THE MAJESTIC TALKS SHOW: SEASON 6: EPISODE 7: WORDS THAT WOUND: JULY 23, 2026

Episode 7: Words That Wound: Comments That Stay With Us for Years

How long can a single comment affect a person's life?
Words have the power to encourage, strengthen, and heal—but they can also leave emotional wounds that last for years. Whether spoken by a parent, teacher, friend, spouse, or even ourselves, hurtful words can shape our identity, influence our self-worth, and impact our relationships long after they've been spoken.
In Episode 7 of The Majestic Talks Show, Coach Latasha S. Morgan welcomes an exceptional panel of guests for a powerful conversation about the lasting impact of words and God's pathway to healing.

Joining the discussion are:
Dr. Toni Boulware Stackhouse – Counseling psychologist and founder of a faith-based mental health practice, sharing a holistic perspective on trauma, emotional healing, and spiritual wellness. 

Davida Shensky – Career and Personal Development Strategy Coach who shares her personal journey of growing up with a disability in a toxic family and discusses how harmful words affect the inner child and shape identity. 

Holly Rennels – Writer, author, poet, and speaker who explores the transformative power of words through a biblical lens, reminding us that Jesus Christ—the Living Word—is our ultimate source of hope, truth, and restoration. 
Together, this panel explores how words influence our emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being—and how God's truth can replace the lies we've carried for years.

In this episode, you'll learn:
* Why hurtful words can remain with us for decades
* How childhood comments shape identity and self-worth
* The connection between trauma, emotional wounds, and our inner dialogue
* How to recognize and replace limiting beliefs with God's truth
* Practical strategies for protecting the inner child and fostering emotional healing
* The responsibility we have to speak words that bring life, hope, and encouragement
* Biblical principles for healing from verbal and emotional wounds
The Majestic Talks Show is a biblically based podcast rooted in Christian principles, faith-based emotional intelligence, and whole-person healing.

If this conversation encourages you, be sure to Like, Subscribe, and Share it with someone who needs hope and healing. Together, we can become people whose words bring life instead of wounds.
Disclaimer: This episode is intended for educational, inspirational, and faith-based discussion. It is not a substitute for professional medical, mental health, or therapeutic care.

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Transcript

SPEAKER_05 0:24

Hello, hello, oh everyone, and welcome to the Majestic Talk Show. I'm Latasha Morgan, certified Christian Life Coach, Certified Professional Life Coach, or a certified master Christian mental health coach, and a whole lot of other good, good, goodies, y'all. So before we begin today's conversation, I like to ground us in God's word first. Our first scripture comes from Proverbs 25, 11. A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver. What a beautiful picture that is. In biblical times, apples of gold set in silver represented something very precious, valuable, and intentionally crafted. Solomon reminds us that the right words spoken at the right time are gifts. They encourage, restore, comfort God, and bring hope to those who hear them. This verse aligns perfectly with today's conversation because it reminds us that words are never ordinary. They carry weight. They have the power to shape moments, influence hearts, and leave lasting impressions. Just as life-giving words can inspire and strengthen us, hurtful words can harm us, can leave wounds, can linger long after they've been spoken. Our second scripture comes from Proverbs 18:21. Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit. That's the New King James Version. Every word we speak plants a seed. Some words produce life, others produce pain. Tonight, we're going to explore what happens when painful words take root in our hearts and how God's truth can uproot those lies and replace them with healing. So again, welcome to the Majestic Talk Show. Now, the Majestic Talk Show is where we explore faith-based emotional intelligence and whole person healing. Again, I'm Coach Latasha Morgan, certified Christian life coach, CEO, and purpose strategist. And this season, we're on a journey called Healing the Temple because we want you to be healed totally and completely. This is a mind, body, spirit journey for a healthier you because you matter to us. You really do. So today's episode is Words That Womb, Comments that stay with us for years. So together, we're going to walk through this with some important questions that we're going to be asking some very important people. Tonight we have Dr. Tony Stockhouse. Stackhouse, I'm sorry, Dr. Tony. So we're going to welcome her to the stage first. And she is a wonderful person. You saw her um on another show previously, one of the first few shows we had this year. So welcome back, Dr. Stackhouse. How are you?

SPEAKER_04 3:10

I'm well and I'm excited that you uh welcomed me back. I am excited that you welcomed me back. I'm glad to be here with you. And uh the this topic definitely is near and dear to my heart. Dr. Stackhouse. Yes. Can you I can't hear you? You can't hear me? Can you hear me now?

SPEAKER_05 3:31

Mm-mm. I can't hear you. It's all right. It's all right with problems.

SPEAKER_04 3:36

Okay, I'm gonna leave and come back.

SPEAKER_05 3:37

Go ahead and do that, and I'll come back and go to um Ms. Davita Finski. How are you? How are you doing today? No, hold on. What's wrong with everybody? Why is everybody mute today?

SPEAKER_03 3:54

It's the summer. People are taking their vacations.

SPEAKER_01 4:04

I can hear that. I can hear them. Um I can hear everybody.

