"Emotional Residue" | Episode #97 | Builder of All Things | Author’s Cut: Chapter Eight w/ Richie Breaux

Welcome to the Builder of All Things Podcast—where we go beyond the pages of the book and explore into the Author’s Cut! 🔥 Join Richie Breaux and Ray Bisnar as they break down each chapter in micro-episodes, giving you the behind-the-scenes insights, deeper wisdom, and real-life applications—just like a Director’s Cut for a book. 

In Episode 1, we dive into the most dangerous of the “smoke” pillars—emotional residue—what we call the black smoke. Through personal and biblical examples, we uncover how shame, blame, and unforgiveness quietly cloud our vision and pull us off course.

You’ll hear:
* A real-life story about “residue” that won’t wash away—and how it mirrors hidden hurts in life
* How Adam and Eve’s first response to sin reveals the roots of shame and blame
* Why unforgiveness is the “weed in the grass” that fuels emotional residue
* How King David and Peter carried residue that affected their decisions and callings
* The key to clearing the black smoke so we can lead, parent, and serve from a place of clarity

If you’ve ever felt stuck, resentful, or weighed down by past hurts, this episode will help you identify the unseen residue—and learn how to truly let it go.

📖 From Chapter 8: Facing the Mirror in the book.🙏 Let’s clear the smoke and walk in the lane God intended.

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Chapters

• 0:00 What Emotional Residue Looks Like
• 0:38 From Adam and Eve to Shame
• 2:35 Blame, Offense, and Unforgiveness
• 4:10 Leaders Carrying Hidden Residue
• 5:02 David’s Pre-Bathsheba Flashpoint
• 6:24 Peter’s Question and Lingering Residue
• 7:26 Clearing the Fog: Serve vs Perform
• 8:19 Assignment Over Affirmation

Transcript

SPEAKER_01: 0:17

Use an example of what that black smoke or what the emotional residue looks like in life, because I don't it's it's not in the book.

SPEAKER_00: 0:24

Yeah, absolutely. I'll give a personal example. Okay, then I'll give a scriptural example, and then that should help identify both. Both of these aren't in the book. So this is fresh. Okay. So we'll talk about the scriptural side. So what happened when I was studying the emotional residue? I'm like, what is this, right? Like what's what's the meat of this? What is, and so even why I call it it. It's it's like when I'm cooking at or let's use my wife, I don't cook at home. I don't even know why I said that. My wife is cooking at home. She uh she usually gives me a period of time to wash the dishes. And if I don't, I get it. So during that period, when I succeed, like she'll have a cooking pan, it's done. I'll clean the pan, all good, set it up on the counter so it can dry. And then she comes back and she was like, You didn't do a good job. I'm like, What do you mean I didn't a good job? I did a really good job. Like, look at this, go look at it. She goes, touch it, feel it. And then what I notice is like there's always this oil residue I can't get rid of, right? And so it's like in life, man, you know, looking back to the depths of Adam and Eve, it starts the emotional residue kicked off with sin. I'm just gonna say it right there. That's why this thing is so deep, because it is about our salvation, it is about our sinful nature, it is about all this is connected to even how you operate as a leader, how you operate as a parent, how you operate as a business owner. It doesn't matter if you're leading something, you can't, you gotta get rid of that residue on the pan. Yeah, and so we go look at Adam and Eve, man, from the beginning. You know, the first thing that happened, man, is when they disobeyed, they sinned. What did they do? They ran in shame and hid, right? God was walking around, he was like, Where are you at? Where are you at, Adam? You know, like and they were hiding, you know, and so shame is part of our sinful nature, and shame is a vulnerability.

SPEAKER_01: 2:19

Think about it.

SPEAKER_00: 2:20

It's like open doors, like, oh, I'm shame. You know, like it's very open, but when shame is open, that's an opportunity to get hurt. You know, you're an open door. It's like as soon as shame happens, you can get hurt. And so what happened is during that shame, what happens to cover that hurt? Here's where smoke, this is where smoke happens. I'm gonna cover that hurt. I'm so open and ashamed right now. I'm ashamed, I'm shamed, right? I'm naked in a shame. I need to cover that. What do we do? We accuse. What did you do? Oh, I didn't do nothing. That was her. That was the very first accusation. Accusing somebody of shooting an arrow. And then once you shoot that arrow of accusation, it's called let's use a different name. It's when shame goes to blame. So you blame somebody, boom, blame. And what happens is you just created your first flashpoint residue. And in what happens right there, that's when some when you blame somebody or accuse somebody, that's the root of the enemy, man. And what happens is somebody can get offended, somebody can get hurt, somebody can catch an offense. And as soon as you do that, you're starting to birth what's called what? Unforgiveness. Unforgiveness is the underline of emotional residue. Unforgiveness is the the weed in the grass. Unforgiveness is the smoke that covers us. And no matter what you think you're doing, as a leader or a pastor, if you're riding around with some unforgiveness, you got no, it doesn't matter like what light you think you're running, that lightness is actually darkness. So the cure to clear the fog is you have to walk in forgiveness when it comes to emotional residue. And that was scary. Like really looking. So as a leader, man, when I come into my personal life now, man, I'm looking at like, okay, like, wow, it do I have resentment? Do I have even with my wife, with, with an employee, with with like, am I carrying something? Because if I'm carrying that, I could be operating totally in a different lane.

