Well, hello again. It is Mary Alessie here. Welcome to another episode of the Family Business Podcast with the Alesssies, where we talk about things we can't talk about on Sundays. And today I am so privileged to have my closest friend of 30 years plus. Yeah. Maury Martinez. She's with me today. We
have been friends since we were very young. Very young. Had all our kids around the same time. Your kids are a little older than my kids, but you went first, and I got to learn a whole lot watching you. Oh boy. I learned some good things. Good. And uh we've all been married a long time to our spouses, but we've also worked side by side and built this ministry. Yeah. That's called Metro Life Church. You and David were a big part of it from day one.
SPEAKER_03Yes.
SPEAKER_01And uh you you're the pillar of this ministry, along with Steve and I and all of our family. So I thought how perfect would it be? David's been in the booth. Yes. David's a couple times, right? Yeah, I think so. I think uh Steve and him have shared, they're super close. We spent a lot of time together, not only in ministry building the ministry continuing to build it, we're gonna celebrate our 25th year. I can't even believe that.
SPEAKER_02This was our 25th anniversary. Uh anniversary in Easter. I know. That was crazy. When Steve said that, Easter.
SPEAKER_01I was shocked. I it didn't even dawn on me that that was true. Now everything this year would be our 25th. 25th, yeah. So cool. 25 years working together, building the vision and watching this church grow has been pretty cool from small rooms. What a ride it's been.
SPEAKER_02What a ride it's been to hotel rooms, yeah, to um building buildings and to renting places and then leasing, buying, and here we are.
SPEAKER_01We have so much we could talk about. I mean, when I asked you to be on this podcast with me, you were like, what are we gonna talk about? What could we not talk about? Yeah, because there's so many things that in our lives that are so intertwined, yeah, that we know God did that. Yeah, but we also chose to stay friends. Yeah, we we have valued one another, and we would not want to do this life without Maureen David in it. Can't imagine doing this life without Pastor Stephen Mary in it.
SPEAKER_02That's right.
SPEAKER_01And there's we've said that to each other over and over again. It's funny, yesterday I was talking to a young girl in the church. I it was just a we had a meeting, you were supposed to be in that meeting, but you couldn't be in that meeting. Remember that meeting? Okay, anyway, I was gonna feel guilty because we have a lot of meetings around here, but meetings, meetings, meetings. Um so I was meeting with her, and when the meeting was over, we started talking about her friendship. And as we were talking about, they're both single, we were talking about it. I was just reflecting on our friendship, and it was giving me so much real revelation from a simple perspective of just be friends, just stay friends no matter what comes your way. Don't let insecurities pull you apart. That's not our topic today. No, but we can go down that and stay there for a long time. All day. Yeah, that's that's something we talk about. Um, just marriage, we could talk about that, which we will do. Okay, but since we are kind of embarking on motherhood coming up, yeah, I wanted Mother's Day, I wanted to talk to you about raising kids. Yeah, because you are you've raised three amazing young people who are married to amazing people. Um, two are married with children, and so you have grandkids. I'm about to have my first grandchild.
But um, I just want to say this from the beginning of our friendship, you were, you know, you're about five or six years out ahead of having kids from me. Um, your youngest Michael is the closest to my kids, other than Christopher and the older two, but there was a gap there. Right. Um, and there were so many things that I just learned from your motherhood watching you because you were an intense mom, but you were very intentional. Right. And I happened, I was just more of a laid-back mom. And there was things about that that were good, but then there were things about that that was bad. So having a good friend that I trusted that made good decisions really helped me say, okay, I need to put some more pressure on myself. I need to pay a little bit more close attention to a lot of things. And I've told you this before, but I I wanted to say this for the podcast so that people listening understand a good, godly female friend in your life is the greatest gift that God can give you for a lot of reasons. And not for the warm fuzzies. Absolutely. Yeah. Because those you don't always have those. Right, right. We work together and we love each other and we get into each other's nerves and we you get mad at me. Well, we're total opposites. Total opposites. Total opposites.
