WEBVTT 00:00:24.000 --> 00:00:24.765 Good morning. 00:00:24.765 --> 00:00:32.700 In just a little over a week, the event that we've all been waiting for is about to happen. 00:00:32.700 --> 00:00:33.232 That's right. 00:00:33.232 --> 00:00:36.232 The first day of school. 00:00:41.165 --> 00:00:46.865 It's the most wonderful time of the year. 00:00:47.633 --> 00:00:49.100 So get in with the kids. 00:00:49.100 --> 00:00:53.700 Jingle belling and everyone telling you be of good cheer. 00:00:53.700 --> 00:00:58.000 So when I was a middle school principal, I would play this over the intercom. 00:00:58.000 --> 00:01:02.332 The first day of school, right before the kids walked in. 00:01:02.332 --> 00:01:08.665 The teachers did not find this nearly as hilarious as I did. 00:01:10.233 --> 00:01:14.965 but today we're going to finish up our series on Grow. 00:01:15.132 --> 00:01:37.566 And I found it a little bit ironic that this series on grow, we're affectionately calling it “Bald Preacher Month” because Colby, Andrew and myself have trouble growing hair, but we are talking about growing as believers. 00:01:37.599 --> 00:01:46.033 Today I'm going to talk with you about, going to drop into my comfort zone a little bit as a school administrator. 00:01:46.033 --> 00:01:53.066 And we're going to talk about this very special day that's about to happen that really affects everybody in here, whether you have children or not. 00:01:53.066 --> 00:02:03.599 You're certainly affected by the traffic that is associated with the public school system, school busses, travel to school and all of that. 00:02:03.599 --> 00:02:14.400 Before I get into that, I just wanted to acknowledge that Pastor John had asked me about, oh, three years ago, I think it was his first summer if I would be interested in speaking on a Sunday morning. 00:02:14.400 --> 00:02:16.665 I had led Vacation Bible School from up here. 00:02:16.665 --> 00:02:21.900 I had the privilege of, leading from up here that week. 00:02:22.199 --> 00:02:25.866 It's something I did not want to do, but I didn't have a good excuse not to do it. 00:02:25.866 --> 00:02:28.165 So I did it, and I really had a good time with it. 00:02:28.165 --> 00:02:29.233 It was a lot of fun. 00:02:29.233 --> 00:02:44.199 John saw me do that and said, hey, would you be interested in speaking on a Sunday morning and like a, like a, you know, good church attender, elder, I said, no way. 00:02:44.199 --> 00:02:47.199 Absolutely not. 00:02:47.532 --> 00:02:54.932 But he planted that seed and he brought it up a couple times, and I changed the subject and said, no, I don't want to do that. 00:02:54.932 --> 00:02:56.400 But then something happened. 00:02:56.400 --> 00:03:01.500 So one Sunday morning, I'm down here like you all see me sometimes receiving people for prayer. 00:03:01.500 --> 00:03:12.265 And on that Sunday morning, I did not walk directly to my seat for, I walked out that back door and I was coming around because I wanted to see somebody that was out in the hallway. 00:03:12.265 --> 00:03:25.466 So I spoke with them, and as I came across the hallway there, I ran into my friend Sue Garrett, and she was in the back and she was speaking with, David Harrison, I believe. 00:03:25.466 --> 00:03:33.400 And she stopped me just and said, Troy, how come the elders never speak on Sunday morning? 00:03:33.400 --> 00:03:35.699 Isn't that the job of an elder? 00:03:35.699 --> 00:03:44.599 One of the roles that an elder should have and it was like God spoke through Sue that day and said, Troy, you need to quit avoiding it and you need to do it. 00:03:44.599 --> 00:03:46.165 So I really appreciate that. 00:03:46.165 --> 00:03:50.500 So that's kind of what led me here this Sunday morning. 00:03:50.500 --> 00:03:58.366 So having said that, if you have any complaints after today, please direct them to Pastor John or Sue Garrett. 00:03:58.966 --> 00:04:06.432 So my overall theme for today is going to be children school, that sort of thing. 00:04:06.432 --> 00:04:10.265 But I'm going to ask you to participate a little bit because I'm an educator by trade. 00:04:10.265 --> 00:04:13.366 So like any good educator, I'm going to ask you to participate a little bit. 00:04:13.366 --> 00:04:25.632 I'm going to ask you to participate later by raising your hand a couple times when I ask you something, but also to verbally interact a little bit, not only with me, but also with the people around you. 00:04:25.632 --> 00:04:27.000 So let's practice here. 00:04:27.000 --> 00:04:30.865 First of all, if you are here today, if you are in the room, raise your hand. 00:04:33.766 --> 00:04:35.000 See? Harmless. 00:04:35.000 --> 00:04:38.565 Now, some of you didn't raise your hand, and I'm a little worried about you, but stick with me, okay? 00:04:38.565 --> 00:04:39.333 It's okay. 00:04:39.333 --> 00:04:41.733 It's okay to raise your hand in church. 00:04:41.733 --> 00:04:44.733 So one more way to practice. 00:04:45.533 --> 00:04:48.533 If you are ready to begin. 00:04:48.966 --> 00:04:53.865 Look at your neighbor and say, all right, I'm ready. 00:04:54.132 --> 00:04:54.865 Very good. 00:04:54.865 --> 00:04:56.300 All right. See? 00:04:56.300 --> 00:04:58.132 You're good to go. 00:04:58.132 --> 00:04:58.932 Let's do this. 00:04:58.932 --> 00:05:02.100 Proverbs chapter 22, verse six says this. 00:05:02.199 --> 00:05:04.533 Train up a child in the way he should go. 00:05:04.533 --> 00:05:09.100 Even when he is old, he will not depart from it. 00:05:09.500 --> 00:05:21.600 If you're a grandparent, a parent, a great grandparent, if you're a teacher, a life group leader, a neighbor, if you know a child, this message is for you today. 00:05:22.266 --> 00:05:30.500 Children are a precious gift from God, and it's our responsibility to be good stewards of these gifts. 00:05:30.500 --> 00:05:35.399 3 Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord. 00:05:35.399 --> 00:05:38.399 The fruit of the womb a reward. 00:05:39.766 --> 00:05:40.432 So it's interesting. 00:05:40.432 --> 00:05:48.865 I don't see in Scripture anything that says things like let your children run your household. 