From Control To Self-Trust: Building Business Without Burnout

The Patterns that Keep Us Stuck in Old Ways of Building Business

Many women believe growth in business requires better strategy, more effort, or new tools. Yet the real limitation is often invisible. We build businesses through patterns — ways of thinking, reacting, leading, and relating that once created success. Over time, those same patterns quietly become constraints.

You may notice yourself overworking, controlling outcomes, avoiding visibility, or repeating decisions that feel familiar but heavy. These are not failures. They are learned structures. They were intelligent responses at one stage of your journey. But evolution requires awareness of what is now automatic.

Business does not stagnate because of lack of knowledge. It stagnates because identity remains unchanged. When the inner model of safety, worth, and success stays the same, results repeat — even with new strategies.

The shift begins by noticing:
 What do I always do under pressure?
 Where do I default instead of choose?
 Which behaviors feel “normal” but drain me?

Growth becomes possible the moment you see the pattern without judgment. Awareness creates space. Space creates choice. Choice creates new results.

This conversation invites you to look beyond tactics and into the deeper architecture shaping your business — the internal patterns that determine how you lead, decide, and expand.

Welcome to "The Heart of Success," where we redefine success with Larisa Vakulina – a multi-awarded entrepreneur, healer, and mentor.

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Transcript

Who She Helps And Why It Matters

The Cost Of Control And Collapse

From Mind Games To Real Power

Listening To Body And Soul

Surrender, Healing, And Energy Return

Choosing Guidance Over Going Alone

Building With Joy And Presence

SPEAKER_00 0:32

Hello, my name is Larissa Vaculina, and in today's video, I would like to share with you a fundamental blocks and fundamental barriers that keep us stuck in looking at building business or uh achieving in a very old way. This old way is actually outdated and it is collapsing. But a lot of people are still having the same type of perception and uh attitude to how we build business. So I build a multi-million dollar business and I am a founder of the Ascara Sanctuary, which is located on 40 hectares of land down south of Adelaide in South Australia. And here I am uh working with um uh successful women who are actually achieved it all. They have it all. They CEOs, they they directors, they owners of the business, they leader, and they have all the titles. But I like I felt um a stranger in my own life. That's what I feel and see and observe. How women are having it all, but they actually feeling very strange in their own life. So, what's the point of success then? Because we build success to be happy, uh, to have everything, to have freedom, to have freedom of choice. But what's the point to have this success uh if you feel empty being at the top? Right? So, and this is how many women feel right now. I can see it, I can see it through my clients, I can, I'm when I'm meeting a lot of women, I can feel uh through what they are describing, how their life is, how their business is. And sadly, they keep carrying this heavy uh weight of success until they actually collapse, until they cannot even give more, they cannot create more, they cannot manage and control anymore anything. So, like I did, I did that 20 years ago. I thought control kept me safe and protected. That was a measure of protection. It's almost like, you know, if I'm in control of everything, business partners, family, uh parents, uh, all their colleagues and teams around, so then I am actually safe. Well, this is really what I'm going to say to you is a game, uh uh, it's a mind game. It's a game that the mind is playing because it laughs control, it just clings to this concept that when I am uh in control and when I am see how other people are the way that I want them to be, well then I actually safe and I'm protected. But uh control is actually a disguised as power, right? But the real power, the real power coming from the self-trust and surrender. So when I started uh through my internal intuitive uh way of um looking at how my body is started to collapse, how I started to feel all the distorted way of me running business and relating to other people, how my body started to send me signs, anxiety, uh panic attacks, depression, and then eventually I was diagnosed with breast cancer. Well, now I call it spiritual intelligence, was actually giving me the signs because we have the body, we cannot live without body. We have the soul, we cannot live without soul. But in our society, what we do, we only pay attention to the body and the mind. So, and we kind of kind of know that the soul, but we actually never ever uh uh consciously choose to ask ourselves a question like if I am feeling unwell, if I am not having enough resource, uh if if I'm not having enough uh energy, what is then wrong with my soul, right? And then where are we gonna go uh when we um uh when we feel unwell in our body, we go to doctors. When we feel unwell in our soul, we don't even recognize that we are unwell in our soul. Where do we go? We don't we don't go anywhere, we just try to fix it ourselves. But what I'm gonna say to you, it's much quicker and it is much more effective and smoother, painless to go with someone else who already traveled that road. So when I started to surrender, when I started to trust myself fully, well, that's when my life started to actually uh working for me, because that's where I started to heal, and that's where I started to get back my energy, my resources, my creative power. That's where I started to build business from different places, and it is a completely different perception and attitude and reality, because then you can do it effortlessly, you can do it with joy, you can do it with all your presence. You finally connect it to yourself and know all and utilize all of your skills, knowledge, and now you have the most powerful skill, you have connection to yourself. So please subscribe to my channel, follow me, connect with me, and contact me if you really would like to jump on um my 12-week Oscara principles journey for created for women designed to help you to start to be connected to yourself. And the next um enrollment is gonna be in January. So don't miss it. Um, and it is at uh launch in price. So please stay connected with yourself. And if you need help, the help and support is always available. If what I'm telling you uh here is resonating with you, well then please follow me and stay in contact. Thank you so much. I'll talk to you next episode.