Do the sex . Welcome to Masturbation Monday with me , annette Benedetti , your host for Locker Room Talk and Chats . This is your invitation to join me for coffee in bed and a candid conversation about the masturbation practice I'm developing to support my mental , physical and emotional health and help manifest my dreams . Masturbation Monday is a guide to self-pleasure , better sex and using the power of the pussy to open new doors to a better life . Today's Talk Sex with Annette topic is do this with your tongue and she'll grab your hair like she means it . Let's
talk about oral sex , not the kind where you go down , swirl your tongue around a few times and hope she gets off . I mean the kind that makes her thighs tremble , the kind that makes her lose time . The kind where your tongue is so locked into her pleasure she ends up grabbing your hair like her life depends on it . She ends up grabbing your hair like her life depends on it . Yeah , that kind . Here's the truth . Most guys treat oral sex like a warm-up act , but the best lovers , they turn it into the main event . They learn the art of using their mouth , tongue , lips , breath as an instrument of obsession , and today I'm going to teach you how . This episode is all about technique clear , real world , no BS . Strategies for going down on a woman in a way that actually works with her body , not just what porn taught you . But before we dive in , I want to remind you that I'm on OnlyFans , where I am sharing my sex and intimacy how-to videos and demonstrations , along with audio-guided self-pleasure meditations , all designed to help you start having better sex and intimacy . Tonight , you can find me over there with the handle at TalkSexWithAnette . You can also find me on Substack , where I'm doing a lot of the same , and I'm also there with the handle at TalkSexWithAnette . You can also find me on Substack , where I'm doing a lot of the same , and I'm also there under the handle at TalkSexWithAnette . And , of course , you can always scroll down to the notes below this episode , and you're going to find links to everywhere you might want to find me below . So if you are ready to learn more about how to make her go wild with your mouth , let's go down Cheers .
Speaker 1Here's why oral sex isn't optional anymore . Real talk women are over selfish lovers period . According to a 2022 study from the Archives of Sexual Behavior . 2022 study from the Archives of Sexual Behavior , 95% of heterosexual men say they usually orgasm during sex , but only 65% of heterosexual women do . That is the orgasm gap . So one of the main reasons for this phenomena is not enough oral or not enough good oral , because clitoral stimulation , which oral is perfect for , is the number one way most women get off . 75% of women can only climax this way or need it
as part of the process . So if you're skipping oral , you're skipping her pleasure , and if you're doing it wrong , you might be doing more harm than good . But when you get it right , she doesn't just enjoy it , she starts fantasizing about it when you're not around . So here are five tongue moves that you can use during oral sex that are going to leave her shaking and wanting more . Let's break them down .
Speaker 1The first oral sex technique that I'm going to teach you is the flat press and flip . Forget the pointy tongue darting all over the place . That's absolute chaos , not pleasure , and women by and large hate this approach . Here's what to do instead . First , flatten your tongue and gently press it against her clit . Apply steady , consistent pressure , not too hard . Flick the tip of your tongue up and down or side to side in small motions Think controlled , not frantic . Has over 8,000 nerve endings and most are just beneath the surface , not deep inside . Fast , hard movements
can actually overstimulate and number out or even cause pain , but that flat , rhythmic contact activates nerve endings without overwhelming them , creating a slow build to orgasm . So , pro tip , don't change the rhythm when she gets close . That's when you lock it in and let her ride it out to the end .
Speaker 1On how to touch a clit you have probably already heard about this technique to some extent , because I talked about it as a fingering technique on that episode . But we're going to talk about how to do this with your tongue . So , instead of going in random circles , trace a figure eight over her clit and the surrounding areas . How to do it ? Start at the top of her clit and move to one side , down to the base and over to the other side and back up . Keep it going slow and sensual , like you're writing in cursive . Here's why it works . First , you're stimulating more surface area , including the clitoral hood and the outer labia . You avoid numbing out the clit while keeping her guessing , which keeps the anticipation high . So
here's a pro tip you don't have to do it perfectly , just do it intentionally . This isn't handwriting class , this is sex . Keep it fun .