00:05:48.865 --> 00:05:55.500 I don't see anything in Scripture that says let them determine their own truths and realities. 00:05:55.500 --> 00:05:59.865 I don't see anything that says let them discover their own truths. 00:06:00.100 --> 00:06:02.233 In fact, we see quite the opposite. 00:06:02.233 --> 00:06:06.300 And that's what we're going to see today in Scripture. 00:06:06.300 --> 00:06:13.600 We need to guide our children to become the young men and women that God has created them to be. 00:06:13.600 --> 00:06:22.500 So today I'm going to teach you, speak to you about three things that are going to help us do that as we head into this new school year. 00:06:22.500 --> 00:06:24.800 This is a pivotal moment in your year. 00:06:24.800 --> 00:06:26.266 School is about to start. 00:06:26.266 --> 00:06:30.632 If you know children, they're about to enter into school in some way. 00:06:30.632 --> 00:06:31.233 Public school. 00:06:31.233 --> 00:06:32.800 Private school. Homeschool. 00:06:32.800 --> 00:06:34.865 They're about to enter into school. 00:06:34.865 --> 00:06:36.100 What is our role in that? 00:06:36.100 --> 00:06:38.165 How can we help them be successful? 00:06:40.432 --> 00:06:45.432 The first thing you need to do as we head into this new school year is to attend. 00:06:46.865 --> 00:06:54.533 So if you've if you're involved, if you've ever had kids in school, if you watch the news once in a while, attendance is the most one of the most important things. Right? 00:06:54.533 --> 00:06:55.399 And it makes sense. 00:06:55.399 --> 00:06:58.665 You can't learn if you're not in the school building. 00:06:58.665 --> 00:07:04.432 So it's important for your kids to be in school every single day that they're not sick, but they're supposed to be there. 00:07:04.432 --> 00:07:14.733 But I'm referring to attendance for us in a little different context, and it's going to be a little bit, direct. 00:07:14.733 --> 00:07:21.466 Bring your kids to church and don't just drop them off at the door and go hang out at the coffee shop. 00:07:21.466 --> 00:07:22.899 Okay? We have stuff for you here, too. 00:07:22.899 --> 00:07:25.466 But bring your kids to church, your children. 00:07:25.466 --> 00:07:27.865 Your family needs to be in church. 00:07:27.865 --> 00:07:30.466 Hebrews chapter ten, verse 24. 00:07:30.466 --> 00:07:45.399 And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another all the more as you see the day drawing near. 00:07:45.399 --> 00:07:52.665 Valley View has a vibrant, tremendous student and children ministry. 00:07:53.132 --> 00:07:54.365 We always have. 00:07:54.365 --> 00:08:02.466 People have historically come to Valley View and stayed here because of that very reason, including my family. 00:08:02.466 --> 00:08:03.800 We came here when I was 12. 00:08:03.800 --> 00:08:07.100 My father, my mother brought us here when I was 12 years old. 00:08:07.100 --> 00:08:10.100 So that was about ten years ago. 00:08:11.065 --> 00:08:14.199 Brought us here when I was 12 years old for that very reason. 00:08:14.199 --> 00:08:17.100 And we've stayed whenever the doors were open. 00:08:17.100 --> 00:08:28.466 I was here, children of every age need consistent exposure to the truth of Scripture and the good news of the gospel of Jesus Christ. 00:08:28.466 --> 00:08:33.232 So my father once told me it was years after we had started coming here. 00:08:33.232 --> 00:08:58.666 I was probably an adult by then, but he mentioned to me one time that the first day we visited Valley View, we sat in the balcony and, on the way home, I was in the back seat and under my breath I was just sitting back there, looking out the window, but I was sort of quietly singing one of the songs that we had sung here that morning. 00:08:58.932 --> 00:09:06.832 And my father said he knew at that moment we were going to join Valley View, because just that brief moment that. 00:09:08.000 --> 00:09:18.200 That we were here that day made such an impact that I remembered a song I had never heard before, but it had such rich truth in it that he wanted our family to be here. 00:09:18.200 --> 00:09:21.200 And we we have been here ever since. 00:09:22.399 --> 00:09:24.033 sometimes reluctantly as a kid. 00:09:24.033 --> 00:09:26.133 But anytime the doors were open, I was here. 00:09:26.133 --> 00:09:42.232 That's the back when we had a full Sunday morning service, a full Sunday night service, a full Wednesday service, any time there was a revival, anytime the doors were open, we were here because that's how important that that's how important it was to my father and my mother for us to attend church. 00:09:42.232 --> 00:09:44.666 I encourage you to do the same thing. 00:09:44.666 --> 00:09:47.066 Keep this in mind, too. 00:09:47.066 --> 00:10:05.200 Whether your kids go to public school, private school or even home school, they are and will be exposed to information and images that will create confusion for them about themselves as they struggle throughout this world. 00:10:06.832 --> 00:10:14.666 They are looking for answers about their identities as humans that we, as their parents, never had to deal with. 00:10:14.666 --> 00:10:15.932 Kids deal with stuff. 00:10:15.932 --> 00:10:17.633 You all. We have no idea. 00:10:17.633 --> 00:10:19.500 We didn't have to deal with it. 00:10:19.500 --> 00:10:23.100 They deal with stuff we don't even understand. 00:10:23.100 --> 00:10:24.033 They need help. 00:10:24.033 --> 00:10:26.365 They need each other. They need to. 00:10:26.365 --> 00:10:30.899 They need to be in church to hear what the truth of the gospel is. 00:10:31.100 --> 00:10:35.066 So what is it that God wants our children to know about themselves? 00:10:36.000 --> 00:10:50.000 Let's see first Peter two nine, but you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God's special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light. 00:10:50.000 --> 00:10:51.200 Psalm 139. 