SPEAKER_02Could not be more different. I mean, if we look at each other uh right now, um, your lipstick is dark and mine is very pale, barely there. I tried to share with you. You wouldn't do it. No, no, no, no, no. That's funny. No, we're totally opposites. But it goes both ways, Pastor Mary. So um, yes, I'm very intentional. I am very intense as well. I've become less intense since becoming a grandmother. Yes, grandmommyhood was been very good for you. It has been very good for me, but also at the same time, it's so great to have a friend that is about fun.
SPEAKER_03Yeah.
SPEAKER_02So where I need order, and we've just recently had this conversation. I need a plan. And I even with raising my children and getting my children to a certain place, I always had a plan to get there. And my personality is I like to look at the end. What do I want my grown kids to look like? And I I I use this little strategy for anything I'm doing in life. I look at the end and I say, This is what I don't want to happen. And what can I do on this path to make sure that I get there? Pretty much so. Right. Because this path is never perfect, right? No. We're gonna hit some bumps, we're gonna make some huge mistakes as parents, but there's nothing more valuable than having somebody doing it with you that has the common faith part, which absolutely that's important. But maybe do it differently so you can learn from each other. That's right.
SPEAKER_01But you know, the key thing is you could be different in personalities, but you have to have the same values and expectations. Yes. So we've always wanted the same thing for our children. That's why they've been raised almost like cousins. They've been close, especially your youngest Michael, was really like my fifth child. Yeah. And mine made you have seven kids, right? So um you're we helped watched each other's kids, picked each other's kids up from school. Yeah, you helped me homeschooling once in a while if they needed it, if they were around this the church. You were, you are still like an they'll tell you you're more like their aunt than you are my friend. There, you're a very vital part of their life. As a matter of fact, when Stephanie met her husband, um, she said, I know that he's the one, but I need to make sure that that David and Maury feel the same way.
SPEAKER_02Yeah.
SPEAKER_01And that was very important to her because you had a hand in raising her. Yeah. So she wanted to get the the the thumbs up from you guys, and that really mattered to her. That's so sweet. But that's those are the benefits, though, of when you decide you're going to hang in there with your friends that have the same values. And I and I would say, again, we're we're we're starting this podcast. We're gonna go somewhere and talk about actual parenting. But you do need a village, you do need people with your value system to help you raise your kids. Yeah, absolutely. Tell the story really quick about Christina when she was about 10 years old, your middle child. You're the one where you asked me to talk to her.
SPEAKER_02We were in the pool at my house about struggling with her weight. Okay, so Christina was my
Christina was your Gabby. Sorry, Gabby. So every time we would go into the dressing room at Old Navy or Kmart or wherever we were shopping at the time, we would always leave in tears because the girls went through that phase between 8 and 12 where they gained some weight. And um, I was at my wits' end. I was at my wits' end because I didn't know how to help her any longer. Right. So I came to you and I said, Pastor Maria, I need you to help me with Christina. And you said something so profound to her that was silly at the time, but she took it because she couldn't receive it from her mom. That's right. And it it sounds silly. I'm gonna repeat it very silly. Go ahead. You have to grow wide before you go tall. She was like, Okay, I went wide and I'm gonna go tall. You're an old tree, Christina. You have to go wide and you're gonna go. And because you said it and it wasn't, and you were somebody important to me. That's right. Um, she received it and she sort of, it wasn't such a bad, you know, you know, every time old Navy was like, she had that in the back of her head. And I'm just wide, right? She got there, she got there, you know. They both got there.
SPEAKER_01They both both. We were talking about this this morning about Gabby, because Gabby was she her personality was okay, I know I'm chubby, I'm 10 and I'm chubby, and it bothers me, but it doesn't really bother me. Yeah, because I really would rather just eat cookies. Yeah. And so we have so many. I remember that. Oh my god. She didn't cry as much, Christina cried. Oh no, no, no. Gabby chose, I love those cookies. Those chip zoy cookies, yeah. No, the Nestle's that when they started making those already pre-packaged that were already cut, yeah, that's what ruined all of us. Yes, that was when the war. The break and baked. The break and baked, yeah, yeah. And the brownies. Yeah, they're the from the devil. They're evil, and that's when all of us and all of our kids got that. Yeah, that's what happened. This is true. But um, you know, the the reality is I helped you in seasons with your kids, you helped have helped me in seasons, and it doesn't stop, it hasn't stopped.
