Do the sex Think fun , honest and feminist as fuck , and always with the goal of fighting the patriarchy . One female orgasm at a time . Welcome to the locker room . Today's locker room talking jets topic is sexual icks from a woman's perspective , a vulva owners , a pussy owners perspectives . So today I'm here with my two very beloved friends to discuss with you sexual icks that women have .
Speaker 1But before we dive into our sexual ics , which come up with wonderful stories , I want to remind you that I launched a spicy site , a spicy profile if you will , for you on the O and the F , only man's . And I did that because I was getting censored on the tube and other places for my how-to videos on how to improve your sex life . But I thought , as long as we're there , like , let's be there , right ? So along with my how to videos , you are going to find erotic readings , masturbation meditations and confessions . I needed a place to . You know , confess , and you know I'm an ex Catholic schoolgirl , so lots of fun stuff going on over there , and you can find me there at the handle at TalkSexWithAnnette . Now , if you are not ready for super spicy Benedetti energy , that's all right , because I'm also posting those how-to videos that are designed to really help you improve your sex life , give and receive pleasure better on a free , a free , non-spicy spice site . The handle for that is Annette Talks Sex . You see what I did ? I switched things up there . You don't have to subscribe , meaning you don't have to pay the other , the other OF site you do and you're going to get all that information .
Speaker 1But for today , I am here with my good friend , andy beautiful friend Andy and my good friend Sloan , who also has a spicy page , and actually she cameos . She cameos on my site in videos that are tutorial videos , meaning we are demonstrating some really amazing techniques to make you come . Now , sloan . You can find her on the O and the F at the period Sloan S-L-O-A-N-E period experience . She will be tagged in all my videos and you will be getting to know her well soon if you are watching those . So today I'm here with my good friend Andy , myself and Salone to talk about our sexual icks , things that happen during sex . That are icks that make our clit literally shrivel up and run up inside of us and say not today . So I want to remind you that , andy , what is a podcast episode ? You've already been here . They should know you if they've watched everything recently . Do you remember the last episode you were on , I think , dating ?
Speaker 3When we went over . Well , we talked about flirting , flirting flirting .
Speaker 1How to flirt andy . If you want to find out how to flirt with women like me and andy and others , then you're gonna go look for the flirting . Just scroll back , you're gonna find us .
Speaker 3She was on that and we had talked about things that in bed are just like bad , like that hurt us yes painful things men do in bed .
Speaker 1People with penises do yes , so you'll find her there . Sloan , this is her first time uh coming on the podcast . She is partially anonymous and Is she coming already ?
Speaker 1She's partially anonymous , but if you go to my OnlyFans page , you'll get to know a very important part of her . So she's off camera today because that's how it works and the part that can go on camera . I don't have the accommodations for it . So she is going to talk to us and share
her sexual ics . So these are things that happen when women are in bed , and I think we're going to focus on penis owners , but it could really apply to anybody . Today that make us go . Oh , like it's really gross . It's the ick . Yes , today I'm going to just warn you because this is not our first we are drinking champagne the three of us , because we've got three women together . We've definitely had one or two glasses ahead of time . So this episode is a throwback to my original days where we came in hot and left a mess .
Speaker 1So that is go back to episode one and you'll know what I'm talking about . But hey , ladies , let's inform the masses about what makes us go and not come back for seconds in bed . Cheers , so diving right in . I'm gonna start . Start the one that comes to mind just like that is like spitting and slobber and saliva everywhere . And this is a good one to start with , because what you'll find is an ick for one woman may not be an ick for everyone else , but when I have a guy who launches into like if I'm asking turn-ons and they're like I want you to spit in my mouth or I want you like , I want you know they're into your like saliva and drool and stuff like that , I'm instantly like I might not be your lady .
Speaker 3So so you know , I've never been in the situation where I've been with a man who wanted me to spit on him .
Speaker 1This is Andy speaking for my audio listeners ? Andy is not necessarily opposed to some .
Speaker 3I enjoy it Um like I said I have never . I have never been asked by a partner to spit on them , but I do enjoy being spat on if you will Spat upon .
Speaker 3Spat upon when I mean it really could be anywhere . Don't do that thing Like I don't know . Just make sure you've had a lot of water and you're very well hydrated . Don't do that . Oh , oh , don't do that , please , please don't . You might think it's going to provide more lubrication . It's just gross . Has someone done that to you ? I mean , they've not to you . Wait with the .
