Welcome to another episode of the Family Business with the Alessis, and today I have Gabrielle Alesi joining me. And for those of you who do not know, she is the youngest of all four of my kids. Somebody just told me, Gabby, you are a triple threat.
SPEAKER_03Wow.
SPEAKER_05You have that much power.
SPEAKER_03Yes, I can sing, dance, and act. Ooh.
SPEAKER_05And speak and lead.
SPEAKER_03And that's what that's what a triple threat really is, is sing, dancing, and acting.
SPEAKER_05Is that it?
SPEAKER_03Yeah, that's what they say. But what is this person?
SPEAKER_05I'm not even sure what they meant by I'm threatening, obviously. No.
SPEAKER_03Are you? That's what that person said about me.
SPEAKER_05Are you sure? That person in this room? None.
SPEAKER_03Okay, just making sure.
SPEAKER_05No. And I don't even know if I can give you any more details because you always figure out what I'm trying to hide. Yes, you live in the house. Is ahead. That is true. Okay, Gabs. Yes. We talk things here on in the podcast booth that we don't usually talk about on Sunday. But if we had a chance, because of everything that's been happening in the world, we'd probably discuss this more in detail on a Sunday.
Mom and I finished up a podcast about dealing with fear because uh we have all of a sudden seen what's happening with Ukraine and Russia and what that must have felt like for a lot of young people. Now, two years ago it was COVID.
SPEAKER_01Yeah.
SPEAKER_05This younger generation, however young you are, that is out there, the younger generation had to deal with what was considered a worldwide pandemic. People by the millions were going to be dead because of it. And they've had to deal with that for two years. Now they wake up at this season of life and there is a military invasion occurring. Now they're seeing it on social media, seeing it on the news, hearing mom and dad talk about it. Um, so much has come against this young generation in the last year. Just the mask mandates how we have seen them be uh told to hide behind this mask. It's going to protect you, keep you from getting sick, and yet some of them still get sick. And what do they do? They hear about their friends, they hear about family members that get it. There's so much in young people facing young people today that it could stir up a whole lot of fear. So you work with our young people here at our church. Um, what do you what are you picking up on lately with this?
SPEAKER_03I would say, first of all, if we're gonna address the Ukraine situation, I've never been through this before. I've never experienced a war. I've only really watched movies about it or have been taught in a class. Um, so naturally, if you were to ask a young kid right now, a middle school or high school or even a college-age uh young adult, hey, what's going on? What does this make you feel? We really wouldn't know what to tell you because all we know is what Instagram is telling us. And mostly what Instagram is telling us is just to pray for Ukraine. So I think the the thing, if you're a parent right now and you're wondering, how do I approach this? Is my is my kid afraid? Most likely they they don't know what to be afraid of because they don't know what this entails. So I would actually encourage parents to inform their children on what's happening and how as Christians we handle this, that we know the righteous will never be forsaken and how we should not fear. Um, but explain the situation because all we are picking up on is that we have to pray for a place, but we don't know much of the information that's going on
there. Um, when it comes to COVID and the fears, it's it's a real deal.
SPEAKER_05Yeah.
