Do the sex . I'm Annette Benedetti , host of the podcast formerly known as Locker Room Talkin' Shots . The show has a new name Talk Sex with Annette , but at its core , this is still your locker room . It's where we strip away shame , get curious and speak the unspoken about sex , kink , dating , pleasure and desire . Around here , nothing's off limits . Pleasure and desire Around here , nothing's off limits . These are the kinds of conversations we save for our boldest group chats , our most trusted friends and , of course , the women's locker room . Think raw , honest and sometimes unapologetically raunchy . If you've been here from the beginning , thank you , and if you're new , welcome to my podcast , where desire meets disruption and pleasure becomes power . Now let's talk about sex Cheers .
Speaker 1Today's Talk Sex with Annette topic is seven forbidden moves that actually build more trust and give you more O's in the bedroom . You know what kills intimacy faster than bad technique it's playing it safe . We've been taught that certain things in the bedroom are off limits , too taboo , too risky , too out there . But here's the truth . Those so-called forbidden moves might actually be the key to creating more connection , more trust and more unforgettable intimacy . And here's the kicker this episode is your primer for Kinktober , also known as Locktober . Yep .
Speaker 1All October I'm going to be dropping kinky
guides , tutorials and explorations that go way beyond the basics . If you want to get them , first make sure you're signed up for my e-newsletter . That's where I'll be sharing everything from spicy beginner guides to advanced deep dives , and you can sign up for my e-newsletter by scrolling down to the links in the description of this episode , and there you're going to find a link to my e-newsletter . But today I'm going to be giving you a grab bag of forbidden moves . Some are sensual , some are flirtatious and some are downright adventurous , but all are backed by science . And , the best part , you don't have to pick just one . You can add these in slowly , mix and match and see which ones make your intimate connection explode . But before we dive in , I want to remind you that I'm over on OnlyFans and there I am sharing my sex and intimacy demos , audio guided self-pleasure meditations and so much more . I am also now offering some one-on-one sex and intimacy coaching over on OnlyFans . If you are not ready to commit to a full coaching regimen , you can send me your one-off questions and get them answered there , so you can get there with my handle . At TalkSexWithAnnette , you can also scroll down and find a link to get you there . You can also find me over on Substack doing a whole lot of the same thing , minus the coaching . So you can find me there also by my handle at TalkSexWithAnette and again , scroll down and you're going to find me everywhere you want to find me in the links provided below .
Speaker 1But for now , let's dive in and get you started
with some simple , entry-level forbidden moves that are guaranteed to level up your sex life , starting tonight , cheers . The first taboo move that is going to start adding some spice to your life and get it primed for Kingtober is the consent contract . Think of this as dirty talk meets a safety net . Before you touch anything , you both say what you want to try Maybe a little spice , maybe some gentle restraint , maybe just whispering fantasies you've never admitted out loud . Saying it first doesn't kill the vibe . It actually turns something that feels risky into something deliciously intentional . Something that feels risky into something deliciously intentional . It's like foreplay for the brain . So here's a tip If you don't know where to start . There are tons of consent contracts out there on the internet that list tons of play options , everything from vanilla to heavy kinkster . Just reading through the contract with each other can be an aphrodisiac , while giving you and your partner some inspiring ideas for ways to spice up your intimate life . Here's an important note Creating this contract should be a judgment-free zone . For instance , find out your partner has a foot fetish . Don't yuck their yum . Use it as an excuse to go get a new pedicure and explore their body with something other than your hands , or give them a plate . I'm not quite ready to go there yet . So the science behind why the consent contract is so exciting for a relationship is that explicit consent activates your prefrontal cortex , the decision making hub that reduces fear responses and lets the body focus on pleasure instead of defense .
Speaker 1So taboo move number two that is going to start lighting up your intimate life is temperature tease . There's nothing quite like running an ice cube across warm skin , then following it with the heat of your palm , or flip it . Use a warm washcloth and chase it with something cool . It's sensory whiplash in the best way . Start slow , let her skin adjust and watch goosebumps spread everywhere . Now here's one of my favorite tips . You can start by experimenting with a warm massage candle , like this pheromone-packed one from Eye of Love . It's called Matchmaker and I personally love it . The heat from the candle . Wax , combined with sensual touch is sure to spice things up . Try dripping the wax on the chest , the lower belly and the inner thighs , then let your hands do the exploration there . Add in a little ice play and you're bound to experience some explosive intimacy . The science behind why temperature play is so erotic is that thermal receptors in your skin respond most strongly to contrast . Cold and heat stimulate different neural pathways , making the sensation more vivid and unforgettable .
