Cobie Smulders | Staying Positive and Building Resilience in Kids | The Breakdown With Bethany

My first guest is actress Cobie Smulders (How I Met Your Mother, The Avengers) and we talk about her teaming up with the Colgate Smile Fund, how she stays positive, and she suggests building resilience in our kids. Stay tuned for more episodes of The Breakdown with Bethany coming soon!
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Bethany Braun-Silva: Hi! Welcome to a brand new season of The Breakdown with Bethany. I’m Bethany Braun-Silva, and it’s season two, and I’m gonna be bringing you even more celebrities, experts, and entrepreneurs, all with the hope to inspire you to live your best life. Now, the first episode of season two is a big one. I’m gonna be welcoming actress, Cobie Smulders, who has starred in hit shows like How I Met Your Mother and of course, the Marvel movie franchise. We’re gonna be talking about staying positive and building resilience in our kids, so you’re not gonna wanna miss it and you’re not gonna wanna miss this entire season, so stay tuned.

Bethany Braun-Silva: Let’s jump in and tell me about the Colgate Smile Fund and why this was a good partnership, a good fit for you to team up with.

Cobie Smulders: Well, first of all, you know good dental hygiene has always been in my life because my father was a dentist, and so, I don’t have a cavity. First of all, I don’t have a single cavity. So, toothpaste works, guys, and so that’s one thing. But yeah, so it’s always been in my world, I’ve always had awareness of it, I’ve always known its importance. I’ve like used Colgate for like my entire adult life. So when they came to me, I was so happy to first of all just to promote their brand because it’s a brand that I use and again, like going back to just being good about dental hygiene, I love it. But then they were talking to me about the Colgate Smile Fund which is doing amazing things. Right now, they’re getting a grant for City Year which is an organization that provides mentoring to, to schools, uh, around the country. And with a focus on socio-emotional learning. We’ve just come up with some kind of in this insane sort of pandemic life but we’re trying to find out what our new normal is and it’s just, that it’s challenging for everybody. Obviously, everybody is dealing with it in varying degrees but I think it’s just the kids have just really taken a hit. And you know, my own kids...

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- Hi, and welcome to a brand new season of "The Breakdown with Bethany." I'm Bethany Braun-Silva, and it's season two, and I'm gonna be bringing you even more celebrities, experts, and entrepreneurs, all with the hope to inspire you to live your best life. Now, the first episode of season two is a big one. I'm gonna be welcoming actress Cobie Smulders, who has starred in hit shows like "How I Met Your Mother" and of course the Marvel movie franchise. We're gonna be talking about staying positive and building resilience in our kids, so you're not gonna wanna miss it, and you're not gonna wanna miss this entire season. So stay tuned.(uplifting music) Let's jump in and tell me about the Colgate Smile Fund and why this was a good partnership, a good fit for you to team up with.- Well, first of all, you know, good dental hygiene has always been in my life because my father was a dentist. And so I don't have a cavity. First of all, I don't have a single cavity. So toothpaste works, guys, and so does flossing. But yeah, so it's always been in my world. I've always had awareness of it. I've always known its importance. I've, like, used Colgate for like my entire adult life. So when they came to me, I was so happy to, first of all, just promote their brand because it's a brand that I use, and again, like going back to just being good about dental hygiene, I love it. But then they were talking to me about the Colgate Smile Fund, which is doing amazing things. Right now they've given a grant to City Year, which is a organization that provides mentoring to schools around the country and with a focus on socio emotional learning. We've just come off, we're still kind of in, this insane sort of pandemic life, but we're trying to find out what our new normal is. And it's just, it's challenging for everybody. And obviously everybody's dealing with it on varying degrees, but I think it's just the kids have really taken a hit. And, you know, my own kids were in Zoom school, and we were lucky enough to be in a Zoom school program, but it's, you know, I think it's time to sort of bolster not only getting not only their education in the classroom and getting them back into classrooms, but also just helping them deal with what's happening mentally, what's happening emotionally, to go from being isolated to then jumping back in and trying to find new friends and keeping and nurturing relationships is, it's sort of a skill that has to be constantly exercised. And so, yeah, I was really excited when they came to me to to talk about this program, and I think that any mother who's listening or reading or whatever is to see if they can find to connect the City Year and see if they can get it in their own school.