SPEAKER_03And it's not just the virus. The virus is it's gone through, kids have gotten it, all of our students have gotten it, have come back from it, they've been fine. It is the long-lasting effects of the quarantine and mostly the masks, where we will see students. I'll see students on on Mondays or even Wednesdays that still wearing a mask. And I'll ask them, hey, you what's going on there and and why do you still wear it? And most of the time they wear it because that's what they've been told for the last two years. They're not really wearing it anymore because their parents have told them to do it or whatever. They're wearing it because that's just their, that's their normal. It's normal to cover their faces. And what we've seen from that is not even fear, dad, it's insecurity. Kids don't want to take it off because now they have found the perfect remedy to covering their acne. The perfect remedy, if they don't like their nose, I can just put my mask on. If I don't like how I'm feeling that day, I just put my mask on, I'll put glasses on, and I'm good. So it's it's actually provided the perfect thing for them to cover up the one thing that they want to cover, which is their looks. Um, and then you're seeing a whole lot of just this trend of let's just stay hidden and kids aren't, aren't having conversations anymore. And this is what I actually wanted to bring up to you. Um, that there was a study in in Palm Beach, in West Palm Beach, and this lady said she is a speech therapist over there, and it said, um, during this pandemic, her speech therapy clinic has been an enormous shift, has seen an enormous shift in the ages of its patients before the pandemic, only 5% of patients were babies and toddlers, while today it soared to 20%. So, what was 5% of babies and toddlers struggling to speak and have a conversation and learn words? That's 5% is jumped to 20% in just two years. So we're actually seeing, because in schools, toddlers are still asked to wear masks. We're actually seeing kids that are, whether they're wearing the mask or they see their parent is wearing a mask, they are not learning how to talk. And so I have not only seen this in babies, yes, but we're seeing it in middle schooler and high schoolers how they don't know how to have conversations today. Normal, hey, how are you? What'd you do today? They have lost the art of conversation because they've been told for two years, just cover your face, and we know you can't really talk through the masks. So I would say you're seeing a lot of insecurity, but a lot of um delays in their development.
SPEAKER_05You know, whether you have a mask on or not, you're always talking.
SPEAKER_03I am, yes. Yes. That's why I don't like to wear the mask.
SPEAKER_05No, um, muffled at times, but you that was you'd love to talk. Yeah. Some kids, they're not gonna have a problem with the the mask, they're not gonna have problems with the whole COVID fear. Um, there's others that will. The one, those that are a little bit more thought, they're not talking as much, but they're processing thinking, they're gonna have some. Uh when they're hearing about a war, holy moly, that that just stirs up all kinds of fears. Yep. They are some of them accustomed to playing games and it's all about war in that environment. But yeah, this is real life stuff. Um,
I like what you said that a parent needs to have the conversation. Somebody is having the conversation, somebody's driving the narrative about all of this. Uh, it's great, though, for a parent to be able to have the conversation.
SPEAKER_03Yeah. Why do you think that is? Well, because also it's it helps in their development. First of all, it shows that you as a parent care enough about your child to inform them. So when you would come and sit us down about anything when we were younger, you and mom, it showed us as kids, wow, okay, they they want us to understand what's going on. And you want to be the one that is sharing that. So that's number one. But number two, it is actually what I think people don't realize is when parents opened up to have a conversation with their kid, they're teaching their kid how to talk. They are kids maybe don't sit there and realize they're not taking notes, no, obviously, but they are picking up on cues. They're picking up on how you're sharing, how you're doing that. And ultimately you're sharing the seriousness of the situation. Because Instagram will make it seem serious, but it isn't because it's only through our phones. We're only seeing pictures of what's going on. And even though people are like, look at the videos, to us as kids, everything's digital. So nothing's it, it feels like nothing's real anymore. But when you sit with your kid and you're saying, hey, this is real, this is what's happening over there, this is why we're praying for them, this is why we're wanting to help them, because of the severity of it, a conversation goes much longer and farther than a video on Instagram does. Because, like you said, the conversation's already started and somebody's already telling them.
SPEAKER_05As a parent, don't you want to be the one to tell them instead of yeah, and that's that's good because communication is an art. We have to learn communication. And I like what you said there, Gabs, because as we talk to our kids, we're teaching our kids how to have the conversation with others, uh, which is something you bring into every relationship that you're in, from the teacher in the classroom to describe how you're feeling about something, maybe the reason you're not getting the grades, and a kid can't, young person doesn't know how to really communicate without getting frustrated and angry, um, to them dealing with relationships and why they need to walk away from a relationship and explain it. All that communication is so important. So when a parent sits down to have the talk about these things and put it out on the table, it's great because it is teaching the young person how to engage in the conversation, which um it's good to be able to do that. And then it's not always about, you know, the from a scriptural perspective, a Bible perspective. You know, what we do is faith and we use the Bible as a roadmap and we teach out of that Bible. But at the same time, there's things that are just real world situation. You know, the Bible's kind of its own metaverse. Things happen there and we're all tied up and it's hard to insert ourselves into it. We're in the real world. How do we then insert, take what is in that Bible and insert it into our real world? That's where sometimes we flesh it out through conversation. And young people need to know how to deal with the fear, especially if this thing uh continues to power its way up, and we become more and more concerned about what's going on in that region. I mean, we thought COVID was bad.
