do the sex . Welcome to Masturbation Monday with me , annette Benedetti , your host for Locker Room Talk and Chats . This is your invitation to join me for coffee in bed and a candid conversation about the masturbation practice I'm developing to support my mental , physical and emotional health and help manifest my dreams . Masturbation Monday is a guide to self-pleasure , better sex and using the power of the pussy to open new doors to a better life . Today's podcast episode is how to make her wet with words . Most men think that turning a woman on is all about touch , but what if I told you that you could make her wet , turned on and get her to crave you with words alone ? It sounds like magic , right ? Well , it's not science and by the end of this episode you are going to know exactly how to do it . But before we dive in , I want to remind you that I'm on OnlyFans , where I am sharing my intimacy , how-tos demonstrations and audio-guided self-pleasure meditations . You can find me there by my handle at TalkSexWithANet . I'm also over on Substack doing a lot of the same , and my handle there is at TalkSexWithANet . Of course , you can scroll down to the description of this video and you're going to find all the links you need to find me everywhere there . And , of course , if you are looking for someone to be your wing woman , your cheerleader in your own intimate journey , self-pleasure , discovery journey , my books are open and I would love to be your sex and intimacy coach . You can find out more about that at TalkSexWithAnettecom . You can also email me at Annette at TalkSexWithAnettecom .
Speaker 1All right , let's dive in . So here's what you're going to learn in this episode today . First , you're going to learn the psychology behind why words arouse women and why so many men get it wrong . You're also going to learn a five-step framework to making her body respond instinctively to your voice . Then I'm going to go over common mistakes that men make that kill the mood when they're trying to talk dirty instead of turning her on , and I'm going to give you word for word scripts that you can use and also what absolutely not to do . By the time you finish listening , you're going to have the power to turn her on anytime , anywhere , without even touching her .
Speaker 1Before we dive into techniques , let's break down the why Women's brains are wired for arousal through imagination . Studies show that women's arousal is significantly tied to mental stimulation , not just physical . A 2009 study published by the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that women's brains light up in response to anticipation and narrative-driven fantasies , meaning words have a direct impact on their sexual response . In addition , dopamine and oxytocin are the arousal chemicals , and when you say the right thing , you trigger the release of both oxytocin and dopamine . Now , dopamine is the pleasure chemical and oxytocin is the bonding chemical . This release creates both sexual arousal and deeper emotional connection , making her crave more . Finally , words activate the prefrontal cortex . This is the part of the brain that processes imagination and emotions . A woman's prefrontal cortex plays a key role in her sexual arousal . When you use vivid , sensory-driven language , you activate this part of her brain , turning her on before you've even touched her . The takeaway here is , if you master verbal seduction , you are going to control her arousal at a deeper level than physical touch alone .
Speaker 1Now let's go over the biggest mistakes that men make when they are trying to talk dirty . The biggest mistake that men make is thinking that dirty talk is all about being just explicit . A bad approach that is often used is jumping straight into graphic , porn style language before she's even aroused . This can make her shut down right away . An example of this is saying something like I want to fuck you right now . It's aggressive and there is absolutely no buildup . Another approach to avoid is overusing the same generic compliments . For example , you're so sexy , you're so hot . Yes , they're flattering , but they're boring , forgettable and overused . It sounds like something you could just say to any girl .
Speaker 1So what's the right approach ? Build arousal through anticipation , emotional engagement and sensory rich detail . An example of something like this is I can't stop thinking about the way your body feels under my hands or the way your breath hitches when I kiss you . Why does this work ? It's specific and it paints a picture that activates her imagination . All right , let's jump into the five-step framework that's going to make her wet with words . Step one set the tone with your voice . A deep , slow , confident voice is 10 times more effective than just words alone . Research from the University of Aberdeen found that women are naturally more attracted to lower pitched , slow , paced voices . They associate it with dominance and sensuality . Finally , use pauses . So an example is , instead of saying you're so sexy in a low , slow voice , say do you have any idea how hard it is to not touch you right now ? That's going to work far better , I promise .
Speaker 1Step two is paint a picture in her mind . Women are turned on by mental imagery Instead of just saying what you want . Imagery Instead of just saying what you want . Describe how it feels . Use sensory details . Touch sight , sound , breath and speak in fragments . Let her mind fill in the gaps . An example is something like I can already picture the way your lips part when I lean in to kiss you , the way your breath hitches when I trace my fingers down your stomach inch by inch . Why does this work ? The mind can't tell the difference between imagination and reality . So when you describe sensations , she feels them .
Speaker 1Step three make it about her , not just about what you want . Women love feeling desired . Instead of saying what you want , tell her what it is about her that drives you crazy . Be specific . Mention something that's unique to her . An example of this is something like the way you bite your lip when you're turned on . That kills me . Or something like that sound you make when I tease you . I've just got to hear it right now . What not to do ? We've already gone over it . Avoid the generic , surface level compliments like you're so hot , it's just too vague . And don't just talk about what you want to do . Talk about how she makes you feel and why .
Speaker 1Step four tease with anticipation . Anticipation builds desire , make her wait for it . So how do you do this ? Use unfinished sentences that leave her hanging , or ask questions that make her mind race . An example of this is something as simple as if I were there right now , do you know what I'd do to you ? Why does it work ? Delayed gratification intensifies arousal .
Speaker 1And finally , step five , get her to verbalize her arousal . When a woman says how turned on she is , it heightens her desire . So how do we get her to do this ? Ask her open-ended , suggestive questions and encourage her to describe what she's feeling . Some examples of this are tell me how wet you are right now . Or if I told you not to touch yourself while we were talking , would you listen ? So why does this work ? Speaking her arousal out loud reinforces it in her mind , amplifying the desire . Okay , so there's the five-step framework , but here's the hot tip that's really going to seal the deal the aftershock . Most men stop after the moment , but the best seducers keep the desire alive . So send a follow-up text , something like I can still hear the way you gasped when I said that to you or when I did that to you . Another suggestion use voice memos instead of text for that extra intimate touch . So now you know the power of words and the science behind it . You've got a five-step framework , so use words wisely , make her ache for you , make her crave you . People who master this don't just make women crave them , they make them obsessed with them .
Speaker 1You want to take this even further Like and subscribe to my channel , because I'll be dropping episodes just like this one every week . And if you are looking for a wing woman , for someone to be your cheerleader and help you in your own intimacy journey , in your journey trying to find your next great love , in your journey just trying to have a better intimate and sex life , my books are open . You can find out more about that at talksexwithanettecom . I would love to be there for you . If you have any questions or comments , drop them in the comment section below this video . If you're on my YouTube channel at talksexwithanette , or if you are one of my wonderful listeners , just send me an email at Annette at TalkSexWithAnnettecom . Until next time , I'll see y'all in the locker room . Cheers .