Do the sex pleasure and desire Around here . Nothing's off limits . These are the kinds of conversations we save for our boldest group chats , our most trusted friends and , of course , the women's locker room . Think raw , honest and sometimes unapologetically raunchy . If you've been here from the beginning , thank you , and if you're new , welcome to my podcast . Where desire meets disruption and pleasure becomes power . Now let's talk about sex Cheers . Today's Talk Sex with Annette .
Speaker 1Topic is how to make quickies feel like the best sex of her life . Quickies have a reputation problem . Most people think of them as rushed , sloppy or just good enough . But here's the thing when you learn how to do them right , a quickie can actually be the most intense intimacy of your life . Why ? Because urgency heightens desire , anticipation spikes brain chemistry and the right moves can make 10 minutes feel like a full-on fantasy . Quickies aren't just backup intimacy . They can be hotter , more memorable and more addictive than an all-night session . And let's be real , everyone's busy . If you only wait for long drawn-out nights to have sex , intimacy suffers . But if you know how to make quickies feel unforgettable , you'll connect more often , keep her craving you and make your intimate life way hotter . By the end of this you'll know the science of why quickies work , the mistakes that ruin them and a step-by-step playbook to turn a 10-minute quickie into the sex she can't stop thinking about . But before we dive in , I want to remind you that I'm over on OnlyFans and there I am sharing sex and intimacy , how-to videos and audio-guided self-pleasure meditations and so much more . You can find me there by my handle at TalkSexWithAnette . You can also find me over on Substack doing a whole lot of the same and by the same handle at TalkSexWithAnette . You can also find me over on Substack doing a whole lot of the same and by the same handle at TalkSexWithAnette . But of course , you can scroll down to the notes in this episode and you're going to find links everywhere you want to find me . So I'll be looking forward to seeing you there . But for now , let's dive in and let's talk about how to make quickies the best sex of her life Cheers .
Speaker 1Okay , let's start with understanding the science of quickies . Here's what happens in her body during a quickie when it's done right . First , dopamine is released . Anticipation of pleasure fires up the reward center of the brain . Second , adrenaline is dumped , the sense of urgency increases , excitement and sensitivity . And then , finally , oxytocin flows , even in short encounters . Eye contact and touch release the bonding hormones that deepen connection . Did you know that studies show that couples who mix longer intimate sessions with quickies
report higher overall satisfaction ? Why ? Because novelty and we-can't-wait energy strengthens arousal pathways in the brain . Quickies tap into novelty and urgency the exact things that make intimacy unforgettable . So we have to talk about quickies and what people do wrong during them .
Speaker 1Most quickies fail because people confuse speed with urgency . So here are three things that can kill the moment . Number one immediate penetration Without arousal . Buildup , vaginal lubrication and blood flow lag behind , which leads to discomfort or even pain and not pleasure . Number two too much pressure on the clit too soon . The clitoris has 8,000 nerve endings . Hitting it raw and without buildup can feel raw and overwhelming , not arousing . And number three treating it like lesser intimacy . If you act like it doesn't matter , her body won't invest either . Research shows that arousal takes 20 minutes for women and people with vulvas , and this is versus the seven minutes it takes for men and people with penises . But here's the hack you can shortcut that time by priming her mind and body before the quickie . If you skip arousal , the quickie will flop . Science says her body needs prep before you dive in . So prep her before you try to dive in . Here's how to prime her mind and her body before the quickie . This is where most of you are missing the mark . A quickie doesn't start when the clothes come off . It starts hours earlier , and I know that I talk about this all of the time in the how-to videos , but this is really the key to success if you want to have incredible intimacy . So here's how to get her body and brain wet and primed before you even touch her .
Speaker 1Number one plant the fantasy . Send her short , non-explicit messages throughout the day . So an example is 10 minutes . That's
all I need with you later . Or I keep thinking about how I'm going to take you when I walk in , the little sounds you'll make , how your lips will taste . The little sounds you'll make , how your lips will taste . No-transcript which neuroscience shows , is more powerful than a fully scripted , explicit message from you .
Speaker 1Number two trigger her senses . Mention how she smelled , how her skin felt , or the sound she made the last time . Sensory memory reactivates physical arousal . Her body responds as if it's happening . So as she hears or reads these words bringing up those moments , her body reacts as if it's happening right then and right there , which means she can lubricate upon reading or hearing what you're saying . So trigger her senses and her body will respond before you've even touched her . That's the bottom line .
