Do the sex . Welcome to Masturbation Monday with me , annette Benedetti , your host for Locker Room Talk and Chats . This is your invitation to join me for coffee in bed and a candid conversation about the masturbation practice I'm developing to support my mental , physical and emotional health and help manifest my dreams . Masturbation Monday is a guide to self-pleasure , better sex and using the power of the pussy to open new doors to a better life . Welcome back to Talk Sex with Annette , where we turn good and mess sex into unforgettable sex . Today we're diving into a sexy
ass . Listener request from Kelly . Hey Kelly , thanks for the inspiration . We're talking about playful power moves you can use to erotically dominate your man . Let's be real Taking control in the bedroom isn't about doming him like a drill sergeant . It's about confidence , subtle seduction and erotic intelligence . Today I'm going to be giving you playful power moves that will have him gasping , gripping the sheets and handing over the reins with a smile . These aren't just fun . They're hot and , when done right ,
he'll remember the way you touched him forever . But before we dive in , I want to remind you that I'm on OnlyFans , where I just dropped a how-to demonstration on how to use the Womanizer blend . But that's not all . That's there . There are more how-tos there . There are audio-guided erotic self-pleasure meditations and tons of content that's designed to make sure your intimate life only gets better . You can also find me over on Substack doing the same , dropping lots of great content you don't want to miss , and you can find me in either place under my handle at TalkSexWithAnEye . You can also scroll down and you will find all the links you need to find me wherever you want to find me there . Now let's make you a soft dom goddess in the sheets .
Speaker 1This one's for you , kelly Cheers . Here's part one . We are going to start with power moves with a penis . Yes , we're starting there because that's what Kelly asked for . Number one is the pressure play hand job . Start slow and soft . Lube up , of course , because we're good partners . Use a light grip , like you're just getting to know it . Now here's the game With every stroke , very slowly , increase your grip , inch it up until he gasps or moans or says that's too much or drops a safe word . Then back off slightly , tease that edge , watch him squirm . Bonus use your other hand to cup and massage his balls or lightly press the area just behind them , the perineum , for that added pressure . Why it works . This plays with his nervous system . Light strokes build anticipation and the slow squeeze floods his body with intensity . It trains him to focus on every inch of sensation . The edge play . That's how you make him ache for you .
Speaker 1The next one is the finger curl submission . This one's a sneaky power play . Place your hand over the head of his penis like a dome , fingers curling over , slowly , pull downward , gently stretching the skin as you go . It's not about pain , it's about control . That slow tug says I've got you . Pair it with eye contact and a raised eyebrow like what are you going to do about it ? Here's why it works . This move isn't overtly sexual , it's dominant . That controlled , deliberate pressure tells his body to submit . It creates a subtle ache and puts you in command without saying a word .
Speaker 1The next one is one of my favorites . It's called the cowgirl . Grip and grind when you're on top , take full control of depth , speed and angle . But here's the power move . Squeeze your vaginal muscles mid-thrust . Move . Squeeze your vaginal muscles mid-thrust , then release . Then do it again Even better . Pause while you're deep and just pulse . He will not survive this one . Here's why it works . That rhythmic squeeze turns your body into a stroking machine Tight , responsive
and impossible to ignore . The internal pulsing creates deep , involuntary pleasure that no hand or mouth can match . This is a form of milking , and it's hot .
Speaker 1Moving on to the pussy , tease when he's not even inside . You Lay him down , straddle him , but keep his penis just barely against your vaginal opening . This is going to feel great for you . Rub yourself against him without letting him inside Tease circle . Dip just the head in and pull away . Whisper , not yet Watch his mind unravel . Here's why it works . Yes , it's a reverse form of just the tip . You're weaponizing anticipation . This move activates every nerve in his body . With denial , his brain starts banging long before his mouth . Does that frustration Deliciously erotic .
Speaker 1Now for part two erotic domination that goes beyond his dick . We're going to start with eye contact and verbal tease . A strong gaze is underrated . Lock eyes while you're touching him , or even just while he's undressing . Don't look away . Then speak your desires slowly . You've been thinking about me all day , haven't you ? Or I haven't decided if you've earned it yet . Confidence is everything , even if you're shaking inside . Say it like you mean it . Here's why it works . Eye contact creates psychological intimacy and arousal . Add verbal dominance and you've hijacked his fantasy life . You're not just in the room , you're in his head .