SPEAKER_02No, and it's all it truly is all about seasons because we all reach that season. Um, not thinking that we are prepared to to tackle it. So whether it's toddlers, preschool, going into elementary, leaving your kids for the first time with the teacher, um, you know, sleepovers, whether you do that or not, you know, preteens, teens, young adulthood, you all go in it um afraid and feeling that you're not equipped. Oh, and I think that it's just so important. So you were five years behind me, and we fed off each other. And if there was a question, we we would always ask. But it's also important, it was important to me to have somebody a few years ahead of me. Absolutely. And not that they got the perfect, they did it perfect, but if they did it really bad, I made sure I didn't do that. That's right. So I was watching everything, the good and the bad outcomes. Sure. And if they did it good, I made sure I leaned on and asked, hey, how did you get there? That's right. And that's so important because we feel like we need to, as moms, we can't ask those questions, but we absolutely need to show that we don't have all the answers. That's right. We don't know how to keep this together. But if we lean on somebody behind you, that's good, in front of you, and all with the same faith base, it's gonna be okay.
SPEAKER_01Absolutely. And you know, you let's talk about how you raise your kids because it's I think it's important for people to know that all three of your kids, very high level of education, Ivy Leaguers, yeah. And you want God, it was God,
it was God, and and I remember over the years, you made a statement one time to me about your Facebook page. You you want to tell everybody what you said?
SPEAKER_02So there was a season. Well, first of all, all the kids, education was very important to us, and um making sure that the kids one other thing that we instilled in them, whatever they put their mind to, if it was just for a season, they always had to complete that season. Right. So I think that's a big issue with parenting today. Yes. Um, we let our kids try a whole bunch of things, and if they don't like it, they could just drop it like if it was nothing. Right. But if you commit it to this art class or if you commit it to this club, this math club, you had to see it to the end. Good. Um, that was our rule in our family. You couldn't come and three weeks later say, ah, I don't like it, right?
SPEAKER_01So which is brilliant, by the way. Yeah, I think to write that down. That's important.
SPEAKER_02It shows commitment and that you're willing to finish something. That's right. If you didn't like it, it's okay. We will never go back to it again. That's right. But you tried it and you completed it to the end, right? And I could even tell a story of Christina thought she was gonna be a doctor at one point. And this is this we took this into her college. Yeah, she's now at Princeton University and she's taking pre-med classes, and she's three classes in crying every class. Wow. And I'm like, girl, you only got three more classes. You're gonna do it. You're gonna keep crying, you're gonna finish. So you had that to fall back on. That's right. And she did it. So, but yes, education was always important. And I think that our kids got to Ivy League schools fully paid because of our faithfulness to God. Right. I mean, no other, there's no other reason. David and Maury Martinez from a small island in Key West, Florida, yeah, grown, um, being raised poor, um, barefoot all the time. There's no way that their children could get to an Ivy League school if it wasn't for God. Because you and David weren't Ivy Leaguers. No, we weren't. We're FIUers. That's right.
unknownThat's right. That's right.
SPEAKER_02So we were very proud. And FIU was a good school. It served us well, but um, we just always made sure they were at church on Sunday, always made sure to made sure they were in church on Wednesday. They served alongside us. Serving was a family ordeal. So we did children's ministry, and if we did that, that meant that they were gonna be part of picking out the props, picking out um the lessons, picking out things that games that they thought was fun. We included them, and then they did
their discipline part and God did the rest. That's right.
SPEAKER_01It was amazing, which is so important for people to understand. Because you you had made a statement one time to me that feeling really guilty about putting all that on Facebook. Facebook, yeah.