SPEAKER_05 4:16

Can you hear me? I can. I don't know what the problem is here. Oh, I hear you, Dr. Sackhouse.

SPEAKER_04 4:24

You hear me now? Okay.

SPEAKER_05 4:26

Yes. Um, so Davita and Holly, we all go out and come back in. But let's continue. It's all right. Um mistakes are it's okay. That's what life is all about. And we're talking about words that won't in a way because those words are mistakes people made. They weren't intentional most of the time. But Dr. Stackhouse, again, welcome to the show. Um, tell us who you are, what you do.

SPEAKER_04 5:00

Okay. Thank you, uh, Latasha. Thank you for having me uh return. I really enjoyed uh the first time I was here with you, and I'm excited about the topic and being with you ladies uh this evening. Um I am Dr. Tony Bower Stackhouse. I'm the founder, owner, and operator of Life Matters Wellness, which is a private practice here in Maryland. I have an office in Bel Air, and we have an office in Baltimore County, which is in Owens Mills, and we provide mental health services to any and everybody who is looking to um look for ways to manage their mental wellness in uh better ways. We provide grief counseling, couples, families, and all of that. I'm also a wife, I'm a caregiver for my husband. Um, I'm a mom, I'm a grandmom. Um, and some fun facts about me. I'm an avid Ravens fan. I love to travel, I love to shop, and I love to spend time with my family. So I'm excited to be here with you guys today.

SPEAKER_05 6:04

And again, thank you so much for being here. Thank you so much. I'm glad to have you. Um, so we're gonna have Holly, you're next. Hi, Holly. Welcome to the show.

SPEAKER_00 6:17

Thank you for having me. Can you hear me now? What is going on? Oh, you really can't hear me?

SPEAKER_04 6:28

I can't hear. I can hear her. You can't hear. Oh wow.

SPEAKER_00 6:40

It's on mute. That's what I'm saying.

SPEAKER_04 6:42

It's on mute now.

SPEAKER_00 6:43

Um No, I muted it and tried to come back in. Does that matter? You hear her talking?

SPEAKER_04 6:47

I hear, yeah.

SPEAKER_05 6:50

Why I can't hear you go ahead and talk. Maybe there's Dio as a recording. What I'll do is I'll go out and come back. But you go ahead, um All right.

SPEAKER_02 7:08

Well, I am Holly Reynolds. My husband and I just started a mentoring ministry at our church called Generation Christ. Uh, it's been on my heart for a couple of years, but we mentor young people through the uh lens of Titus II. And it is uh gendered mentoring, the way we used to do it in church, where the older men work and walk and you know, walk with the younger men, and older women uh teach younger women how to want to be moms and wives and do all of those things. Um, words are near and dear to my heart because my first business was as a writer. So I do believe in the power of words and how important they are. I also believe it's our role as parents to speak life and to speak Christ into our children and into our homes. Um, I have seen firsthand what happens when good parents speak good and powerful things over their children, and what happens when the absence of that is in the home. Um, and I've also seen it turn around when I was a basketball coach for fourth grader girls, when um they girls would come to me sometimes who had not had life spoken into them, and how you could just give them courage and give them self-confidence just by telling them who you saw them to be, who is an image bearer of the Lord, you know, and someone who has value just because of who they are. So um I I've seen the power of words firsthand.

SPEAKER_05 8:36

Okay, good. Thank you for being here. I miss some of what you said.

unknown 8:41

Thank you.

SPEAKER_04 8:43

It was good. You're gonna enjoy it.

SPEAKER_01 8:47

That's for the playback, right? Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 8:53

Hello, Miss Davita. How are you?

SPEAKER_03 8:56

I'm doing great.

SPEAKER_05 8:59

That's good. Nice to have you here, Davita Shinsky. Um, did I say that right?

SPEAKER_03 9:04

Yes, you did.

SPEAKER_05 9:06

All right. So welcome again to the show. Thank you for being here. Tell everyone who you are and what you do.

SPEAKER_03 9:13

Okay, my name is Davita Shinsky, and the name of my company is uh is Career Performance Institute. I'm a career and personal development strategy coach, and I have been a disability rights advocate for years and got involved when I lived in Atlanta with promoting disability awareness and getting involved with organizations that serve the disability community. And when the Olympics came to Atlanta, the Olympic Committee refused to bid for the Paralympics. So it was the disability community that got the Paralympics to Atlanta, and the head of the IOC went in and changed the bylaws so that after 1996, any host country who bid for the Olympics was automatically bidding for both and automatically having to prepare for both. And other than that, what I do is that I worked with companies and individuals with small businesses to take their business from launch and grow it and have been in contact with a friend who does business plans, and now we are about to launch a separate business where he will be writing the business plans, and then I will be working with them to get the loans to the business where they need it, and to help them with taking their business and getting it and growing it and expanding it.

