Do the sex pleasure and desire Around here . Nothing's off limits . These are the kinds of conversations we save for our boldest group chats , our most trusted friends and , of course , the women's locker room . Think raw , honest and sometimes unapologetically raunchy . If you've been here from the beginning , thank you . And if you're new , welcome to my podcast . Where desire meets disruption and pleasure becomes power . Now let's talk about sex Cheers . Today's Talk Sex with Annette .
Speaker 1Topic is how to fuck from the bottom and still dominate them in whatever dynamic you choose dynamic you choose . In this episode , I'm flipping a tired cliche on its back , literally , and helping you reclaim the position we were taught to just lie there in , because dominance and submission , well , that's not about where your body is , it's a mindset . Today we are rewriting the rules on one of the most underrated and most misjudged sex positions out there Missionary . Now , before you roll your eyes at the position blamed for everything from dead fish sex to men just mounting and pumping away , stay with me because I'm about to show you how missionary can become a true power position , one that invites playful kink , deeper emotional connection and more intense pleasure than you thought possible . Yes , you can fuck like a goddess and run the whole damn show while lying flat on your back , and when you do it right , you'll blow their mind and remind them exactly who's in charge . But before we dive in , let me remind you that I'm over on OnlyFans and there I'm sharing my intimacy , how-tos , my audio guided self-pleasure , meditations and so much more all designed to help you start having better sex tonight and more pleasure than you ever thought you could . I'm also over on Substack doing a whole lot of the same , and you can find me in both places with my handle at TalkSexWithAnette . You can also scroll down to the notes in this podcast episode and you're going to find links to everywhere you can find me that you'd want to find me .
Speaker 1But for now , let's dive in to missionary and how it can be a position that lets you dominate them in ways they never thought possible Cheers . So let's start with why missionary is a sleeper dom move . We've been taught to associate power with being on top , but here's what I want you to understand Control isn't about movement , it's about intention . Being on the bottom doesn't mean giving it power . It means you can take it silently , sensually and with devastating precision , because when you're beneath them , you're not just receiving , you're recalibrating the entire experience . You get to slow things down , shift angles , drag out their orgasm and keep them guessing , and while they think they're calling the shots , you're the one setting the rules with your hips , with your voice , with your gaze , with your grip .
Studies from the Journal of Sexual Marital Therapy show that the most satisfying sex happens when partners are attuned physically and emotionally , responding to each other in real time , and when you're on the bottom , fully aware , fully present and guiding the rhythm with your body . Fully aware , fully present and guiding the rhythm with your body . That's not passive , that's power . So let's break down six ways you can take control from below and leave them wondering how missionary went from meth to mind-blowing .
Speaker 1Number one let's start with a power tilt . Control the angle , control them . So , starting with your pelvis , most of us are taught to lay flat and let our partner thrust , but the real power move is in the tilt of the pelvis . Tilt your pelvis slightly up . I want you to imagine this as a slow offering , not a surrender . Tilt up and subtly grind , not a lot , just enough , so that you're the one guiding the depth and angle . So why does this work ? Because this little tilt does three things . One it pulls his shaft or dildo against your G-spot . Number two it presses your clit into your partner's pubic bone Hello , external clitoral stimulation . And , most importantly , it forces them to adjust to you . They can't just keep jackhammering when you change the rhythm . And look science facts this up . Studies show that women who adjust their own pelvic movement during penetration are more likely to reach orgasm . You're engaging the exact nerve endings that respond to pressure and rhythm , not fast friction . This is how you quietly take control . They think they're leading , but they're just following your grind .
Speaker 1Number two is eye contact plus eye candy . I'm talking about the gaze that governs them . I want to talk about what I personally love best about being on bottom . It's the view . Seriously , from below you get the best seat in the house . You can take in every inch of their body , their chest , their arms , the way their abs tighten , the flush rising up the neck and , best of all , you get to watch as their face changes when they realize you're not just beneath them , you're in control , and you're fucking them like a . You're in control and you're fucking them like a goddess or a pleasure dom , whichever one you prefer . And research shows that eye contact during sex increases dopamine and oxytocin , both of which make the experience feel deeper , more emotional and more unforgettable
. So don't close your eyes and disappear . Keep them wide open , stay in the moment , take it all in and allow yourself to enjoy and feel the visual stimulation . When you stay connected , with eyes locked and moan with purpose and greedy want , it lets them know you're not just present , you're the one conducting the entire scene .
Speaker 1Number three is the wraparound grip , aka the lockdown , depending on how strong your legs are . We're going to get your legs in the game here . You're going to wrap them high around his waist or cross them behind his lower back and pull him in . Your legs aren't just accessories , they're anchors . When you tighten around him , you're not clinging , you're containing . You control depth , you control thrust , you dictate if he's going to be shallow or deep , slow or not at all . If you want to tease him , pull him in , hold him tight , then stop all motion . Let him feel the tension and then whisper . Stay right there , don't move until I say this is where domination becomes physical and psychological . You're using your body like a
rope and he's tied to your pace . And , by the way , this kind of control creates internal friction that lights up the anterior vaginal wall , meaning more stimulation for you and more heat for him .
