are relatable for men and people with penises as well . And the bottom line , the coolest part about this is that while they work in your own masturbation practice , they are easily transferable over to applying to when you are with somebody else . And I just wanna say one of the things that really frustrated me in my own research to find libido boosters that would work for me , ways to maintain my sexual energy , my sensuality , especially as I age . All of the responses , all the articles , all the research that I found always included like partner therapy , as though this only existed within a relationship with someone else , and I cannot express how much I believe it's important that you have a strong sexual relationship with yourself , especially if you wanna go into a relationship and have a strong sexual relationship . So grab your cup of joe and let's get ready to talk about how to get me wet , a libido boosters for women that really work and I am again going to be speaking from a place of experience Cheers .
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Speaker 1Okay , let's talk about barriers to libido . Like when my libido crashes when I'm not in the mood , when I tell myself in the morning I'm not going to do it right now , I'll get to it later on today , or even later on the day . Sometimes I'll get a little tingle and I just can't get myself to bang one out . It's when I stop and I'm like I've got to check in with myself what the fuck is going on . And some of you may be like , well , why bother ? I mean like you don't have to masturbate , this isn't something you have to do . If you've been with me for any time at all , you know .
Speaker 1I believe 100% that experiencing pleasure , preferably on a daily basis , but at least several times throughout the week , having an orgasm included not not , you don't have to have an orgasm to get the full benefits , but it definitely . It's like the pleasure itself and the orgasm . It's like a super dose of super important vitamins , chemicals that help you maintain your physical , mental and emotional health . Your mental health , it's key . Not only that , I've mentioned in the past internal stimulation , g-spot stimulation . Actually having internal masturbation practice helps you maintain your vaginal health and avoid things like vaginal atrophy and just the deterioration of the vagina , which can be very , very painful if not dealt with .
Speaker 1So I go over this every time . I'm not going to dive into it . So that's why , when I am not in the mood for an extended period of time , I'm like I need to stop . I need to figure out why
and I need to fix it Right . So figuring out the reason behind it is not always an easy process , because what it really means is doing some self-discovery , checking in with myself from the and I start from the outside in right .
Speaker 1So I start with like one of the very first libido killers is
physical distress . Am I sick ? Am I in pain ? Have I had an injury that isn't healing ? I mean , I don't know about you guys , but I have old injuries that pop up and bother me , maybe when I work out . Sometimes I'm sore and I find that my body is just throbbing and not feeling good .
Speaker 1All of those things make the idea of having sex with myself and masturbating just like it becomes less of a priority . Am I sick ? Am I ignoring low-level cold or is something coming on ? And then , of course , let's not forget hormonal balances . For women especially , but also men . Your hormones will change . That's why you may have a more difficult time getting hard and maintaining your erection or having interest . Those are all things like you've got to check first , because those are things that you need to deal with , whether you need to talk to a doctor or you need to do some physical therapy or you need to look at dealing with your hormonal imbalances . Those are some of the first things I start with , starting
with the outside . Then I dive in , and this is where things can get really hard for me to pinpoint .
Speaker 1Hormonal and mental health distress is actually one of the top causes of libido loss . Grief , anxiety , work stress , home stress loss . When your emotional state is suffering , you're a sex drive will suffer and it will make even trying to have sex with yourself incredibly difficult . This is most often where my shit shows up and then it's like you've gotta do the deep dive into where is this anxiety , at this grief , at the stress at , and how do I find relief , right , so I can have the space to really love on myself ? Because when you are caught up in grief , depression , anxiety , loss , work , stress , home stress , usually what also comes along with that is not only not loving on yourself but being hard on yourself . You know , yelling at yourself a little like why am I being so
stupid ? Why am I so sad over this thing that happened ? Why am I so stressed out ? Why can't I just be like anybody else , so you're not loving on yourself anymore ?
Speaker 1Then there's medications and alcohol , guys . Alcohol is something that I have definitely had to hold myself accountable for . Alcohol is a sneaky , motherfucker man Like , yeah , sometimes you go out and they call it liquid courage . Like , go out to the bar , you go out dancing , you have some courage and you feel a little sexier , you move a little more on the dance floor , but really behind the scenes it's doing a lot of damage and it can really affect your libido . So those are things that you've got to look into , and if it's medications , you gotta talk to your doctor . If it's alcohol , you need to talk to yourself . But so that's sort of the process Go in , pick a part , figure out what the barrier is and then put a plan together . So , once you know what's keeping you from wanting to get it on with keeping you from feeling sexy and sexual , and why are these things important ? We've talked about it again and again A woman's sexual energy is a power source , it's a confidence source , it's a happiness source .