00:10:51.200 --> 00:10:54.200 They are fearfully and wonderfully made. 00:10:54.500 --> 00:11:02.166 Psalm 139 again, all the days or ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be. 00:11:02.166 --> 00:11:03.500 Jeremiah one five. 00:11:03.500 --> 00:11:06.700 Before I formed you in the womb, I knew you. 00:11:06.700 --> 00:11:09.500 Before you were born, I set you apart. 00:11:09.500 --> 00:11:10.200 I'll continue. 00:11:10.200 --> 00:11:20.166 Jeremiah 29 says, for I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper, not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. 00:11:20.166 --> 00:11:26.100 10 says, I have come that you might have life, and that you might have life more abundantly. 00:11:26.100 --> 00:11:32.566 John 16 says, in this world you will have trouble, but I give you peace. 00:11:32.566 --> 00:11:34.765 Joshua one nine. My favorite verse. 00:11:34.765 --> 00:11:39.066 One of them says, be strong and courageous. 00:11:39.066 --> 00:11:41.966 Fear not, for the Lord your God is with you. 00:11:41.966 --> 00:11:47.399 We even sing a song once in a while that says, I am chosen, not forsaken. 00:11:47.399 --> 00:11:50.399 And I am who you say I am. 00:11:50.700 --> 00:11:53.700 You are for me, not against me. 00:11:54.600 --> 00:11:56.466 That's what your kids need to hear about. 00:11:56.466 --> 00:11:56.865 They need. 00:11:56.865 --> 00:11:58.466 And the only way they're going to do that is if they're here. 00:11:58.466 --> 00:12:03.100 You got to get them in church, bring them on Sunday morning, bring them on Wednesday evening. 00:12:03.100 --> 00:12:05.566 You stay too because there's stuff for you too. 00:12:05.566 --> 00:12:07.299 But get your kids in church. 00:12:07.299 --> 00:12:10.633 We've got great staff, great people leading. 00:12:10.633 --> 00:12:19.799 Get them here so we can sing and read and soak in all these promises that are in Scripture that God has for us. 00:12:19.799 --> 00:12:23.533 Our kids need to hear, sing, and be taught these lessons. 00:12:23.533 --> 00:12:27.332 Make attending church a priority to your family. 00:12:28.332 --> 00:12:30.399 That's one. 00:12:30.399 --> 00:12:32.000 That's one aspect of attend. 00:12:32.000 --> 00:12:35.299 The other attend is be present with your family. 00:12:35.299 --> 00:12:37.899 Bring them to church, but also be there. 00:12:37.899 --> 00:12:43.466 Your kids cannot experience all of the wisdom that you have for them if you're not with them. 00:12:43.466 --> 00:12:50.365 If you're not with them and spending time with them, make sure you're spending time with your kids. 00:12:50.365 --> 00:12:55.265 So thinking about school school is important. 00:12:55.265 --> 00:12:58.265 Be a part of it. 00:12:58.932 --> 00:13:02.466 Help your kids with their homework. 00:13:03.533 --> 00:13:06.533 Volunteer at their school. 00:13:06.600 --> 00:13:11.399 If they're involved in athletics, go to them. 00:13:11.399 --> 00:13:13.700 Our kids were cross country and track and field athletes. 00:13:13.700 --> 00:13:21.765 I was always impressed by the number of parents that were not there for the other kids, like you would look across and like there's not very many parents here. 00:13:21.765 --> 00:13:26.765 It's like you're you're your child is running, they're throwing, they're catching. 00:13:26.765 --> 00:13:27.966 They're out here having fun. 00:13:27.966 --> 00:13:29.399 Why aren't you here watching them? 00:13:29.399 --> 00:13:31.166 Be here. Be present. 00:13:31.166 --> 00:13:35.365 If they're involved in a activity, go to that. 00:13:35.365 --> 00:13:36.299 Cheer them on. 00:13:36.299 --> 00:13:40.500 Encourage them, pick them up, drive them places. 00:13:40.500 --> 00:13:41.765 Take advantage of that. 00:13:41.765 --> 00:13:44.332 And I'm going to throw a radical idea at you all. 00:13:46.865 --> 00:13:52.166 What if instead of your child riding the bus, you took him to school? 00:13:52.166 --> 00:13:55.166 Hold on, don't throw things at me yet. 00:13:58.865 --> 00:14:00.365 Sometimes we can't do that. 00:14:00.365 --> 00:14:02.033 I got a job. 00:14:02.033 --> 00:14:02.899 I have a job. 00:14:02.899 --> 00:14:05.700 There are, I have work, my family has work. 00:14:05.700 --> 00:14:09.899 Life circumstances dictate that our student needs to ride that bus to school. 00:14:09.899 --> 00:14:12.066 Absolutely. Definitely. 00:14:12.066 --> 00:14:17.133 But I also know that there are people because I'm in the business that just don't. 00:14:17.133 --> 00:14:21.533 Because it's easier just to put the child on the bus, which you're totally allowed to do. 00:14:21.533 --> 00:14:22.899 That's why it's there. 00:14:22.899 --> 00:14:30.466 But what if if your life allowed you to do it, you took that opportunity to take your child to school? 00:14:30.466 --> 00:14:34.566 That's like a 20 minute drive back and forth to school every day. 00:14:34.932 --> 00:14:36.899 How awesome is that? 00:14:36.899 --> 00:14:41.100 That's 20 minutes where you have a captive audience. 00:14:42.133 --> 00:14:48.566 Think of how much you can do, how much, how much you can speak into their life, spend time with them. 00:14:48.566 --> 00:14:49.966 Pray with them. 00:14:49.966 --> 00:14:52.200 You can't do that on a school bus. 00:14:52.200 --> 00:14:53.832 Just something to throw out there. 00:14:53.832 --> 00:15:00.700 Maybe if it's possible that your life allows you to do that, maybe that's a little shift you can make in your life and schedule to create some time. 00:15:00.700 --> 00:15:05.399 The point is, intentionally look for ways to spend time with your kids. 00:15:05.399 --> 00:15:11.100 They need us because sooner than you think, they'll be out of your house. 00:15:11.100 --> 00:15:16.100 I have a 23 year old and I have a 21 year old. 00:15:16.100 --> 00:15:18.332 They're right there on the front row. 00:15:18.332 --> 00:15:22.265 And just yesterday they were ten and eight. 00:15:22.265 --> 00:15:25.265 And I've got a picture. 00:15:26.100 --> 00:15:27.299 Should have a picture. 00:15:27.299 --> 00:15:27.865 There they are. 00:15:30.033 --> 00:15:33.566 That's them walking out of Valley View one day when they were children. 