SPEAKER_01: 4:27

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00: 4:27

And don't even know it. So I can, if I'm operating in unforgiveness, all things new is a lie. And I didn't even, so that's very important for me now to really be honest with my and this is deep.

SPEAKER_01: 4:38

That's good for a business owner.

SPEAKER_00: 4:39

It's like, man, unforgiveness matter. Heck yeah, it matters.

SPEAKER_01: 4:42

Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_00: 4:42

Heck yeah, it matters. It matters so much because you'll go be down the lane and don't even like God doesn't honor unforgiveness, He forgives it. You know? And so I was like, okay, now this is where I was like having fun. Fun's the right word, but like, okay, I want to unpack this now. Like, okay, so let me look at people that failed in the Bible, like leaders, right? So I'll go and I'm researching David. I'm like, okay, where's these flashpoints? Like in in people. And I go look up like Peter when he, you know, he failed with Jesus. And so I'm like trying to like look between the lines now. It's like, is there flashpoints happening in the Bible? And like, like, and we just missed them, like to understand like where this bitterness and unforgiveness roots from before a mistake. And I started like God started showing me. And so, like looking at David, for example, when he fell, you know, with Bathsheba. So, what we where we start the story obviously is in Samuel, where you know, when kings go to war, he stayed behind, they call it idleness. Right. And so I even went deeper. I went the story before.

SPEAKER_01: 5:46

Okay.

SPEAKER_00: 5:46

And the story before, there was uh a king, Han Hanan, Hunan or Hanan, that his father, King, died. So David, as respect, sent some soldiers over to his land to show respect to the father. Hannon or Hunan basically cut the pants off the buttocks, shaved the beard half, and sent them back. Total embarrassment. And what do you think Dave did? David did. King David stayed back, which he usually goes out to war because he's probably shamed, and he sent all his soldiers out to kill him. You don't shame me like that. I'm King David. You know, and that was the story that happened right before Bathsheba. So he had he carried, I mean, he had some reconciliation, but he carried an emotional residue. You see where I'm going with this? Oh, yeah, yeah. He had an emotional residue now, and now he's idle, kings are going to war. That's where that statement came from. It was a season when kings go to war, but David was chilling. So idleness kicked in because of emotional residue, and then he fell into the the rest of the story of Bathsheba. Let's go look at Peter. Peter was in the Last Supper, and you remember when Jesus was going around saying, you know, hey, you're gonna deny me three times? Yeah, there was one of the disciples in there that questioned him, like actually questioned, like, oh, who's gonna be the one? Yeah, you know, you remember like somebody's like, Who's gonna be the one? Yeah, and then it ended up being Peter later when Jesus resurrected and came and visited them on the on the shore, and then he talked to Peter and actually reinstated him with the three. Peter had the nerve to ask him, Well, what about this guy? Wow, yeah, because he was still carrying an emotional residue, yeah, all the way still to the point of being reinstated, which is crazy. Like, like just understanding like us as people, it's normal. We we since Adam and Eve, it's in us, man. We're we're we're we're vulnerable, we can get hurt, you know. And when the arrows are shot at us, yes, we're gonna get hurt, but understanding that Jesus came here to die on the cross and he conquered death in order to save us. Like, what is he saving us from? He's saving us from the sin and that unforgiveness, man. And so just understanding that at that deep level was very vital to understand when we're we're rising up as leaders, business owners, pastors, parents, the two that I just said, man. Are we performing or are we serving and able to identify that you gotta clear the smoke, you gotta clear the residue, the emotional residue, you gotta clear, you know, are you misaligning your efforts? You gotta like look at these three pillars and make sure like we're leading with the clear glass, you know, so we can see where we're going, man, and know that it's in God's lane. Knowing it we're following the assignment and not affirmation. There's a little the quote from Lacrae that he says, if we live for people's acceptance, we'll die by their rejection. You know, and so you know, it's it's we're set up for failure when we're throwing expectations out there. Yeah, yeah. You know, and looking for affirmations and and certain things.