Speaker 1It is vital to all the other energies that we have , and when it goes dark , so do so many other of the areas of our life . Right ? Central energy and sexual energy isn't about solely attracting somebody else . I mean , in a way , it's just a perk . It's a perk if you are attracting the right people . Otherwise , it might be a little bit of an Achilles , right ? So what do I do when my libido is just in the gutter ? And trust me , guys , and the last couple of months , I've really really had some ups and downs in this area . Fuck it . In the last year , year and a half , I've had some . Let's be honest . I've had some ups and downs in this area . So let me walk you through things that are working
for me and work consistently , without question , and these are all easy things to implement in your own life quickly and effectively .
So let's just start with starting with my relationship with myself . I've checked in on my relationship with myself and it's not going so well . Clearly , I have a low libido . So I asked myself I'm not feeling good about myself , I'm feeling depressed , I'm not feeling confident and I asked myself am I doing special things for myself , things that make me feel sexy , things that tell me I love you and that I love you ? These are things I would do for a lover , these are things I would do for someone I was in love with . Am I doing them for myself ? Examples if I'm with someone and I know they're feeling down , you know I do things like try to take them out for a nice meal or a little getaway . If there's something they really like a food or a treat or an activity that they don't typically do but they love to , I take them to do it . Things for myself that I know light me up and make me feel pampered by myself Something I did at my lowest moment , when I just really lost my groove .
Speaker 1I went out and I completely resupplied my closet . I went through all of my clothes and I said do I feel good in these ? And any one that was like kinda , I threw it out and I went out and I replaced the things that really weren't helping me feel good with things that I felt sexy and I felt confident in Get a massage , go get a facial , get your nails Some people like their nails done . That's not my thing , but I know I have girlfriends out there who they're getting their nails done , toenails painted like that's a big thing for them . There are definitely beauty treatments . I like to have that just make me feel good . But I also take myself out for really yummy , healthy food or order in I love a good meal by myself , things like that .
Speaker 1Treat yourself like you would a lover . Be your own lover , period right , your best lover , in fact . So then , digging into the health part of it Look , there is no question that throughout your life , one of the most difficult things to overcome that consistently affects your libido
is gonna be your health , and not just oh , you're sick . But I'm talking about hormonal health . I'm talking about energetic health . As we age , those things fluctuate greatly , so I want to talk about getting your hormones checked . You can scroll back through the episodes . There is an episode where I actually talk to a doctor about treatments for vulva owners specifically that will help increase their libido . You definitely need to see a doctor to talk about hormonal regulation .
Speaker 1I currently take estrogen . Not only that as a woman who's in perimenopause , I have added soy products into my diet and seen a massive difference because soy has an estrogen imitating property to it and I've had great luck with that . But additionally , for my health ,
supplements are a no-brainer . But the question is I mean , there are a lot of libido-boosting supplements out there , so which one is right for you ? Now ? I have tried many and I have found one that I absolutely love .
Speaker 1I've written a full review on it . You definitely can check it out . You can go to the link that's in my bio or the notes the show notes in this recording and find links to it . It's called Revitoflux by Pramesson , and when I first heard about it . I am just a huge skeptic when it comes to supplements and I went down every one of the ingredients . Revitoflux is a blend of these three things I'm going to do my best to pronounce them correctly Largenine , licitrulline and lecarntine tartrate .
Speaker 1Okay , I budget that , but whatever , you get the point and they are meticulously chosen trio of amino acids and essentially they work together to be a phasodilator , which means they stimulate healthy blood flow to all areas of your body , but specifically the genital area . Now , as we know , in ED meds that's kind of what the key is it's getting hard by getting the blood flow there , right ? Well , it is the same for women , except it's our clit , it's our pussy , our vola also needs that blood flow . Now I went and I looked up every one of those ingredients separately . I looked into the research behind them and all of the research shows that they each work to increase people's libido separately , and there's a lot of research and study around them .
Speaker 1Now , fine , I did my research , I knew what I was getting into , but I actually started taking it about three and a half months ago with very little optimism , because , you know , supplements are supplements and what I can tell you is this it only took a matter of days , maybe about a week before what I really noticed was increased energy period . I just had more energy and then , within maybe a week to two weeks , I was just in the mood , a lot . And what sparked the moment of me going ? Oh hey , I wonder if it's working , as I started like my work day was getting interrupted several times , so I'd go and I'd knock one out and then I'd come back and like an hour later I'd be in the mood again . So that was really exciting .
Speaker 1But then I really looked into revitalization by a promissant , and what's really cool about this supplement is it comes with a whole bunch of other really cool side effects , including increasing your overall physical health . I somehow have an issue with high cholesterol and it helps with high cholesterol . It helps with heart health , overall energy health . There's a whole list of benefits to taking this supplement and I'm not going to go over it here because I want to get to the rest of my libido boosters . Again , you can go and you can read my article on it . It's pretty awesome and it's worth trying out , and not only trying out but integrating into your daily health routine . I am never going to stop taking it , but I think finding some sort of health supplement that increases your energy , increases blood flow that's super important . You can
also do that through my next libido booster , which is movement . You can call it exercise if you want , but I'm going to call it movement , and here's why , yes , I can go and work out , and as I work out and get better in better health , it's going to increase my sex drive , for sure , I mean , that's scientifically proven .
