Do the sex pleasure and desire Around here . Nothing's off limits . These are the kinds of conversations we save for our boldest group chats , our most trusted friends and , of course , the women's locker room . Think raw , honest and sometimes unapologetically raunchy . If you've been here from the beginning , thank you . And if you're new , welcome to my podcast . Where desire meets disruption and pleasure becomes power . Now let's talk about sex Cheers . Today's Talk Sex with Annette . Topic is how to ride like you own him .
Speaker 1Cowgirl moves that make you unforgettable . Let's get one thing straight Cowgirl isn't just a change of pace , it's not just the take a break position . It's one of the most powerful , orgasmic and memorable ways to have sex . When you know what you're doing and if you're thinking . But I always feel awkward on top , or it never really does anything for me , or I get tired from bouncing too much you've just never been taught what a ride for your own pleasure . Because here's the truth when you know how to use your hips , your breath and the unique shape of your partner's body to your advantage , you're not just giving a show , you're unlocking your own orgasmic potential . And the data backs it up . Research in the Journal of Sexual Medicine shows that when people with vulvas take control of the angle and the rhythm during sex , like in cowgirl their chances of orgasm goes way up . Another study found that cowgirl creates ideal conditions for both clitoral and G-spot stimulation , and when these two get activated together , you're talking next level , full body release . And here's the best part it doesn't just feel incredible , it's hot to watch , it's hot to feel and it's hot to be part of .
Speaker 1So whether you're the one writing or you're the one being written , this episode is going to show you exactly how to turn cowgirl into your signature move . But before we dive in , I want to remind you that I'm over on OF and there I'm sharing my sex and intimacy how-tos , demonstrations and audio-guided self-pleasure meditations , all designed to help you on your own pleasure journey , whether that journey is with yourself or with somebody else . You can also find me on Substack doing so much of the same and more , and you can find me at both places with my handle at TalkSexWithAnette . Of course , you can always scroll down to the notes in this episode and find me wherever you want to below . But for now , let's talk about how to ride like a cowgirl who knows what she is doing Cheers . So let's talk about why riding can feel so damn good .
Speaker 1Cowgirl is one of the most pleasure-rich positions , especially for vulva owners , because it gives access to all the right angles without sacrificing rhythm or connection . It's customizable , adaptable , perfect for teasing , controlling or surrendering . When you're on top , you control depth , pace , angle , pressure and rhythm . That means you can hit your clit and your G-spot at once , find the stroke pattern that builds your orgasm slowly and , bonus , put on a show while doing it all . And that show is not about performing
for your partner , it's about embodying your pleasure so fully that they can't look away .
Speaker 1So what's really getting in the way of women enjoying cowgirl Confidence ? Let's talk about the elephant in the bedroom . Being on top can feel awkward . Maybe you're worried about how you look . Maybe your thighs start shaking and you feel like you're doing it wrong . Maybe you're trying to ride like some hyper-flexible porn star and you end up feeling ridiculous . Here's your permission slip to let that shit go . Confidence on top has nothing to do with choreography . It's about knowing what feels good to you and letting that lead the way . So before we dive into technique , remember this You're not trying to impress anyone . You're exploring what your body likes and when you let yourself enjoy being on top , really lean into it . That's what makes it hot . So here's the technique breakdown Four cowgirl moves that hit different . Let's get to the good part how to actually ride in ways that feel amazing and leave a lasting impression .
Speaker 1Here are four powerful , pleasure-maximized cowgirl variations . Each one delivers something different and together they give you a full body menu of how to ride like you own it . The first variation is the rocker , aka the grind . This one is all about clit control . The setup is this your knees are wide , you're facing him , thighs straddling your partner . Body is slightly forward , so your pelvis presses into theirs . The movement is this Don't bounce , grind . Move your hips forward and back or in slow circles ,
think pelvic waves , not up and down . Here's why it works . This gives you direct contact between your clit and their pubic bone , or a toy , while still stimulating your G-spot internally . And bonus , if your partner stays still , you get to create the rhythm that builds exactly the way your body needs it . This is a favorite for blended orgasms clit and internal at the same time .
Speaker 1The second variation is the bounce , aka deep stroke , porn star moment . This one's visual , intense and can deliver deep pressure right where you want it . The setup is this You're going to sit up straight , facing your partner , right where you want it . The setup is this You're going to sit up straight , facing your partner , feet flat on either side of your partner's hips . Use your legs like you're in a squat . You can place your hands on his or her chest for more balance . The movement is a controlled lift and drop . Just a few inches is plenty . You're not launching off the bed or on a trampoline . Here's why it works . The squat position changes your pelvic angle , gives access to deep parts of the vaginal canal and lets you use the full length of their shaft . Use it in short bursts . You well get tired . Alternate between bouncing and grinding . And if you really want to drive your partner wild , lock eyes , slow it down and say something filthy .