- Yeah, you know, I'm a mom myself, and dealing with, you know, pandemic learning and struggles was one thing, and then I think when, it's hard to say when we got our bearings. It feels like we never got our bearings throughout the pandemic. But when I sort of able to come up for air, one of the most alarming things that I discovered or was reading about was sort of the impact of, you know, mental health in our kids because of the pandemic. And I know you have a teenager, so I'm wondering what were your concerns there? How do you address that with your own child? Is that a conversation you guys are having around mental health awareness? Maybe cyber bullying, anything like that? If you could just offer a few tips or thoughts on that, that would be great.- Yeah, I mean, you know, I might be a youthful-looking woman, but I'm actually inside an 80 year old woman. So like, we don't do a lot of screens. There's no social media in, certainly there is for me and my husband, but we don't allow it for our children. So in terms of the cyber bullying, which is just like, it's terrifying, we don't have that happening because they don't have access to it yet, which I would highly recommend. But it's a tricky time. I mean, the thing that I constantly do with myself is play the game of,"Hey Cobie, do you remember when you were 13? Do you remember like how at times you just kind of felt like an insane person?" And chemically, you are. Like, there's so many changes happening in your body and in your brain. And so I often reflect back to 13 year old Cobie. And I was a monster. So also it is helpful to be like, "My kids are great." Like, I am not like they are so well-behaved, and they're not doing half of the stuff I was doing at their age. So I played that. In terms of supporting them, I think it's like, I think what you were kind of touching upon, which is just, it's not over, it's kind of over, this pandemic. And so I think it's what the pandemic has certainly brought up for me is the ability to pivot more and the ability to deal with disappointment. And I think that I try to, it's not perfect, it's unperfected skill, but lead by example. And certainly we have bad days and good days. And on the bad days, I say,"Hey, I'm having a bad day, and I'm sorry, and I shouldn't have said that, or I shouldn't have reacted in this way, and that wasn't right when I did this." So I do try to do that. But I think it's also about staying present within what is today like, okay? Today's a great day. Let's celebrate that. Okay, today was a bad day, let's be in that. And yeah, I think that's been helpful for me because anytime I try to plan or look ahead, an idea is created in your mind of what that experience is gonna be. And so I found that if you're just kind of day-to-day, let's make breakfast together, let's go for a walk on the beach together, you know, or we're going to this camp today, whatever it is, if you're just kind of able to sit and enjoy that, it's a little healthier I find, or a little easier.- Yeah, I apologize to my kids multiple times a day, I feel like sometimes, but (laughs)- I'm like, I am sorry. It's gonna be a bumpy road. I'm learning, guys. We're in this together.- I know. I feel like I'm like, my kids are six and 10, and I still feel like-- Okay.- New parent, I'm still a new parent.- Yes.- But anyway, I know part of the Colgate campaign is sort of about building resiliency and positivity in our kids. But I'm wondering what, and for moms, this is a conversation that we are constantly talking about, you know, in the media, in the news, but when you're having a bad day for yourself, like how do you get yourself out of it? Or do you not? What do you do when you are just like, not feeling like being a mom today, or just dealing with some really heavy stuff?- Yeah, I mean, listen, I am only grateful for the the mom role because I think the mom role forces you on those bad days to be like,"Well, somebody has gotta make breakfast today. And so I gotta get them to school." And so it's on a personal level, it's sort of forced me to focus, right, and to prioritize. I think it's, you know what, I think it's okay to wallow in it when bad stuff happens. I mean, you can't have the good without the bad. So I'm always just sort of like,"This is a bad day." And that's just, let's acknowledge that, and it will pass. I think that's also the sort of the mantra, (laughs) right? You know, this is not gonna last forever. This is not gonna last forever. And so I don't have a problem sitting in bad things. I sort of am a believer in like, let's acknowledge that this is a bad moment, and then we can kind of move forward from it, and learn from it too, right? Like if you're just trying to be like, how do we get out of this? How do we just bounce right back? It's like, well, we should also just acknowledge this and soak it in and and see what that actually feels like.