00:15:33.566 --> 00:15:38.299 That's how I, that's that's how I think of them, by the way, I don't care how old they are now, what they're doing. 00:15:38.299 --> 00:15:43.232 That's that's the image that I have in my head of how old they actually are. 00:15:43.232 --> 00:15:50.466 One day your your kids will be cute and helping each other and the next day they'll be 23 and 21. 00:15:50.466 --> 00:15:53.832 Take advantage of every opportunity you have to spend time with your kids. 00:15:53.832 --> 00:15:59.633 So my first point was what? Attend. 00:15:59.633 --> 00:16:02.633 Second point, protect. 00:16:03.200 --> 00:16:05.200 Ephesians chapter six. 00:16:05.200 --> 00:16:08.232 Finally, be strong in the Lord and in the power of his might. 00:16:08.232 --> 00:16:25.566 Put on the full armor of God so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes for our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. 00:16:25.566 --> 00:16:30.566 Okay, so here's a little bit of participation as promised. 00:16:30.566 --> 00:16:32.899 If any--okay, this is for everyone. 00:16:32.899 --> 00:16:40.500 If you have a social media account, Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, TikTok, raise your hand. 00:16:40.500 --> 00:16:42.666 It's okay. 00:16:42.666 --> 00:16:44.399 I got my hand raised. 00:16:44.399 --> 00:16:45.600 It's okay if you do. 00:16:45.600 --> 00:16:47.966 Okay, put your hand down. 00:16:47.966 --> 00:16:56.166 Okay, now, if you are a student, elementary, middle, high school and I'm going to expand it to college age. 00:16:56.932 --> 00:17:05.266 And you have a social media account or you have one of these creatures living in your house that has a social media account. 00:17:05.266 --> 00:17:05.865 Raise your hand. 00:17:07.500 --> 00:17:09.299 Again, a lot of hands, a lot of hands. 00:17:09.299 --> 00:17:11.200 It's okay. 00:17:11.200 --> 00:17:11.965 Now. 00:17:11.965 --> 00:17:13.633 Thank you. 00:17:13.633 --> 00:17:18.032 I'm going to tell you something that's that you may not know, but it's absolutely true. 00:17:18.032 --> 00:17:20.165 This is a true statement. 00:17:20.165 --> 00:17:33.965 If you if you sign up for Facebook, Snapchat or Instagram, you have to click on a little box that says, I agree to the terms of service and who knows what that says. 00:17:33.965 --> 00:17:36.066 Nobody knows because nobody reads that, right. 00:17:36.066 --> 00:17:36.932 They can say anything. 00:17:36.932 --> 00:17:38.700 You're just like, yeah, I want the account, whatever. 00:17:38.700 --> 00:17:39.900 I agree to it. 00:17:39.900 --> 00:17:50.500 But if you open that, if you, if you if you open that and read through it a little bit, you'll find out that you are agreeing by clicking that box that you are at least 13 years of age. 00:17:52.299 --> 00:17:54.965 Let that soak in for a minute. 00:17:54.965 --> 00:17:56.566 TikTok is different. 00:17:56.566 --> 00:17:57.633 TikTok doesn't have that. 00:17:57.633 --> 00:18:01.633 You still have to agree to the to their, to, to their terms of service. 00:18:01.633 --> 00:18:07.766 But the difference is by clicking on that box, you're just agreeing that you've got your parents permission to do it. 00:18:07.766 --> 00:18:12.965 If you're under the age of 18, you're sort of promising that you asked Mom and Dad. 00:18:12.965 --> 00:18:19.900 I would ask, how many of you have had your kids ask you before they're allowed to, before you agree to allow them to have that? 00:18:19.900 --> 00:18:22.900 Probably very few, but I won't do that. 00:18:25.400 --> 00:18:41.099 The point of that is that even the developers of these platforms understand the dangers that are associated with giving our kids access to social media and the internet even too early. 00:18:41.099 --> 00:18:45.232 They're supposed to be before they're supposed to be at least 13 years of age. 00:18:47.833 --> 00:18:52.799 So Pastor John introduced me to this book called The Anxious Generation. 00:18:53.566 --> 00:18:55.833 It's a great book. 00:18:55.833 --> 00:19:01.665 I know that surprises you that John would introduce somebody to a book, but he did. 00:19:01.665 --> 00:19:05.400 And, it's by a gentleman named John Haight. 00:19:05.400 --> 00:19:08.032 And the actual the secondary title of that 00:19:08.833 --> 00:19:14.200 How the Great Rewiring of Childhood is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness. 00:19:15.165 --> 00:19:17.099 That's intense. Right? 00:19:17.099 --> 00:19:35.500 So there's a quote in there that says this powerful quote, the first generations of Americans who went through puberty with smartphones and the entire internet in their hands became more anxious, depressed, self-harming and suicidal. 00:19:38.200 --> 00:19:41.099 Take a look at this chart. 00:19:41.099 --> 00:19:46.766 So the title of this chart up there, you see, is major, major depression among teens. 00:19:46.766 --> 00:19:52.299 And what this shows one is that depression has always been a problem with teenagers. 00:19:52.299 --> 00:20:05.633 I didn't need to tell you that you knew that before you walked in, but what this chart does tell you sort of show you is that something happened around the year 2010, and it wasn't really the invention of the smartphone. 00:20:05.633 --> 00:20:08.633 the iPhone was came out in 2007. 00:20:08.766 --> 00:20:14.766 But what we see there in 2010, kind of between 2010 and 2012, is the number of sales. 00:20:16.032 --> 00:20:29.266 and really the increase in social media between that time frame, what we see there is, is the number of iPhones sold by, Apple increased significantly during that time. 00:20:29.266 --> 00:20:36.400 They went from selling about 50 million by the year 2015, they had sold 200 million a year, not total, a year. 00:20:37.299 --> 00:20:40.000 So. 00:20:40.000 --> 00:20:43.333 A result of that is represented in that chart. 00:20:43.333 --> 00:20:58.133 We see a huge significant increase in depression among teens, and it's really correlated with the introduction and the increased use of cell phones, social media. 