SPEAKER_01Yeah.
SPEAKER_05Now it's not COVID and masks and vaccines. Now it's bombs and it's missiles, missiles, tanks. Uh gosh, this is this is like this is what I see and what most kids would see as movie stuff. Yeah.
SPEAKER_03We've never seen, we've never seen this. It's funny when when I'll sit with with grandmommy and your mom, and how this is something that she's seen it before. This has happened to her generation. She knew about it. And then I'm sitting there and she's talking about it like it's nothing. And obviously she knows the severity of it, but she's lived through one. And I'm on the other side thinking, oh my gosh, are they about to show up on our front door? What is this?
SPEAKER_02Yeah.
SPEAKER_03But that's where a parent walking your kid through this, and not just, hey, this is what's happening in Ukraine, and then walk away. Walking away or saying, This is what's happening, and this is how we approach this. This is how we're gonna feel about this. We are not going to be afraid. We are gonna trust that we're gonna be safe. We are going to pray for the leaders that are in our country. We are going to keep having conversations and whatever. Don't just share the information and then leave. And also, Dad, you have to be very careful of the conversations that you have with your spouse or with your friends that your kids are around to hear. Because you and mom could tell me, hey, this is what's happening in Ukraine, but we're safe. And then you guys can go in the kitchen and go, oh my gosh, what is happening? Let's turn on the news. And that that we hear that. We're in the living room while you guys are in the kitchen. So those conversations are huge. Even what you're saying to your spouse, to your friends about everything, if as a parent you do not, you're not trusting or you are if you're fearful, that will leak into your kids.
SPEAKER_05Even if you have the conversation one-on-one with them, or you continue to to talk differently beside, or helping helping kids stay on point too, with their schoolwork, stay on point with their school, yes, uh, what their their thoughts are for the future, dreaming, what do you want to be one day, and so on. That's a great um way to keep them focused on down the road, not just what they see now, but down the road. And I'm afraid part of the depression that so many of our young people are in right now, that adolescent funk is because they don't see a future. All they saw or heard for the last couple of years is this thing, COVID. And now they're seeing this war that they're not seeing, okay, I'm gonna be an attorney or I'm going to one day be in business and I'm gonna be married and I'm gonna have kids. There's things that they're not focusing on because something here is getting their attention. Yes. How important is it to keep them thinking
about the future in a good sense?
SPEAKER_03It's everything because they need to have that passion for themselves. You could want it for your child, but they need to have the, they need to stir up that excitement to be something when they're older, to to start a business. Um, I was speaking to a couple of young girls last night, actually, and we had a girls' talk and we were talking about everything that girls wanted to talk about. Well, then at the end, I just felt that I should share with them about their phones. And I said, you know, we should limit all of us, not just these kids, me too, the time that we've spent on our phones because we don't know what it's like to be bored. My generation, I've never been able, I've never had to sit in a kitchen and not have anything and literally just stare at the wall and wait for you to get home.
SPEAKER_02Yeah.