- Yeah, and you know, something I love to ask moms especially is what do you hope, and it's hard to pin down one thing, but what are you really hoping your, like, we talk about key takeaways, takeaways, stuff like that. But what do you hope that you really are passing down to your kids right now? If they were asked, you know,"What is the one thing you've learned from your mother?" What do you hope that they would say?- Oh, Lord, Lord, Lordy. What do I hope they would say?- You know, it's interesting too, because we don't always give ourselves like a lot of the credit.- Credit, 100%.- So I feel like turning it on you to sort of say-- 100%.- What are your positive-- I'm also Canadian, so like, I can't even take a compliment about anything. So it's hard for me to be like, "I'm great at this." I think it's like, you know, I've had experiences I've had to deal with really scary. I had ovarian cancer when I was 25 years old. Like, I've had these like, sort of, are we continuing on with life or is this it kind of moments, and I think because of that, I have really tried to soak it all in, again, going back to being present within moments. And also just like having fun, you know? I think that this day and age, there's a lot of pressure on all of us, right? There's a lot of pressure on all of us, but I think especially on kids, to succeed, to carve their own path. And I certainly felt that when I was younger, but you have to enjoy this life because we only get one. So I'm hoping, (laughs) I don't know if that's gonna, if they're gonna actually take that away. But I hope that they can kind of take some positivity and like, you know, move forward through life with a smile and be a good, that's it, I just thought it. All that stuff, but I just got it. Be a good human. Like be a decent, kind, empathetic human. That goes above all else. Like just be a nice, don't be a jerk, do not be a jerk. You know, it's a no jerk policy. That's number one. Also a lot, like have a great time, right?- Yeah.- But be a good, decent human and help others. Yeah.- Love it. I'm gonna put it on a pillow or something. We'll get that embroidered. (laughs)- Never done embroidery, let's start a new hobby.- Yeah. All right, we're, you know, wrapping up here, but really quick. I know a lot of your "How I Met Your Mother" castmates are also parents. I have envisioned you guys like on this crazy group chat sharing, like, parenting tips at all. Do you get any kind of, like, parenting advice or, you know, tips-- Yeah, I mean, honestly, I came into the parenting game and I think Neil hadn't had his twins yet, but was in that space.'Cause, you know, I was younger than everybody and I sort of had my first child young. But Allie had had her daughter maybe a month or two before me, so it was really helpful to sort of go like,"Okay, that's coming. Okay, that's coming." And it was really cool to both be on the show and sort of supporting each other through our pregnancies. And then still to this day, I mean, Neil is unfortunately in New York so we're on other coasts, but Allie is here, and we attend volleyball games together and all sorts of things. So we're very supportive to each other in that.- I love to hear that. I love to hear that. Final question, my son is a huge, huge Marvel fan.- Who isn't, Bethany? Who isn't?- I can tell you, I mean like,"Guardians of the Galaxy," all of them. Anyway, so he's really excited about me talking to you, but I have to also ask, what are any upcoming projects in the Marvel universe? Anything like that?- Yeah, I'm gonna be in a series called "Secret Invasion" that will be out on Disney Plus. I don't know when, but ComicCon is this coming weekend, so he's gonna get like a hefty dose of intel and information. So I think they'll probably be announcing when things are airing. But I'll be in that, and I think it comes out later this year, maybe, hopefully? But it's Samuel Jackson's sort of show, and it's a really cool one.- Awesome, I can't wait. If you have the information, you wanna share it now about Colgate?- Oh yeah. I think we kind of got to the fund, and I just wanna make sure that people take advantage of of City Years and organization for their kids. And if they don't have it as a program in their school, they should look into it.- Great, awesome. I'll share all that information-- Awesome, thank you for that.- When we share this video. So Cobie, thank you so much. This is such a thrill.- Oh, pleasure to talk with you. Yeah, enjoy the rest of your day.- All right, really appreciate it. Thank you.- I do too. Take care, bye.(uplifting rock music)