do the sex . Welcome to Masturbation Monday with me , annette Benedetti , your host for Locker Room Talk and Chats . This is your invitation to join me for coffee in bed and a candid conversation about the masturbation practice I'm developing to support my mental , physical and emotional health and help manifest my dreams . Masturbation Monday is a guide to self-pleasure , better sex and using the power of the pussy to open new doors to a better life . Today's topic is your guide to the spit kink . I am breaking down the spit kink into a bunch of hard rules and then three main laws or guidelines , if you will , if you want to , either dive into giving it a try for the first time , or you have a new partner that you want to introduce to this activity . Now , if you've listened to my podcast for any time at all , you know how I feel about spit during intimacy , but I don't want to yuck anyone else's yum . So I have done my homework . I've not only , you know , played around with it myself in my own personal life , but I've done the research and I've dug into a lot of information out there to bring you some guidelines , some rules , so that , if it is your thing and you are engaging with someone new in intimacy , you can introduce it to them correctly and have success in this activity , which really has gone mainstream over the last couple of years . But before I dive in to everything you need to know about the spitting and spitting during intimacy , I want to remind you that you can find me on OF , where I am sharing guided how-tos and some intimacy meditations for all of my subscribers . Also , you can find me over on Substack , where I am writing some really helpful articles and sharing my own stories . So join me on those platforms . You can find me on both of them at the same handle , which is at TalkSexWithAnette , and I provide all the links you need in the description of this podcast episode to find me wherever you go .
Speaker 1All right , let's talk about something messy , filthy and wildly misunderstood the spit kink . Some men like it because it feels dominant , dirty and a little bit primal . It's kind of like marking territory , taking control or just making things a little bit wetter . And some women love it for the same reasons A little bit of filth , a little bit of power play and a whole lot of surrender . But let's get real Not everybody has a spit kink and for a lot of women , when a man spits the wrong way at the wrong time and without permission . It's an immediate mood killer . Spitting isn't some random act you throw in . It is a kink , a deliberate act of dominance and submission and filth , and it needs to be done the right way in order for it to be sexy . So if you're going to do it , let's make sure you're doing it right I'm talking when , where and how so it turns her on instead of drying her up so that she walks away . Let's dive in to spitting during intimacy Cheers .
Speaker 1So I'm going to start with the hard rules . These are rules that may not be broken , and then I will dive into my three laws , if you will , guidelines for a successful experience for both you and your partner when it comes to the spit kink . Rule number one full , explicit consent every time . Every time , she needs to know how you want to do it , when you want to do it and where you want to do it and where you want to do it , and if she doesn't have a spit kink , it doesn't happen . Rule number two fresh breath , clean mouth , bad breath , sticky spit turn off , disgusting . Make sure you've brushed your teeth , you've flossed and that you're drinking water . Stay hydrated , my friends . Rule number three no phlegm ever . This is intimacy , not a sick day . This should be hot , not disgusting . Rule number four know your aim . Make sure she knows it too . Face , body , vulva each has its own approach . Body vulva each has its own approach . Don't just go guessing . Rule number five read the room . Just because she liked it once doesn't mean it's a go every time . This brings us back to rule number one explicit consent every time . And the fifth final hard rule is spit is not a substitute for lube . It dries up , it gets sticky . It will not keep her wet the way she needs to be or the way lube can . So remember this is not a substitute for lube . Have lube on hand All right . Now that you've got the basics down , let's get into how to actually do it
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Speaker 1Number one getting to engage in the spit kink with a partner is a privilege and not a right . Let me be crystal clear the spit kink is not something you assume . It is something you earn . Every woman is different . Not every woman is into it , and if you spit on the wrong woman at the wrong time , you might just end up with a slap in the face instead of a moan . So before you let that saliva drip .
Speaker 1Read the room . Better yet , ask and ask again A simple do you like it , dirty baby ? Can I spit on you ? Do you want me to spit on you Goes a long way . Can I spit on you ? Do you want me to spit on you ? Goes a long way . And if she doesn't , she'll let you know and you will save yourself the horror of being humiliated by a woman who didn't want your saliva on her body in the first place . And this especially goes to individuals who , like , think I don't have a spit kink , but they will suddenly spit on their hands , their fingers or on a vulva in order to help with lubrication . You need to ask before you do that . Make sure she is okay with that . It's not something you just do . It can really really gross the girl out .
Speaker 1Number two aim matters , and so does execution . If she's into it , great , but don't be sloppy . The spit king can be sexy as fuck or it can be really disgusting . No woman wants to feel like she's just been sneezed on . Here's how you do it right .
Speaker 1Number one spitting on her mouth . Make it slow and controlled . Let her see the string of saliva . Sorry , this is hard for me . Let her see the string of saliva . Make it an invitation , not an ambush Spitting on her vulva . Do it like you mean it . Make it part of the moment , hold her eye contact , let her feel the heat of your breath before you do it .
Speaker 1Anything else feels lazy , feels careless , feels gross Spitting anywhere else . Make sure it fits the moment . Don't just hit her out of the blue , dripping it onto her chest . Make her beg for it , let it fall under her clit before you rub it in . Just don't rush it and for fuck's sake , don't hawk flim . This isn't a street corner . Keep it clean , keep it sexy , keep it erotic .
Speaker 1Okay , the third law guideline , if you will . The spit kink is about power . So wield it wisely . The real secret here is that the spit kink is about power . We're talking dominance , submission , filth , control , and when it's done right , it can throw a woman into overdrive . But the second , it feels forced , rushed or careless . It's over . There's a difference between a woman arching her back and asking for more and one rolling her eyes , getting up and never calling you again . So if you want to spit , make it intentional , make it part of the moment , let it feel earned , not like some random trick you learned from porn , because when done right , spitting isn't just dirty , it can be devastatingly sexy . So there you have it , lots of hot tips in my three big rules , guidelines , laws , if you will , to doing the spit kink right . If you're into it , own it , do it well , do it in a way that turns us on and not off . And if you haven't done it before , well , now maybe you have some ideas and you definitely have some great guidelines to make sure that when you do do it , you don't mess it up .
If you have any questions , thoughts , input you know what to do . You can email me at Annette , at TalkSexWithAnnettecom , you can scroll down and drop a comment . If you are watching this on my YouTube channel , you can scroll down and you can hit my speak pipe link and send me a voice note . And if you are looking for a wing woman on your pleasure journey , on your intimacy journey , either with yourself or someone else , my books are open and I am taking clients . I would love to be your wing woman , if you will , your cheerleader , your guide to having a better , more pleasure filled life . You can find out more about my intimacy and coaching services at TalkSexWithAnnettecom . Until next time , remember , don't spit , unless you've asked first . Every , every time , I'll see you in the locker room . Cheers .