00:20:58.133 --> 00:21:00.000 I'm not saying those things are bad. 00:21:00.000 --> 00:21:01.200 They can be used very well. 00:21:01.200 --> 00:21:01.799 We use them. 00:21:01.799 --> 00:21:02.700 You all raised your hands. 00:21:02.700 --> 00:21:04.932 I tricked you into, you know, holding your hands up. 00:21:04.932 --> 00:21:07.465 We use those things every single day for good. 00:21:07.465 --> 00:21:10.465 But it can also be used for bad. 00:21:10.833 --> 00:21:13.732 And we've got to protect our kids against the bad stuff. 00:21:15.200 --> 00:21:20.700 We we we have to teach them how to use these things before we stick them in their hands. 00:21:20.700 --> 00:21:22.200 Let me show you some scripture here. 00:21:22.200 --> 00:21:23.432 Matthew chapter six. 00:21:23.432 --> 00:21:25.232 The eye is the lamp of the body. 00:21:25.232 --> 00:21:31.066 So if your eye is healthy, your whole, your whole body will be full of light. 00:21:31.066 --> 00:21:35.700 But if your eye is bad, your whole body will be full of darkness. 00:21:35.799 --> 00:21:42.099 If then the light is in you, is is darkness, how great is that darkness! 00:21:42.099 --> 00:21:43.599 23. 00:21:43.599 --> 00:21:49.500 This is a great scripture Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it. 00:21:49.500 --> 00:21:55.532 We need to teach our children, as they have the world in their hands to guard their hearts. 00:21:55.532 --> 00:21:57.500 So here's some practical ways to do that. 00:21:57.500 --> 00:22:00.700 Before your child talks you into getting that phone. 00:22:00.700 --> 00:22:04.032 And if you have a little child, it's soon to come. 00:22:05.299 --> 00:22:12.299 Or before they talk you into that social media account that they just have to have because everybody else has it. 00:22:12.299 --> 00:22:18.032 Pause and consider what you can do as a family to protect your children. 00:22:18.932 --> 00:22:23.432 So I'm going to give you some ideas first off. 00:22:23.432 --> 00:22:28.700 And if you if there are students in this room, you're not going to like these by the way. 00:22:28.700 --> 00:22:30.665 And I know there are students in the room. 00:22:30.665 --> 00:22:39.932 First of all, set the tone by requiring them to give you all of their passwords. 00:22:40.099 --> 00:22:44.365 Ooh, set the tone right off the bat. 00:22:44.365 --> 00:22:45.833 You want this device? 00:22:45.833 --> 00:22:49.865 I agree, but you have to share with me all of your passwords. 00:22:49.865 --> 00:22:50.900 That's number one. 00:22:50.900 --> 00:22:52.799 Number two is related to it. 00:22:52.799 --> 00:22:55.799 You're the one paying for this thing anyway, right? 00:22:55.799 --> 00:23:01.766 Therefore, in setting the tone, you reserve the right to look at their phone at any time. 00:23:03.766 --> 00:23:07.400 Kids in this room are getting nervous. 00:23:08.333 --> 00:23:13.799 The third thing that I'm going to give you a piece of advice on is learn about this stuff. 00:23:14.900 --> 00:23:15.566 It's important. 00:23:15.566 --> 00:23:21.133 It's it's easy as we get older to kind of back away and say, that's technology. 00:23:21.133 --> 00:23:23.965 I don't do technology. 00:23:23.965 --> 00:23:25.732 You can't do that. 00:23:25.732 --> 00:23:34.633 We have to step into technology, and we have to do what we can to try to learn and be aware and know as much, try to anyway as our kids do. 00:23:34.633 --> 00:23:36.333 We're handing them the world. 00:23:36.333 --> 00:23:46.066 We need to know what, how it works too. And then my last one is this, and I got this idea from Pastor John, who got this idea from someone else. 00:23:46.066 --> 00:23:47.865 He shared it with me and I thought it was brilliant. 00:23:47.865 --> 00:23:49.133 I never thought of this before. 00:23:51.000 --> 00:23:53.400 Your child comes to you, I need a cell phone. 00:23:53.400 --> 00:24:00.299 They give a great explanation why. You're like, okay, what about a family cell phone? 00:24:00.299 --> 00:24:03.099 We used to have family phones all the time, right? 00:24:03.099 --> 00:24:06.865 We used to have just one phone in the house with a long extension cord. 00:24:06.865 --> 00:24:12.099 And you take that cord into your room and lock the door, you know, and you have the phone going into your room. 00:24:12.099 --> 00:24:13.599 A family cell phone. All right. 00:24:13.599 --> 00:24:14.865 You need a cell phone. Sure. 00:24:14.865 --> 00:24:17.865 We have one for the family that we share. 00:24:20.000 --> 00:24:31.066 Start with shared responsibility and accountability before you give them their their own personal, their own personal cell phone device. 00:24:31.633 --> 00:24:34.633 Practical ideas, something to try. 00:24:35.633 --> 00:24:36.599 Kids are ready to leave. 00:24:36.599 --> 00:24:37.799 All right. Number. 00:24:37.799 --> 00:24:39.633 The first point was attend. 00:24:39.633 --> 00:24:41.532 Second point was what? 00:24:41.532 --> 00:24:43.799 Protect. Last point. 00:24:44.865 --> 00:24:46.799 Teach. 00:24:46.799 --> 00:24:54.299 The Bible's very clear about our role as adults on teaching, training, disciplining our kids. 00:24:54.299 --> 00:24:58.532 Proverbs 29, discipline your son and he will give you rest. 00:24:58.532 --> 00:25:01.532 He will give you delight to your heart. 00:25:01.799 --> 00:25:03.365 Deuteronomy chapter six. 00:25:03.365 --> 00:25:06.665 And these words that I command to you today shall be on your heart. 00:25:06.665 --> 00:25:15.066 You shall teach them diligently to your children shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. 00:25:15.066 --> 00:25:20.732 That's our role as adults, that that's that's a charge for us that have children, that know children. 00:25:20.732 --> 00:25:25.766 We are to teach them and train them and to give them the tools as they walk by the way. 00:25:25.766 --> 00:25:28.865 What about for kids, students in this room? 00:25:28.865 --> 00:25:31.000 The Bible addresses you as well. 00:25:31.000 --> 00:25:40.165 Proverbs chapter 15, A fool despises his father's instruction, but whoever heeds reproof is prudent. 00:25:40.799 --> 00:25:42.599 Prudent means wise. 00:25:42.599 --> 00:25:44.932 Heed your father’s instruction. 