Speaker 1Number three use environmental cues . Turn everyday moments into foreplay . Brush her wrist while handing her a glass , whisper at her neck while she's cooking , or give a slow smile and walk away . Small dopamine hits stack up . And then four you're going to touch without taking . Run your fingers lightly along her lower back , but don't escalate . Research on anticipatory arousal shows delayed gratification spikes dopamine higher than instant rewards . So next , you're going to get her body ready for the quickie without rushing . Now you're in the moment .
Speaker 1Here's how to get her primed , wet and ready fast , without killing the vibe .
Engage in sensual kissing . Slow , hungry kisses increase blood flow and release oxytocin which accelerates readiness . Next , give attention to the neck , ears and inner thighs . These areas are loaded with nerve endings tied to the vagus nerve , which bypasses the brain's filters and signals to the body to relax and open . And then , finally , you're going to tease .
Speaker 1Don't grab Tease Trace along the outline of her underwear or graze the inside of her thigh . Research shows that teasing touch increases pelvic blood flow faster than direct clitoral stimulation . Here's a hot tip Don't go straight for the clit . Tease her body first . It's science Indirect touch builds arousal faster than direct pressure . Here are a couple of unique hacks Whisper at her ear while sliding your hand almost up to her clothes . Then pull back or have her grind against your thigh . Pressure plus friction wake up the clitoris without overstimulating it . Another option is to guide her hand onto you first , giving her control spikes her dopamine and puts her in chase mode .
Speaker 1Perhaps most importantly , don't forget to choose quickie-friendly positions . Once her body is ready , go straight to positions that maximize intensity . Here are three positions that are almost guaranteed to work . Number one standing doggy style against a wall . This allows for deep penetration , fast rhythm , primal energy . It also gives both of you access to her clitoris for her stimulation and pleasure . The next position is the bent over the bed edge . This allows for the perfect angle for G-spot stimulation and it gives easy access to her clit for both of you . And then , finally , there is the seated straddle
With clothes half on . This position allows for an intimate grind plus full eye contact and the ability to make out . So pick positions that give instant intensity Wall the bed edge or the straddle edge , or the straddle . This next tip is super important and it's going to lock in your success potential .
Speaker 1When you have a quickie , it's all about stacking sensations . So to make 10 minutes feel like 60 , use layering . So you're going to layer sensations like clit touch plus penetration or dirty talk and eye contact with clitoral stimulation or a strong grip on her waist , plus a slow grind before speeding up . Stacked sensations activate multiple arousal pathways at once . Stacked sensations activate multiple arousal pathways at once , which automatically increases your likelihood of bringing her to that big , beautiful O in under 10 minutes . Finally , you want to end with an afterglow . Look , don't ruin it by rushing out . Hold her , kiss her , whisper that was just a taste , or I already want more whisper . That was just a taste , or I already want more . The oxytocin release in the aftercare cements the memory of the closeness and craving . It doesn't leave her feeling empty . Empty will end your chances of getting another quickie with her . Just remember it's the afterglow that makes her crave the next quickie . Make sure to check out my episode on the afterglow and what to do after sex to keep her craving you and wanting to come back for more . I will make sure to link it in the notes section of this episode .
Speaker 1So now let's quickly go over what absolutely not to do . Do not talk about the clock . It kills the fantasy . We're not talking about the limited time here . We're just enjoying the limited time . Don't collapse and move on afterwards . It makes it feel transactional and that doesn't feel good to anybody . And don't make it one-sided . Quickies are still for both of you . Her pleasure matters . Here's your challenge this week . Don't treat quickies like throwaway intimacy . Prime her mind , get her body ready , pick one of the best position , stack sensations
. Do that and 10 minutes will feel like the best intimacy of her life . Quickies aren't filler intimacy . They can be the hottest thing you both remember all week long . Give my tips a try and then let me know how it goes .
Speaker 1And remember , if you are looking to improve your intimate life , whether that is with yourself yes , you can have quickies with yourself , I do it quite often or with somebody else . I have my coaching books open right now and I am eager to work with new clients . You can find out more about my coaching services at my website , talksexwithanettecom . If you have singular questions you want answered and you're not quite ready to go into full coaching mode , you can go over to my OF and there I have a menu for single questions that you can ask me . You can get one-offs and really quick one-on-one advice with me there .
Speaker 1Make sure to drop your thoughts , comments , questions in the comment section of this video below . If you are on my audio podcast , you can head over to my YouTube channel at TalkSexWithAnette and you can leave comments there . You can also scroll down to the notes section of this episode and you can click on my speak pipe link . Send me a voicemail or you can email me at Annette at TalkSexForTheNetcom . Until next time , have lots of great quickies , report back and I'll see you in the locker room . Cheers .