SPEAKER_03I've always been able to watch TV, go on my phone, not even go outside. Not even, we literally will stay inside. And when you are bored, so much comes out of it. Because when you're sitting and you're doing nothing, you think, okay, well, I have nothing to do. I can learn an instrument. I can, I can go color, I can go draw, I can build something. And then those little things as a kid that you start to do, like learning an instrument or building, carpentry, whatever it is, will turn into a passion for a business or turn into, you know what, I want to go to school for this because I love music and it came out of a place of boredom. That is what kids lack today. Kids do not know, mom calls it the art of boredom, because there is so much that comes out of boredom. And there's so many kids. I mean, TikTok gives you a reminder. If you're on TikTok for an hour, the app will tell you, dad, hey, it's been an hour, you should take a break. Have you ever heard of an app trying to tell you to get off the app? That's how it makes its money of you being on. But it is noticed kids are so obsessed, and not kids, adults too, obsessed with this app and screen time that it's actually telling you, hey, you should take a break. Kids nowadays, they need to learn boredom, take some time off, have conversations because out of that simple life that we have for say for sought, we need to go back to that because it stemmed, it comes from the passion, comes from that, the the builder, the being a speaker, learning how to speak, learning how to be whatever it is. That's where we need to get back to that.
SPEAKER_05The social media creators at the higher up don't even let their kids get on it.
SPEAKER_03No.
SPEAKER_05What does that tell you?
SPEAKER_03That shows that there is no, there are no benefits to it. I said it yesterday. I said, you really think that a school's gonna look at your resume and say, wow, she spends four hours on TikTok a day. She should come here to this school. We should accept her. No, that's a turnoff.
SPEAKER_05No, I think corporations in the future, they're gonna have time limits on how long a person can go sit in the restroom.
SPEAKER_03Oh, 100%. 100%. But you know, people are that's businesses look at at social media. Yeah, they they judge you by your social media.
SPEAKER_05How long you are on it. But even your it even tells on you when you're on, it'll say online.
SPEAKER_03It says active, active.
SPEAKER_05There you go. Active. So they go to the bathroom and they're supposed to be going to the potty, get it over with, get back to work, but they're spending 10 minutes in there playing a game or checking social media. How ridiculous. It's a waste of time. It's a waste of time. You got away from some personally, you got away from some screen time. What have you started
to do?
SPEAKER_03Oh my gosh. I do puzzles. I do puzzles. So at the beginning of the year, I try to do that Bible shred, which is uh Nathan Finocchio. If he watches, he has this Bible shred, which in 30 days you read the entire Bible. So me thinking a full-time college student, I got a part-time job at the church, I can definitely do this. I got through 10 days and I was on it. Nathan, if you're watching, I just want you to know I got through 10 days consistent. Yeah, he's watching. And then, yeah, and then I went back to I school started and work started, and then it all got delayed. But I told myself I wouldn't get back on social media until I finished the Bible. Well, that's kind of gotten a little that's not the point. While I was off social media, I wanted to do stuff on my off time just to you're back on social media.
SPEAKER_05For work purposes, literally for work purposes.
SPEAKER_03Um, and then I I was bored and I thought, what am I gonna do? And also, how can I de stress? And so I would either put on a TV show or whatever, or I'd put on music, or to I'd put the Bible on and I would do a puzzle. Or I would get um, I had a word search that I found at the church. Actual paper booker word search search and I would I looked like an old lady and I would sit and you guys would all be so proud of you, man. It's the it's the most calming thing because it's you know, you also feel so productive. It's a game, but you feel productive because it's tangible. If you play a game on here, you're like, wow, level 345. You can't hold that. You can't grasp that in your hand and actually show somebody, it just shows a number. But I can give you a book and say, I completed all those things, you know, it's it's the tangible things.
SPEAKER_05Or I read it from front to back, and I'm almost there. Yeah, it's so funny. Parents today, they they think they can control so much with their kid, and there's a measure of that that they need to, but sometimes um, just a narrative, just a dialogue. If we're gonna do something, let's talk.
SPEAKER_01Yeah.