00:25:44.932 --> 00:25:50.432 And then, if you've been in Sunday school or life group at all, you've heard of Exodus chapter 20, the Ten Commandments. 00:25:50.432 --> 00:25:51.400 There's one for us. 00:25:51.400 --> 00:25:57.900 Honor your father and mother, that your days may be long in the land, and that the Lord your God is giving you. 00:25:57.900 --> 00:26:01.299 I'm going to come back to that one in just a second. 00:26:01.299 --> 00:26:04.266 We are to honor our parents. 00:26:04.266 --> 00:26:07.599 We are to heed their instruction as children. 00:26:08.465 --> 00:26:09.900 So there's two ways to teach here. 00:26:09.900 --> 00:26:10.299 There's two. 00:26:10.299 --> 00:26:13.566 There's two aspects of teaching that I want you to think about. 00:26:13.566 --> 00:26:16.500 And these are easy for you to remember. 00:26:16.500 --> 00:26:19.932 One is if you want it, teach it. 00:26:20.700 --> 00:26:24.732 If you want your child to know or do something, you have to teach them how to do it. 00:26:24.732 --> 00:26:25.900 You have to model it. 00:26:25.900 --> 00:26:27.465 You have to show them the way. 00:26:27.465 --> 00:26:30.032 And then when they do it well, you have to encourage it. 00:26:30.032 --> 00:26:34.532 When they do it incorrectly, you have to teach it and reteach it. 00:26:34.532 --> 00:26:36.965 We can't just expect them to know how to do things. 00:26:36.965 --> 00:26:41.432 You can't just hand them a device and say go and do. 00:26:41.432 --> 00:26:46.099 You have to teach them how to use these things, teach them what you want. 00:26:47.400 --> 00:26:56.599 Remember Proverbs chapter 22, train up a child in the way he should go, not just shove him out of the nest and say, good luck flying. 00:26:56.599 --> 00:26:58.932 We have to teach him how to fly. 00:26:58.932 --> 00:27:00.833 Train up a child in the way he should go. 00:27:00.833 --> 00:27:05.200 Even when he is old, he will not depart from it. 00:27:05.365 --> 00:27:09.266 So point number one there under teach was if you want it, teach it. 00:27:09.266 --> 00:27:11.133 Point number two. 00:27:11.133 --> 00:27:12.032 And I love this one. 00:27:12.032 --> 00:27:16.566 I use this probably at least once a month in my work. 00:27:16.566 --> 00:27:20.432 Rules without relationships leads to rebellion. 00:27:21.900 --> 00:27:27.299 Now, I first heard that phrase here at Valley View. 00:27:27.299 --> 00:27:31.965 It was actually from behind this very podium. 00:27:31.965 --> 00:27:37.200 One of our former, one of our former pastors said it. 00:27:37.200 --> 00:27:43.133 I was sitting up there in the front row of the of of the balcony where we always sat. 00:27:43.133 --> 00:27:46.032 And I had just become a school administrator at that time. 00:27:46.032 --> 00:27:48.365 So I'm going to say it was around the year 2010. 00:27:48.365 --> 00:27:54.232 I had first heard that phrase from right here, and I've held on to it ever since because it's so true. 00:27:55.432 --> 00:27:59.700 But our former pastor did not make that up. 00:27:59.700 --> 00:28:06.833 That's actually a quote from Josh McDowell, who is a Christian author speaker, and he says it like this. 00:28:06.833 --> 00:28:10.965 Actually, young people do not respond to rules. 00:28:11.700 --> 00:28:19.266 They respond to rules in a context of a loving, intimate relationship. 00:28:19.799 --> 00:28:26.665 I use this phrase a lot in my work with with teachers and helping them to establish rapport and relationships. 00:28:26.665 --> 00:28:34.299 Sometimes I'll say it another way, and it's a quote that I heard from another speaker in education. 00:28:34.566 --> 00:28:39.833 Kids don't learn from people they don't like, and that's true too. 00:28:39.833 --> 00:28:45.099 You have to have a relationship with your children in order for them to respect and want to do the rules. 00:28:45.099 --> 00:28:51.799 They may comply with rules, but if they don't respect you, they have no value. 00:28:51.799 --> 00:28:54.465 The the rules have no value or meaning. 00:28:54.465 --> 00:29:02.732 You have to have a relationship with your children in order for them to value and understand the true meaning of the rules that you set in place. 00:29:02.732 --> 00:29:07.566 And you do that by spending time with them, and by teaching them and by protecting them. 00:29:10.799 --> 00:29:15.500 It is from their relationship with us that rules gain meaning and have value. 00:29:15.500 --> 00:29:18.500 Now we love this scripture, right? 00:29:18.500 --> 00:29:19.965 As parents, we love this scripture. 00:29:19.965 --> 00:29:21.299 Proverbs chapter 13. 00:29:21.299 --> 00:29:23.700 Some of you can probably just quote it to me, right? 00:29:23.700 --> 00:29:30.465 Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him. 00:29:30.465 --> 00:29:32.665 That one just feels good, right? 00:29:32.665 --> 00:29:35.665 Like, oh yeah, I ain’t sparing that rod. 00:29:36.599 --> 00:29:40.833 We forget about this one though, and this scripture has a little something for everybody. 00:29:40.833 --> 00:29:42.500 Students. 00:29:42.500 --> 00:29:45.500 Ephesians chapter six. 00:29:45.599 --> 00:29:49.099 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 00:29:49.099 --> 00:29:51.000 That's from Exodus chapter 20. 00:29:51.000 --> 00:29:55.700 Back here in Ephesians, children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 00:29:55.700 --> 00:30:03.732 Honor your father and mother, which is the first commandment, with a promise that it may be well with you, and you may live long on the earth. 00:30:05.099 --> 00:30:08.532 But hold on a minute, parents, there's something here for us. 00:30:08.532 --> 00:30:15.365 And you fathers or mothers, do not provoke your children to wrath. 00:30:15.865 --> 00:30:18.732 And all the students in the room said, Amen. 00:30:18.732 --> 00:30:24.732 Do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in training and admonition to the Lord. 00:30:25.333 --> 00:30:26.799 It's a great scripture. 00:30:26.799 --> 00:30:31.232 If you didn't hear any of the other scriptures that I've read, mark this one. 00:30:31.232 --> 00:30:33.665 Children, obey your parents. 