SPEAKER_02So, you know, when your daughter, your son goes to Johns Hopkins, I feel guilty. Listen, I I have struggling, I'm struggling right now just saying this on a podcast because I feel like it's boastful. And that was my whole issue. I'm always dealing with I I was raised Catholic, so I'm always dealing with that guilt. Like I shouldn't be saying that. That's prideful. But Nick got his master's from Johns Hopkins University, right? And then Christina went and got her undergrad degree from um from Princeton University, fully paid for, and that Michael right now is in a top 10 law school. So how that happens can only be God. But after you win, after graduating. You win, and so you feel guilty, like, oh, I'm at Princeton. I'm like, should I put that post up? And oh, I'm I'm this is happening at Johns Hopkins, or or Nick just won another award. Nick was racking in awards, like it was abnormal. He was that kid that was taking all the trophies home. Yeah, but I had this conversation with you. How do I not display the goodness of God? Yeah, I did not do that. I am not that smart. Come on, you know me. I have a good mind, but I am not that kind of mind. And how that happened, it was all God. And how do I not brag on God in those moments? That's right. And you got over that. You got it.
SPEAKER_01You helped me get over it. You told me get over it. Get over it because it's not bragging when you didn't kill yourself trying to get your kids to this level of education. No, I didn't. You you just did what you and David do, which was you're gonna be good kids, education is gonna be first, you're gonna get good grades. Right. And then God was partnered in that. Yeah. And because of your faithfulness, this was the vision in the plan for your children. Yeah. So all of my kids, not one went to an Ivy League school. You know, they've all graduated local schools here, universities. They've done well. But I didn't look at your life and say, I'm a failure because my kids aren't going no. That was never a thought. Because you had a vision for your family, God had a plan for your family and your children, and then of course their own individual plans, as He had for mine. Right. And that's one of the things I think young moms today, I know we struggled in the you struggle in the beginning because the stress is so great that somehow you're supposed to get your kids to a certain place and you're supposed to know how to do it. Right. And you don't. Right. But you really have to rely on good values, uh, be faithful to good values. And if they're if you're not in a church, you and I both know how important a good Christian environment is.
SPEAKER_02Yeah.
SPEAKER_01So go to church, get your kids involved in church, get your kids seeing you, giving back community service to the church. Yeah. Because they become well-rounded people. They do. And they learn good principles to get good grades. Yeah. And then God partners with you. But one of the things that makes it difficult as a mom is the comparison game. Oh, I was just gonna say the judgment.
SPEAKER_02We are so horrible as women when it comes to that, and then even worse when it comes to parenting. So it would have been very easy for me to judge you that you were so, oh, if they get the homework done, it's great. If they don't, they don't. I mean, there were times I thought you were out of your mind. I probably was, but you probably thought I was out of my mind that I would just make sure that the kids got their homework done. But we got over that in the friendship and we grew from that and we realized we both had different judgments, different different paths, different paths, not judgments, right? That's right. Different paths for our children. And to take out that find yourself another mom. And I I to all the young moms out there, find yourself another mom that's different from you. Yeah, that's true. And she's gonna bring the best out of you, you're gonna bring the best out of her, and don't judge her path. That's it. Because her path is different.
SPEAKER_01Well,
you made me be a lot more, okay. Uh although I feel like ministry is our future for our kids, if they so choose. So, you know, it's easy to go, well, so what school they go to. Doesn't matter. Right. But that's not fair either. Yeah. Get push them to the best limit you can push them to. And if they're musical and you start seeing those gifts in, just be a good mom to make sure you're raising well-rounded, happy kids with good characters.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, be good steward of the gifts that God has given your children. That's it. That's what it is. And where they at, where they end up at the end is going to be in the godly place. That's right. Because God gave them those gifts. You're not forcing those gifts on them. And everybody has different gifts.
