EP 92: Self-Reflection with the Woman in the Mirror

Have you been challenged by a situation or a nudging that is not going away? Maybe God has you doing things that is uncomfortable and trying to ignore it has come to an end. Well, in this episode, I'm going to share with you a couple of ways how you can look yourself in the mirror, because Sis, it's time. 

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ReClaiming Your Voice is the go-to podcast for Christian women Who Want to Discover God, ReClaim Their Voice and Live Core Values.

Do you struggle with low self-worth, people pleasing, lacking boundaries and not knowing your identity? Do you find that it is difficult to express your needs or maybe life has you believing your needs do not matter? Do you find yourself repeating behaviors that make you feel like you are going backwards in life?

Hey, I'm Vernica Williams! My journey began in 2020 when God told me to come out of my comfort zone. I allowed my insecurities about my voice, not having boundaries and people pleasing since the age of five to hinder me from knowing who I am in Him.

The ReClaiming Your Voice podcast is where you will begin the journey to overcome your insecurities, identify your core values and learn how to live it out...with God. 

Sister-Friend, you are here because you know it is time to come out of your comfort zone. The many layers of comfort that has hindered you from knowing who you are in God.

On the show, you will learn...
*How values and core values can guide you in ways that will change your life.
*YOU have value! Partner with God on your journey towards healing.
*How to come out of the comfort zone and ReClaim your voice in God.

*The 4 Core Pillars

The 4 Core Pillars are: Core values, Core Needs, Core Behaviors and Core Faith

The 4 Core Pillars is a Bible based and practical teaching that will take you on a journey to break free from people pleasing, being co-dependent on the emotions and choices of others and lacking boundaries so you can begin to discover the core of who you are.

It is exciting to know you are here. Let's go on this journey with God together.

