SPEAKER_01 0:00

Yes, we have a good everyone from Ileana and Lauren. So we're good there. Uh let's see here. And a T G I Fetty's in there with a good morning.

SPEAKER_02 0:07

Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_01 0:08

And I'm sorry, but she said uh good morning. Uh good or no.

SPEAKER_02 0:14

But what?

SPEAKER_01 0:14

Betty's grammatical writing always throws me off for some reason. She goes, Beautiful morning, good everyone. I mean, it's only four words, but for whatever reason, it's the pattern of the way it lays out. I'm not used to speaking the way she does. Right, because whoa, whoa, whoa.

SPEAKER_02 0:29

You want to cough that out? I was just choking on some coffee and I didn't I didn't realize it actually like affected my voice. Anyway, um, yeah, because you usually start off with good everyone.

SPEAKER_01 0:39

And then beautiful people. Oh, what a beautiful Maybe I'm not used to seeing beautiful or seeing beautiful around my name. That could be what it was. Oh, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes.

SPEAKER_02 0:48

Uh then Gavin was testing the the text messaging. Did you see this? No. Test.

SPEAKER_01 0:55

Thank you, Gavin. It worked. Hey, today is a great day for you. And I'm gonna I wanna mention this. There are different levels of this. Today is International Nagging Day. And here's the thing about this.

SPEAKER_02 1:07

Oh, you think I nag?

SPEAKER_01 1:09

No. I think well, yes, but you do it different. Oh, do I? So here's the thing. So it's I'm gonna I'm gonna pay a compliment right up front here. Wow. Tiffany is not a nager. Okay. She will abuse me with put downs in a beautiful way. Uh-huh. You know. It's a theme in your life. It's subtle, but you know, also I know it's not it's not nasty. Like I think she's, you know, in her very dry way, uh-huh, you know, uh teasing me. Yeah. But it's not nagging, uh, per se, right? I'm probably the nager in the house. In fact, I probably drive her BS crazy because she likes to do things at her own pace. Okay. I struggle with her pace. Okay.

SPEAKER_02 1:52

Let's say So roles are um well, in typical households, you would say roles would be reversed in yours.

SPEAKER_01 1:58

I would. And I'll give you the example.

SPEAKER_02 2:00

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 2:01

She always comes through on birthdays for like the kids, you know, like with what we're planning. The problem is it's always three days before the birthday, and I'm in full panic mode. I can do it. She'll tell me afterwards. I've had that ordered for six weeks, and I'm like, oh my god.

SPEAKER_02 2:16

You have to over-communicate with Scott.

SPEAKER_01 2:18

So, yep, yep. Yep. Yep. So what happens?

SPEAKER_02 2:21

Oh, I parted, let me tell Scott.

SPEAKER_01 2:23

Yep. So what happens is broke a toe, tell Scott. I have begun the nagging process and I drive her, like I said, I drive her crazy. And it's just something I need to get over. I may have to schedule a session with uh the therapist. But uh I I can't because I'm used to uh look, I used to be very last minute.

SPEAKER_02 2:42

Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_01 2:43

But then for some reason something changed, and I'm like, I gotta get a little bit ahead, and it causes me to do that.

SPEAKER_02 2:48

I think I know what it is. Once you got full custody of the kids, then it's this is all me. Like there is no so you knew that if anything fell behind, there's no one. I mean, yes, you have Tiffany, but like you are the person.

SPEAKER_01 3:04

There's yeah, that's I think that sub subconsciously probably was a big piece of it.

SPEAKER_02 3:08

I feel like that's when the change happened.

SPEAKER_01 3:11

So that that I will say, I freely admit that I'm the jackass with that. Now let me go over to Allie. Allie handles things a little bit differently. Yeah, there's nagging, but it's not nagging in the traditional sense. I don't I don't like this word. It is very snarky and very just, you know, cutesy jabsy. Do you ever cross that passive aggressive? That's the word. Uh do you ever cross the line though and go full in? Like, I don't know, maybe Zach's just too nagged? Yeah, maybe Zach's too afraid of you and and just make sure that stuff gets done.

SPEAKER_02 3:45

But uh so uh two things. Number one, I I don't consider it nagging because you should have done it the first time.

SPEAKER_01 3:52

And so Oh if that's not justification and it's fine.

SPEAKER_02 3:57

It's not. It's just being a team player. And then the second I can't deny it. And the second thing is, no, I don't, I'm not a full on I don't first of all, I don't have to tell him over and over and over again.

SPEAKER_01 4:09

Because he's terrified of you, I don't like it.

SPEAKER_02 4:10

Well, so he said the other day, he goes, I just don't ever want to disappoint you.