SPEAKER_05 10:55

All right. Thank you for sharing with us. That's good, that's amazing. Um, so listen, ladies, are y'all ready to get started? All right, so like I told you all before, we're gonna start with three questions, right? We wanna know this is not it isn't a counseling or a coaching session, but we have to know where how do we get here, where are we now, and how can we heal and move forward. So that's what the questions that we're gonna answer today. But we're gonna also follow Gracie through a story throughout this um all three sessions because I want every person listening and watching to see themselves in her story. I want to grab all learning styles and I don't want to leave anybody out. So we're gonna follow a story. And if you can see yourself through her, you can see how you can heal and grow and move forward as well, okay? So let's get into it. And I hope by the end of the day, somebody is healed, somebody is delivered. The end of the section, this um show rather is healed, delivered, and made free and walking in your total healing and purpose the way God intended you to be. Because he doesn't want you to stay where you are, he wants you to heal, he wants you to move forward, he wants you to remember the words that he's spoken over your life and not be so concerned about whatever everybody else is thinking. Because you know that's exactly what we do. We know what God has said about us. Some people may not know, but we some of us know what God has said about us, but we still choose to listen to and hear and place so much emphasis on the words that somebody else has said. Those words have wounded us. And sometimes it's not just because they're being mean, it's something that has been done to them, so they're doing it as well. So that's what they know. So we're here so you can unlearn. So I want you all to learn and listen to what we all have to say tonight, okay? So let's get started. We're gonna start with section one. How do we get here? So tonight I'd like for us to imagine someone. She isn't one specific person, she represents all of us. We'll call we'll call her Grace. Gracie. Grace is eight years old. She loves to laugh. She asks lots of questions. She sings when no one is watching. She believes she can become anything. One afternoon, she proudly shows someone a picture she drew. And instead of encouragement, you know what she hears? That's not very good. A few months later, someone says, Why can't you be more like your sister? Later, she hears, We're too you're too loud. You're never gonna get it right. Nobody wants to hear what you have to say. Those moments seem small. The adults move on, life continues, but Gracie quietly begins collecting those words, not in a scrapbook, but in her heart. Every comment becomes another brick in the story she's writing about herself. Without realizing it, she begins believing what was spoken over her. She speaks less, she questions herself more, she begins measuring her worth by other people's approval. The tragedy is though, Gracie wasn't born believing she wasn't enough. She learned it just like many of us did. So, Dr. Tony, Dr. Stackhouse, the question first question of the day is for you. Okay. From a counseling psychology perspective, why do words folk endure in childhood have such a lasting impact on our identity and emotional development?

SPEAKER_04 14:55

So um, as it relates to our development, children rely on their parents or whoever their caregivers are to create the environment as it relates to who they are. We are supposed to affirm our children, who they are, who God said they are created to be. And so when children grow up in environments and they are not getting those seeds planted, and they're getting the opposite of that. And let me just say this: our people perish for lack of knowledge. If you are not a believer, um, you might not know that this is what you're supposed to do as it relates to your children, and so then you do the opposite, and so a lot of children are dealing, wrestling with the words that are complete opposite of what God has spoken about their lives, and so um it's they look to it because our parents um they help us get confidence, they help affirm who we are, um, and those words that are spoken to us from them are supposed to do those things, and a lot of times though the words that they speak hurt, as you um spoke in the story with Gracie. Um, a lot of the words that were spoken to her really dealt with taken away from her confidence. She was less confident because of the things that was spoken to her. You're too loud, nobody wants to hear everything, anything that you have to say. And so anything that she would want to say, she would shy away from saying because she was told that. That's the what's playing in her ear, right? That's what's uh planted in her heart, and so she would have to go through a process to evict those thoughts, eradicate those thoughts, dispel those thoughts so that she could believe the things that God spoke over her life before he even sent her here. Okay, so where do you think it starts though So I think that I think that when people when adults do that to children, I think it was done to them, right? Like when you are when you are a person who is critical. One of the things I do with uh my clients when I'm doing therapy, and they seem to be so critical, the first thing I ask them, who who was the person who was very critical of you? Who didn't who was the person that made you feel like anything you did or said or your existence wasn't good? And so we can always go back, and and they always can come up with a person, whether it's the mother or the grandmother or the father or somebody who spoke ill um seeds into their lives, uh, made them feel uh very critical of themselves, felt made them feel unsure. Um, you could always trace it back, and you can trace it back generations because then I'll say, Did you I'll trace it back to see like how who raised the person. Let's say if they say it was a mom, I'll say, Who raised mom? And they say, Oh, my grandmother was the same way. She would always say those. So it can be traced back to generations. Um, how people, this is learned behavior. Um, we watch people do that, and if we don't know that this is not the way it's supposed to be done, then we ourselves do it as well. Um, my both of my parents are generation breakers as it relates to that. So even though it was done to them, they did different with us, which taught us to speak life into our children because life was spoken into us. But when we connect with other family members, we see how those seeds are planted. Um, and it makes a difference in people's lives because it makes you feel like you can't do anything or you're not a good person. Um, so it definitely, if you speak death, um, it's it you're gonna you're gonna have somebody that's gonna struggle. If you speak life, you're gonna see somebody that live a prosperous life.

SPEAKER_05 19:08

That's true, that's true. I believe that. I believe that because my parents um spoke life into us.

