EP 174: Change Your Life by Tackling These Three Things

In this episode, I talk about the importance of setting new routines, breaking through initial resistance, and understanding that setbacks are all part of the process. Whether you're aiming for better health, wealth, or personal growth, recognizing and defeating these inner barriers is key to success. Remember, it's not just about the 24 hours we all have. It's about what you do with them. Join me in this episode as we tackle the mental and emotional hurdles together, and let's aim for greatness.

Transcript

Jason Brown [00:00:00]:
If we gotta be straight up, that's what we really are up against. We are up against comfort, and comfort has a cousin called pain. And cousin Payne has a best friend called negative talk. You see what I'm saying? And they all like they all like to hang out. Right. Good morning. Good people. I am, been up and had them early.

Jason Brown [00:00:38]:
Let me know. Are you part of the 5 AM gang? Me and my friends, we've been doing this thing where we all get up at 5 AM and we go to the gym out of different gyms, but we just kinda hold each other accountable and support each other, and we post and tag each other on social media. Every time we get up at 5 AM and we get to the gym. And what's so cool about it is I was just thinking about the impact that it's had on me getting up at 5 AM, get to the gym. So when I go to the gym, I'll work out, I'll run, lift, maybe do abs or something. But then I'll go to the steam the hot sauna, the hot steam room, then I'll go from there to the hot tub, then I'll go from the hot tub to swim in the pool. And it seems like a lot, but when you get up that early, you get a lot done. And by the time I'm finished, I'm walking out of the gym anywhere between 6:45, 7 o'clock, and I'm back home, and I'm just noticing a lot of different benefits about it.

Jason Brown [00:01:53]:
Before I used to be like, who are these people that are leaving the gym by the time that I get there? Sometimes I would get there 7, 8 o'clock, and these people are already leaving. So I'm like, what time did y'all get here? And to now be one of those people that I'm in there at 5, I'm leaving by 6, 6:30, 7 o'clock latest. I'm like, wow. I there's some magic in that because there's this saying that everybody has the same 24 hours. It's all about what you do with it, and I get that cliche. It was not a cliche. It's true. We all only got 24 hours.

Jason Brown [00:02:29]:
But what I'm learning about the 24 hours is when you get up at 5 AM and I get up. I was up, like, 4:30 to be to the gym by, like, 5 AM. By the time I'd work out, stay in rooms, hot tub, swim, get back home, eat breakfast at 7, it feels like emotionally and energetically, it feels like I have accomplished a whole day before most people's day got started. It feels like I've done a lot before the day has even gotten started, and then I shower at the gym, so I'm just ready to go for the day. So after I eat breakfast, I'm I'm like, I'm good. And I noticed something about this from a work ethic standpoint is the first time that you do it, the first time that at least me. First time I tried to get up at 4:35 AM, it was like I think I was like, I should set my alarm. I was like, no.

Jason Brown [00:03:35]:
I'm not gonna set my alarm. Like, that's crazy getting up at 5 AM. 2nd time, I was like, maybe I should get up at 5 AM. My daughter woke up at, like, 4, 4:30 from having a bad dream. And I was like, well, maybe I could try this 5 AM thing, so I'll I'll I'll go to the gym. 3rd time, I wanted to get up and go to the gym at 5 AM. I overslept. So I overslept, slept in about 6, so I ended up getting there about 6.

Jason Brown [00:04:08]:
Then the weekend hit, and I'm like, I'm not doing it over the weekend. This time, I set an alarm to get up, and my and my body actually got up before the alarm went off. And what I'm noticing is, like, we're starting anything new in life, we're trying to start any type of routine, anything that's gonna pay off for your health, for your wealth, for your mental well-being. The first few times, you go have this debate up with yourself. Like, should I even be doing this? Am I crazy? Am I doing too much, quote, unquote? You're gonna have that energy anytime you try to do something new, and then you're going to fall back. You're gonna have an experience where you fall back into the old pattern of yourself. And I have this experience where you did it once, but the second time you're late, 3rd time you canceled, you missed the day, and now you start to question, was I just lucky? Was it a flu? I knew I couldn't do this. It that's that negative self talk is go try to creep in, and it's gonna try to make you, abort mission, abort the plane.

Jason Brown [00:05:20]:
It's gonna make you feel like you knew you were a loser. You couldn't do this. But I believe the more we realize that all of this is just part of the whole process, you realize I'm not a loser. Trying anything new, I'm gonna process, you realize I'm not a loser. Trying anything new, I'm gonna question it first. I'm gonna try it second. I'm gonna probably fall off the 3rd or 4th time, then I'm gonna have to get back on track. And then after the 5th time of trying and actually going, it starts to most likely become a habit.