Speaker 1Forbidden taboo move . Number three that is sure to light up your playtime in bed is light sensory constraint . A silk scarf around the wrists , hands gently pinned above her head , that moment where she realizes she could move if she wants to , but chooses not to . It feels a little dangerous , but it's actually gentle . The thrill comes from surrendering just enough to feel safe and excited . So the science behind why this is so sexy is that safer restraint calms the nervous system in a similar way to weighted blankets , pairing vulnerability with comfort . The combo lowers cortisol , the stress hormone , and releases oxytocin . You get to start bonding .
Speaker 1Forbidden taboo move . Number four
is roll illusion . Here's how you bring it into the bedroom . So slip into a different version of yourself for a night . Maybe you're the professor teaching a private lesson , or a stranger at the bar that she shouldn't be flirting with . You don't even need costumes , just shift your voice , attitude , eye contact or energy . It feels like stepping outside of the lines , which is why it's so intoxicating . So the reason why this late role play is so sexy and can start heating things up in bed is that role play activates the brain's mirror neurons , blurring imagination and reality . That overlap , boosts arousal and helps partners see each other in new , exciting ways .
Speaker 1Here's one of my hot tips for you . If you find role play awkward , intimidating , you feel silly trying to act like someone else . Try diving into maybe a different part of yourself . Do you act different in a professional setting , for example , if you have a management role at work , just step into that boss persona and bring it into the bedroom for a hot second . See how she reacts when you start giving her some order . Next thing you know she'll be applying to be your secretary . Yes , please .
Speaker 1The next taboo move to layer into your bedroom life is the forbidden whisper . There's power in a whisper . Lean in lips close to her ear and say something you've never said before or something she'd never expect to hear from you . A secret fantasy , a curious what if I did this to you ? Or a desire you've been holding back . It's the contrast between secrecy and closeness that makes her shiver . So what's the science behind the forbidden whisper that makes it such a turn-on ? Whispering stimulates the auditory cortex and the vagus nerve , creating a whole body
response . Add in adrenaline and oxytocin and you've got intimacy that lingers long after Taboo move number six that's definitely going to next level .
Speaker 1Your intimate life is mirror play . Nothing feels more exposed or hotter than watching yourself get hot together in the mirror . The first glance feels taboo , like you've caught yourself doing something you shouldn't , but once you lean into it , you'll notice her expression , the way your bodies move together and a level of presence that's hard to find anywhere else . Now , why is this such a turn-on ? Mirrors heighten self-awareness , which can amplify arousal when combined with touch . Psych studies show that shared exposure in safe conditions builds both vulnerability and trust , and nothing gives you bigger O's than trust in the bedroom .
Speaker 1And finally , we are to forbidden move number seven controlled denial , pause . Here's the ultimate tease . Start something sensual , get her breathing heavy and then pause just for a beat . Let her body hang in that space where she's begging for more and then dive back in the stop and go is what makes it irresistible . Tension release tension again . The science behind this is solid . Research on delayed gratification shows dopamine spikes higher when reward is delayed . That pause builds a bigger payoff .
Anticipation literally wires the brain for stronger pleasure , and we all want stronger pleasure , right ?
Speaker 1So here's your challenge as we move towards Kinktober pick one forbidden move from this list and try it tonight . And if you're serious about turning up the heat this fall , get on my newsletter list right now . I'll be sending out kinky guides all throughout Kinktober and you won't want to miss them . And look , I'm going to take this challenge a little bit further . Start mixing and matching these moves . See how they play out in one play session . Does she look at you differently afterwards ? I'm betting she will .
Speaker 1You'll also learn a whole lot more about each other , and knowledge in a relationship in bed is power , and that power always converts to pleasure . Give it a try , tell me what you think . Make sure to drop a comment below this video if you're on my YouTube channel at TalkSexWithAnnette . If you're a listener , head on over there , drop your comment , or you can always send me your comments and thoughts to Annette at TalkSexWithAnnette . If you're a listener , head on over there , drop your comment , or you can always send me your comments and thoughts to annette at talksexwithannettecom . You can also scroll down to the notes section below and there you will find my speak pipe and you can send me a voicemail and I will get back to you as soon as possible .
Speaker 1If you are looking for a wing woman , a cheerleader or a coach in your intimate life , my books are open . Reach out to me at Annette at TalkSexWithAnnettecom . We'll set up a time to get together , and if you're not quite ready to commit to a full coaching regimen , head over to my OnlyFans page and there you're not only going to get my demos and my audio guided self-pleasure meditations that are all designed to bring more pleasure to your life . You're also going to have the opportunity for some really quick one-on-one coaching sessions . No commitment , big payoff . You can find me there at TalkSex with an F . So until next time , folks
, I'll see you in the locker room . Cheers .