Speaker 1Yeah , I've definitely I've been in a situation where they , like , went deep throat . They went deep throat for this bit .
Speaker 3Really really cold it up . No , that's a loogie , Exactly that's not . So I would say that's not spitting .
Speaker 2Okay , hold it up . Exactly . That's not um . So I would say that's not spitting um . Okay , I'm sorry . I'm I'm sorry that that happened to you .
Speaker 3I was too , I was too . You never deserve that now spit downstairs does not make up for lube , like you're still gonna need to use lube . That's why they spit uh , not always , I think . Sometimes they like to spit just because they like to spit .
Speaker 1Like it's a disrespect kind of thing Right .
Speaker 2Which I kind of have a I like I'll walk back to lutey , things Like , if you're into it , that's one thing , but coming in hot with a negotiated lutey is .
Speaker 1You got to negotiate that shit , it's a lot , just so you know , the new sexy voice coming in is sloan and I agree you've got to negotiate all of that up front . But look , I'm gonna tell you where my it comes in and this is why you want to negotiate it up front . Like I am literally like I have to be in the dirtiest headspace , like you've got to have me edging on an orgasm for a little while and because , like you've been , you know my pussy and you've been talking some daddy shit to me and maybe you have punished me and have me begging for your fucking praise .
Speaker 1And then and then , if you want to get dirty with a little , a little bit of spit , like I'm talking about , you shove your dick down my throat and like some spit comes up and you want it like on your cock and you want to like , like , get a little like fluidy with it a little , a little , but no , that's still going to interrupt the the the sexy kinky shit going in my head . I'm going to be like , oh , like that someone spit on me . You know so and I hear that maybe I'm on the extreme end of that . But you need to know your person , because if your goal is to give and receive pleasure and you are doing that to a woman like me and you're suddenly you spit on . I have had this happen and I'm telling you something you think , oh , like just dirty people do that , or whatever I was .
Speaker 1It was like early on in my get dirty phase and I met this doctor on I think it was Tinder or something , something like that . He was Polly and had this like lots of money , this house on the Hill , um , and I met with him there and we're having sex and that guy , just he , just he , he literally like kind of the Hawk thing . Well , first he spit like drool , it dripped , it dripped down upon my most beautiful private parts , which freaked me the fuck out like I wanted to smack him . My instant response thought for response was like how rude . And then , as and then we got back and it was , you know . I thought I thought this is pretty hot . And then he did like where's the lube ?
Speaker 2Where's the lube ? I must make a note at this point that we are in the post-Hawk tour .
Speaker 3Yes .
Speaker 2Oh , good point .
Speaker 3So maybe we could talk about that A little give and take there .
Speaker 1Well , yeah , let's do talk about it . What the fuck so , men , just really , oh I .
Speaker 2Yeah , they might just be going for it , but oh , whoa , that's .
Speaker 1What is so ? What do you feel like ? Where are you on that ? Because I'm like I want to just grab your dick and like squeeze in a bad way , not a good way , you kinky motherfuckers .
Speaker 2Okay . So yeah , I see what I mean . I was starting to think about it differently when you were like I'm at the edge and you're taking me there and maybe I want it because I want to be a good girl .
Speaker 1Okay , I'm like okay maybe I should maybe maybe , maybe I should be spitting on more pussies .
Speaker 2Okay , okay , and let me just give me give you a little plug , because Annette had mentioned her sexy meditations and , oh my God , I listened to one that she had made for a client and I was like I .
Speaker 1I was enthralled client and I was like I .
Speaker 2I was enthralled , Like I tend my . I was invested in what she was going to say . Next , it made yes , it made me tingle . I was like how are you not rich from doing this already ? It's incredible .
Speaker 1Anyway , that's my plug .
Speaker 2All right , going back where we were I'm talking about okay , so I could see . When I get to the moment I could be like oh God , yeah , and like I'm into it , but I don't know . Just some like you know , this is my personal experience . It's like I'm not , you know , just spitting in my mouth . I'm just that's , that's , I can't do that ever .
