Being In a Relationship

Hello! Welcome to this episode. How are your relationships going? Did you ever notice that you are only as healthy as your relationships?  Are you in relation in those relationships or they something you have not something you participate in?

IF you want to get more into this topic then definitely check out this episode.  We do a breatihng meditation at the end I hope you find it relaxing 

See you in the espisode

XO 

JJ

Transcript

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Hi, welcome to the soul streaker podcast. I'm your host, Jenna Jake. Are you ready to feel all lit up and excited like you just ran through a field naked? I am. So drop that baggage and let your soul go streaking. Hi, welcome to the Love Spirituality and Freedom podcast. I am your host, Jenna Jake, and today I wanted to talk to you about relationships, all relationships. There's a difference between having a relationship and being in a relationship because if you're in a relationship, you're being in a relationship, you're actually relating to the person, which means you're emotionally available. Just because you have a partner or. Someone else in your life that you're having a relationship with doesn't exactly mean you're being in a relationship with them and that you're not really relating to them. Because if you're not talking to each other or feel safe to share with each other, or sleeping in the same bedroom, or getting along with each other and, feel safe you can be open and honest, and they're supporting you in being your best self, you're not really in relationship with them. You're just having a relationship, but you're not being in that relationship with them. You're not relating. So how is that a relationship? Because every relationship really is a relationship with yourself because people are really mirrors. What are you supposed to be learning from this relationship? This relationship is set up to set you free. So where are all the places that you are constricted? Where are all the places that you have to set yourself free through that relationship? What vibration are you vibrating because you are still in the same vibration that you were? Given that you are still in a relationship with this person, the person that you would like to be is out there, but there's, they're vibrating at a different level. So once you've changed that vi your vibration, your relationship will change, and either that person will stay and have a better relationship with you because you'll be different, or the relationship will end and someone who's at that same vibration will come in. Either way, it's gonna be different because it can't be the same because your vibration is different. So where are you constricted and where's the other person constricted? Because you're their mirror as well, and they need to have that relationship with themselves and learn how to open themselves up. That's not your issue. You gotta work on you. You gotta do you, you can't help them change. They gotta be able to do the change. It's really difficult to change, especially when you've been in this paradigm, this way of being for so long that if you just go outside yourself a little bit, your subconscious will let you do that. If you try to go too far out, your subconscious will really you back in and say, no, no, no, no, no. And it's more difficult to do it that way. So to chip away at this, I would suggest doing it. If you are in the middle of a dangerous situation and you have to get out or the relationship's ending, then you do the best you can to change. Being with what the circumstances are, but knowing that you need to vibrate at a different level to have a different result, and that this is really a gift, this relationship, because it's showing you all the places where your soul wants you to free itself. So let's talk about this vibration, that you're in currently. What is it that you're vibrating? This vibration that you're still attracting or in a relationship with this other person? Is it fear? It's probably, it's some kind of childhood fear that you have a pattern that's just kept going and going. It could be a subconscious pattern or a conscious pattern, Carl Jung says, your subconscious patterns will drive you and you'll call it fate. So it could be something that you need to bring more attention and more awareness and more self-compassion to. Why is it this person's relating the way they're relating in the relationship Because they, you're a mirror to them as well. What are their patterns and how can they be more open and how can you be more open and how can you make it more safe for yourself and for them in the relationship?'cause they are your greatest teachers. Your relationships are. So whatever relationship you're in right now. Say thank you, because this person is there to awaken you to the truth of who you really are, and that's all they're doing. They're awakening you to your true self. And then it really becomes a relationship that you have with between you and you because there really is nobody else out there. There is nothing out there. It's not being in a relationship to get something from someone, but to to show up as your highest self and to give love. And be, have that experience of being love and this relationship being the, reason that you are love. But it all comes from you. You're the one that generates the love. Sit in a quiet place with your heart and figure out who is it that you really wanna be, not in only in this relationship, but in the world, because how you show up in this relationship may also be how you're showing up in the world. Think about that and go into your heart because