Speaker 1Variation number three is the swivel , aka tease and tangle . This one's hypnotic and so underrated . The setup is this You're going to sit fully down on them , facing them , chest , either upright or slightly forward , sometimes more forward than not . Your hips are pressed flush with theirs . The movement is this Make slow , steady circles with your hips or figure eights . Keep your pelvis connected the entire time . Here's why it works . It creates pressure along the entire vaginal wall . It's less cardio and more sensual , and it can help you reach orgasm without ever breaking contact . Want to go deeper ? Add clit stimulation while you swivel fingers , toy whatever makes your body hum , and I may have saved what some might argue is the best for last .
Speaker 1The reverse ride , aka control from behind , or reverse cowgirl . This one flips the script and lets you play with dominance or submission , depending on your mood . The setup is that you're going to face away from your partner . You can lean forward onto their legs or keep your torso upright , whatever feels good . The movement can be a rock , a bounce , a swivel , alternate between all of them . Here's why it works . It changes the angle of penetration and it gives your partner a whole new sexy , hot view . And it also lets you lean into role play or any power dynamic you want . Big bonus is because their legs are a little bit apart , in front of you , you get access to your clit . It leaves space for you to bring a toy in . You can use some clit vibration or clit suction to help bring you to that next level orgasmic experience .
Speaker 1In this position you can be in control , guiding the pace , or you can surrender riding their cock because you want to give them a show . Hand over the control and let them control the pace . That can be super hot too . Pace , that can be super hot too . Also , if you lean forward a little bit , it gives them space to indulge in some anal play . Or put a butt plug in ahead of time . They will get a great view while enjoying the internal pressure that the anal plug provides to them , while pleasuring you as well . This position is sexy , primal and extremely high reward .
Speaker 1So now let's talk about layering the energy , not just the moves . Writing isn't just about technique , it's about energy . If you want to take it from great sex to I'll never forget that night , add these in One eye contact that says I know exactly what I'm doing . Two , breath syncing , let your rhythm lead and let them follow . Three , dirty talk . It can be soft and dominant , submissive , whispered , whatever feels hot in the moment . Four , toy play , especially clit section , or vibrators like the Womanizer . Next , while grinding , and again , I've already mentioned some butt plugs , something to give them a little bit of a show . And then finally , power play .
You can ride with control or you can ride because they told you to . Both are hot , neither cancels the other out and if you ever feel unsure , come back to this . You're allowed to look messy , sound , hungry , move however you want . Allowed to look messy , sound , hungry , move however you want , because that's what real confidence on top looks like and that's what makes writing unforgettable For them and for you . If you want to turn things up even more , let's talk .
Speaker 1Kink Cowgirl is a perfect position to play with power . Whether you want to dominate , surrender or explore both , here's how to kink it up without even changing positions For a dominant cowgirl . Pin your partner's wrist down , maintain eye contact and say things like you take what I give you , control the pace , edge them , ride slow and then make them beg . You can take them right to the brink of orgasm . Pause While you're pausing , touch your clit , pleasure yourself and ask them to say please For a submissive cowgirl on top . Ask them how do you want me to move ? Tell them to tell you what to do . Let them guide your hips , wear a blindfold , a collar or simply surrender with intention . Then there's the verbal kinks In this position , they are the chef's .
Speaker 1Kiss to the experience . For praise , say things like you feel so good inside of me . For degradation , you can say you're lucky , I let you fuck me like this at all . If you're teasing , you can say something like is this what you wanted ? Just keep it consensual , playful and hot . Have a discussion about kink in advance if you plan on including it in your play . Consent is a must always . And of course , you can add toys and accessories , which I've already mentioned . You can use a clip vibe or suction toy . You can use a remote control plug or vibe for dual stimulation . Hand over a little control to your partner . There are always restraints . Tie them up before you ride them . Blindfolds or temperature play , if that's your thing . The options are endless for pleasure and connection .
Speaker 1In this position , bottom line riding doesn't have to mean taking the lead or giving it up . You get to decide what power looks like and feels like on top . Let's tie it all together and make the ride unforgettable . Here's the truth . Cowgirl doesn't have to be bouncy , awkward or intimidating . It can be slow , teasing , dominant , surrendered , filthy or soft . It can be for your orgasm , for their obsession or both . What makes it unforgettable isn't the moves , it's how present you are in your body , it's the eye contact , the sounds , the confidence , knowing that you're giving and taking at the same time , whether you're grinding slow with your clip pressed in tight , bouncing deep with your head thrown back , or teasing them with a twist of your hips and a wicked little grin . This is your ride . Own it . They
are going to love it . So here is your challenge for the week from me Pick one of the moves from this episode and write it like you mean it .
Speaker 1Own the pace , breathe into it , feel what feels good and take more of it . And if you're ready to kink it up , try one of the power dynamics we talked about Play , explore , see what turns you on . Then come back and tell me what happened , leave a review , dm me or , better yet , send this to a friend who needs to level up their game . And if you're looking for some help on your own pleasure journey a coach , a cheerleader , a wing woman , if you will , my coaching books are open . You can connect with me via email at annette , at talksexwithannettecom , and we'll figure out how to get you on a path to more pleasure in your life and or your relationship . You can also find out more about my coaching at at TalkSexWithAnnettecom . Until next time , take your time , ride with intention and , as always , remember pleasure is your birthright . Now , go out there and get it until next time . I'll see y'all in the locker room . Cheers .