Speaker 2I don't know . You know , what affected me was a long time ago I saw this YouTube video and it was a bachelor's party and these men had been brushing their teeth and they all spit into a little Dixie cup and you know what the groom to be had to do was drink it . What ? So that has haunted me ever since and I'm not cool with other people's spit in my mouth . At least they brush their teeth first . That's why you gotta find out what people like , because that I'm not cool with that . But you know what , if it's really hot and it's in a moment and like he's , I don't know , I might , I might be okay with somebody spitting on my my lady bits right in the moment .
Speaker 1I mean , I know that it's not lube .
Speaker 1It's not lube , no look , I know I can like make it work because I've had to , I've had to , I've had to because it's happened and I've had to be like am I gonna freak out or am I gonna suck it up and keep going ? And I , typically , you know I'm , I'm well . It's a shame to admit that . But I think the thing about this podcast is I don't fucking bullshit , you guys , I do keep going and sometimes I'm like maybe it was kind of hot , but generally speaking , I would like to not have to force myself over that line . But you know I . And then there is I I do , yeah , you're into it , I do like for my ?
Speaker 3what is it ? Does it feel my mouth to be spat in Intimate ?
Speaker 2Does it feel really intimate to you ?
Speaker 3Tell me about it , I mean so it's only when I'm like deeply in a subspace and it's like open your mouth .
Speaker 1Right , oh , okay , all right , okay , I see I see , I see what's Open your mouth and they stick their fingers . Yes , they stick .
Speaker 3You almost tried to stick you just tried to stick your finger in my mouth , but I wouldn't . I know , I know you're not there .
Speaker 1If I opened my mouth , would you have done it ?
Speaker 3I feel like I know you well enough . That might not be so they stick there .
Speaker 2I know , maybe I should try that .
Speaker 1But if you were , I don't think I could spit in your mouth . I'd be like I catch it .
Speaker 2But if somebody was about to hock to it .
Speaker 3No , no , no , no , that's different .
Speaker 1I do want to note , ladies , that this spitting in the mouth is not just a guy thing . Actually it became . It was like a thing , especially in the queer woman lesbian community for a long time and I was still like I don't care what your gender is , Mm-mm , no .
Speaker 3I wasn't .
Speaker 2I've never run into that with another woman .
Speaker 3personally , I've just only been with men that I don't know . Maybe I'd give off a Maybe spitting feels like a manly thing . Like a real , more masculine Maybe . Well , I mean how often like I , but outside and you've been told like think about not ladylike ?
Speaker 2famous movie scene . Somebody says something like very authoritative and then they yes , at the end of it .
Speaker 1Oh lord , I had a girlfriend once I'm gonna share the story .
Speaker 1I had a girlfriend once , like when I was new to portland , and um , we were walking down the street and she kept spinning , she kept spitting hockey loogies and spitting and I stopped . Did she have dip in her lip ? No , I don't know why she was doing it , but I looked at her and I finally , after I don't know a couple of weeks of dating , I said to her I'm like I just find that so repulsive . And boy , she didn't know , like that , she like started double timing . The goddamn spit . Boy she didn't know , like that , she like started double timing the goddamn spit .
Speaker 3I was just like it's just a healthy relationship .
Speaker 1I felt so dirty . We clearly are no longer together . I woke up one day and that was like done . But so women do do it .
Speaker 2Yeah , I'm just like , and we may enjoy it under the right circumstances .
Speaker 3Correct .
Speaker 1I know I'm telling you the right circumstances , correct .
Speaker 2I'm telling you 2025, .
Speaker 1I'm going to surprise each of these bitches with a suddenly like can I spit on you Just to see what happens ? I would let you . Yeah , all of a sudden , from the spitter's point of view , I'm like , oh , coming in from left field .
Speaker 3Well , interesting See , and I've never like I , definitely I've never even considered really spitting on a man , oh God maybe the idea Well , okay , not totally true , Like I'll spit on a cock on a man . Yeah , or you know , in my hand , absolutely .
Speaker 1You have the all right . Andy , I'm going to call you out on this
one .
Speaker 3I'm going to call Andy out on this one , but I've never spit . I've never spit in a dude's mouth , though I've definitely never spit in a dude's mouth .
Speaker 1No , but now that Sloan's like , oh , you could spit on me , I'm like , oh , from the spitter's point of view , huh , well then , all right , maybe that does sound kind of hot . All right , guys , I've got to go and mull this over , have I ? Oh , I've spit on anyways for a different podcast episode moving on from spit . Yeah , we've spent a lot of time on spit , I know . So , andy , what give me an ick ? Do you have an ick ?