your head knows nothing. It's just a recording of the past and how you're identifying with your head is how you got into this thing. So sit in a place where you can feel safe. Maybe wrap yourself in a blanket, sit in somewhere dark, whatever it is, and go into your heart space and think about, oh, expanding your heart. Where are the places that your heart is closed and where is that coming from? And again, that's probably a scary childhood place. How can you open that up? Prop Proctor says to. Think of 10 things you're grateful for. Write them down then send love to three people that hurt you the most or that you dislike the most. And then sit and relax for five minutes and ask for guidance. So it's 10 gratitudes. Write them or think about them. Three people that you dislike. Send them love unconditionally because you'll be their love is for you. You'll, have that experience of love. It's for you. Wow. And then relax five minutes and ask for guidance. And I've done that and have gotten guidance. It's really cool. It does work. So do try that and just think about how you can be, how can you can be love. It's a frequency. We live in a frequency world, so it's be, do, have, so be love. Then do the things that love would do, and then you'll have it. If you're out there radiating love like a puppy or a baby or you're just being like. We're all attracted to that. You'll, have everybody attracted to you. Buddha and Jesus did not have relationship problems because they just were love and they just gave everybody from their overflow because they filled their own cup, because they just radiated love, because that's who they are. That's who you are. That's who we are. We are love. That's what they tell us, that we are love and we just radiate from that place. We probably have stuff from our childhood that doesn't belong to you. So give it back to the parents, give it back to the society, give it back to the TV commercials you watch. Give it back to whoever it belongs to. When you were a baby, you did not have that. When you were a you old, you did not have that. You were the love, you just were. You just vibrated love and that's who you were, and that is your natural state.. This will open you up to being in relationship. This will open you up to feeling safe and just knowing that you can show up as who you are because you are accepted within yourself. So if you're going to have a relationship, try to make it as much as you can to be available in that relationship. Being emotionally available to whatever shows up, and just shining love on that. I hope this is helpful and I hope this is giving you a new way to think about and be in relationships because they really are just our greatest teachers and our mirrors, and just another reason to be love. So here is me wishing you, to be the full, highest expression of yourself, because that is who you naturally are. So if you just sit quietly and breathe in and out, we can do a little meditation. Just breathe in and out, and just breathe in all the goodness and all the love that you are. Breathe out all the pain, all the goodness. Expand yourself. See yourself expanding. See your heart expanding. All the love, expanding. Feel it coming into you. Just breathing in love, being love. Just being in one with love who you are. And when you breathe out, all the pain doesn't belong to you give it back. It's not yours to carry. It's not your place to carry it any longer. You are love. That is what you are just pure love. Because if you didn't have those constraints, who would you be? How would you feel? What would you do if you were free? And what does that freedom look like? Be the freedom. Be it. What does it feel like? Feel it in your heart. Feel that freedom in your heart. You are free. You are love. You are loved. Because anytime you give the experience of loving somebody else, you are giving that experience to yourself. That's where it comes from. It comes from you. Breathe it in, take it in, expand. Be expansive, be free, be loved. It's all that matters. Everything else is an illusion. You are formless, limitless, amazing love as all you are shining your light. That light, that's what we remember about people is they're light. You are That light, that light all comes from the same place. As, as all source be that be who you are. You can't not be who you are just like you are, and you are who you think you are. You can't not be that who you cannot be this either. It's who you are, you know, it's nothing to look for in and out. Just be with your breath, be with yourself. Be in your body. You're safe. I'm here with you. We're safe in and out. Be loved. We thank you love, and I thank you for listening to this. I thank you for joining me here right now, being in this moment with me. I'm feeling your presence and I'm sending you off just breathing in. Just be here right now. You're safe right now. Right here with me. You're safe here right now. Thank you universe for this lovely existence of this lovely human. This world would not be the same without this person. It brought so much love and light to so many people. And they've made such a difference, and I'm so grateful and so blessed to be in connection with this person right now. Thank you, God. Thank you, universe. I'm sending you love and sending you hugs. Just keep loving, keep breathing, keep loving, keep breathing, being present, being the loving presence that you are in this moment, and shine your light. You are love and light, and we love you Nama Day. I hope that was helpful and relaxing, and I thank you for listening and joining me in that, and I so, so look forward to talking to you next time. I love you so much.