00:30:33.665 --> 00:30:39.365 If you want to live a long and healthy life, do not provoke our kids to anger. 00:30:39.365 --> 00:30:43.432 And all of that speaks to attending to them, being present with them. 00:30:43.432 --> 00:30:46.432 Protecting them and teaching them. 00:30:48.032 --> 00:30:56.700 Our children need our guidance, training, discipline and instruction, and we provide these through our intentional effort by attending, protecting and teaching them. 00:30:58.532 --> 00:31:00.965 So I'm going to tell a story here to wrap this up. 00:31:00.965 --> 00:31:05.900 But at this time I'm going I am, going to go ahead and dismiss deacons. 00:31:05.900 --> 00:31:08.732 Go ahead and prepare the communion. 00:31:08.732 --> 00:31:11.700 we're going to do communion right after I tell this story. 00:31:11.700 --> 00:31:12.932 This is a great story. 00:31:12.932 --> 00:31:15.932 I think it's a great story. 00:31:17.566 --> 00:31:23.365 I it's a story that I have trouble telling without getting a little bit emotional. 00:31:23.665 --> 00:31:26.465 So I'm ready for that to. 00:31:26.465 --> 00:31:29.532 This is a story about our daughter Caroline. 00:31:29.532 --> 00:31:31.232 Caroline's on the front row here. 00:31:31.232 --> 00:31:35.566 There's also a picture of Caroline that will show on screen. 00:31:35.566 --> 00:31:41.066 So the year is, this is Caroline when she was a freshman in high school. 00:31:41.066 --> 00:31:43.566 She's 21 now. 00:31:43.566 --> 00:31:48.333 Freshman in high school, Caroline made the varsity cross country team. 00:31:48.333 --> 00:31:50.566 She is. 00:31:50.566 --> 00:31:52.766 This is about into September. 00:31:52.766 --> 00:31:54.465 Coach tells her you made varsity. 00:31:54.465 --> 00:31:55.633 You're going to run varsity. 00:31:55.633 --> 00:31:56.965 Congratulations. 00:31:56.965 --> 00:32:07.165 We are going on a trip up to northern Chicago, just north of Chicago, to run across to run a cross country meet. Caroline, scared to death. 00:32:07.532 --> 00:32:09.200 She's nervous. Varsity. 00:32:09.200 --> 00:32:11.532 I didn't know I can make varsity. 00:32:11.532 --> 00:32:15.833 So, this was a trip where I happened to be available to go. 00:32:15.833 --> 00:32:18.732 So I drove up there, drove her up there. 00:32:18.732 --> 00:32:25.232 I drove her and Lauren Brown up there, actually, in a rented Volkswagen Passat, to be exact. 00:32:25.232 --> 00:32:27.299 And it was a great trip. 00:32:27.299 --> 00:32:29.665 So we go to run that meet. 00:32:29.665 --> 00:32:33.432 That picture is about an hour before the meet. Caroline's right. 00:32:33.432 --> 00:32:34.965 Caroline's reaction? 00:32:34.965 --> 00:32:35.932 Relaxing. 00:32:35.932 --> 00:32:38.932 Chilling, if you will, before the meet. 00:32:39.700 --> 00:32:41.833 So Caroline is ready. 00:32:41.833 --> 00:32:44.833 She goes to the start line prior to the meet. 00:32:44.833 --> 00:32:46.000 This is an important detail. 00:32:46.000 --> 00:32:50.833 She says this dad, I just don't want to come in last. 00:32:51.232 --> 00:32:53.599 And I'm like, you're not going to come in last. 00:32:53.599 --> 00:32:54.700 I've seen. 00:32:54.700 --> 00:32:57.000 I've seen the people who are last. 00:32:57.000 --> 00:32:58.032 You are not them. 00:32:58.032 --> 00:32:59.532 You'll be fine. 00:32:59.532 --> 00:33:01.900 I'm like, you don't worry about it. 00:33:03.066 --> 00:33:04.566 So she goes to the start line. 00:33:04.566 --> 00:33:05.200 She's nervous. 00:33:05.200 --> 00:33:06.000 She's scared to death. 00:33:06.000 --> 00:33:08.932 And in an end, cross country meets are awesome. 00:33:08.932 --> 00:33:16.333 You all, they're an awesome thing because you end up with this line of students, in this case, all girls. There's like hundreds of them. 00:33:16.333 --> 00:33:21.099 And when the starting pistol goes off, they charge across this field like the beginning of a movie. 00:33:21.099 --> 00:33:21.833 Braveheart. 00:33:21.833 --> 00:33:25.133 You know, when they're charging and they're like, yelling and it's great. 00:33:25.133 --> 00:33:26.665 And you can hear him stomping on the ground. 00:33:26.665 --> 00:33:28.432 It's a fantastic scene. 00:33:28.432 --> 00:33:37.133 So I leave her at the start line of this, of this course, she's ready and I go up the field a little bit where I can't see the start line. 00:33:37.133 --> 00:33:42.599 I go up about 200m and I wait for the start to happen. 00:33:42.599 --> 00:33:44.799 And there's a bunch of people, parents from all over the place. 00:33:44.799 --> 00:33:47.500 There's a ton of people around this meet lining the course. 00:33:48.532 --> 00:33:50.432 Starting pistol goes off in a distance. 00:33:50.432 --> 00:33:51.665 I can hear it. Great. 00:33:51.665 --> 00:33:53.232 And you wait for the rumble of feet. 00:33:53.232 --> 00:33:54.099 So here they are. 00:33:54.099 --> 00:33:55.165 So here they come. 00:33:55.165 --> 00:33:58.299 And you see them coming over this ridge and its all of these girls. 00:33:58.299 --> 00:34:06.000 And it is an ocean of, you know, ponytails and sports shirts. 00:34:06.000 --> 00:34:11.666 You, I mean, just just ponytails bobbing everywhere and I'm looking. 00:34:11.666 --> 00:34:12.900 I'm trying to see her. 00:34:12.900 --> 00:34:15.666 I'm thinking about where she should be in the pack at that point. 00:34:15.666 --> 00:34:16.199 And I'm looking. 00:34:16.199 --> 00:34:18.900 I'm looking for her shoes and her shirt, and she's like, all right. 00:34:18.900 --> 00:34:20.500 I see all the other girls on the team. 00:34:20.500 --> 00:34:23.099 Where’s Caroline? I, I guess I missed her. 00:34:23.099 --> 00:34:24.532 I guess somewhere in there I missed her. 00:34:24.532 --> 00:34:36.766 So I was just about ready to go and find her at a spot on the course when Steve Brown yells at me because he's up a little further, he says, Troy, she's back here. 00:34:37.932 --> 00:34:42.233 Well, by that time, everyone, all the other runners had passed. 