Speaker 3I mean , I've got a list of icks , but I would like to hear your ick so I think actually I know one thing that feels icky to me is if you say something disrespectful to me and we've not negotiated that first . Like I've not said to you , I enjoy a little bit of .
Speaker 2Like are there words ? Are there words specifically ?
Speaker 3I know I have some words words specifically , I know I have some words , um , like at hey , you little slut , or like I like that stuff . If we've talked about it and I've let you know that I'd like to be in a subspace , but if we don't know each other well enough yet , that that's even come up and you're just , you're just trying it out on me . No , that's not gonna feel .
Speaker 2That's not gonna feel safe to me it feels maybe a little bit objectifying without me having given you . Yes the permission , the permission , the consent for you to put me in that space , where it's been negotiated , and then I tell you I feel safe for you to do that with me .
Speaker 1Yeah , I get it . Yeah , humiliation without a prior conversation doesn't that's like , don't do that . Yeah , don't do that . And I think in general like things without consent , like suddenly you shove your finger in my ass , or even if you just start circling it and I'm like in the situation it's not like it's easy for me to go . Oh oh , no , I mean I will , but like that kills the libido , like why not have those conversations up front ?
Speaker 2right , if you have those concert conversations up front , then you can let go and relax you know what to expect that's when you can have the most fun , because you know the play space you're in , instead of this uneasy territory that you might be like tiptoeing into and it could backfire like have the conversations . It makes it like for a hot play space . I agree yeah , so .
Speaker 1So I know you brought a list of ics .
Speaker 2I did , and some of them are not going to be surprising .
Speaker 2They're going to be with themes that I've already heard you talk about , but one of them is like the overly aggressive behavior and I just think sometimes so much of that is born out of , like watching porn and I get that like porn has become the way for people to become sexually educated in this country and I understand that . I just want people to understand that there is like real life sexual situations that are outside of what you can experience in porn and it requires a conversation Like think about most of that like hard and fast you can experience in porn . And it requires a conversation like think about most of that like hard and fast stuff you see in porn . It's not going to be something that satisfies a woman . It's it's all for show and it's all made for the male gaze . Like women they're being paid to moan and do all these things you . So I just it's again really an opportunity , an invitation for a conversation with a partner on what feels good . What do you like . Let's explore that together .
Speaker 1So I'm going to follow that up with an ick . For me is when I hear someone make porn noises , now people will jump in and say maybe people do that and that's truly how they sound . But I feel like , even like I've been with people who that's kind of the sound they make during sex and I can tell the difference between that and like oh , okay what kind of ?
Speaker 2sounds do you guys make ?
Speaker 1I mean , if I'm faking it really does .
Speaker 3It depends on who I'm with and what I'm experiencing , what I'm feeling . Um , I've made it a promise to myself that I'm not gonna fake it anymore . Um , so , even if something is not working , rather rather than faking it until you know , just to speed things along , I'll just say this we got to try something different .
Speaker 1I mean the sound . I'm thinking of that . I've heard that's the sound , and especially the hypo , and I'm like , and when I hear that that that's not what it sounds like right , oh yeah , I mean I've heard it sound like a lot of things like I've had over the years .
Speaker 2I'm sure we've all been with our share of women and I think I can be really quiet honestly .
Speaker 1I can be really quiet honestly .
Speaker 2I can be really quiet Because I'm very inside and like in it Silence and stillness is actually a sign of us getting hot and when I'm making like real sounds like I'm really into it , it gets actually a little more guttural for me .
Speaker 3I was totally going to say that it gets guttural and I'm just like I can't even help it .
Speaker 1Those are the noises coming out of me , so let me just hot tip , hot tip , is that when a woman goes high , like and that is like 90 , I would say I'm going to say 90 . Tell me if you guys disagree Percent of the time , I feel like that's bordering on fake . Now , when a woman goes low and guttural and primal , primal , it's like , oh , it's like you know , oh , you know . It's like this deep feeling , that is the sweet fucking spot .
Speaker 1oh god , that's your takeaway , that primal noise primal noise and you'll feel it in the energy because , as she's making those noises , you will feel the connection . But this high , like , do it , do the sound , do the feet that I'm going to use , that I'm going to clip that sound ? That is not real .
Speaker 2But you can still make it your ringtone if you really want to .