Speaker 1Bonus move use your feet , slide them down his back , press the soles against his thighs or his calves , depending on your heights and how your bodies come together . This allows you to anchor him and choose the tilt of your hips that works for you or drives him while , or if your legs are around his shoulders , you can use your feet to cup and pull him deeper , or press against his chest to push him away . Play with placement and control . The arch of your foot is surprisingly central , especially when you press it against his skin and hold him there . The psychology of that foot pressure . It adds just a little touch of kink , a silent reminder that even your toes are involved in the game and you are using every inch of your body to guide , contain and control them .
Speaker 1So number four is verbal control , Using your voice as a leash . Now , this one is crucial . You're going to need to talk to your partner , whisper , command , tease , guide , but don't be silent , because from the bottom , your voice carries a different kind of power . When they hear you take control , especially from a position that looks submissive , it flips a switch . Try this , say slower , I want to feel every inch , or no , stop right there , stay still , or you don't get to come . Yet I'm not done using you . It's unexpected , it's sexy and it sends a clear message this is your body and you're lucky to be in it . Science backs this too . Verbal feedback
heightens arousal in both partners and increases orgasm success rates . So don't just think it , say it and say it like you mean it . Now this can take practice . I've gone over dirty talk again and again and again it takes practice . I have a whole podcast episode on that . I'll make sure to link it below so that you can get some great tips , not only for myself , but also a kink expert , and once you watch that , you'll be dirty talking like a pro .
Speaker 1Number five is the edging trap . It's kind of like seductive torture If you want to really dominate them from below , edge them . You're watching their body , you're tuned in to their rhythm and just when they get close , grip them tighter , tilt your pelvis , look them dead in the eye and say not yet . Then grind slow , soft , controlled , pull them into you , only to pause and watch them squirm . From this position , edging becomes a mind game . You can control their pleasure , you stretch out their orgasm until it's completely yours , and when they do finally come , they'll never forget how you did it .
Speaker 1Number six is another one of my favorites . It's the click command . They get to
watch , wait and obey . This one is simple , sexy and incredibly effective . While they're inside of you , especially in missionary , you have full access to your external clip , and that means one thing you get to show them exactly how you come . Slide your hand down , grab a toy , or even just circle your hips and say don't come , not until I do . Watch me . Then touch yourself , move their hips the way you need them to verbalize what you need them to do , what rhythm you want , and use your free hand or your thighs to keep them in lockstep with your building climax . Make them stay right there .
Speaker 1The intensity of this is off the charts for both of you , and here's why it works . Visually , watching you bring yourself to orgasm is wildly arousing . Men in particular are wired to respond to visual sexual cues , and when that cue is , you writhing underneath them , touching yourself , eyes locked , using their body with pleasure for yourself . That's next level heat . Second , it can be really hot to be watched while you're getting off . You are the object of desire . You are turning them on . You are the show and it is making them go crazy . So if you like to be watched , this is the power move in missionary position .
Speaker 1Number three psychologically flips the whole script . He is used to being the one performing right Remember that eye candy that I mentioned before . Now he's the one being used for your orgasm and finally , biologically , your orgasm . And finally , biologically , stimulating your clit during penetration increases blood flow , orgasm intensity and your chance of having that beautiful blended orgasm , one that activates both internal and external nerve endings . When you come first to make him wait , watch and match your pace , you establish total erotic dominance without ever raising your voice . And when you finally say and match your pace , you establish total erotic dominance without ever raising your voice . And when you finally say , now you can come , you're not just giving him permission , you're giving him the performance of a lifetime and the orgasm of yours . Before I wrap this up , I'm going to give you a little bonus tip . I think it's super hot and if you are someone who likes to be a little subby , you're going to love it too .
Speaker 1This is when submission is dominance in disguise , because , let's get real , sometimes being submissive feels sexy as fuck , even when we don't really want to give up control . That's right . Sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is choose to submit . This isn't passive . This is you slipping into a submissive role with full awareness and still holding the reins . You're not being dominated . You're performing submission as a way to control the scene from a different angle .
Speaker 1So try this . Tell them tonight I want to be yours , but don't tell them they're still going to be following your rules . That line alone tells them everything they need to know . Remember this is your game . So let your body soften , let them think
they're leading , but stay fully present . Use your breath , your moans , your expressions to guide them . Respond , but deliberately . Arch into their touch , but only when you want to Whimper . When it serves the moon , maintain eye contact like it's command .
Speaker 1This is conscious submission , it's control through surrender , it's kink , it's dominance and it's the kind of power that doesn't need to shout because it's felt . So here's your mission the next time you're underneath your partner , don't just be there . Dominate from the bottom , tilt your hips , lock your legs , speak your needs , hold their gaze and say you're mine until I say otherwise . This isn't about flipping positions . This is about flipping the script , because sometimes the person on the bottom is the one pulling all the strings . Give it a try and tell me how it goes .
Speaker 1You can do that by going to my YouTube channel . If you're just a listener , you can find me there at TalkSexWithAnette , and you can drop your comment , your thought , your question , in the comment section below the video . You can also email me at Annette at TalkSexWithAnnettecom . And remember , if you are on your own pleasure journey , whether with a partner or simply in reclamation of your own sensual power , and you're looking for a sidekick , a wing woman , a cheerleader , if you will , my sex and intimacy coaching books are open and you can find out more about that by going to my website it's talksexwithanettecom , or you can email me at annette at talksexwithanettecom . So get out there , get on your back and own your pleasure . Let me know how it goes , let me know what you think about this video and if it's helped you at all , reclaim a position that has really gotten a bad rep over the years . And until next time I'll see you guys in the locker room . Cheers .