SPEAKER_05Uh and and kids are gonna be kids. We love it because of our new program here that we call our young fellas. Eight to eighteen-year-old boys get together, and boys are just gonna be boys. It's so cute. A couple weeks ago, they were punching on a punching bag, which is so good. Any parent that has a rambunctious son, get him a punching bag so he doesn't go punch on his sisters. Yeah, you know, let them let them take all that out of them. But it's so cute to see them all together. And even you said there was a few of them that got in the room together, and where before they were talking about their games on their phone, what happened?
SPEAKER_03They just started having a conversation. They were, and I mean, you're hearing them bruh, bruh, bruh, bro, but they're having real conversation about what they saw that day and then what they're gonna learn that night. And last week was so cool. And I was so proud of these. I mean, they're nine-year-olds, and they were having a conversation. And I swear, if you go over and you meet some sixth graders, uh, sixth through ninth grade boys, they're quiet. They're quiet because two years ago, right when they were getting to the age of I'm gonna start talking, I'm gonna learn how to be more literate and and I'm gonna get better at my grammar and my vocabulary, the mask was put on them. And then they made them feel like if you would just breathe, you were on you were a walking virus because of your breath. And then it stopped them from talking.
SPEAKER_02Yeah.
SPEAKER_03So that's why conversations are huge. Getting around the dinner table. I've always been somebody that's the dinner table is one of the most important places of the entire home. No phones, don't have a conversation, be honest with your kids, and and just be open with them and ask them questions and get them talking.
SPEAKER_05Uh, you get on mom and I if we're on our phones too much.
SPEAKER_03Because you get on us. But yes.
SPEAKER_05Yeah.
SPEAKER_03But we, yeah, we had to have the conversation a couple weeks ago. Because we will Who did you have it with? You, mom, and then I had it with you after.
SPEAKER_05You had it with you.
SPEAKER_03I was a little bit more scared when you were there.
SPEAKER_05That's nuts. You wanted me to support mom. Sure.
SPEAKER_03Well, it's it's the whole thing of I I'll wake up in the morning extra early to spend time with you guys, and and that morning you asked. That happened to be on your computer on the email tab.
SPEAKER_05I know, I know. Well, that's that's we we we're passing on better habits these days of trying to avoid them. Oh, it's crazy. These these things are just they're a tether. Yeah. It's it's nuts. All I can think is this what future plans are so great for this next generation that they need to go through these challenges at such a young age.
SPEAKER_03I wish I knew exactly what it was, but we know. Know it's going to be grand.
SPEAKER_04It has to be good.
SPEAKER_03Because when there's a lot of opposition or things coming at you, you know there's something big coming. And we're going to see that. And if if a parent's watching and young people
that are listening to, I really hope young people listen to this. Don't take COVID, don't take what's happening on the news or on social media as something that makes you retreat.
SPEAKER_02Yeah.
SPEAKER_03See it as okay, I need to really work hard. I need to know. I want more information about this. I want to get better at this age so we can push past all of this. Because what we're going to see is a group of young people that are resilient. And when you have resilient people, those are strong people that are willing to do whatever they got to do. And so that resilience, parents should not be afraid of what's going to come for my kid.
SPEAKER_02No.
SPEAKER_03Take it as my mission for my kids is make sure they have the right information that they are strong and they are ready because they're going to be resilient for anything else that's going to come in the future. So we're about to see a really strong generation come up.
SPEAKER_05I think so. They say the greatest generation was a generation that came out of World War II.
SPEAKER_03Wow. Well, let's make it. Think about that.
SPEAKER_05It took a war.
SPEAKER_03Yeah.
SPEAKER_05We lost some people, lost a lot, but it took a war to really create some of the greatest people that we have known in the last century. So it takes hard times.
SPEAKER_01Yeah.
SPEAKER_05And we can't avoid them. We can't be afraid of them either. But we can't avoid them if we want to be great. Greatness requires going through some hard times. It teaches you not to rely on self. It teaches you that you really can reach down deeper and pull out something that's on the inside of you that you wouldn't know is there unless you had to reach deep.
SPEAKER_01Yeah.
