Mizinga Melu's Podcast

What's in your toolbox? S1E2

April 12, 2021 Mizinga Melu Season 1 Episode 2
Mizinga Melu's Podcast
What's in your toolbox? S1E2
Transcript

A very good afternoon and welcome to yet. Another edition of braving the odds today, we are looking at an exciting topic called what's in your toolbox. So when I was growing up, my dad always, and I talk about my dad a lot in braving the odds and my dad is my hero. And when I was growing up, even something that he had, and he was very guarded about it. Was his toolbox. So what my dad would do is he would collect different tools over the years. You know, he would collect his Panner. He would collect just different, different tools, uh, you know, simple tools and difficult tools and exciting tools and hard tools. And over the years, he would collect the tools in his toolbox. And what would happen is. Collected collection of the tools was dependent on the experience that he would have. So if he's building a house, then he knew the tools that would have to go with building a house. If it's fixing a door, then you would have to go with a specific tool that would help him fix the tool So he would go out there. And by the tool because that's the specific tool that would be required to fix it too. And sometimes it would just be my mom saying, you know, there's something wrong with the stove and we've gotta fix the stuff. And my dad would go out there and get the rights to that would require him to fix the store. However, there were times when he didn't actually have to go out there and buy the stove and buy the tool to fix the stuff because, uh, he would have, if my mom comes again the next time and said, but there's something wrong with the stove now, you know, uh, or the fridge, and it would require whatever. Uh, you know, tools that were needed in fixing the tall. My dad would just go back to his Toolboxand get that particular too and fix the fridge or indeed the stove. So it wasn't always that he had to buy the tool but. Over time. He had to buy different tools. He had to reuse different tools and he had, you know, he regained more experience in using the different tools to the point where he had the big toolbox. And you were, it was truly a full box. And when you asked him about the tool box he always used to lock it up because he would say, you know what? I don't want to lose anything from the tool box It's taken me a long time. To actually build this to box So I don't want to lose anything. And the only person who kept the keys to the tool box whether it was him and, um, It was quite interesting because he would always talk to me about, you also need to build your own toolbox and I'll say, but dad, look, I'm not interested in, you know, in the construction that you're doing. Uh, you know, I I'm really, I'm really not in that camp. And you'd say everybody has a road that is under construction. So when you are under construction, you need your tool box because you will need one. In the toolbox to actually complete your race. So you need the toolbox when you are under construction and everybody is under construction. So I took up that, that analogy and I started very early on in building what I called my own toolbox. And my own toolbox has been quite an interesting one because. It's had different aspects of experiences, you know, different aspects of tears, different aspects of joy or in the tool box And that's what I thought I'll share with you today to say what's in my toolbox. And as we are sharing today, I want you to also look at yourself and say, What's in your own toolbox, speak to yourself and say, Jane what's in your toolbox, Mary what's in your toolbox, John what's in your toolbox. Everybody ask yourself what's in your toolbox because your toolbox is the next tab that you will use to get to that big job that you are looking for. That big business that you're looking for. It's that tap that you're going to use. To get to that big, big breakthrough in your career. So I wanted us to talk about that. If you're just joining us this afternoon, I'm excited with braving the odds today, because we are looking at what's in your toolbox, what's in your toolbox. So I want to talk about five things and then I'll be done, you know, five aspects that are in my toolbox. So the first aspects in my toolbox was, was lost. You know, when my mother died, uh, it was a very, very tough time. I was only 13 when my mom died and it was a difficult time because. I didn't really understand death. It wasn't like these days where you actually understand, I think the children have nowadays I have got privilege because they understand it. When they say somebody dies for me, the experience was a tough one. It was a bitter one. It was one where I truly expected that my mom had just gone somewhere and she will come back. I was convinced. I was very convinced that she will come back. I, when people try to tell me those stories or money has just gone to booth Jesus, I'm thinking, no, my mommy hasn't gone to boost Jesus. I am sure she's coming back. So I had to go through that very painful experience and that experience made me really mature quickly. Because, you know, when you lose your mom at 13, you mature quickly, you then learn how to deal with different aspects. Look for different, different women, you know, and I had the stepmom then who, who you truly call your mom? You, you learn to love them. So for me, that experience, I put it in my tool box very early on, very, very early on, and I got to use it. Over the years over the years of, but to use it when my dad, my biggest