SPEAKER_01So everybody has different gifts. I remember when Stephanie and Michael were born, they're five days apart. Five days. My second and your third. So we were pregnant at the same time. Yeah. And that's a whole nother podcast to talk about infertility. We'll talk about that another time. But because you were there for me in that season, we have a really sweet story. Anyway, nope, don't, nope, nope, don't go there. Don't go there. We're gonna stay here. Um, but I remember when they were in car seats, newborn, Stephanie was just way out ahead of things physically. Yeah, she was a monkey climbing up everything. And Michael would just look at her and didn't even walk. Yeah, no. She was walking at eight months, though. She was walking at eight months, she was running at nine. She was, I saw, I saw a video on a reel today of a baby that was literally the mom built a gymnast bar over her crib and she was holding on with her feet doing back. Oh, that was Stephanie. It's like, I didn't, why didn't I think of that?
SPEAKER_02My daughter should be like, Michael was just sitting in the car seat, observing the world, smiling all the time. Stephanie was screaming and moving, moving, moving. Never stopped. And yeah, that was okay.
SPEAKER_01And there was a moment where you were like, should I have Michael tested? Because he's just not walking. He smiled too much. He was like, I'm I'm not crazy like her. But as a young mom, it's easy to think, oh, my baby should be doing. Oh, yeah. My baby should be where this baby is.
SPEAKER_02Yeah. It's where it starts. That comparison thing is very dangerous. Starts in day one. Yeah, yeah. Because there's such a wide range of where people, where children should reach a milestone. That's right. And um, we do that, like I said, for all things in our life as women. But when other people's children have accomplished a milestone that your child hasn't, you start feeling like you're a failure or something is wrong, or you should be running to a doctor and find a diagnosis. But that is not the case. No, God has created us to be very unique in reaching those milestones. And Michael was just reaching when they're reaching.
SPEAKER_01He was already using his brain. Yes, he was already using his brain. He was thinking. Yeah. And I I can remember looking at Stephanie going, I don't know, because that's just not normal. Yeah, exactly. What she's able to do isn't normal. So I wouldn't compare because Christopher never did that.
SPEAKER_03Yeah.
SPEAKER_01My other two girls never did that. She just did. But if we had continued to compare, first of all, it could have hurt our friendship. Yeah. Yeah. Which God created our friendship, brought us together, so that we could help raise our kids because he had a plan for us as friends, which is such a beautiful thing. But it's a trap you can fall into and it starts there, but then it can just grow. So then as they got older and Michael was like 10, 11, 12, they were at my house all the time. I remember one time he complained to you because he said, I can't do my homework at their house anymore, mom.
SPEAKER_02No, I got a better story. Okay, go ahead and tell. Let's tell the Disney World story. Oh no, five years old. We take the youth group. At some point, David and I were also helping with the youth group, and we took them to uh Night of Joy. And I tell you, you are in charge of Michael. He's like four or five years old. And you have you have Chris, you have um Stephanie and Michael, about four or five years old, then you have Lauren. I don't know if Gabby's around yet. Um, but you're taking them all through Disney World.
SPEAKER_01Now I'm from Orlando and I know Disney.
SPEAKER_02But wait a minute. I don't even think Lauren was there, but that's besides the point. I was just I think we left her. They were both about four years old, or they were somewhere. Michael got so frustrated with you because you would not follow the map. He's watching the map, and you're like, Oh, let's go here, let's go there. And at the end of the night, you come to me and like. Here's your stop taking. I want to have fun at Disney World. He wants me to follow a map, but he was five years old.
SPEAKER_01It was so little. Well, first of all, I had to work to not be insulted by a five-year-old. Yes. Because I'm like, I lived in Orlando. Okay. I know Disney like the back of my hand. You go the opposite way when you go to Disney to beat the crowds. And he was just, I've never seen anything like it in my life. I was like, I have gone to Disney with an old man. Yeah, you did. Who has to follow rules. Right. Okay. And you've gone with an adult who's more like a child who does not like rules. Well, you gave them back that day. I did not take offense. I'm dumb.
SPEAKER_02I laughed.
SPEAKER_01And I'm like, well. But see that those are the things where they're they're just they were just different. Yeah. So for us to compare the two and think that at any point they were supposed to be on the same page, they weren't. And that's the trap that we would love to avoid young moms from from falling into. If their kid, you know, two misbehaves or talks back.