SPEAKER_04 19:15

Yeah, that's for me. I tell people all the time I feel like I can do anything because my dad told me that. Now that might not be true that I can do anything, but I've never not felt like I couldn't do anything because my dad always said to us that you can do anything. Like, and he didn't mean anything, he meant anything you put your mind to, anything that God created you to do, you could do. And because of that, whenever I set to do something, I don't look at it like I'm not going to be successful. I look at it like I just develop a strategy for how I'm gonna make it happen, and it always comes to pass because that's the what I believe. And I work and I'm connected to adults who don't feel that way because they've not had parents speak life into them. Um, there are adults that I have had to say to them, oh no, you can do this, and your age doesn't matter. Um, if you want to go to school, go to school. If you want to accomplish whatever, you can do it, but because nobody never spoke it to them, they don't believe that they can do it.

SPEAKER_05 20:20

Yeah. Well, you know, my parents said that, but other people told me differently, and that's why I said sometimes we are going to we listen to the voice of the people that really I'm gonna say don't really matter.

SPEAKER_04 20:34

Don't really matter, right? Yeah, so then you gotta weigh the power of the voice of the people because one of the things my parents always told me too is that um you always gotta consider the source, right? So sometimes other people might say, and I've had people say, Oh, you can't do that. Um, but my response always is, watch me. And I might not even say it out loud, but in my heart, in my spirit, I'm like, oh, I'm about to just show them that it's getting ready to be done. Because I don't even know who um I think that when people have not been life haven't had life spoken into them, they look at you like you have the audacity to to believe or the audacity to think that you can do it. Who, like, who do you think you are? Um, and my response is I am who God says I am. I was created to be a creator, so that's what I'm doing in life. And so, and that's what I try to work with other people to get them free, as you talked about, because once you have those seeds planted, you gotta be healed from it, right? You gotta be set free and be able to walk in deliverance from that because so that what the the seed was meant to do, it's not no longer able to do because it the power of that seed has been rendered ineffective.

SPEAKER_05 21:54

Yeah, okay. I thought I knew it. I knew it. So, Holly, tell me one in one sentence what you would tell Gracie at this moment in time in her life before we move to the next section. Um, what would you tell her?

SPEAKER_02 22:18

You are the child of the most high God, and he is for you. You were made in his image, and you have value you cannot comprehend. And I believe in you, and I will be praying for you, and I speak life over you. And walking with this young lady, just telling her she can choose who to believe, and she needs to choose to believe the Lord because his words are yes and amen. He will always be for her. It is his, he sent his son for her because she is a treasure to him. And when he sees us that way, what right do we have to see ourselves differently? He says who we are, and we are his. And if we just accept him, we don't need earthly confidence because I'm the king's kid. You know, I belong to him. And my big brother, Jesus, he already won. So I can I can walk in that confidence without being a brat, but you know, especially with an eight-year-old to help her understand you have so much value. And there are power in your words too. So say things to yourself. I am a child of the Most High God, and He is for me. I can draw a better picture, I can, you know, do the next thing. I might be loud, but He's going to use my voice one day. I'm loud. I was the loud kid, you know. And he's used my ability to not be afraid to speak to people. Just last week, the reason I don't have a voice, I was at a youth camp for teenagers. And he allowed me to speak into their lives and to offer them blessings. And I think that's really what we're talking about. Are you blessing your children or are you cursing them? They are a blank slate when they arrive. We choose what we put into their lives, and it's got to be life, it's got to be Christ.

SPEAKER_05 24:12

All right. Okay, thank you, Holly. Miss Davita, one sentence. One sentence. I'm sorry. One sentence. What would you say to Gracie at this point in her life as an eight-year-old? What is one thing that you learned at that moment that could help her in this moment?

SPEAKER_03 24:34

Well, one of the things that I've learned is that we are a product of the home we come from. If our parents came from a home that was negative, they don't know any different. And unless they're willing to change or be aware of what they're doing to their child, then you're going to believe the things that you hear, especially when you hear them over and over again. And we talk about the laws of attraction and affirmations, but it's a way of retraining your thought processes to get rid of those negative feelings that you have because someone else put it in your head because it made them feel good in order to make you feel bad.