Speaker 1The third tongue technique that you can use during oral sex to make it an otherworldly experience is the suction and seal . This is one of my personal favorites Lick first , then use your lips to gently suck , like you're pulling her into your mouth but not biting her off . Here are the steps Wrap your lips softly around the clit . Create a light seal . Alternate suction with gentle flicks of your tongue while holding her in your mouth . Here's why it works . Suction increases blood flow , heightening sensitivity . Your mouth is acting like a clit pump . The combination of pressure and wetness triggers the deep pressure
receptors around the clitoris , amplifying arousal . This is often where you'll hear her breathing shift or her hips will start to grind .
Speaker 1Okay , the fourth technique you can use during oral sex to next level the experience is tongue , the underrated zones , the ones we never talk about . Here's a move most people miss Work the whole vulva , not just the clit . So many people get hyper fixated on the clit and they're missing out on pleasure zones that can next level her experience . So try this Trace your tongue slowly along the inner labia . They are full of nerve endings that rarely get attended to . Gently circle the vaginal opening . This will start to wake up her G-spot
and pay attention to the perineum , that area between her vagina and anus . Light pressure and what looks there can send her over the edge . Here's why it works . Most women enjoy being touched in multiple spots , just not one overused area . According to research in the Journal of Sex Research , variety and stimulation leads to stronger , more memorable orgasms , and you want her to remember so .
Speaker 1The fifth technique that you can add to your oral sex routine that she will definitely not forget , if you do correctly , is adding fingers Once she's aroused and only then add one or two lubricated fingers inside . Then match the rhythm of your tongue with the motion of your fingers . Try curving the fingers upward toward the G-spot . Grind your tongue slowly against the clit while your fingers do small , small come hither motions inside . You can even just do light tapping against that G-spot . That will get her attention . So here's why it works . You are stimulating external and internal hotspots simultaneously . This combination is how many women experience blended orgasms Clitoral plus G-spot and those orgasms they're some of the most powerful .
So a couple of pro tips here . First of all , ask consent before you add your fingers . Make sure she's ready for you to enter her . When you do insert a finger , do it slowly , just the tip of the fingers . Don't go full force inside of her vagina . It will shut her down quickly . So just the tip slowly . You can increase step as she begins to thrust . And here's one of my favorite pro tips Add moaning while you are going down on her , because your mouth plus your moans equals vibration and wow , you know she loves her vibrators . So it's only going to help , not hurt . So here are my final tips on what not to do Don't be sloppy just to seem enthusiastic .
Speaker 1Don't switch up moves every 10 seconds . Consistency wins . Don't get offended if she guides you . Her body is the expert . Listen to what she needs to get fully aroused and have that unforgettable experience with you . Do watch her breathing . Do watch her body's responses and what they're trying to tell you to do next . What they're trying to tell you to do next . Do let her grind against your face that hot and do anchor your hands on her
thighs to stay steady when she starts to move . Otherwise you might get bucked right off the perfect spots to bring her to that incredible climax .
Speaker 1So here's my challenge to you Tonight I want you to make her forget where she is . Let your mouth become a memory . Use your tongue with intention , with reverence , with hunger , and when she starts to fall apart , stay steady , because this isn't about giving oral . This is about giving her a reason to come back to you again and again , because no one else knows her body like you do . Master this , and she won't forget the way your tongue made her fill . Not tonight , not next week , not ever .
Speaker 1So if you have any questions about what I have shared with you in this video , make sure to send them to me . If you are on my YouTube channel at TalkSexWithAnette , you can scroll down to the comments section and drop your question . If you are a listener and you want to get in touch with me , you can email me at Annette , at TalkSexWithAnettecom . You can also scroll down to the notes section of this podcast and send me a voice note on SpeakPipe . And if you are looking for a cheerleader , someone to support you on your own sex and intimacy journey , your pleasure journey with yourself or with somebody else , my books are open . I am offering intimacy and sex coaching . You can find out more about that at TalkSexForTheNetcom . I would love to help you on your journey , because pleasure is your birthright and I want to help you claim it . So , listeners until next time . I'll see you in the locker room . Cheers .