Do the sex ? Do the sex ? Today's Masturbation Monday topic is why women want to have sex , according to research and real women's reports . Over the years , I've been shocked at the prevalence of misinformation that is out there on why women want to have sex , their desires and how they want to have sex . Of course , a lot of this is largely due to outdated sexist and patriarchal ideology . Also , historically , women were shamed for being sexual creatures and admitting to wanting to have sex , so they often underreported or lied when they did take part in research that had to do with sex .
Speaker 1Now I do think it's important for people to consider why they want to have sex before they embark on finding their partner . I know for myself it's been super important for me to stop and ask myself this question why do I want to have sex ? As I have embarked on the journey of manifesting the life I want and the dream partner I hope to have through my own pleasure practice . So in this episode , I'm going to start by sharing the five most common myths about why women want to have sex , based on research , with you . Then I am going to share the top five reasons that , according to research and women's reports , women actually want to have sex . Finally , I reached out to my community of women all over the world through my different social connections and I asked them to share with me why they want to have sex . So I'm going to read their answers to you so you can get the truth about why women want to have sex straight from them . So grab your cup of coffee and join me in bed . Let's talk about why women want to have sex , cheers . So let's just dive right into the myths .
Speaker 1Myth number one women want to have sex to find an emotional connection . Now , there are a lot of reports and studies that show that up to 96% of women say that sex is better when there is an emotional connection , but it's not their primary reason for wanting to have sex . In fact , there was a study that came out of the University of Michigan that found that the reasons women wanted to have sex were greatly varied , but an emotional connection wasn't among those reasons . Now , another interesting finding in that study was that the reasons that both men and women want to have sex aren't so different from each other . In fact , most of them are similar with only a small amount of variances , and I found that fascinating . Myth number two women have a lower libido than men . False Research suggests that both men and women have a similar level of libido , but they may manifest differently . In fact , there was research published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine that found that both men and women's libidos fluctuate over time and that relationship satisfaction and emotional connection play a large role in women's desire .
Speaker 1Myth number three women only want to have sex to manipulate men . There is absolutely no research out there that suggests this is true , although there is tons of research that shares lots of other reasons why women do want to have sex , and I'll be sharing that with you in a moment . Myth number four women want to have sex in order to find and tie down a man . This is not supported by the research . In fact , the research is finding more and more that women actually enjoy casual sex and report having great experiences and feeling good after having casual sexual experiences . A meta-analysis published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior found that women reported positive emotions after casual sexual encounters and desiring to seek out more .
Speaker 1Myth number five women want sex for emotional intimacy over physical intimacy . Research suggests this isn't true at all . In fact , if women aren't experiencing physical pleasure from the sex they are having with someone , they have a hard time staying intimately and emotionally connected to them . Okay , now that we have cleared up some of those myths , let's talk about the top five reasons women want to have sex . According to research , the number one reason women want to have sex is for pleasure and the sheer enjoyment of it . The Journal of Sex Research has highlighted the importance of pleasure physical pleasure for women when it comes to seeking sex . I know it might surprise you , but it's true . We like to be sexually satisfied .
Speaker 1Reason number two that women want to have sex is for the confidence boost that comes from self-expression and sharing their identity . Research shows that women's sexual expression plays a vital role in women's sense of self and identity and that , for women , embracing their sexuality can lead to feelings of empowerment . Reason number three stress relief . So I've talked about it on this podcast forever . Orgasms and pleasure lead to lower stress and anxiety . You get all of those feel-good hormones and chemicals that dump in your body , and women are chasing stress relief Through sex . They want to have sex for stress relief . Cheers to that . Number five .
Speaker 1Women want to have sex for adventure . Just like men , they are curious and seek out sexual adventures . In fact , some studies show that women may be more likely to seek out new sexual experiences , especially as they get older . Now , those are the top five reasons women want to have sex , but I have a couple of runner-ups for you that fall close to the others , so I'm going to share them with you real quick . A close runner-up is women want to have sex for the health benefits .