SPEAKER_05 25:29

Okay. All right, so we're gonna move to section two. Now Gracie is no longer eight, she's 42 now. She's built a career. We skip a whole lot of years, didn't we? She's built a career. She serves in her church, she's raising a family. She smiles and photographs and shows up for everyone else. From the outside, her life looks successful. But every time she's asked to lead a meeting, she hears nobody wants to hear what you have to say. Every time she makes a mistake, you'll never get it right. When someone compliments her, she doesn't believe them. When someone corrects her, she hears rejection instead of instruction. Gracie doesn't realize she's still allowing yesterday's words to determine today's choices. Can anyone relate to her? Maybe your words were different. You'll never be enough. You're too emotional, you're too dark, you're too skinny. You're too fat, too big. You're just like your mother. You're gonna be like your mother one day, and your daddy too. Mm-hmm. Yeah, the same things that they did, you're going to do. But all of those things are lies. Those voices don't simply disappear because we grow older. Sometimes they become the soundtrack of our lives, and that's a problem. The truth is, many adults are living from wounds they receive as children. Some of us hide it, some of us disguise it, but we're still carrying that same pain. And they're making, we're making adult decisions through the lens of childhood pain. Gracie isn't alone. A lot of us are included in her story. I know I was, and I'm gonna say I was, yeah, because I listened to the stories that the things people say said. I had my dad over here, like Dr. Stackhouse, saying, You can do anything, girl. You know, he was always with the word, he was a minister. You know, no no parents that be ministers, you know. But anyway, he said, girl, you don't have to fear anything. Come read, you know, the pill bottles have those words that most of us are not gonna be able to pronounce. But he would even encourage me that I can do that. I'm like, no, I can't, and it don't sound right, but okay, I'm gonna believe it. But that was until somebody told me something different. Somebody said to me that I was stupid now. Why I why I believe that, I don't know because I've never been stupid. But anyway, um, you know, it causes you, just like Gracie, causes you to step back and say, that's okay, okay, so I won't do this then. I'll stay in the background. I still had leadership positions though, but I still stayed in the background. I taught class sometimes, but sometimes those things I would hear. And when I did minister, it would be the Holy Ghost, because you know, or they'll say, um, you need to do like, you need to minister like such and such. Go 45 minutes. No, God, they only gave me a five-minute sermon, 10-minute sermon. You know, I'm not doing all of that. I want to be straight to the point because guess what? Somebody's gonna be listening, and that's how they're gonna change instead of trying to remember all that rigor that you said that wasn't at that moment necessary for them, maybe for someone else. But you do have to make sure that you're mindful of what you're listening to. You that's why you have to guard your eye gate, your ear gate. You have to guard all of that. Yeah, so that you're not letting any and everything in. So statistics tell us that millions of adults are still carrying words spoken over them for decades from decades ago. And research shows that childhood experiences don't simply disappear with age. Childhood adversity is extremely common. So it says that nearly 64% of U.S. adults report experiencing at least one adverse childhood experience. 17.3% report experiencing four or more um adverse childhood experiences. Emotional abuse is one of the most common childhood adversities. Among adults surveyed nationwide, 34% reported experiencing emotional abuse during childhood, making it the most commonly reported adverse childhood experience. Childhood adversity affects adult health and well-being. The CDC reported that adverse childhood experiences are linked to increased risk of depression, anxiety, chronic disease, substance misuse, and other long-term health challenges. Preventing ACEs could reduce adult depression by as much as 78%. Do you agree, Dr. Stackhouse?

SPEAKER_04 30:27

I do. You know, I work with individuals where I have to help them do a lot of work um eradicating and dispelling the lies, the untruths, um, because they get stuck in life. Um, just like the Bible says, that there is the power of life and death in our mouth. Um, all of those words that are ill-spoken to us, um, and we receive them, it really uh stops you. Like you said, somebody said that you were stupid or you were whatever, that impacted even when you were in leadership, you probably wasn't operating at the full capacity that God had created for you because you still had that looming in your heart and looming in your ear, right? And so you can't really manifest at the full 100% of what who God created you to be because you always second guessing yourself, you're always saying, Well, am I stupid? Or do people see me as stupid? Or if I'm not good enough, why should why would I go the extra mile to try to be great? Or or suppose I was never exposed to somebody who gave me the opposite of. Um, one of the blessings for you is you had a father to say what he said to you. So even if somebody came in and said something negative, you still had something to compare it to because you had a father, and our fathers are created the way that God created the families, they are the person who affirms who we are. When fathers speak, they say who we are, and that's why we carry their last names, they affirm us. That's the way God created it to be. And so, if you are believing all of those words that people have spoken to you, and a lot of times, like I said, people are speaking them from ill places themselves. Like, if I don't think I'm enough, how can I speak into my child's life to say that you are enough if I don't feel enough? And so it's it's generations of work that need to be done. But once people get to a space where they can hear something different and be exposed to different um words that speak life, it you can see the transformation in their lives. Um, this is probably a large percentage of the work that I do with believers and non-believers in therapy, is helping them to understand who they are. I think that if we understand who we are, we wouldn't have no problems in this world as it relates to us being able to manage our emotions and being able to become who God created us to be without no hesitation. But there's always hesitation when there's been seeds of uh death spoken over us and spoken into us. And so, what a lot of times we do, we meditate on those things. We meditate on I'm not enough. We meditate on I'm too loud, we meditate on I'm stupid, right? Versus I am enough, right? And I'm smart, I'm intelligent, I am, I am the the the handiwork of God. When he created me, he said I was good, right? And so nobody can come back and say that I'm not good, right? He said, Before I formed you, I knew you. That mean and that word new, no is no in the whole totality of who he created us to be. That's just not like I know you, Natasha, I know you. No, he said, I knew you. Like I know you because I created you, and he is the only person really that can speak to us and speak into our lives and determine who we are, and that's why we always got to return to him because that's how we get the blueprint of our lives. And as parents, we supposed to, when he blesses us to have children come through us because they're not really ours, he's sending them through us. We supposed to consult him to say, Who is this child? Who did you create this child to be? So that you can speak that into that child's life and say, This is who you are, and so you spend your lifetime from a baby growing up to know, oh, I'm a prophet, oh, I'm I'm a doctor, I am this, I am that, and you speak that. And so that means whatever comes in life, and we always the enemy is always going to have outside sources, right, to come in and try to speak evil into our lives because his job is to make sure that we don't become who God needs us to be, right? And so even if we live in an environment where our parents do that, so we got peer pressure and we got other influences that our kids are dealing with um in this world, social media, and this is one of the things that we did not have to deal with when we were young. Um, and kids struggle with the social media thing because they think that everything that's happening is real, and and we got to try to convince them that this is a moment in time. Um, and so I think that it it it is it is the parents' job, it is the village, the job of the village, that means the aunts, the uncles, the grandparents, everybody to speak life into our children. It is our responsibility to cover our children with prayer. You talked about our ear gates and our eye gates. That means praying over that to make sure if our children see stuff or hear stuff that we would not necessarily expose them to, then it would do no harm because we've already covered them in prayer. Um, so there are a number of things, but again, if you don't know to do that because nobody did that for you, then you you don't know to do that, and then you perish and your children are perishing because of that lack of knowledge. But um all even if you grow up in an environment and and people have spoken ill over you, you can turn that around. You talked about getting healing and being delivered and being able to walk in freedom. That's why Jesus came so that we could be set healed, set free, and delivered.