Speaker 3Oh , absolutely . I mean there will be a fee for that . But , I mean , it either sounds performative to me or painful , painful , or like just come , just come , just come .
Speaker 1Like , work that into what that sounds like . That's a huge ick for me . Work that into what that sounds like . That's a huge ick for me . Like , I have definitely been with women that were programmed into that sound and like , primarily when I've been with women who haven't been with women before and I was just like no , like dude , no , like I'm no , please , girl Like you and I are the same . We have the same stuff going on Another . So I want to talk about one of the biggest eggs for me .
Speaker 1Look , guys , middle aged guys , I understand that there is part of you that really Desires youthfulness . Like you're like staring down the barrel of your limited life and you're just waking up to the fact that that's happening . I get it Hard . And you're like to be with a younger woman . Like it feels like it's breathing life into you , right , and sometimes you think that youth needs to be like 18 , 19 , 20 , 21 , 22 . If it's over 18 , it's fine .
Speaker 1Oh , it's like I find it if I know that someone I've been with has like , like their thing is like they're fantasizing about or not even like not fantasizing . Look , you can , I'm going to , I'm going to walk that back . If the person I've been with can't distinguish fantasy from reality and has pursued and been with like very , very young girls and it feels like they have what is the word for it ? A taken taken advantage of these young girls , because you know't know like it's gross to me , like at some point , if a man of a certain age has been like with girls , young women of a certain age , it just it grosses me out . It's not I . I in no way feel personally like I'm not competing with younger women . I love younger women , I want to empower younger women and if I feel like a man has disempowered younger women so that he can feel good about himself , that's a massive ick for me .
Speaker 2I hear you on that . I think I see it from the perspective of this person . I guess isn't looking for their emotional maturity match , maybe maybe the emotional maturity where they should be , and maybe they're going for younger because it's a more comfortable space for them , because they can't meet a more mature woman where she is , and I think maybe perhaps the dynamic of a younger woman might take some of the pressure off .
Speaker 3I wonder if that's it Absolutely . I feel like I mean , a 19 year old girl is not , she's not going to be able to hold the same kind of quality conversations because she's just not been in the world enough , you know , like not even her fault .
Speaker 2Yeah , it's just it feels like a concern , but here here .
Speaker 1Here is what I would say . I don't think it's not that she can't hold the same quality of conversation . I think it's that her perspective is going to be based on information and an age that we are outdated to .
Speaker 1To be honest with you . In some ways it's like she's coming from this place that we cannot be at and we're coming from this place where we have an overview . But that is not my ick . My ick is an older man preying on a younger woman . That's my ick . I don't care if you match up emotionally . What grosses me out is the idea that the power imbalance and that you get off on it , Because I cannot imagine any other reason . I see 20 year olds . I see 30 year olds that look like 20 year olds . So go find a 30 year old . I feel like there's a power imbalance and that's my ick . Like if I know a man in his 40s and 50s is banging like 19 , 18 , 20 year olds , 21 year olds Like that's , like it's unnecessary . You know she does it , she's not ready . You know that . You know she's just left the nest , if she even has , and you're , it feels like you're preying on that .
Speaker 1And that's gross to me , that's fucking gross to me . And the ironic part of it is , I know 18 , 19 , 20 , 21 , 22-year-olds that are way more awake and interesting and bright than these men at 40 and 50 . And for me it's like , if that's your thing , it just doesn't
work with . Where I'm at Right , that's yeah , like , and I've just had and look , this hasn't come up for me a lot , but it's come up for me enough where I've just , I mean , and relatively recently , I met a man who was like flirting with me and it became clear that he was like hitting it with someone who had just turned 20 . Oh , and I like my , and the ick that pursued was yeah .
Speaker 1I couldn't , and it wasn't like I didn't have a problem with her . It was him . I couldn't , and it wasn't like I didn't have a problem with her , it was him .
Speaker 2I found him like repulsive Because he was older than you and going for this .
Speaker 1And I think also A . I would never have been like A , I wasn't interested in him . And I'm like , oh , you'd have to take advantage of someone younger than you to get them to buy into . Like you know , I don't know , that's an egg , I'm just saying like I . What's hot to me as a man within my age range who's like Like An equal being , equal right . Like I would not . I have zero interest in in men under 30 . Yeah , like no 30 .