SPEAKER_05It teaches you that when you get knocked down, you can get back up if you so desire. So all of this with my generation, you know, I'm 61. I've seen some things like this, the commercial says, we know things because we've seen some things. Um I know we're going to come out of it. And that's why I just couldn't stay all masked up and locked up for too long with COVID, because I knew this was just one of those things we'd get by. But I'm, it's different for me. Uh, you, your generation hasn't seen some things. The generation that's coming up behind you hasn't seen some things. But they have the potential. You have the potential to walk into some of the greatest aspects of life if you can deal with this in the right way. Yeah. That's why we can't mask them up. We can't keep them in fear. Mask is a sign of fear.
SPEAKER_01Yeah.
SPEAKER_05That's all it really is. You're being told cover up to protect yourself. It's a it's a form of fear. And you can't go uh be your best when you are being held back by fear. Courage is acting in the face of fear.
SPEAKER_01Yes.
SPEAKER_05Not putting on pause and holding yourself back back. Courage says, hey, I'm afraid, but I got to do it anyway. I've got to push past the thing that is causing me to be afraid.
SPEAKER_01Yeah.
SPEAKER_05And your generation, the younger generation, has to get to that place where they can't complain about this, they can't be afraid of it.
SPEAKER_04No.
SPEAKER_05They they have to be uh brought through it in a way that they know, wait a minute, this isn't the end. No, this is not the end. We're gonna keep doing our life, we're not gonna be in fear, and uh we're gonna go forward, we're gonna get out of this, but they won't know that if a parent doesn't step in and take the lead of one living it, but then talking to them about it.
SPEAKER_03Yeah.
SPEAKER_05Because they're hearing so much negative.
SPEAKER_03And the greatest lesson and the greatest example of this, and this is funny, it's the recent Spider-Man movie.
SPEAKER_05Because don't give anything away yet.
SPEAKER_03Well, I have to, only to explain this. Everybody's seen it. It came out two months ago, three months ago, whenever this is gonna air.
SPEAKER_05Okay.
SPEAKER_03Um, you see, what do you call this right here?
SPEAKER_05When you're about to tell the end of the spoiler. This is a spoiler. This is a spoiler. So if you don't want to hear this, be spoiled, yes, don't listen.
SPEAKER_03Where the current Spider-Man, Tom Holland, is anybody in the studio not see it yet? We're all good. The current Spider-Man is this new generation Spider-Man, and he goes through some things and he loses a family member, and he acts like he's had it the worst, and he has to go through the worst times and he has to Spider-Verse. In his Spider-Verse, and he's got to sacrifice the most, and he's just hurt, nobody understands him. And all it took were two past generations of other Spider-Mans and two people that said, We've been where you were, we were at your age, we've had to sacrifice everything. Everything you're doing is what we've had to do. And they were able to come together and relate to one another because of the people that they lost, because of the sacrifices, the things that they had to say no to and step away from. But ultimately, they became the best and they became saviors, they became the friendly neighborhood Spider-Man. And that they were able to defeat evil and fight the bad guys.
SPEAKER_02Yeah.
SPEAKER_03And what it takes for this generation right now is it takes other people that have been where kids have been, which is their parents and their grandparents, opening and having the conversation, being honest and saying, hey, we struggled too. You're not the, this isn't the hardest generation. This isn't the worst for your generation. How a lot of people think with the the our Gen Z, they have it the worst. No, you don't have it the worst. It takes sacrifice, it takes some hard times, but you're gonna be resilient and you're gonna do better in your future.
SPEAKER_05Mary, uh sorry, Gabby.
SPEAKER_03I remind you of mom. It's okay.
SPEAKER_05That's it. You were talking with that much wisdom. You know, that could happen not just as it pertains to what's happening right now. Every race, especially in South Florida. Yeah, we've got uh a Cuban uh heritage here that went through a period of uh Castro, they still are dealing with communism coming in and what they all had to go through. And they're here in Miami, they're here in South Florida, the United States, they're they're living a better life.