SPEAKER_05 36:45

That's right. Amen. I totally and completely agree. Now, um, Miss Davida Shinsky, you're up. Um, so could you share how um hurtful words shape your own journey and what it took to begin protecting your inner child instead of continuing to criticize her?

SPEAKER_03 37:07

Well, one of the things we do is you've got the parent that says you should, and we hear all those shoulds in our head. Then you got that child that says I want, and they give all the ones, because that's a child. Then you've got the other part that's I am able to. And if you take those three and you write down all the things you ever heard of the shoulds, uh, and you write down all the things that you want, and then all the things that you know you're able to do, you can look at it, and then you look at where your conflict is. Where is it interfering? And how can you retrain your thoughts and retrain those things so that you can get rid of those conflicts?

SPEAKER_05 37:58

But what part of um your story?

SPEAKER_03 38:02

Um Okay, from my story, I grew up with a disability at a time when there weren't no uh to protect people from disabilities from an education or to gain employment. And in my case, uh because I was raised in the Jewish faith, education is important and I got an education. But my grades never truly show what I was truly capable of doing because I'm not a good test taker. But if you give me the information, let me apply the information, then I do just as good as anyone else. So it's learning who you are, learning what your unique abilities are, and what makes you the best at what you do, and that's your strengths, and work within your strengths and find someone else who has strengths in an area where you're weak, and the two of you work together as a team.

SPEAKER_05 39:06

Okay, that's good advice. That's good advice, yeah. That's good advice. That's good for that, would have been good for Gracie to have Holly. Um, have you had any moments in your life where you um went through um a moment where hurtful words shaped your own journey? And what did it take to begin protecting your inner child instead of continuing to criticize her?

SPEAKER_02 39:35

I have, uh both from within a very loving Christian home. My father uh could be very had a very critical spirit at times. And um sometimes his reaction to being upset with something would be a very dramatic name-calling kind of thing. He never swore at us, he never was horrible, but he would sometimes tell us we were stupid, or he, I can't believe you made that stupid decision, and that word would sit with me. And so his words were very powerful because mostly he told me I was beautiful and wonderful and perfect, you know, and talented and all of those things. But if when he was upset and we had those moments of him just saying things because he was emotional, an emotional teenage girl took that to heart in a way that I wouldn't have later in my life or even earlier in my life, to be honest with you. We were it was at that crux of the moment where I really took it to heart too deeply, and it affected my relationship with him. It um made it difficult for me to trust him, even though I'd always been able to trust him, even though he was completely trustworthy 95% of the time. But it was it was hurtful, and not long after that particular series of events, um, I wanted to be in ministry. I wanted to do certain things, and I actually had someone um make comments about being too attractive to serve the Lord to me. And um, you know, at the time I was a young beauty queen and all of those things, and it it made me question, well, then why did God make me beautiful? Like why did he make me attractive if this is negative, if this is not important to him, you know, that I can relate to these other groups of people. And um it sent me into I questioned everything, you know, am I am I dressing provocatively? Am I being inappropriate? Should I not wear makeup? Should I and all of that, and part of it really all stemmed from my father's comments. That that pastor's comments would never have gotten to me had my father not made me question things already. And again, my father was mostly affirming and mostly wonderful, but it was a very sensitive and damaging time to my life, and it did have an impact on how I let some men treat me, on how I particularly interacted with men for a season of my life until the Lord delivered me from it, frankly. It was um something I finally just had to lay at his feet and stop picking back up. I had to just let him heal me and choose that and understand that I could uproot what my father had said in the heat of a moment that was inappropriate and that he never intended for me to take to heart. He was just upset and we were having an argument. And I could choose to never let anyone speak into me in that way again, and that was entirely up to me how I received it. And um, when God revealed that to me, it it was very empowering, but it was also it alerted me to the presence of the Holy Spirit who could speak to me like you don't have to listen to that. Honestly, I sometimes that's what I feel like he's saying, yeah, you're not gonna pay attention to these words, and it was it was very healing, but I I had to fully submit it to the Father before I could get there.

