238 - 5-Minute Mentoring: Sowing Into Your Relationships

I genuinely believe that we're called as believers to walk in life-giving, beautiful relationships with other people. We're not meant to do this life alone. And yet, so many times, the enemy keeps us on the edges.

If you've ever felt alone and stuck on the outside, then you definitely want to check out my blog and tune into today's podcast. I'll be sharing three things the Lord showed me about sowing into others to have the relationships and connections that make life complete.

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To read the blog article this podcast is based on, visit: https://www.matttommeymentoring.com/blog/3-keys-for-healthy-relationships

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Transcript

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Hey there, my friend. Have you ever wondered how to start seeing life-giving, awesome relationships in your life? Well, that's something I really struggled with for a long time until the Lord started showing me how to actually see those things manifest in my life. I'm going to be sharing that with you today here on 5-Minute Mentoring. Well, hey there, my friend. I'm so glad that you're with me here today on 5-Minute Mentoring. You know, one of the things I really truly believe that we're all called to do as believers, not just as artists, is to be walking in life-giving, wonderful, beautiful relationships with other people. We're not meant to do this life alone, and yet so many times the enemy keeps us on the edges. He keeps us on one side, codependency, saying, I can't do life without this person. I have to do what they say. They define me, what they like, and what they... say I have to do is the way I have to do life or on the other side is complete isolation. where you avoid people. You don't go out. You don't sell your art. You're not involved in shows. Maybe you're not even involved in a church or a small group or any other kind of community where people really know you. And so learning to cultivate relationships in your life is really, really huge. And one of the things that the Lord showed me years ago was that the principle of sowing and reaping is not just a financial principle, which we've taught a lot here on the podcast, but it's really a just, it's a kingdom principle that works in every area. You know, God sets up universal laws. If you think about gravity, for example, if you, you know, if I were to sit here and just drop my pen, boom, on my desk, it's gonna fall. Why? Because the universal law of gravity. Well, the same thing's true with the universal law of sowing and reaping. The Bible's pretty clear. Whatever a person sows, that is what they're gonna reap. And that's not just true in money. It's also true in relationships. If you're not sowing into actively relationships in your life, then I would almost guarantee you're not reaping healthy relationships and healthy relational interaction in your life as well. And that's one of the things that a lot of times people just think, well, aren't relationships supposed to happen? And no, just like everything in life, we've got to be intentional about seeing the relationships that we want actually cultivated in our life. And so I want to give you a couple of tips that I've learned over the years that I think have really, really been helpful for me, not only as I've grown in my artistic journey, but just as I've grown in my relationship with God and relationship with others and my life as a kingdom person. Number one, I think if you can speak to people and when you speak to them, speak according to their design, not just their demonstration. What does that mean? Oh, this is huge. Listen, God's got a design and a purpose for every believer, for every person, all right? Whether they're a believer yet or not. And it's so easy to speak to people and treat people based on just the demonstration that they're showing us. That is, maybe their brokenness, maybe the bad habits, maybe the things that they're doing that are not so healthy. And we speak to them in that according to the worst parts of them. And we've all got those parts. As opposed to being able to see them by the spirit of God and speak to them by their design, which is number two, we've got to begin to pull out the gold from people. So we bless their design. We recognize their design. And then we look through the rocks and the dirt and all the other stuff that may be in somebody's life. And we say, hey, I see gold in you. I want to affirm that. I want to pull that out. I want to elevate that. in your life, all right? And again, these are two things already that you're doing. This has nothing to do with you yet. This is you sowing into and turning your attention into the lives of people that God brings in your life, all right? Number three then would be, be the one that initiates, not waits. I tell you what, so many people over the years, myself included, get offended when they're the one that is always asking their friends out. And of course, you want friends to invite you out and that sort of thing. And I hope that's happening on a regular basis in your life. But if it's not, quit waiting around. Be the one that initiates. Ask Holy Spirit. Say, Holy Spirit, who's the one? Who's the person I should ask out for dinner after church on Sunday? Who's the person that may want to go walk with me? Who's the person that maybe we could all get together and have a big creative party or a big day in the studio together? Who is that? Who can I bless? Who can I sow into? Because here's the thing. If you always wait, on others to sow into you, a lot of times you'll be waiting a long time. And the enemy will use that, I'm telling you, 100% in your life. And so if you'll be the one that initiates, not waits, if you'll bless people according to their design, not just their demonstration, and if you'll actively pull out the gold in people when all you can see demonstrably is just the rocks and the dirt and kind of the broken things in their life, I promise you, you will begin to see incredible fruit come forth in relationships. You'll be somebody that is valued. You'll be somebody that people wanna be around. You'll be one of those people that says, oh my gosh, have you ever been around this person? Oh my goodness, every time I'm around them, I just feel better. And listen, the Bible's true. Whatever you sow, that's what you're gonna reap. Proverbs also says, he who refreshes others will himself be refreshed. So if you're looking for relationships, if you're looking to grow in that area, start sowing. And I promise the Lord will bring the fruit of relationships in your life. All right. Well, hey, my friend, I love you very much. Thanks for being with me today on 5-Minute Mentoring. And remember, until next time, you were created to thrive. All right.

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