hero died, I had to look at that experience that I had put in my toolbox and say, how am I going to use this to get over it? But because I had already gone through it, the experience was tough, but it was easier because I have something to use from my toolbox. Then I go on to failure. Failure is something it's a very exciting subject, you know? And I want to say, I want to say to you and me, don't be afraid of failure. You know, being afraid of failure is you should never be afraid of failure. Don't be afraid of failure, but be afraid that you will never get a chance to fail because the failure experienced. Gotta be in your toolbox, you know, it's, you gotta have that failure experience in your toolbox because when you've learned to deal with that experience, you can only grow to the T to, to an exciting level. As you know, I failed my nursing school, you know, at again at a very early on, you know, I didn't get to go to university. The first thing I did was let me go to nursing and wow. You know, after, after the first year wrote my exams, I felt, I said, let me try it again. After 18 months. Again, I felt so. I didn't just feel once, but I feel twice. So I had, I had failure in my tool box I was able to pack it at the very, very early on. And what was exciting is that experience of having. Failed really taught me to be strong. It taught me that, you know, in future, when, when you are assigned, when you get an opportunity to study anything, you've got to study very hard because you've already got failure in your toolbox. You can't keep packing failure in your toolbox. You've packed it already. You know, so, because I had packed it, I had to then learn when I felt that time. How did I deal with it? And how do I avoid failure? Because it's already in my toolbox. So I had failure, I dealt with it, but then I learned, you know, even these days, if I fail at something, it doesn't have to be exams. I do fail at a lot of things. If I fail at something, I go back and say, How did I deal with it? How did I come out? How did I come out and feel end up being a bank CEO, despite having failed a nursing degree. And, uh, uh, you know, I actually lent that you actually grow more when you've had failure, uh, you know, in your life. And then third thing I want to talk about that we all need in our toolbox as cues. We all have to put in the skills. When I felt nursing for me, it was, and you can read all about it in braving the odds. When I felt nursing for me, it was about, I now need to develop my skills and I realized that learning doesn't stop. It's not like, okay, because I've already learned now I'm a banker. I'm a qualified banker. I can't learn anymore. I have to keep putting skills in my toolbox. Keep putting skills in my toolbox. Keep learning, keep listening to the news. When I see something, I go on Google and say, what exactly do they mean? You know? So you have to keep learning because the more you have equipment in your toolbox, the more you are a better leader, the more you are a better person because people come to you and it's not always about you. Sometimes life should not be always about you. People come to you and ask for advice and say, but God, how do I deal with this situation? How do I deal with this situation where I haven't completed my degree? And, uh, there's this opportunity which has come. And I say to you go back and enhance your skills because I've got it in my toolbox. I've got failure in my tool box I've got the fact that when you fail, you go back and when you are given that opportunity to learn, do even harder. And indeed, when I finished my banking degree, I actually came 18th in the world because a 10th position because I had to work very hard. Based on the failure that have had. So it's always very important for you to enhance your skills. Skills. Enhancement is one thing that all of us should pride ourselves and we should never stop learning. You should never stop learning. You should just keep going on and on and on because. That definitely gives you access to greater opportunities. And then I want to talk about netoolrking and I would say your netoolrk is your net with, you know, how are you learning? Do you have netoolrking in your toolbox? Everybody needs to have netoolrking in their toolbox. I always say to my team, one of the biggest successes this as you have is your ability to deal with different stakeholders. Your ability to netoolrk with different stakeholders, whether they are high, whether they are low, whether they're your peers, you need to learn the art of keeping in touch. You need to learn the art of saying hi, Ms. Zynga, I just called you really? I have nothing to talk about other than just to check, how are you doing? And, uh, you know, I just want to give you a brief. On where I am right now in my career. You're not looking for a job, but you are building your netoolrk You should always have a deliberate effort to say this week. Who am I building my netoolrk with? Who am I going back and catch base, just touch base and say, how can I bless you? Just with a greeting. So your netoolrk is your net with, you've got to keep it, keep it in your toolbox because you just don't know when you need it and you will need it. And when you need it, you will go back to that toolbox and look for it and say, Who is that one person who I've put in my tool box where I need them to actually help me. And the final point I wanted to talk about the tool box is one that we need to always constantly, uh, you know, improve on our communication or our ability. To, to communicate, you know, I tell