AwakenYou in Your Marriage

The Most Important Work I've Done in My Marriage

• Christine Bongiovanni-Stiff • Episode 266

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How do you stop feeling powerless in your marriage when your spouse won't change?

For years, I spent so much energy focusing on what my husband wasn't doing and all the ways I wished he would show up differently. While many of those hurts were real, I eventually realized something surprising: the more I focused on trying to change him, the more powerless I felt.

In this episode, I'm sharing the deeper meaning behind the name AwakenYou in Your Marriage and why I believe one of the most important shifts we can make is learning to come back to ourselves.

We'll talk about:

  • Why focusing on your spouse can leave you feeling stuck and resentful
  • What it means to "awaken yourself" within your marriage
  • The difference between self-responsibility and self-abandonment
  • What is inside your circle of control—and what isn't
  • How inner work can lead to greater clarity, peace, and connection
  • Why working on yourself doesn't mean ignoring your spouse's responsibility

If you're feeling exhausted, disconnected, or trapped waiting for your spouse to change, this episode will encourage you to discover where your true power lies and help you take your next step toward a healthier marriage.

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