Do the sex . Welcome to Masturbation Monday with me , annette Benedetti , your host for Locker Room Talk and Chats . This is your invitation to join me for coffee in bed and a candid conversation about the masturbation practice I'm developing to support my mental , physical and emotional health and help manifest my dreams . Masturbation Monday is a guide to self-pleasure , better sex and using the power of the pussy to open new doors to a better life . Today's Masturbation Monday topic is the top 10 most common kinks . We are halfway through Kinktober and you might be surprised to find out that what gets you off isn't all that uncommon , from the mild to the wild . I'm going to be pulling back the curtain on the top 10 most common kinks and I'm going to be spicing it up with a little science-backed research . Hold on to your floggers because I'll be dropping some fun , funny and sometimes jaw-dropping facts along the way . So let's get into the nitty-gritty of what makes people tick in the bedroom . Cheers . Okay , let's dive in .
Speaker 1The most common kink is BDSM , which should be no surprise to anyone . It stands for bondage , dominance , discipline , submission , sadism and masochism , or any combination of the above . One of the most popular kinks , bdsm , is all about trust , control and play , and research shows that about 47% of people have fantasized about being tied up . A little surprising fun fact research shows that BDSM practitioners actually have lower levels of stress and better communication skills than their vanilla counterparts . Perhaps all of those safe words are paying off . Another kink or fetish that ranks in our top 10 most common kinks is the foot fetish . It is a foot-related desire that many people have . In fact , one in seven people admit to having some level of foot-related desire and about 10% of the population indulges in some form of foot fetishism . Interestingly , according to neuroscientists , the areas in our brain that control our feet and our sexual desire are located right next to each other . Is it a coincidence ? I think not . No wonder so many people find those toes irresistible .
Speaker 1Third on my list of the top 10 most popular kinks is cuckolding , and cuckolding is actually a topic that many of you , my dear listeners , ask me about . One of the most taboo but common kinks , cuckolding , involves watching your partner with someone else . About 58% of men and 33% of women have fantasized about it . What's really wild is that there are several studies that show that participating in cuckolding actually strengthens relationships by deepening trust and improving communication skills between couples . So I guess , as it turns out , the green-eyed monster isn't as scary and awful as we've all thought .
Speaker 1Another super common kink is exhibitionism , which is enjoying being watched while being intimate or having sex or doing sexy sexual things . Around 35% of people admit to enjoying and getting off on being watched while doing the dirty . Not so surprising is that the research shows that exhibitionism is actually far more common among men than women . But here's a fun fact Exhibitionists have been found to have higher self-esteem and higher levels of confidence , and they are more likely to pursue leadership roles in the workplace . So perhaps flashing isn't just about thrill-seeking , it's about wanting to own the spotlight .
Speaker 1Now , another common kink that is often mistimed understood is being a furry , or the furry community , or furries , if you will . Furries are people who are into anthropomorphic animal costumes . Now , it may sound niche , but research shows that over 30% of people admit to fantasizing about being a furry at some point in time . A 2019 survey found that , while only 15-25% of people are into it for sexual stuff , the community itself is thriving . According to members of the furries who participated in these surveys , it's less about getting frisky in a fox costume and more about fantasy and community and role playing . Think of it as a comic con with an animal twist , if you will , grr .
Speaker 1The sixth kink on my list is actually relatively new to me . It's called Spl splashing , and it's all about wet and messy play . Splashing is exactly what the name sounds like . It's all about covering oneself or somebody else in food or liquid or basically anything messy . Think of whipped cream , chocolate syrup or jello Shockingly splashing , taps into the senses in a really primal way . Jello Shockingly splashing taps into the senses in a really primal way . And research on sensory play shows that getting messy activates both pleasure and creativity . And let's be honest , who doesn't like playing with their food every now and again ?
Speaker 1Coming in at number seven on my list of the top 10 most common kinks is sensory deprivation . A sensory deprivation kink can include anything like blindfolds , earplugs or anything that deprives the senses and heightens sensation , and in this heightened sensation , sex can become even more intense . Over 40% of people enjoy or are into or desire some sort of sensory deprivation during their intimate encounters . What's a little bit surprising is that sensory deprivation has actually been shown to increase the release of dopamine in the brain , which is the same feel-good chemical that's released when you're eating chocolate or you win a prize or you swipe right on that hot match you are hoping to make .
Speaker 1Another slightly surprising but very common kink is medical play . This kink involves role-playing scenes that mimic medical procedures or exams , and , while it may seem unusual , it's more about the power play and vulnerability than it is about actually playing doctor . Research has shown that people who participate in medical play oftentimes do it to relinquish control and feel taken care of , albeit in a very intimate , intimate kind of setting . Another kink that is very , very intimate is age play . Now , if you want a full inside look at age play and why people participate in it , I have a full podcast episode on it with an expert in the area , miss Chris , and I'll make sure to include that in the links below this episode . But , contrary to popular belief , age play doesn't always include sexual activity . Some people just enjoy dressing up or acting like a younger version of themselves , and then , on the other side of things , there are people who want to take on a nurturing role . It's not about actual children . It's about regressing to a more carefree or innocent frame of mind or taking on the role and mindset of a caregiver , which can be especially common for people who are unable to have children or who just haven't had the opportunity to be in a caregiver role . According to research , many couples actually feel closer and more bonded after participating in this kind of role reversal , because it allows them to be vulnerable with each other in a new and different kind of way .
Speaker 1And finally , coming in at number 10 , the last kink on my list of the top 10 most common kinks is the balloon fetish , or lunars . Yes , you heard it right . There are some people who are just really , really , really into balloons . Known as lunars , these individuals find balloons to be a great source of arousal . For some , it's the excitement of blowing up the balloons . For others , it is the suspense of them popping that turns them on . But research shows that it's the unpredictability of balloons that people find exciting and arousing . And hey , with 7.5 billion people on the earth , it's nice to know that there's a kink for everyone , even people who love balloons .
Speaker 1Kinks are diverse , quirky and more common than most people realize . Our desires are as unique as we are , and science backs up the fact that expressing them in a healthy , consensual way is good for both our mental and physical health . So , whether you are into BDSM or balloons , foot fetishes or furries . Know that you are not alone in your desires and that there is likely some research out there to back up why you are into what you are into . If you're looking to explore your kinks or your desires in depth , or you're just trying to figure out how to make them become a reality or what to do with them in general , feel free to reach out to me .
Speaker 1My intimacy coaching books are open and I have a spot available and waiting for you . You can find out more about that at TalkSexWithAnettecom . You can reach out to me via email at Annette . At TalkSexWithAnettecom , you can scroll down and click on the speak pipe below and get a hold of me that way , or you can drop a comment below this podcast episode . If you are on my YouTube channel , which is at TalkSexWithAnnette , you will be able to drop a comment below the video . Otherwise , feel free to reach out in one of the many other ways I just listed . You got another week and a half left of Kinktober . Make the most of it . Go buy some balloons , pop them , see how you feel , then report back . Let me know how it goes . Until next time , I'll see you in the locker room . Cheers Ring loop .