SPEAKER_01Yep.
SPEAKER_05Parents and grandparents that went through that need to be an example, that the past hard times didn't cripple them. It gave them an opportunity.
SPEAKER_01Yes.
SPEAKER_05People that went through slavery, as bad as it was, human slavery, as bad as it was, can sit down and tell the generation, guys, this happened, but look where we're at today. We can look at it all through human history and see that it's a bad world.
SPEAKER_03It is.
SPEAKER_05There's nothing perfect about it. There's bad people, yeah. There's Putins, there's villains, there's villains, there's disease, yeah, whatever that looks like, those are things in the real world, and we don't have to get stuck there. We can deal with them, have the conversation, the dialogue, get it out of the back room, bring it to the dinner table, bring it to the living room, shut off the stinking Netflix series, have the dialogue on the way to school, have the conversation, see what's touching your kids because kids will be the target. Fear is going to come upon them. Maybe it's not the bigger global picture right now. It may be a class that they're failing. They're afraid to say to the mom and dad, I just can't get this stuff. I'm not a study or I'm gonna get a C or I'm gonna get a D or I'm gonna flung. Have the conversation. It's not always about penalties and it's being punitive, and you're gonna have to pay for it. If we have dialogue with our kids, we can help them through every challenge that they're facing. The boyfriend, the girlfriend, the breakup, the new relationship, whatever it is, the sorry, I lost my virginity. Something happened. I'm hurt. Let's let's have the dialogue and the conversation. Yes. Mom and dad, I'm pregnant.
SPEAKER_03Yes.
SPEAKER_05What happens? We have the conversation. All right. I've been hurt, I've been abused. We have the conversation. We can't flip out, we can't freak out. It's real life stuff. Let's get it out there and keep it from controlling us and definitely remove the fear factor. You gotta remove it. It's gonna hurt. Well, we've tried to model this
good, bad, and indifferent in our family. We try to have a lot of dialogue, which we do, which quite frankly, Gabs, even when we're not on the clock at home, we're on the clock.
SPEAKER_01Yeah.
SPEAKER_05You came home recently from doing your job, which is a youth service.
SPEAKER_01Yeah.
SPEAKER_05And it was a big thing that you threw, and you came home. And not only were you physically tired because it was a long day, but you came home a little uh burdened.
SPEAKER_01Yeah.
SPEAKER_05And something happened. But you know, here you are 20. How old are you? 22.
SPEAKER_0325.
SPEAKER_05You're 22. You come home, I'm ready to go to sleep. Mom and I are in bed. But when we you walk through the door, we can tell, uh oh, yeah, something's got gabs, and we didn't want you to go to your bed without what happened. Yeah, let's talk about it, let's process. No, we're not on the clock right now, but we are. Yeah, that's your job. Let us help you. We talk about it. Yes. And wasn't it better when you went upstairs and go to bed?
SPEAKER_03So much better.
SPEAKER_05Yep.
SPEAKER_03And you know what's funny? There's more fear as a kid. We're almost more scared to tell our parents. But right when the parent starts the conversation and says, What's going on? All the fear is gone.
SPEAKER_02Good.
SPEAKER_03But there's so much fear that is on the kid's side of how do I tell my parents something? And we've dealt with this with so many kids of how do I tell my parents that I like somebody and how do I tell that I'm dating and they don't know. Parents start the conversation. The ball is always going to
be in your court.
SPEAKER_05Yeah. And if some young person happens to be listening to this because their mom and dad forced them, or mama said, get in there and listen. Here's what we want to remind you of you're going to have a great future.
SPEAKER_01Yes.
SPEAKER_05Life is going to be beautiful for you. These hard times are just making you a better person, preparing you for what your great future is going to look like. So hope you all have enjoyed another episode of the Family Business with the Alesssies with Gabby Alesi and Steve Alesi.
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