Speaker 1But if we're talking about wanting to get in the mood tonight , to feel sexy tonight , I really suggest Finding a movement that makes you feel sexy . I have done this . I have started dance . I think I've mentioned that here before . I have over on TikTok . I've been taking hip-hop dance classes and sensual movement dance classes and I really get in my body . Not only do I get Sweaty , I feel sexy and it increases . The blood flowed all of the places I needed to go . And let me tell you , after dancing and going to class , or even just dancing here in my house , when I'm not going to class , I feel hot as fuck . I went out dancing last night guys , it was , it was so fun . It took me a while to get in the groove , but then I did . And then I got a like dance , kind of sexy with this beautiful Latin person and they really knew how to move . And you know what I did too , because I've been going to these classes and I felt sick . Yes , fuck , yes , I did masturbate . So , movement , find a movement , get in your body
and move in ways that make you feel sexy .
Speaker 1Next , sensual touch that isn't focused on your vagina . This is again can go straight to being used with partners like I Love to have my back and my arms and my leg and my stomach tickled , like I know , you know , like the soft , soft fingertip movements across my skin . Doing that for myself lights up my body , gets me in the mood . Even if it doesn't lead to To sex with myself , it's still pleasure . I'm experiencing pleasure and it makes the idea of touching myself down there more enticing .
Speaker 1Next ,
warming gels . I don't know , I'm sure you guys have all seen them and you probably only use them during sex . I'm this is , this is the key Use a warming gel prior to sex or even if you aren't gonna have sex . Promescent also has a hot , hot , hot warming gel for women specifically , for a vulva owners Specifically , and I love it and it only takes a couple drops . I put it and put it down there , wrap it around , I let it soak in and then I just enjoy the warming Sensations and letting you know I'll go back and sit down and work and just let that area of my body heat up .
Speaker 1Inevitably I find myself in the mood . My mind is focused on that area of my body , my mind is focused on the sensations , I'm pretty sure the blood rushes down there to do something . But that's another great way without pressure , you can rub your body up . Another approach , if you would ,
are panty vibes . I got to try out a panty vibe and , yes , I will make sure you get that information . Go and sign up for my newsletter . I've got links everywhere for it in the show notes in my profile .
Speaker 1I will send you these Products so that you can get them if you want to , or at least know what kind of product to look for . You know they clipped your panties . You put them in . They don't really like . They're not invasive , but you can turn it up nice and low . Go sit and watch a movie and it will get you going and Get you in the mood . It's a great way to turn yourself on without pressure . This kind of one of my . Really .
Speaker 1I've got
two more Suggestions that work for me . One that's more quote , invasive and takes a little bit more is a clip pump . Now , a clip pump , an actual clip pump , is different than your Pleasure tech toys , you know , with the clip suckers , but they are very similar and they would be another level of this . But clip pumps actually are bigger and envelope your whole vulva and then create suction and they draw blood into that area . Okay and so if you're really like I'm not feeling it , but I want to get the mood and I want to feel in the mood , you can use a clip pump and Get the blood down there and then just joy , enjoy filling your body , warm up and then choose to pleasure yourself to orgasm or not . Now I prefer just to use that the pleasure tech , and If I'm really not in the mood , by want to get in the mood , I just stick a little like a clip sucker on me and I , pretty much within two seconds , I'm like fuck , yeah , let's go . I Love
them and I will definitely Make sure you have a list of clip pumps and pleasure air tech toys to refer to .
Speaker 1Finally , watch sexy shows . Read sexy literature , literature , listen to sexy music . When you surround yourself in things that are sensual and sexy and it doesn't mean overtly sex , but things that feel sexy , smell sexy , taste sexy . When you're watching things that are sexy , when the music that you listen to is just passionate and sensual , you are inevitably going to bring that into your body and feel it there . So surround yourself in that environment . Create the environment for sexual power , sexual interest , libido boosting experience . Create an environment that reflects externally what you want to feel internally .
Speaker 1Now again , the best part of all of these things I've just suggested to you is you can use them in your relationship . So if you have any questions , email me at annneteteatsheexplorerslifecom . If you have suggestions things I didn't mention the work for you let's have a conversation . Let's build this list and remember this is about you with yourself . Yes , there's things you can use with other people , but these are things that need to be things you can and want to do on your own . Let's build this list together , based on real world experience , with real people who want to maintain and create sexual sensual energy that lasts throughout their life . So let me know your thoughts and until next time I'll see you in the locker room . Cheers .