SPEAKER_03Yeah.
SPEAKER_01You know, your kid has its own personality. Yeah. And they've got to Well, you should address that if they talk back.
SPEAKER_02We should absolutely address that. Now that's something we have very much in common. We don't put up with that. Nope.
SPEAKER_01No, we're both very strong moms when it comes to that.
SPEAKER_02Yeah. Yeah, absolutely. And I think that also goes into adulthood. Yeah. So, you know, as we talk about this season, now our kids are all young adults. Yeah. Most or half, we should say half are married if we add them all up. Yeah, half, right? And three. Yeah. And you're about to um four and three. Sorry. There's seven. My bad. Go. There's seven. You're right. Um, so and you're about to become a grandmother for the first time. So super exciting. But then again, it's the comparison. And um, you just gotta be careful that you know, we all are just encouraging our kids to be what God has created them to be and to be good God-fearing human beings.
SPEAKER_01So
well, I remember um I don't know how much time we have left because I want to move into this thing. We got okay, good. So I wanted to um because if our kids listen to this, it's okay because we're gonna be honest, right? But I remember when uh Christopher and Stephanie were both marrying their significant significant others, because they both got married in a year with one in one year, right? So I had two weddings in one year. That was insane. Insane. I'm still picking up hair off the floor from the stress of that. But I remember you and David telling Steve and I one night, man, it doesn't they, you know, the kids just like it was at Christmas time when you had to make sure each kid got five presents, it doesn't stop. No, it the competition can be a good idea. Even though they don't want that to be true, right? If you go to one's house, you got to go to the other. What you do for one grandkid, you gotta do for the other. Yeah, and you really kind of have to watch that yourself. So, kids, if y'all are listening, sorry, but you put us under pressure. Yeah.
SPEAKER_02Anyway, it's it's another level of pressure, honestly. It's a whole nother thing. A toddler you could throw in a room and you know, say you're in timeout and stop having a pity party. But when a 22-year-old is coming to you and saying, Oh, our sister's about to have a baby. Thank you for being sweet to us all these years. We know that we're no longer your children.
SPEAKER_01As it's a good thing, that just happened to me. When they thought she was going into labor, they were like, Bye, mom and dad. Yeah, good knowing you.
SPEAKER_02Yes. Because they know. So they're keeping score. That's the big thing, even as adults. But you know what? That sort of keeps us in check. It does. Because certain personalities of our adult children attract us. So I have a very distinct personality of three different children with very distinct personalities. So I'm attracted to each one of them for a different reason. But I can see that we can get caught to staying with Christina, she's my only daughter. She's like my best friend and my sister. That's right. And the older we get, that's going to be even more intense. But I could see where I need to now be a little more nurturing of a relationship that's a little different. But I also love this about Nick, you know, he is the order person, the make person that making sure that everything is done and prepared. Man, I love that about that kid, right? So, and I have to be intentional about those sweet moments that I have, Christina, that are so natural to have it with him. And the same thing with Michael. So say something about Michael, because he's gonna hear this and go, You didn't say anything about it.
SPEAKER_01We just talked to him about Disney World. Oh, sorry, Michael, you got yours.
SPEAKER_02No, so um, same thing it goes with Michael. So um, you have to be intentional, but that keeps you in check that they are keeping score. No, it's true. Actually, it does. It's a good thing, it is like it's pressure, right? But you know, I do appreciate that. Like, okay, they are keeping score, they are watching. I actually, I'm so uh ADD about this. I don't know if that's the right word, but I count how many posts I do of my kids and grandkids to make sure they're equally represented on my social media. Oh, that's another level. That's another level.
SPEAKER_01Wow.
SPEAKER_02Okay, I you and I need to go to lunch and I need to take some notes here because it's true. Yeah, because you don't want one to be look like it's being favored more than the other.
