Relationship Radio: Marriage, Sex, Limerence & Avoiding Divorce

How To Tell Your Spouse You Lied

June 01, 2022 Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Beam Holmes: Experts in Fixing Marriages & Saving Relationships Season 3 Episode 14
Relationship Radio: Marriage, Sex, Limerence & Avoiding Divorce
How To Tell Your Spouse You Lied
Show Notes

If you knew that you’d done something that might hurt your spouse, would you tell them? Maybe you have a porn addiction that they haven't discovered. Perhaps you have a gambling problem, have had an affair, or one of the hundreds of other possibilities. Any one of these could be devastating to your spouse and your relationship. So is there ever a good time to not share everything?

The answer is complicated. At Marriage Helper, we advise that you weigh the benefit versus the cost. Think about the outcome of telling your spouse and ask yourself who it will benefit. For example, if your secret is decades old and your relationship has continued to grow, then it is possible the costs would greatly outweigh the benefits. This is only one of the many questions you’ll need to answer before you can decide to tell your spouse what you’ve done.