SPEAKER_05 43:02

Yeah, yeah, that's good. Yeah, and that that is true. That's what we do have to do. We have to give it to God so that we can change and move forward. Um, we're about to go into section number three. Oh, Gracie is doing so well now. Gracie is beginning to recognize something. Some familiar voices she's been listening to don't sound like Jesus. From the first time, for the first time, she begins asking a different question. Why does God, what does God say about me? And that should be the question we should be asking. That's the question Holly um and everyone began to answer. Uh asks, what does God say about me? And that question changes everything. So Gracie can't rewrite the childhood, she can't erase what she was said, she can't make people apologize, but she can decide whose voice will shape the rest of her life. That's where healing begins. That's the Decision we have to make. How will we allow people to shape our lives? Will we allow God to do that or will we allow people? Whose report will you believe? Amen. So, like I said, that's where the healing begins. Not by changing the past, but by surrendering to the future, surrendering to what God's word is has said. So let's talk about how we can move from surviving painful words to living in a freedom of God's truth. Just like Holly, you described what happened to you, right? You begin to live in God's truth. The same thing, Davita, you shared a few things to help you grow and um as well. So Grace sat in church one Sunday morning. She had heard hundreds of sermons before. She knew the scriptures. She could quote verses from memory, and that's a lot of us. Like I can quote them, I could quote them too, but I still thought about what other people said. But this Sunday felt different for Gracie. The pastor read from Psalms 139, I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Gracie lowered her head. For the first time, she realized something. She believed everyone else's words more than she believed God's. She trusted the opinions of other people, just like we do, more than the promises of her creator. That realization was painful, but it was also the beginning of healing. Because healing often begins with truth, not the truth about what happened, but the truth about who God says we are. Because someone watching today has reached that same moment in their lives. You're tired of carrying those words that you heard yesterday, and you want to grab hold to and trust in the words that God has already spoken. Just like Psalms 139 says, you are fearfully and wonderfully made. God Himself thought enough of you to take so much time to craft you in his own image, in his own likeness. And not only did he do that, but he breathed his own breath in you that you could live, have life, and have life more abundantly. He gave you promises. Not only did he do that, but the same armor he used, he said, God's armor is what you put on. He's tested it. He knows your beginning, he knows the mill, and he knows the end. He knows everything there is to know about you, just like Dr. Sackhouse said. So that same God has spoken over you and said, You are his.

SPEAKER_04 49:04

So I'll just ask them that let them know that you do have a choice. Um, even if somebody spoke these words to you as a child, as an adult, you can choose to live another way. You can choose to believe differently. Um, and and also helping people understand that the people that raise us are not perfect. They are dealing with their own trauma from childhood, unresolved issues. And so, not to make judgment on people as to why they say or do the things that they do. Um, but we all um have uh situ like like the statistics say, um, we all have experienced childhood trauma in some kind of way, or experiences that have left uh us in an ill way. And so out of those experiences, breed more experiences when we have children or we have nieces and nephews, um, and we speak those things that we're not supposed to. Um, but the thing is to be intentional, um, the thing is to understand that you do have a choice and you can choose to do different, you can choose to be different, and so once people understand that life is choice-driven and they don't have to live under the pre the prophecy of other people, whether it's negative or positive, but you don't have to live under that or under those words that people have spoken to you. Um, people want to be free, people want to be healed, and so they generally, once they get exposed to some knowledge and some information that they can walk in healing, they can walk in deliverance and walk in freedom. Um, people generally do choose that because nobody wants to live a life, keep um feasting off of the words that speak death and don't allow you to live a life that is full of the life that God has um created or or uh spoke about us having abundant life. So um it's just exposing people to information and knowledge.

SPEAKER_05 51:07

All right, thank you, ma'am. Miss Davita, what what is one word you would say to um the person who's experiencing this moment in their lives? And they're saying, um, I heard what Dr. Stackhouse said, but she doesn't look like me, or she doesn't um, she didn't experience the same um experience that I did. Um so I don't know if I can actually make this move. I don't know if I can let it go. What are three things you can tell them to do?

SPEAKER_03 51:43

Okay, each of us, it's it all depends on having the right mindset and understanding that each of us are unique. Each of us have something that makes us different. That's why not everyone does the same job, because we have different things that are our strengths. And if you play to your strength and look inside you and look at what it is that you really enjoy doing, and do that and not trying to compete, because what happens is you may have a parent that has at one time or another compared you to someone else, saying, Oh, they were great at this. Oh, but what makes them different and unique, what makes them good at what they do, may not be the same thing that you're capable of doing. And if you look at what it is that you truly love to do and do that, then you will be the best at what you were meant to be.

