Self compassion, you are just a human being. You make mistakes, just as other people make mistakes, forgiving yourself first, will humanize the other people in your life for you. Not having the desire to care for someone you find abusive is you being human. In all honesty, caring about someone is not for the weak.
We can’t change other people, and comparison is the thief of joy. We get emotional pain when we compare people in our families to other people. We are all different, and unique in our own way. We can choose to embrace other people in our lives for whom they are, instead of trying to turn them into what we want them to be. We miss out on the person in front of us.
Our brains are very powerful organs. Whatever we decide to believe, our brains will produce evidence for that. If we only see the negative in people, the brain will produce plenty of evidence for that.
This doesn’t mean to become door mats for other people, we can set firm boundaries to protect ourselves and the other party.
You can look at the situation, then make a conscious decision. Making conscious decisions is about responding to situations or people instead of reacting. This is a better for your own wellbeing.
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