Why You’re Not the Same Person You Were 5 Years Ago

The Evolution of Self

What if the whole “I’m still the same person” line is complete rubbish?

In this episode of Faark The Shoulds, QuantiMama Jodi and QuantiPapa McGill kick off 2026 and Season 4 with a big, juicy conversation on personal growth, memory, identity, and what actually keeps people stuck. Fresh off their double 50th celebrations and a very on-brand “re-wedding”, the hosts dive into the evolution of self and ask a deceptively simple question: who is anyone really, five years later? 

This one is for the Quantifolks who know they’ve changed, but still feel snagged on old pain, old stories, or old versions of themselves. It’s also for the people quietly wondering why some humans seem to move through hard things and grow, while others keep looping the same wound. Jodi and McGill get into perception, memory, contrast, radical responsibility, and the difference between being unchanged and being stuck. 

Inside the convo:

•  why nobody can literally be the same person they were five years ago 
•  how memories and perception can keep old suffering alive 
•  why discomfort, contrast, and challenge can become growth fertiliser 
•  the role of the drama triangle, transactional patterns, and self-awareness in moving forward 
•  why birth is such a powerful teacher for trust, surrender, and transformation 

There’s a beautiful reframe at the heart of this episode: even when someone looks stagnant, they’re not the same person they were before. The cells are new. The life force is still moving. What might actually be happening is that they’re stuck in an environment, a pattern, or a perception that no longer fits. And that’s a very different thing. 

It’s a steady reminder that growth doesn’t always look shiny. Sometimes it looks like sitting in the discomfort long enough to stop running from it and instead, integrate. 

If the past has been feeling a bit clingy, or the old identity is starting to itch, this one’s worth a listen. As always, balls and all.