Connect with Vernica: info@reclaimingurvoice.com

Transcript

Motivational Monday: 0:00

This is the reclaiming your voice podcast. And I am your host Vernisa Williams. Do you struggle with low self worth, people pleasing, lacking boundaries and not knowing your identity? Do you find that it is difficult to express your needs or maybe life has you believing? Your needs don't matter. Do you find yourself repeating behaviors that make you feel like you are going backwards in life? If this is you, you are in the right place because I believe that honoring your needs and discovering your values and core values will begin your journey towards healing, discovering God in the midst of it all and reclaiming your voice. Hey, I am feeling so much better. Last week I was fighting a cold I'm feeling so much better. And um, I got a lot of rest because that was the issue too. So far behind rest, and I know that opened the door for me to have the sniffles and have to fight it, but hey, we are here. I am grateful for you. Shout out to my OGs and my newbies who are turning into OGs and my newbies. If you are new to. of the show. I am so grateful for you and each and every one of you who have been listening in, downloading the episodes that has touched you in some kind of way. Thank you from all over the United States and also countries I cannot pronounce. I am so glad, that you are here. You see what I share is valuable for you to use your time to listen in. So, I greatly appreciate you. Today, It's going to be one of those heart to heart episodes, y'all. I want to share with you the concept woman in the mirror, basically facing you, I might go a little deep today because I know looking in a mirror is not an easy thing to do. It's not. It is not. But I'm going to share with you just a couple of ways. How you can look at yourself in a mirror and you might even thinking, why should I? And behind that question, there's some fear in there. I know, but it is very important. Even if you are not. Experiencing, challenges, even if you've been doing pretty well. I believe that it's always good every now and again to look at yourself in the mirror, even to check in with your mind. And your heart and your soul to check in with yourself. How have you really been doing to check in with your mental health, your emotional health, your spiritual health, even your financial health, like your physical health, like every area of your life. It's always good to check in If you have been following. Your core values and your core needs if you have gotten off a little bit and you need to reel yourself back in It's it's it's always good to ask yourself. How are you as well as when we are dealing with some stuff that spiritually you must look yourself in a mirror and deal with some things that you have been Unwilling to look at, to face, if there are any bad habits that you have going on, if you have been treating your children in ways that could be better, if you have been treating yourself in a way that could be better, if there are some fears and doubts you've been having that you find that has been keeping you You need to look yourself in the mirror. And, um, we're talking about this. If you are OG, you know that many times I share what I've been going through in real time. But yeah, lately, for about a month now, I had to look myself in the mirror. And ooh boy, it was difficult. It was difficult. The weight, the weight of Sitting in front of the mirror and looking at myself, and honestly, I did not do it physically, but if you feel led to do that, I really do recommend for you to literally sit in front of your mirror and ask yourself, Some hard questions. But I had to look myself in the mirror and um, sit there quietly. There were times where I had to tell my brain to shut up and sit and listen and write down. The things that were placed on my heart to consider, to greatly consider where I am in my life and what changes I can make even if those changes are hard because that's the point. That's the point to make the hard choices to make some changes. Whether it has to do with financial relational. There was a time where you can no longer get around it. Think about what's been going on in your life for a while or lately where you really feel like I, I really can't get around this. It keeps following me. It's not going anywhere. That, that right there, have a seat in front of the mirror. multiple conversations with God, you need to contend, you need to contend with these things. Because as you already know, but you need to be honest with yourself that if you do not face these things it will continue. Those core behaviors that has been continuing in your life. Because you have been avoiding to look yourself in the mirror. You know it's going to keep coming back. Aren't you tired? I know I'm tired. I, when I realized the thing, and I've said this before, that layers, those layers of um, comfort, under your comfort zone, it's layers to this. There are layers to heal from trauma. There are layers regarding deliverance. It is layers to let the stuff that's been attached to our old man, to let it go. There's layers to it. But each layer, we need to be honest with ourselves. Each layer, we have to submit to humility. Each layer, we have to take. The time necessary to look at ourselves. I mentioned humility. You know, after you have a seat and what's in your heart reveals itself to you. You have to be humble to listen to what God is saying to you. You have to be humble to accept where in your heart that is hardened, where you have been resistant, where you've been scared, where you have been doubtful. What has caused you to continue to experience anxiety and depression over this thing, over that person, over the situation, over the decisions that you're making, over the ignorance, things that you just didn't know. You didn't realize that was a thing and all of the above is okay. But humility, you need to humble yourself and be brave and courageous and face the thing. The second thing is you need to take the time. Once you are aware and you position yourself in humility, you really need to take the time to contend. And that looks like getting up early in the morning or going to bed earlier and take some time. I'm going to tell you about an hour. Give yourself about an hour, at least, at least that. Get your journal out. Your favorite drink. Okay, position yourself sitting up. Do not do this laying down. Do not get super comfortable. Sit up straight, so that your body can be open. Not closed down, but open. To receive what you hear, at least an hour, write down I didn't know this was a thing. I didn't know this was, this was bad. I, I didn't realize, I don't even know when this all started. That's, that's fine. Because you're going to take this time with the Lord to flesh that out. You may get answers now, you may get it later. Sit and write. Position yourself with humility. Position yourself in quiet. That may be hard for you. That may be something that you are going to have to train yourself to do. Because yes, while we are looking at ourselves in the mirror, being quiet, that can be scary. Maybe that's the reason why you've been avoiding it. About how we can position ourselves to be quiet, to face the quiet, the noise that you have been listening to, whether the noise from in yourself, whether it's the noise from other people's voices, your spouse, even your kids, like your, parents, all the voices that you have been listening to, uh, on social media, on YouTube, all the things. Even other podcasts, all the many voices that you has been listening to is overload, especially if you are trying to do these exercises and you feel confused. That is a number one sign that you have a lot of noise going on as you are overly stimulated with all the things. Okay, you must find you a place and time to sacrifice, to write down what is coming from your heart. What is God revealing to you, even the stuff in your mind, pour it out, write it out, contend. And look at yourself in the mirror. The next thing is once you are in the space where you like, okay, I'm writing, I'm fleshing it out. Okay. Ow, this hurts. You're getting uppercuts. You get jabbed in your stomach. All the things that's happened. You are to sit in it. You are not running. And this could look like, you know, if you're in this space, remember, I'm giving you an hour. You're in this space and it's getting really, really hard. If you are about to hit the hour, I am daring you to sit for at least five more minutes because like, Oh, it's an hour. It's getting rough. Let me, let me leave. No, no, no humility, sacrifice, contend, sit there for at least five more minutes and please, before you even get up right there, what is, what came up for you before, before you in this end? You're sitting, alright? Write it down because the next day, when you go over this, that's where you're going to start from. You're going to start from where it ended the day before. Okay? Sit in it. Next, after we're sitting in it, we're going to take the time to process, you're going to have to take the time to process what is going on inside internally. Okay. Are you having stomach aches? Are you having headaches? Is your body tensing up? Are you clenching your hands? Are you clenching your jaw? What is going on physically? Why you are sitting in it? Whether that same day or the next day, when you come back to it, be mindful of how your body is responding to the hurt, to the pain, whatever comes up, feeling confused, whatever comes up. What is your body doing? Do you feel hot? Do you feel itchy? All the things, document, write it down, contend with it. And I want to make sure I say this. Have your Bible next to you. You are not going through this alone. Have your Bible next to you. If you are in the midst of already focusing on a certain topic or you already in your word, either you're reading Proverbs or whatever it is. Bring that with you, and ask the Lord to reveal through what you've been reading. Ask the Lord to reveal to you as you are looking yourself in the mirror. And last but not least, after you. Approach this in humility as you are sacrificing your time, as you are contending, as you are sitting and you're documenting how your body is experiencing. You have your word with you. You are praying. Because you are not going to do this by yourself. You are now going to worship. You are going to acknowledge the Lord and thank Him for revealing this to you. Thank Him for giving you the power to sit and be still, the power to contend, the power to not be afraid to ask Him the hard questions. Right. It's nothing that we can do without him. There's nothing that we can do without him. And especially with looking ourselves in the mirror, we definitely cannot do this without him. We cannot do it in our own strength. Because guess what? We don't want to do it anyway. We don't want to do this. So we need Him. And every day, when you take this time to do this, ask Him to be with you. Ask Him to sit with you. Ask Him to contend with you. Ask Him to help you to keep still and sit. You are not doing this alone. The Lord is with you and I am here to support you through the process. I'm going to place these steps In the description area for you to, to upload so that you have it. So if you'd like to make this like a everyday. Um, journal prompts, why you are looking yourself in the mirror, why you are facing the man or woman in the mirror, because only you and God knows how long it's going to be. Because I'm going to tell you, when I was experiencing this, it, it was like a month before. I felt like I can even peep out. I call it the cave when I'm in these moments. I felt like, I now feel like I can look my head out. Just reach my head out and look left and right. That I'm still not out yet, but at least I can peep out. Okay? I have these journal points and show notes for you to grab so that you'll have it. So I am supporting you through the journal promptings and I'm also here to support you. Do therapeutic life coaching. Presently, I have some spots open. So if you are looking to continue to reclaim your voice and go through your journey through the four core pillars, I am absolutely here to support you. My link to my schedule will also be in the show notes so you and I can meet. We can talk about 45 minutes. It's to discuss where you are. If you need a little boost, if you need real time encouragement, and some direction that you can go forward with. So I hope that this episode meets you where you are. I pray that you take this seriously. It is time for you to look yourself in the mirror. To check in with yourself, see where you are, see where you are between you and the Lord and do the work friend. This healing on the other side is so much on the other side is freedom on the other side when we do the work. All right. So now and after be well and peace out.