Speaker 3Like no , no , oh , no offense to any of my listeners .
Speaker 2It's not about you , it's just like no .
Speaker 1Yeah , I get messages from like no .
Speaker 2I've seen women our age who are really enjoying some younger men . So it's not 30 in 20s , could you ?
Speaker 3You know , I'm never going to say never .
Speaker 1All right . Well , there you go . There you go . All right , I look , I know that I do have some listeners who are younger , and I've had , I've gotten some emails and I'm just like I can't , I'm sorry , I'm so sorry , can't do it , I can't .
Speaker 2Although , you're never going to say never , you know ?
Speaker 1look me in the eyeballs Right .
Speaker 3Oh the circumstances might be just so .
Speaker 1Five years ago was different . I know you're out there . Five years ago was different , so All right . So look , folks , we have lots of icks we want to share with you . However , we have party to go to . We have one more ick that we are going to share with you , and it might be the coup de gras of icks and cologne is going to share .
Speaker 2Okay , man , um and I , I'm gonna recognize this might be a cultural thing , but I really appreciate some great hygiene , that you're clean .
Speaker 3Smell good , smell good , smell good .
Speaker 2I think for me , like I just noticed , when we're getting intimate I can get really distracted by some strong body odor and maybe , maybe , some breath If you have dad breath . Never . It's , it's more , sorry , retirement , home breath oh granddad , if you have grand home breath . Oh , granddad , if you have granddad breath , you've got some bacteria in your mouth , you might need to address Absolutely and that'll really take me out of the moment . So , oh my gosh , like a good nice clean . I mean , what are your guys' thoughts ?
Speaker 3Clean , yes , body odor Nobia , his thoughts Clean . Yes , body , odor , hmm .
Speaker 1No Bia .
Speaker 3And .
Speaker 1I like it when a man wears a scent .
Speaker 3I love a scent .
Speaker 2Wait , is there a scent you don't like ? I like an expensive scent , Spend some money . I don't know what were the scents that you know it's been a while before I've seen a magazine ad and rubbed it on my skin .
Speaker 1I like I like it to be spicy .
Speaker 2I like it to be earthy I like , I like earthy , I like earthy warm and if you don't know , just go and ask the lady at the counter and don't get a cheap bottle , get a big bottle , like really put your a month's salary . You don't even have to get a big bottle .
Speaker 1You can get a travel size now for like no , I want you to consistently smell like that every time I see you , but what if it's not something you love ?
Speaker 3oh yeah , start with the travel size , right , but but I won't tell you I love this it makes me wet .
Speaker 1Look , I'm gonna be honest with you . I have fucked literally in my lifetime I've had more than one person I've fucked . I hated them yes , casey , casey shook from high school , casey shook . If you're out there I feel like you're probably gross now but back in the day I hated you because you were like spicy and like a rubble and stuff like that .
Speaker 3But he smelled so good that I that was the first time I realized I can relate .
Speaker 1Oh , we were , I mean look guys , this is not dirty high school . I'm a senior , junior or something like that , and I ended up and I told my friends afterwards I'm like I hate him so much , but God , he smelled , he had this cologne and I couldn't help it . And I still can't help it . I can't .
Speaker 2It was like that person I was crazy about for the longest time . Oh God , like I could just like inhale his skin . And then I remember I smelled it again with like I think it was , was it your confidence or something ?
Speaker 1And I was like that's it , and I was just like I may or may not have put on a clone . That I know is the thing that sets the car on fire because it makes me melt , right ?
Speaker 3so scent huge . Oh well , it's also . It's one of , that is one of the uh strongest senses tied to memory .
Speaker 2Oh .
Speaker 3So if you smell good and it is good , there you go . We're going to remember that Core memory Unlocked .
Speaker 1We need to like do a whole podcast on . If you want to tire down , here are the things Core memory scent plus Consent ahead of time . Yes , Just don't spit on the first date . Like you fuckers who like like it on the first date . Like you fuckers who like like it's the first date and you like that shouldn't be the first trick , like finger up the ass like , at least spit on it first , please , and spitting in your mouth and you want her to come back .
Speaker 1She's like in shock and like I thought we , I don't know , yeah , no , but yeah . So a good scent and maybe a variety of types , but like , go for warm and spicy that would be . I'm like you're not not going to go wrong with that .
Speaker 3Don't smell like bio I also just like a really clean scent .