Speaker 1Now , if you've been listening to my podcast for any time now , you know that orgasms and sexual pleasure bring a host of benefits outside of reducing stress . It can stave off depression , it can boost collagen production for your skin and hair , it can reduce your chance of heart disease , and I'm just like naming a couple of the many reasons that you should be having sex to improve your overall health . And women want to have sex to stay healthy . And then , finally , women do want to have sex for that emotional connection , that intimate connection . There's that back and forth relationship with sex for them . So women seek sex for physical pleasure and all of these other things , but , as I said earlier , the more intimately connected a woman is to her partner , the better they report sex actually being , so it only makes sense that they want to have sex . Well , to have that intimate connection . I know that I do .
Speaker 1Okay , now that I've shared the myths and then the top reasons why women want to have sex , I'm going to share the reasons I have come up with for wanting to have sex myself . I figure it's only fair . So , after a lot of thought and introspection , here are my top three reasons for wanting to have sex . Number one this year , my focus can be summed up in the simple mantra healing health and wealth . And it's no secret that , to me , at the core of my journey in health is sexual pleasure . I've already talked about how it can be used to help with mental and emotional health , talking about depression and anxiety , but how it also fortifies your physical health .
Speaker 1My pleasure practice is core to my health journey and that's one of the main reasons why I would love to be having more sex . Number two be having more sex . Number two I love feeling appreciated for my full self , including my sexual self . I also love feeling desired and I love having the power to bring someone else pleasure and that makes me feel empowered and powerful doing that for someone else as well . And those feelings of empowerment for me transfer from the bedroom to , well , the rest of life . Number three is connection . All of the work I'm doing right now is in hopes that I will be able to cultivate my person , my dream intimate partner . I miss feeling intimately connected to someone and I do think that sex for me is way better when it is with somebody that I'm deeply and intimately connected to .
Speaker 1Finally , I reached out to my community of women and asked them to share why they want to have sex and they gave me some great answers and I really hope you have stayed and listened to this part because I think it's most important for people out there who are wanting to have sex with women . The first one is anonymous . I feel I may be asexual because I don't feel sexual attraction to someone unless they express attraction to me . Is that what they call responsive desire ? I think I want to have sex because I want to feel desired , to feel pleasure and sometimes to connect emotionally with my partner . The next response For me , sex is like a mood stabilizer , two to three times a week to keep the depression at bay , so that harkens back to the health .
Speaker 1The next one simple response because I'm horny , because I love eating women out . This is from a bisexual woman to feel skin on skin connection to make my partner feel good and allow them to make me feel good . And I think regular sex or masturbation if not with a partner really helps a person's mental health and reduces anxiety . It has health benefits . So women are really motivated by the health aspect of this , for sure . Here's one of my favorite answers I have sex to de-stress , feel connected to my partner because I'm horny , because I want to release my demons , because I want to try new things , to feel sexy and to make my partner feel good and wanted . So there is the aspect of women enjoying making other people feel good , which comes as no surprise because we definitely are the caregivers in a lot of situations .
Speaker 1And finally , from another woman , if it's really good , there's a feeling of closeness with another person on a different level . If you're in love with the other person , the feeling of connection you get when looking into their eyes is almost as great as the physical pleasure . Then , of course , there's the physical pleasure . Yet seeing a man at his most vulnerable gives me a great sense of power , even if he's being dumb , he doesn't understand how much power I hold in that situation . I know how to use something as little as a smile to seduce a man . So even if they threaten to stop because I won't do what they want , they never have the willpower to actually stop . I don't have to beg or give in yet . They never can just walk away in the middle of it . So it's that feeling , powerful feeling , which I love and I totally get . All right .
Speaker 1Folks , now you know why women want to have sex , according to research . Well , according to my own experience , and then according to women who are willing to write in and share why they want to have sex . So if you have a question or a comment you want to add a reason you think women have sex or other women want to pipe in and share why they want to have sex , make sure to reach out to me . If you are on my YouTube channel , which is at Annette Benedetti , you can drop a comment below this episode , or you can email me at Annette A-N-N-E-T-T-E at sheexploreslifecom . You can join me on any of my socials TikTok , instagram , facebook and message me there as well . So until next time , I'll see you in the locker room . Cheers .