do the sex . Welcome to Masturbation Monday with me , annette Benedetti , your host for Locker Room Talk and Chats . This is your invitation to join me for coffee in bed and a candid conversation about the masturbation practice I'm developing to support my mental , physical and emotional health and help manifest my dreams . Masturbation Monday is a guide to self-pleasure , better sex and using the power of the pussy to open new doors to a better life . Today's Masturbation Monday topic is the one sex move that drives women crazy that most men never do . If you've ever wondered why some men drive women crazy in bed and make them obsessed , while other men get the plight that was nice , well , this episode is for you because there is one move that triggers deeper , more intense orgasms than almost anything else , yet most men don't do it . Why ? Because they are skipping over the one thing that sets apart good sex , okay sex , from . I absolutely needed sex , but here's the thing . I'm not just talking about slowing down . There is a specific process that makes a woman's body crave you like crazy , and I'm going to be breaking it down into three steps . On top of that , I'm going to be sharing a science-backed orgasm hack that I learned from my interview with leading orgasm and women's pleasure researcher , dr Lori Mentz . But before we dive in , I want to remind you that I'm on OnlyFans , where I am sharing my sex and intimacy how-tos and demonstrations , along with audio guided self-pleasure meditations and so much more . You can find me there with my handle at TalkSexWithAnette . I'm also over on Substack sharing the same and so much more , and my handle there is at TalkSexWithAnette . And , of course , if you are looking for a guide , a wing woman or a sex and intimacy coach , I have my books open now and you can find out more about that at TalkSexWithAnettecom . You can also scroll down and I will be posting all the links to where you can find me below .
Speaker 1Now let's dive in . So what is this big move that drives women crazy ? It is the deep tease effect . Most men make the mistake of rushing right into high intensity stimulation , thinking more pressure and more speed equals more pleasure . According to the Kinsey Institute , that actually overwhelms the nerve endings . Instead , the key is building unbearable anticipation and activating her brain before her body , because for women , sexual pleasure starts in the mind . So here's how to do it . Let's dive into my three-step process , and it's going to include exercises you can start doing tonight and things to avoid .
Speaker 1Step one is the invisible touch technique . Before you touch her , make her feel your presence , activating her nerve endings and anticipation before touch ever even takes place . The two mistakes that most men make are one grabbing , squeezing and rubbing right away . This is routine , it's expected and it can actually be really jarring to her body and her nerve endings . The second one is going straight for her boobs , her butt or between her legs . This completely skips building anticipation . So what to do instead ? Before you even touch her , make her feel your presence . Hover your hand over her skin and let her feel your warmth before ever making contact . Breathe next to her ear , down her neck , over her lips . Make her ache for your touch before you ever give it . Try this exercise tonight . Don't touch her for 30 seconds , but hover your hand over her inner thighs , her belly , her breasts and watch how her body naturally moves towards you , asking for your touch . The science behind it According to the Journal of Neuroscience , this plays into anticipatory arousal , which increases dopamine and makes her hypersensitive to touch .
Speaker 1Step two is a three second rule Tease and delay . Instead of rushing , touch her slowly . Let her feel every nerve ending react as you move across her skin . Remember , the longer the buildup , the more intense the release . The most common mistake that men make is jumping to direct stimulation , thinking more pressure equals better . So what should you do instead ? Slow your movement down by 300% , 300% . When you finally touch her , move so slow that she can barely stand it . Spend at least at least three seconds on one spot , one area of stimulation , before moving to the next . Try this exercise tonight Instead of going straight for the clip , run your fingers lightly along her inner thighs for at least 15 seconds before moving on . Use your fingertips to trace circles around her hip bones before moving lower . And when you do finally touch her clit or her vulva , use the least amount of pressure possible . And of course , there's science behind this move . According to the National Library of Medicine , delaying pleasure triggers oxytocin release , which makes arousal feel more intense when it finally does happen .
Speaker 1Step number three is the start and stop the edge effect . When she's just about to peak , you're going to stop just for a second and make her crave the next touch . This creates an overwhelming intense full body climax when she finally does release . The two mistakes that men make are , first of all , keeping the same rhythm once she's aroused and also thinking that faster equals better . What to do instead ? Ride as she starts to react , pause just for two or three seconds , make her feel your absence . Then , when you start again , start slowly . This is going to build arousal . Do this cycle for three or four times and then give her full contact and send her over the edge . You'll notice that this is the same pattern that you are going to see on some of the sex toys that have the patterns , the tapping patterns and the pause patterns . They are there for a reason and they do their job . When a woman is fully in her body and sensing everything , this is what those patterns are designed to do , and , of course , there's science behind it . According to the Kinsey Institute , this mimics a technique called edging , which is known to build orgasms that last longer and are stronger . So here's a wild fact that I learned from my interview with Dr Lori Mintz Women have their most intense orgasms when they are mentally overloaded with sensation .
Speaker 1So what does this mean ? Unlike men , who typically experience pleasure in a more localized way , women's orgasms are deeply tied to their brain's ability to process multiple layers and types of stimulation at once . When a woman is receiving varied , unexpected and overwhelming sensations physical , emotional and psychological all at the same time , her orgasms become exponentially more intense . Think of it like this A single repetitive touch , like rubbing at the same pace over a long period of time , equals her brain getting used to it and the orgasm being meh . On the other hand , a built-up of multiple sensations think temperature , play , dirty talk , pressure changes equal her brain being overloaded and overwhelmed with sensation and explosive , incredible orgasms . Bonus tip pair teasing with an unexpected sensory element like an ice cube , flavored lube or even fruit juice . One guy put strawberry juice on my lips and went down on me and it threw my body into overdrive and I had an amazing orgasm . I'm telling you all about it over on my OF page .
Speaker 1Now that you know the move that drives women crazy , go home and try it tonight or as soon as possible with your partner . Then come back and tell me how it works for you . You can do that by dropping a note in the comments below or emailing me at Annette at TalkSexWithAnnettecom . And if you want more game changing tips that will improve your sex life , make sure to like and subscribe , because next week I'm going to be dropping an episode that is a science backed way to make her wet with words that's right Without even touching her . This is a science backed method that helps you use your words to get her , so turn on . She's going to be dragging you to the bedroom . And , of course , if you are looking for a sex and intimacy coach , a
wing woman , someone to help you in your own pleasure journey , my books are open . You can find out more about that at TalkSexWithAnnettecom . You can reach out to me , email me at Annette at TalkSexWithAnnettecom . I would love to work with you . So until next time , folks , I'll see you in the locker room . Cheers .