a story in braving the odds, you know, where I was very poor presentation and, uh, my boss governing laws then, you know, gave me a big opportunity to present, uh, to some leaders, some male, mostly white leaders, um, you know, on, on, on my new job that he had offered to me. So I spent the whole weekend. Putting it, it just up great presentation. And I said, I'm going to go through it. And, uh, uh, what I didn't realize is that I was actually planning to read the presentation. So I went there and I read the presentation. And when I had done everybody clap, like to say, Oh my God, you could have done better. And, uh, my boss, Kevin laws then say to me, you know what missing? I'm going to send you on a cause or cause that to teach you how to speak in public, how to be a public speaker, how to, how to present yourself, how not to read the slides because everybody can read the slide, but for you, how to articulate the message that when you are talking, people should not stop listening. They should be glued up and say, what else is she going to say? So I had to learn and he had to teach me and say, you know, so I went to Joburg, South Africa and I learnt, uh, You know how to do presentations and how to prepare a slide, not to make them too busy and then give it back to an audience in a manner that you know is exciting for them to learn and understand what I am talking about. So, as, as I did that, um, I realized that I put in such an, such a, such an exciting too, in my tool box one of presentation. One of public speaking, one of confidence. So as, as I close, I just want to ask you, what do you have in my tube, in your tool box What's that tool that you're going to use as you are thinking of that next job interview. Last week we spoke about, we discuss interviews, as you are thinking of, you know, I've got this big opportunity with spoken about privilege, have spoken about being sponsorable on this program, as you are thinking of that next time. Sage it's important to build your tool box What do you have in your tool box I've told you I have shared, I have grief. Lost how to deal with that. I have failure how to deal with failure and overcoming. I have skills, how to fail, but start learning new skills and still do very well. I have building netoolrk really keeping your netoolrk is your netoolrk right Strong netoolrks that you can use. Everyone needs that. Whether you're a student, whether you're an entrepreneur, whether it's got a big job, you need to manage your, your, your netoolrk and stakeholder management that comes in stakeholder management is so important. You get a blank sheet of paper and say, Who are the 10 most important stakeholders in my life? I never want to say. Or my mom, my sister, my brother, it's not about that stakeholders though. Mostly people who are not even related to you. These are people who are going to enhance you in the end. They actually become your sponsors. We spoke about being sponsorable. They actually become your sponsors. And then you've spoken about how to show up presentation. How to be a speaker. I put that in my tool box So this afternoon it was important for me to just share what's in my toolbox, as God is opening up the doors, we have shared already that God is going to open doors for us, big doors for us, you know, where every land we spoke about that every land that we shall see. Tip is ours, but as he does that, we need to continuously ask ourselves. But what do you have in your toolbox? What do you have in your toolbox? Because you need to continue. You can't have the same experience. And, uh, you know, some people just put one experience. They don't want to move, they don't want to do other things. They don't want to take risks and say, let me try this. Maybe this will work. You just get comfortable where you are, guess what your tool box is only ever going to have that one experience. And then again, when an opportunity arises. And they ask you, but tell us a bit more about your experience. What do you have you only end up having, may you not only ended up having one experience because you would have lent different things so that when God gives you Joshua one, three, I will give you every place where you set your foot. As I promised Moses, he's the God who never lies. He's the same yesterday, today and forever. He's the God who promised promise Joshua that were read by your foot shall step. I shall give that to you. So when he does that, you need to go back to your Toolbox and say, well, what do I have to use? So that I am successful in my next journey. And it can't, you can't just create what you do. You have without going through exciting experiences, without going through difficult experiences, you can just create that. You've got to create it by going through, allowing yourself to say I'm going to build a strong toolbox as I close. What's in your toolbox. And I just want to pray that you've got something strong in your toolbox, and if you're a youth, don't hesitate to keep building on that toolbox. If you're elderly. It's tool doesn't matter. It still doesn't matter. Go back and say, what do I have in my toolbox? Can I do, can I put more things in my Toolbox so that I can be a blessing to others and that my dear brothers and sisters, it's going to help you break the odds so that as you go through situations in life, You're going to find it easier to brave the odds. This was me Mizinga Melu talking about what's in your toolbox and I look forward to speaking to you again next week, this the same time and have a blessed and highly favored day. Thank you very much.