Jason Brown [00:05:47]:
I think they say doing something for 30 days, it becomes a habit. Break that down however you want. If you can go 4 days a week, 5 days a week, whatever the case may be, it starts to become a habit after about a full month of doing it. And now my daughter said something to me real interesting today. She said she woke up, and I'm like, good morning. And I'm kinda still I just got back from the gym, swimming, showered, everything, and she's looked at me. She said, daddy, you have a lot of energy this morning. And I I laughed, and I thought it was funny, but it also was so it was almost emotional for me because I have not been energized or energetic in a while.

Jason Brown [00:06:38]:
I've been feeling like I've been in a slump. My energy's been low. I went to the doctor. I checked testosterone. I checked b 12, all this stuff, and every time, it comes back normal. They're like, oh, no. You're normal. Everything's fine.

Jason Brown [00:06:56]:
Everything's fine. But you know when the doctor tell you you're fine, but you're like, I don't feel fine. I don't feel like I have energy. I feel tired. I feel sluggish. So far, the only thing that has helped me was actually getting up and working out, not just working out. I think the cool down of hitting the sauna, hitting the hot tub, hitting the pool, all that combined has actually really, really helped. And for my daughter to recognize that I have a lot of energy, those kind words that she spoke to me, I don't think she knew that she was speaking kind words, but those words that she spoke to me made me wanna keep going.

Jason Brown [00:07:34]:
It's like, wow. You notice a difference in me too? I feel different, but you notice the difference in me. I wanna keep going. So that brings me to the next thing is when when you're if somebody's trying something new and you have the opportunity to speak a positive word into them, you know, please do so. You can just never know how it can encourage. I I I didn't think my 6 almost 6 year old would be encouraging me this morning. She's probably really saying, daddy, calm down. You're getting on my nerves too early.

Jason Brown [00:08:01]:
But I took it as, this is a good thing. Your daddy got energy for once. I'm up. I'm hype. I'm feeling good. And so if you can encourage somebody that is starting on a new journey, embarking on something that they uncertain on, embarking on something that they're not even sure they can complete, speak a kind word to them. Go get them. I see you trying.

Jason Brown [00:08:20]:
Keep it up. Because that that gave me motivation. I'm like, I'm going back tomorrow. Is it is this how I can feel every single day if I can get to bed early, get up, and and go to the gym and get some movement in my body? And I started relating this to the stock market. I think about all of the people who come into the industry. You might have bought a course, a program, saw a YouTuber, and you're like, I'm gonna try this. I don't think it's that much different. I think you come into this industry, and you think you're gonna try it.

Jason Brown [00:08:53]:
You set your alarm, and then you oversleep the next day, meaning you don't study. You don't show up for class. Maybe you bought a course, didn't even start going through it. And that negative talk, that negative self doubt can start to set in, like, what am I doing? I'm not smart enough to do this. I don't even know why I'm trying this. But the important thing is that you come back the next day. You gotta give it that time to become a new habit because anything that you try, first time you try, you're gonna question yourself. 2nd time, you might not even show up, and you go show up late.

Jason Brown [00:09:27]:
3rd time, Brian just don't do it at all. 4th time, it don't feel good. But, man, if you can get to that 5th time I don't know if 5 is the magical number or not. I'm just saying for me, it was about the 5th day of getting up or at least trying to get up and get to the gym at 5 AM. It's like if you could just push through and understand that this cycle is normal and that there is nothing wrong with you. It is normal to feel to question yourself. Can you do this? Can you become a good investor, a good stock trader? Can you make money outside of your w two job? It is normal to ask those questions. It is normal to try and then question, are you gonna look stupid? Why am I even doing this? That negative talk, that is normal for that stuff to creep in.

Jason Brown [00:10:18]:
You might even lose some money. The other day when I worked out, I was running on the treadmill. My feet hurt all of that. It's like, I think I need some new shoes, but my feet were hurting all day. That pain. You might have that pain of losing some money, and that pain might be like, what you doing? You shouldn't be running. What you doing? You shouldn't be investing. You shouldn't be trying to take control of your financial future.

Jason Brown [00:10:46]:
Why are you doing that? What did I do? I went in the closet. I said, what other shoes do I have? I went looking for some different shoes. I wore some different shoes today. Feet feeling alright today. And so you gotta look in your closet and dig deep and say, what other tools do I have to push through this? What other network, community, resources do I have to break through comfortable? Because that's if we if we really be honest and go break down what it is, we're really talking about knocking down the walls of comfort. If we gotta be straight up, that's what we really are up against. We are up against comfort, and comfort has a cousin called pain, and cousin Payne has a best friend called negative talk. You see what I'm saying? And they all, like, they all like to hang out.

Jason Brown [00:11:45]:
Comfort, like, look. Go back to bed. You don't gotta get up at 5 AM. Comfort, like, you don't have to buy a course to learn the stock market. You bought a course. You don't have to actually go through it. That's what comfort say. Now if you break through Comfort, he like, hey, cousin, cousin Payne.

Jason Brown [00:12:02]:
What you doing? This boy done broke through Comfort. I need you to come over here and give him some pain. That was my feet hurt. Cousin Payne then came through. Right? Actually, cousin negative talk came through first. Cousin Negative Talk came through and was like, what you doing? See your feet hurting? You can't keep this up. Cousin Payne was like, yeah. Let's try to break him.