SPEAKER_05 52:54

All right, thank you. Now, again, I'm gonna I hope somebody heard that and listened to that because again, that's why I wanted to let um each one of you talk to the person, because um, all three of you have something different that you would say. So, Holly, it's your turn. What would you say to the girl who someone told her that she was too beautiful to do something? Now, you might be like, okay, well, that don't make sense, but that was your story. So I didn't think of that until you said that was your story. And so someone may think that they are too beautiful to do something, or they have experienced too many different things in their lives to be um what they think or know that God called them to be. So they're listening to someone else instead of God. What would you say to that person?

SPEAKER_02 53:53

I would tell them they're listening to the wrong people at first, but that God made you perfect just the way you are. You are not a perfect person, but you are perfectly made in his image. And he loves you and he created you with your physical appearance, with your physical stature, your physical gifts, and all the other gifts that you have. I would also tell them that my ministry is based on the fact that the Bible tells us to surround ourselves with people who can guide us and that they need to find their people who, wherever they think they want to be in five years, they need to find someone who's there and find out how they made it. Get those people in your life who will speak life into you, who will point you toward Jesus and point you toward better decision making. You know, find a godly mentor. You know, I think I want to be a mom someday. Go find the best person you know and then go talk to her mother. And that's who you want to emulate in your life. You know, you want to surround yourself with people who are going to be a better voice, so that you can drown out the voices that were never intended to speak into your life. Because we don't have control over who we encounter, but we do have control over who we get to who gets to stay in our lives. And boundaries are critically important, especially for those of us with who are adults who suddenly realize, hey, you know what? I'm I'm anxious because I doubt myself because. And when once you can identify the problem, then you can begin to craft your solution. And we become the people we surround ourselves with. That's biblical. And again, a godly mentor can change the way you view yourself and everyone else. And a phrase I've been using a lot lately is what you don't change, you choose. So if you choose to listen to those negative voices and allow them to continue to have power over you, then it becomes something that you need to lay out on the altar. It's something you need to submit to the Father. The words were wrong, but that's somebody else's problem. How we deal with them is up to us. And find your positive voices, find your group of older women who have overcome and let them tell you how they did it. They're gonna point you to Jesus. All right.

SPEAKER_05 56:13

Oh my god, these are so many now. Look, so we have left you without any excuse, no excuses to keep you. You have no excuses to keep you from being whole and walking in total and complete for the complete fullness of freedom. God has given you the ability and gave you this moment for you to be free. Take advantage of it, okay? Listen, we are getting ready to go. So I want each one of you to tell um the people how they can get in touch with you, okay? So um, Davita, you can go first.

SPEAKER_03 56:56

Okay. Uh, the best way to get in touch with me is you can go to my website, which is coachdevitashinsky.com, and my email address is info at coachdevitay.com, and my phone number is 404-655-5159. The best thing to do also is you can listen to my podcast by going to my YouTube channel. And Jonathan, remember what it is. I think it's Personal Career Coach. Uh, it's on YouTube. But if you listen, if you look for Live Without Limits and put that in, put that in there, you will find me, or you could put my name in and it will come up on YouTube.

SPEAKER_05 57:54

All right. Thank you, somebody who goes watch Miss Davita Shinsky's podcast. Okay. Dr. Tony Stackhouse.

SPEAKER_04 58:05

Yes, I can be reached. My website is www.lifematters.com. Again, that's uh www.lifematterswellness.com. And my number is 410-650-9919. Again, that's 410-650-9919. Again, my website is www.lifematters wellness.com.

SPEAKER_05 58:37

All right, Miss Holly, darling, you are up.

SPEAKER_02 58:43

Um, if you search personal wordsmith on any social, that is actually my business. Uh Generation Christ is does have its own website, but it's just getting started. So personal wordsmith. And you can email me directly at Holly at personalwordsmith.net, not dot com dot net, and um I'd be happy to talk with anyone. And uh we are offering all of the resources that we're developing for free to other churches. So if they want gendered mentoring in their church, the way Titus 2 tells us to do it, uh, we're happy to come out and train your leaders and make sure that you have a good godly curriculum based in the Bible that's been working in our church, and uh we're happy to share it for free.

SPEAKER_05 59:30

Oh, thank you. Thank you, you guys. I really appreciate all of you being here tonight. I've enjoyed talking to all of you from different backgrounds. This is what I'm talking about. This is what Majestic Talks is all about, making sure you have a great and different experience. And I've had a great and different experience tonight talking to you ladies. So thank you so much for being here. Um, and I whatever what you said, what we've talked about, I know it's gonna bless someone's heart, it's gonna change someone's mind. So thank you so much, everyone, for watching. And we'll talk to you again next time on the Majestic Talk Show. I'm Latasha Morgan, certified Christian Life Coach, Certified Professional Life Coach Board, Certified Master Christian Mental Health Coach, and a whole lot of other good, good, goodies, y'all. Remember to guard your heart, renew your mind, and heal the temple. Good night, everybody, and we'll see you next time.