Speaker 2Clean like oh , and make sure . Oh . Have I seen so many posts lately about men who think it's manly to not because they don't want to touch their ass and don't wipe it properly . Your ass has to be clean . Oh my gosh , do not make me smell any fecal matter while I am going down on you .
Speaker 1That's not going to be okay .
Speaker 2That does not make it sexy . I do not want to be thinking about poop while I'm trying to like put something into my throat , it automatically is like gag reflex , like make sure , oh my god , please if we're doing 69 .
Speaker 3Oh god , please make sure . Actually , that's one of the reasons I won't even do it I love 69 .
Speaker 2I love 69 when it's done right and things are clean , and I don't . I am not over it , because the only thing you can breathe out of during 69 is your nose . Please be sensitive to the scent that is in that area . Oh my gosh , please wipe .
Speaker 3One of my first serious boyfriends Please clean between your cracks , please wipe . One of my first serious boyfriends was there was that we were doing that number position and , yeah , there was a sweaty butt crack in my face and that has turned me off from that position for a really long time .
Speaker 1Okay , so that's why you don't like it . Yes , that is fair . A lot of people don't . Sorry , now we have bubbles . I've got candy in my mouth , hot tamales I blame Andy .
Speaker 2She's a hot tamale .
Speaker 1Okay , we have a party to go to , so we could come up with lots of other icks , but I feel like we hit some really big ones on the head . What I want to know for my listeners is what are your ics ? Because I would love you to drop them in this episode and I'm going to come back and I'm going to read them all off and we can weigh in on them , Because I'm pretty sure , as we hear other people's sexual icks , there's going to be a unanimous yes . But listen , I also recognize that one person's ick is another person's kink .
Speaker 1So , what I'm trying to bring you around to as a sex and intimacy coach is let's say , you come together with a partner and your kink is their ick .
Speaker 1Is there a way to meet in a place where you can both enjoy yourselves participating this , and I would argue that there is a way to do that because with every ick that we mentioned , there was one of us that was like oh , but this is what's hot about it , and that's what's hot about it , and it's about how you approach it , how you integrate it into your sex life .
Speaker 2Being open to it .
Speaker 1Right and how you think about it , and so what I want to do is get some feedback from you guys and then help you guys in your personal life If you have a kink that they find is an ick , or you have an ick that your partner is really into how can you turn that into an aphrodisiac for your relationship , and I guarantee you that there's at least , I'm going to say , a 90 , 85 to 90% chance that we could figure out how to do that .
Speaker 3I mean , I don't want to yuck anyone's yum . Nope , it may not be for me entirely , but I'm open , you're open , I'm open , I'm open to hearing what makes sense If someone's communicating with you . And I'm open to hearing what you love about it . What turns you , what like , what really ?
Speaker 2Because I kind of want to turn my partner on at some point there's going to be like , if you have that kind of connection , be like what do you want baby ?
Speaker 1You want to spit on me . You want to spit on me . Let's talk about how that's going to happen .
Speaker 3I don't understand exactly what it is that just really gets me going about this particular thing .
Speaker 1I kind of want to spit on someone now . Like now I'm like ah , I want to be the spitter , Like that actually seems kind of hot when I think about it that way . Did you not consider that ? No , never .
Speaker 3I mean I'm going to like be spitting on y'all .
Speaker 1We're walking down the street . You know I'm not going to say no .
Speaker 2See the different ways we've opened up this . See what's happened .
Speaker 1Now we are late for our party . I love you listeners , we all do . Thank you for listening to this and letting us I .
Speaker 1Every once in a while , I really like to do a throwback to literally the locker room talking shots . Three years ago , I started this podcast with my girlfriends and we would have crazy drinks and talk about sex and end the podcast pretty fucked up . Um , so this was like a really fun time to have my girlfriends with me and talk about something that we've been talking about a lot . So please do submit your ex , because I think we'd have a fun time talking about them . Also , remember I am actually a sex and intimacy coach and I would we'd have a fun time talking about them Also , remember , I am actually a sex and intimacy coach and I would love to help you on your journey to having better sex , better intimacy , all that stuff . Uh , so also , if you're feeling spicy , you know where I'm at on my spicy site . And if you're feeling spicy but afraid , andette talks sex on the spicy site . So until and until next time , I'll see you in the locker room . Time to go . Party cheers .