Jason Brown [00:12:26]:
His best friend Payne, like, yeah. Let's try to break him. Like, look. He kinda pushed through the negative self talk. He back in the gym again. Send him some pain some his way. That's the same thing with the stock market. That's the same thing with stock market.

Jason Brown [00:12:41]:
Comfort go show up, like, just go to work. Worry about this later. Just invest in stuff, please. You push through that, because the negative talk go show up. You're gonna be like, come on. What you doing? What you doing? You can't do this. You thought you could you thought you could make money consistently? You thought you could continuously do this? You thought you could take care of your family and their financial future? You thought you could learn this? You're not good at math. You're not good at stock charge.

Jason Brown [00:13:09]:
Nobody in your family's ever done it. What makes you think you can do it? And then you push the negative target. Like, yeah, but at least gotta try. He's like, uh-oh. Okay. Well, my best friend, Payne, that. Hey, Payne. Come on over.

Jason Brown [00:13:21]:
He he broke through comfort. He broke through negative self talk. Send him a little pain. Make him second guess this. Let him know it ain't gonna be easy. See if you can knock them out. And that's pay come through as disguised as you make it maybe you lose your first little 100,000 or a $1,000, whatever the case may be. Pain come through in the form of a negative spouse, a negative relative, negative friend.

Jason Brown [00:13:51]:
I'm like, what you doing? And you're like, wow. That hurt. I thought out of anybody, you were supporting, but you just oh, please don't pull out. He he just I do this. We rolling good, and this guy just pulls out out of nowhere. Anyway so the yes. Then then they then they call up they other best friend curveball, try to throw you a curveball, make you get into an accident. Right.

Jason Brown [00:14:25]:
But, no, big picture. All I'm saying is, ladies and gentlemen, we you gotta understand what you're really fighting against. And you're not fighting against good health. You're not fighting against good wealth. You're fighting against comfort. You fighting against his cousin, negative talk. You fighting against his best friend, Kaye. That's who you're really fighting against to get to your goal.

Jason Brown [00:14:55]:
You're not fighting against food, calories, and counting calories. No. No. No. No. No. You're fighting against comfort, negative talk, and pain. And if you can master that, you get to your weight loss goal.

Jason Brown [00:15:12]:
If you can break through comfort, negative talk, and pain now they got a couple of other, like, distant cousins. Don't get it. Don't don't let them fool you. They're made the only 3. Right? They got a couple of other cousins and friends. They got they got a real good friend called procrastination. Alright? He'll show up and bring a 6 pack of beer. He she'll show up and call you and say, let's go to the club, girl.

Jason Brown [00:15:43]:
Like, don't don't get it twisted. Take out some other friends and some other cousins you're gonna have to defeat. But that's who you really is going up against. That's who you're really going up against. So I want you to think about that. Next time you're trying to do something to lose weight, get in shape, get a better relationship, whatever it is, Next time you're talking about, I wanna start investing. I wanna master the stock market stuff. Maybe you are already in the stock market.

Jason Brown [00:16:12]:
I'm telling you, I want you to reframe it and be like, what's my consistency? Not my consistency, but what what does my comfort level look like? That's the first one we got a breakthrough. Once you break through that one, I want you to say, what does the negative talk look like? Because that's what stopped me from getting started. That's what's trying to stop me from keep going. And unless I keep going and break through that, okay, what kind of pain is most likely gonna come my way? Because I know it's gonna come. I know the pain gonna try to knock me off. And if you can be prepared mentally, psychologically, in advance to handle comfort, negative thought, and pain, they they definitely coming. So if you can be prepared and say, I knew this was coming. I knew the negative thought was coming.

Jason Brown [00:16:56]:
Oh, I knew it was gonna be comfortable for me not to wake up an hour and go through the mod and just stay up an hour late. I knew it was coming. Oh, I knew I was gonna lose my first $100, $1,000. I already knew that was coming. I knew the negative talk, the negative relative. If you can get prepared eventually, you're like, I knew it was coming. And so it's it's harder for it to knock you out of the box if you know it's coming. Does that make sense? You already know that this is part of the plan, so you don't have to question, is this meant for you? Did God really want me on this path? Am I built for this? I if anybody go mess it up, it's me.

Jason Brown [00:17:37]:
You don't have to go down that route of all that negative stinking thinking because you already know that that has nothing to do with it. It's all part of the process of trying to break through to another level and defeat another devil. So whether it's your health or your wealth, breakthrough, breakthrough comfort, breakthrough negative self talk, only defeat their cousin pain because they gonna show up at your doorstep. So let me know in the comments. Let me know in the comments. Are you gonna defeat comfort? Are you gonna defeat negative talk? Are you gonna defeat negative pain? Are you gonna let them defeat you? Let me know in the comments. I'll see you on the next one. Guys in the car next to giving me thumbs up.