do the sex . Welcome to Masturbation Monday with me , annette Benedetti , your host for Locker Room Talk and Chats . This is your invitation to join me for coffee in bed and a candid conversation about the masturbation practice I'm developing to support my mental , physical and emotional health and help manifest my dreams . Masturbation Monday is a guide to self-pleasure , better sex and using the power of the pussy to open new doors to a better life . Today's Masturbation Monday topic is what kind of sex do women really want to be having ? Today , I'm going to share seven of the most common types of sex women say they crave . Spoiler alert it's not all candlelight and romance , from secret hotel rooms to rougher play . I've pulled together the latest research and expert advice to help you start satisfying your partner's wettest dreams . You might be surprised at what you find out . Your desires and hers might align more than you thought . So let's get ready to talk about sex Cheers . Let's dive in , and I want to start with something a little spicier , because , well , that's how I like it . Rough sex , raw and passionate , is one of the top ways women report wanting to experience sex . According to a study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine , up to 57% of women report liking the rougher side of sex , at least some elements . Whether it's hair pulling , well , you know the ever popular light , choking , rough sex makes them feel desired and wanted . It's the primal nature of it that tends to appeal to women . So how do you start integrating this safely into your sex life ? Well , first of all , you've got to start out with a talk , that's right . You've got to discuss boundaries before you dive in to hair pulling , choking , any of that kind of stuff . But once you've talked about it and you've established things you want to try , have at it . Try gradually introducing things like dirty talk , rough gripping , maybe a light spanking to start . Remember consent is crucial and make sure you are both on board every step of the way . You don't want to blow this one , folks . My favorite expert tip make sure you are balancing affection with aggression . That adds the secret sauce that makes a woman feel desired and wanted . And , as we all know , when women feel desired , they want sex more Moving on another , one of the top ways women report wanting to have sex is in a new and exciting environment , specifically hotels .
Speaker 1According to a cosmopolitan survey , 62% of women report feeling more open and excited about having new experiences when they are in a different environment . The unfamiliar setting removes the feeling of routine and heightens the sense of spontaneity , mystery and excitement . And who doesn't want that ? When it comes to sex , I mean . I can admit to being one of these women . I love some good hotel room sex . According to expert Dr Tammy Nelson , hotel room sex not only breaks the feeling of routine , it offers up this fantasy-like environment where partners can feel more intimate and explore . She also says it's a great way to explore the more playful side of sex and , as we all know , that's when things really get good .
Speaker 1Now I would be remiss if I didn't mention that another one of the top ways women want to have sex is slow and sensual . We do love the slow , sensual sex and how it brings about that element of feeling connected . Women crave not only feeling physically connected to their partner , but also emotionally connected to their partner . According to a study in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy , 74% of women report feeling more sexually satisfied when their partner focuses on touch , eye contact and foreplay . No surprise there . Many may ask well , how do I achieve this ? I thought I was achieving this low , sensual , connected sex .
Speaker 1Some easy tips are first of all , take time to set the atmosphere , lower the lights and light a candle . Create an environment that is romantic . Second , focus on touch . Take actual penetrative sex off the table . Maybe it won't even happen , but take time to touch and explore her body , make eye contact , make sure you're listening and present for her and then focus on foreplay .
Speaker 1This may surprise you it didn't surprise me , but the fourth way that women report wanting to have sex is by adding a taste for adventure with kink . A growing number of women report wanting to experience kink in the bedroom . Adding lighter elements of BDSM is a very common desire , request , hope , fantasy that women have . According to a Kinsey study , 47% of women report wanting to play with kink and introduce some elements of BDSM into the bedroom . Whether that's light , spanking , handcuffs or just exploring the dom-sub dynamic , kinky play allows women to explore their desires in a way that feels fun , liberating and adds an element of unpredictability . So how do you embark on introducing kinky play into your sexual dynamic with your partner if you haven't done it before ? Start by introducing simple props like handcuffs , restraints or a blindfold . Just remember , communication is key here . Making sure you're both on the same page is key here . Make sure you know your boundaries ahead of time and you've introduced safe words .
Speaker 1The fifth way that women report wanting to have sex that was actually a surprise to me is quickies . Women actually report enjoying quickies . I am not one of those women . Quickies and the heat of the moment , spontaneous sex is a huge turn on for a lot of women . A survey in Men's Health found that 58% of women said spontaneous sex in places like the kitchen or the shower or even the outdoors is a huge turn on . The thrill of doing something spontaneous and even a little bit risky adds adrenaline and excitement to the whole experience . My top expert tip for you is , if you're in a long-term relationship where things have gotten a little dull , boring or routine , the thrill of spontaneity can reignite passion and romance in a relationship . A quickie now and then is a good way to let her know you still find her irresistible , Whether you decide to do it raw , rough and primal or have a quickie .
Speaker 1Another one of the top ways women report desiring to experience sex is in the great outdoors . Again , that's not necessarily one of my things , but apparently a lot of women want to do it in the woods . Sex in the great outdoors or in adventurous locations ranks high on women's fantasy lists . According to a Kinsey Institute study , 55% of women report having a fantasy about sex in an outdoor location , on a beach or somewhere that feels forbidden . The thrill of being exposed to nature and the risk of getting caught makes this fantasy extra enticing to women . According to Dr Laura Berman , a leading relationship expert , adventurous sex can deepen the emotional bond between partners by tapping into that primal and more instinctual side that they have for one another .
Speaker 1And finally , the seventh most common way that women say they want to have sex is by living out their fantasies through role play . A Journal of Sexual Research study found that 65% of women say they enjoy roleplay because it allows them to step out of their day-to-day lives and embody someone else for a moment . It's a playful way to mix things up and make sex feel new again . Dr Esther Perel says that roleplaying encourages partners to tap into their creativity and desire and encourages them to step outside of their routine and explore new dynamics together . And creating new dynamics in a long-term relationship goes a long way towards keeping things spicy and hot , which we all want , and encourages and helps relationships last longer . So there you go . Those are the top seven ways Research back ways that women report desiring craving to have sex .
Speaker 1So my top intimacy expert tip to you is don't make assumptions about how women want to have sex or how your partner wants to have sex . Perhaps she has some secret desires . She just hasn't felt confident communicating yet . So communicate , communicate , have sexy conversations with your partner . It's one of the best ways to improve sex overall . Do you have any questions or comments ? Well , you can send me an email at Annette at TalkSexWithAnnettecom . If you're on my YouTube channel , you can scroll down and drop a comment below the video . It's a great way to let me know you have a very specific question about a specific topic I've covered . If you are looking to figure out how to spice things up in your relationship with your partner or you have some intimacy issues you would like support with , my books are open . You can find out more at talk sex with a netcom and , of course , drop me a email . Scroll down below to my speak pipe link . Sent me a voicemail and we'll connect . So until next time , cheers . I'll see y'all on the walk Ring loop .