Speaker 1Now let's go over the slow undress command . It's a power . Move his head . Now let's go over the slow undress command . It's a power move . Don't undress yourself . Make him do the work , but give him rules . Take off my shirt , but only my shirt . Or unzip me , please , but don't touch yet .
Speaker 1Build tension with boundaries . Men crave structure , especially if it ends with release . Here's why it works . This flips the script . He's used to being in control , now he's the one following your lead . Creating roles builds erotic tension and gives you the upper hand , literally and figuratively .
Speaker 1The next one is the lap ride without permission . Sit on his lap , clothes on , or maybe just panties and some lingerie . Grind slowly , move your hips like you're already fucking , but when he reaches for you , stop his hands and say not yet . That restraint , it's hot for both of you . Here's why it works . Simulated sex without full contact creates overwhelming tension . Stopping him mid-movement signals that you decide when pleasure escalates . That moment of restraint , it's pure fire . The next one is whisper and earplay domination . Take control with your voice . Whisper dirty instructions into his ear while grazing your teeth against his earlobe Example while grazing your teeth against his earlobe Example you're not allowed to come until I say , do you understand ? Even if you let him come five minutes later , that psychological dominance will leave a deep erotic imprint . Here's why it works . The ears are one of the most underrated erogenous sounds . Combine whispering , teasing and a low growl with authority and you create mental submission that hits harder than any physical act .
Speaker 1Here's a bonus non-sexual power move that builds heat . It's the confident silence At dinner or during conversation . Just lean back , make eye contact and don't rush to fill the silence . Let him feel you in the room . Your stillness becomes its own kind of power . Here's why it works . Silence makes space for desire . When you stop performing or over-explaining , overperforming or over explaining , he has to lean in , to feel you , that quiet confidence . It lingers in his mind long after the moment is over . And then there's the slow kiss , withdrawal , mid-kiss . Pull away before he's ready , lick his bottom lip and then pause
. Let him chase your . That kind of control is magnetic . And and here's why it works Withholding pleasure , mid-flow builds hunger . The retreat creates craving . His lips start longing for more before he even realizes he's hooked .
Speaker 1Now for part three . We're going to take it to the next level . This is escalation for the brave . Option one use restraints , try some ties under the bed , cuffs or even just your hands on his wrists . Start by pinning him down and saying You're mine tonight If he's into it . Keep him there and explore his body while he can't touch you back . Here's why it works . Restraints flip the power viscerally . Even light bondage awakens vulnerability and increases sensation . He's not just submitting , he's feeling everything more . Option two and this one shouldn't surprise you coming from me Add toys to your takeover .
Speaker 1Use a cock ring to heighten his sensitivity while you tease or throw in some sensation play , use a vibe on him . This is tons of fun , especially when he's restrained . And here's why it works . Toys aren't just props , they are power tools . The right toy pushes him beyond his usual orgasm pattern and reminds him that you're in control of the pleasure dial .
Speaker 1Option three for dialing up your domination is try erotic role play . You're the intern , I'm the boss , you broke the rules and I'm here to punish you . This doesn't need props or costumes , just tone , confidence and a little backstory . Here's why it works . Roleplay creates psychological distance , which means freedom . He gets to explore submission without ego interference and you get to embody your full erotic range .
Speaker 1Option four is erotic denial . Edge him for 20 minutes without letting him come . Tell him I want you to beg , not with words , with your body . Watch how quickly he gives in to your game . Here's why it works . Denial builds anticipation to the point of desperation . Holding him on the edge taps into primal arousal and when you finally get permission , it's next level release . Okay , let's wrap it up . He wants you in charge . Remember , this kind of playful dominance doesn't diminish his masculinity , it enhances it . It lets him feel safe enough to surrender . And when a man surrenders to your pleasure game , you both win and get to enjoy next-level connection , eroticism and orgasms .
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