SPEAKER_01So no, but it's not a bad thing, it's not, yeah. We we need to come back though and talk about several things, but one thing I would love for us to talk
about in another podcast is just um elderly moms dealing with siblings. Your mom passed last year, and um, so my mom's still alive. But one thing in regards to this conversation, there's three of us, my sisters and I, and my mom lives uh on the same property as my twin sister, so they're together all the time. Right. And she's at the age where she just can't play the fair game anymore. She's older and it's it's really hard. So it's on me to now go and pursue her and spend that quality time with her to make it fair. Yeah. So it's funny how it switches. It switches, actually. It all flips, yeah. And that's a whole podcast is dealing with our elderly parents because once they're gone, yeah, you really do start going through the Rolodex of memories. Did I do enough? Was I there enough? Did I was I, you know, all so you become the mother. Yeah.
SPEAKER_02That's that's the big uh switch, you know, that flips. And um, we have that in common.
SPEAKER_01Yeah.
SPEAKER_02So our siblings lived with our moms, and we are the we're the only ones living out of town. That's right. So there was a lot of pressure and making sure that I was doing my part to, you know, spend incredible quality time with her.
SPEAKER_01So, and I know you feel that pressure too, but that is a whole nother podcast, which we really need to talk about because dealing with elderly parents, our parents are living older, yeah, and we're living older, and it's just a seasonal change. This generation is different than our parents' generation. Right. So anyway, you see why we could talk for hours and hours. Wow, that went virally fun. I told you it's super simple. Yeah, we could do this for hours. I know. We could get five podcasts today in a heartbeat. That's why Steve and I love this room because you just really get to talk and it helps a lot of people, Maury. Good. From the from, especially young
moms today. There's so much stress and pressure. Yeah. We had it, but we didn't have Pinterest. We didn't have Joanna Gaines telling us our houses were ugly. Yeah. You know, we just thank God we didn't have any of that. I don't know how I would factor that in to what we already had. I feel sorry that for young couples that feel like if they don't have that cute fig tree in the corner, their house is ugly. I know. You know, and if it's white or old, I know. You know, let all that go. Yeah, enjoy your life and raise your kids. Yes.
SPEAKER_02And have just undoing it. Have a good be balanced. That's that's the big theme of today, right? Balance is key in everything. So be balanced. Find yourself an opposite friend. That's it. That's also a mom, and and get through it too. Have a good time. That's right. Thanks for being on season.
SPEAKER_01Okay, one last thing. Go. Because you were telling us before you got in, we have to bring this up. Oh gosh. Because I told you your hair looked great. Oh, yes. This is a this is another podcast conversation about marriage, the things you did. This is a pre-podcast on it. Yes. So I'm setting the, I'm setting up the uh the pre's.
SPEAKER_02Okay, so my friend, Pastor Mary Lessie, told me yesterday at four o'clock I was gonna be doing this today. Oh, come on. I like a plan. I like Jesus. No, I even had to ask you for talking points, but I had grays in my hair and I wasn't planning to color my hair till next week. So last night we had an appointment, and on the way home, I told David, I need to stop at Publix to get hair color. I'm getting in a podcast booth, and I can't go to the hair salon. I don't have a 12-hour notice, right? So my husband, I promised him since COVID. Did your husband do your hair during COVID? No. No, wow. I wore a hat. Oh, you wore a hat. No, I made David color my hair. I have three daughters at my house. Oh, that's right. Okay, so then last night I told David, I promised you that I would never ask you again. And David colored my roots. And you paid such a good compliment to him. It was beautiful because he did a great job. David, you did a good job, sir.
SPEAKER_01He's a keeper. He's a keeper. At this point, you can't give him back. It's been too long. But he did a good job on your hair. Anyway, all that being said, I just wanted to throw that out there because that was funny. Little funny, little funny piece of information. Thank you for joining us. And uh stay tuned, keep listening, go back and listen to episodes you have not listened to. All about family, all about raising kids. We have a whole lot more coming for you. We hope it has been a blessing for you today. And don't forget, share, like, and make sure you leave a comment if you like this episode. Bye, guys.
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