SPEAKER_01 4:14

Oh, that's terrification. Oh, it absolutely is. Terrification invented a word.

SPEAKER_02 4:19

But it absolutely is. But even the other day And you love it. I do. Even the other day, I made dinner. We have a little thing in our household. If you make dinner, then the other person cleans up. Because we're a team.

SPEAKER_01 4:31

Sure.

SPEAKER_02 4:32

And and so he didn't do the dishes. So the next day, he was talking about just, you know, eventually when he moves in, and he was like, Oh, you know, I gotta keep my weight around here. And I said, Oh, like when you didn't do the dishes last night. No. See, that's where it happened. See, there it is.

SPEAKER_01 4:46

It's it's not really nagging in the traditional sense, it's just a good jab, you know?

SPEAKER_02 4:52

And he's like, I knew it, I knew that was gonna come back on me.

SPEAKER_01 4:54

I knew, and oh look at uh yes, go ahead. I want to hear your audio text, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 4:59

Oh my god, he's just clothes everywhere. He'll wear a shirt for a few hours and then he'll throw it on a dresser or the desk or something, and then he'll have a pile of clothes that he's worn for maybe a couple hours, and then they just sit there in a pile. It's like, oh my gosh, dude, just let me wash it and put it away. And then eventually I collect a lot of clothes and wash it. Well, where did that go? Like I leave a lot of people.

SPEAKER_02 5:21

Oh, see. I I I'm actually with I'm actually with him on this. I have you know, things get sweaty dirty. Yes yesterday, we were standing by the smoker at the farmer's market. My my clothes smelled like chicken barbecue. Yeah. That is absolutely going in the wash.

SPEAKER_01 5:36

Absolutely.

SPEAKER_02 5:37

But these pants I'm wearing today, I only wore them for a very brief time. So they've been living. There's I have this like little vanity thing. Yeah. They've been like hanging.

SPEAKER_01 5:46

Ah, that's fine. That that's not okay.

SPEAKER_02 5:47

It's closed purgatory, is what I like to call it.

SPEAKER_01 5:49

Close purgatory.

SPEAKER_02 5:50

Yes, it's not ready. It's not ready for laundry, and it's about to go back on my bottom.

SPEAKER_01 5:54

I'll give you one other example of Tiffany's not really nagging, just taking a good. Oh, I love this. So uh she's on this new kick now that all clothes must be turned right side right before it goes in the laundry to get the dog hair off. Now, it makes total sense. And and admittedly, it takes me a ramping in period to be able to absorb the orders you're giving. Not gonna lie about that. So uh instead of did you well, there's two things.

SPEAKER_02 6:23

Wait, wait, wait. Are you saying you take your pants off and it's like they're inside out? No, please don't.

SPEAKER_01 6:30

Um, no, uh, yeah. So if they're wrong side, right.

SPEAKER_02 6:34

Yeah, but you take your pants off and it's like you flip them inside out?

SPEAKER_01 6:37

No, you flip them the right way. You know when you take it. No, no, no, no, no.

SPEAKER_02 6:40

When you're taking your pants off. I'm not talking about before the laundry. I'm saying you are end of day taking your pants off.

SPEAKER_01 6:45

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 6:46

Do you take them off and then all of a sudden the inside is on the outside?

SPEAKER_01 6:50

No, if that happens, you have to turn it the right way. Of course. That's yes.

SPEAKER_02 6:54

I never my clothes are rarely flipped.

SPEAKER_01 6:57

Where they're inside out.

SPEAKER_02 6:58

Correct.

SPEAKER_01 6:58

Yeah. So that being said, okay, uh, what she'll do is it'll start like this. It first it starts like this. And I don't know, you guys can tell me if this is nagging. I don't think it is. I think this is just her way to, you know, stick it to me. So she'll give me the the the first will be Did you turn all the clothes right side right side out or right side in, inside right, whatever the word is. The way we're the right way. The way that you would wear them. And as I'm in the middle of saying, why yes, I mmm. Oh, back to the mm-hmm. Go back to the podcast. You'll catch that one. So that'll be the first round of it. The next round of it becomes you didn't turn it right side right, did you? I'm like, but I I did. Like, she's already in this denial phase of me doing anything right.

SPEAKER_02 7:39

I'm like, go back and yeah, but then do you go back and check? Like, I'm not sure, I'm really not sure.

SPEAKER_01 7:43

I you're damn right I do, because I'm like, I'm not getting this butt kicked.

SPEAKER_02 7:47

I know where my bread is butter.

SPEAKER_01 7:48

You're damn right.