00:34:42.233 --> 00:34:52.233 People had started to mix in the course because the parents that are there watching after the runners pass by the course disappears because parents are everywhere. 00:34:52.233 --> 00:34:57.800 But here comes Caroline holding her shoe. 00:34:58.800 --> 00:35:01.800 Crying, scared. 00:35:02.865 --> 00:35:05.233 It's like what happened? 00:35:05.233 --> 00:35:19.166 Well, come to find out, right when the race started, she starts and one of the other girls accidentally stepped on the back of her shoe and it came off while in true calm fashion, one of my rules. 00:35:19.166 --> 00:35:23.932 When I train them up and when I teach them how to run is keep running. 00:35:23.932 --> 00:35:26.932 Don't stop, keep your legs moving. 00:35:27.833 --> 00:35:29.065 This is what she did. 00:35:29.065 --> 00:35:30.532 Shoe came off. 00:35:30.532 --> 00:35:31.699 That's not stopping me. 00:35:31.699 --> 00:35:34.666 I'm running this three mile race without a shoe, I don't care. 00:35:34.666 --> 00:35:36.965 But then she realized something. 00:35:36.965 --> 00:35:40.632 The timing chip that she needed was on that shoe. 00:35:42.333 --> 00:35:43.500 So she had to stop. 00:35:43.500 --> 00:35:49.132 And she had to go back in between all the runners and find her shoe. 00:35:49.132 --> 00:35:53.532 And she found her shoe, and she looked around and the course was gone. 00:35:53.532 --> 00:35:55.800 Just parents everywhere. 00:35:55.800 --> 00:35:58.432 She's lost. 00:35:58.432 --> 00:36:00.000 Been easy to stop at that point. 00:36:00.000 --> 00:36:04.099 You just give up because now her worst fear has come true. 00:36:04.233 --> 00:36:05.766 I'm in last place. 00:36:05.766 --> 00:36:07.465 The thing that I said could never happen. 00:36:07.465 --> 00:36:09.800 She's in last place, but she kept moving. 00:36:09.800 --> 00:36:15.465 She grabbed her shoe and she's just running through the crowd and she's crying and she's upset. 00:36:15.465 --> 00:36:17.565 So I went over to her. 00:36:17.565 --> 00:36:18.632 I said, what's wrong? 00:36:18.632 --> 00:36:21.099 I figured it out. I said, okay, sit down. 00:36:21.099 --> 00:36:24.432 So I put on her shoe and I said, let's go. 00:36:24.432 --> 00:36:25.565 And I didn't know where we were going. 00:36:25.565 --> 00:36:26.365 I didn't know the course. 00:36:26.365 --> 00:36:27.500 I'd never been there before. 00:36:27.500 --> 00:36:28.800 I said, we'll figure it out. 00:36:28.800 --> 00:36:33.266 So I grabbed her and we started running, and I could kind of see a faint white line in the grass. 00:36:33.266 --> 00:36:34.833 So I thought, that's got to be the line. 00:36:34.833 --> 00:36:36.365 So we'll follow that line. 00:36:36.365 --> 00:36:42.733 So we started just running and we're running and we're following that line and before you know it, we're heading into the woods and we're just following the line. 00:36:42.733 --> 00:36:44.032 There's no runners in sight. 00:36:44.032 --> 00:36:45.000 We're just running. 00:36:45.000 --> 00:36:47.132 There's somebody monitoring the course. 00:36:47.132 --> 00:36:48.900 I said, hey, which way do we go? 00:36:48.900 --> 00:36:50.365 They said, you run that way into the woods. 00:36:50.365 --> 00:36:55.000 I said, great, so we're running in the woods and she's she's running along. 00:36:55.000 --> 00:36:56.766 She's running along with me. 00:36:56.766 --> 00:37:02.532 We come out of the woods almost to the one mile mark, and I can see the last place girl. 00:37:03.565 --> 00:37:06.666 And I said, okay, that girl's in last place. 00:37:06.666 --> 00:37:08.865 You got it. You're not lost anymore. 00:37:08.865 --> 00:37:10.199 Go get ‘em. 00:37:10.199 --> 00:37:11.965 And she took off. 00:37:11.965 --> 00:37:17.300 And then I went and found her at a core at a spot on the course along the way, and she had moved up a little bit. 00:37:17.300 --> 00:37:18.766 She was no longer in last place. 00:37:18.766 --> 00:37:31.333 She was actually in the sort of in the race by the end of the race, when she crossed the finish line, she had passed all but one girl on her team, not in the race, but on her team. 00:37:31.333 --> 00:37:35.699 And had she had another 100 meter, she'd have passed that girl. 00:37:35.699 --> 00:37:38.500 That is a proud papa moment for me. 00:37:38.500 --> 00:37:44.233 And it's a great end to that story, because it would have been so easy for her to just quit, give up. 00:37:45.266 --> 00:37:46.766 But the point of me telling you that story 00:37:48.632 --> 00:37:50.465 one, I was there. 00:37:50.465 --> 00:37:53.733 Had I not been there, that's a different story, right? 00:37:53.733 --> 00:37:54.766 She had it. 00:37:54.766 --> 00:38:02.500 Had I not been there and had I not been with her before that, speaking into her life, that's a different story. 00:38:02.500 --> 00:38:05.965 So I was at a so I was attending. 00:38:06.565 --> 00:38:08.932 I was also there to protect her. 00:38:08.932 --> 00:38:10.000 Put your shoe on. 00:38:10.000 --> 00:38:12.666 Come with me. I'll show you the way. 00:38:12.666 --> 00:38:13.833 Get out of my way. 00:38:13.833 --> 00:38:16.032 We're running this race, people. 00:38:16.032 --> 00:38:17.365 Which way do we need to go? 00:38:17.365 --> 00:38:18.166 We're going this way. 00:38:18.166 --> 00:38:19.166 All right. 00:38:19.166 --> 00:38:21.900 I was there to protect her. 00:38:21.900 --> 00:38:23.699 And the third thing is teach. 00:38:23.699 --> 00:38:29.333 I had taught her well along the way runningwise about how to handle tough situations. 00:38:29.333 --> 00:38:30.699 Don't stop. 00:38:30.699 --> 00:38:32.065 Keep your legs moving. 00:38:32.065 --> 00:38:33.666 Always move forward. 00:38:33.666 --> 00:38:34.833 And that's exactly what she did. 00:38:36.333 --> 00:38:43.300 You must be present, and you must be involved in your kid's life in order for them to respond to tough situations. 00:38:43.300 --> 00:38:45.599 And life will be tough for them. 00:38:45.599 --> 00:38:56.365 But by attending, by protecting, and by teaching, we can equip them to be ready when their shoe comes off because it will happen. 00:38:56.365 --> 00:38:57.465 Thank you all very much.