Peace & Prosperity Podcast
In the Peace & Prosperity Podcast, Jason Phillips, licensed therapist and life coach, shares personal experiences that force you to think deeply about your values, beliefs, and behaviors to ensure you achieve peace, happiness, and success in your life.
Peace & Prosperity Podcast
Building the Confidence to Leave a Relationship - Episode #70
The Peace & Prosperity Podcast is a bi-weekly conversation with Jason Phillips, LCSW, licensed therapist and confidence expert in Raleigh, NC, discussing all things related to self-love and self-confidence, and how we can improve ourselves personally and professionally.
Can you imagine what your life might look like if you felt empowered to leave a relationship that no longer serves your happiness? Join me, Jason Phillips, on the Peace and Prosperity Podcast as we explore the challenging journey of building confidence to move on from relationships that hinder your well-being. We tackle the difficult yet crucial process of recognizing when it's time to leave, especially in situations involving abuse, guilt, or societal pressure. Together, we'll touch on the importance of self-forgiveness for staying too long and emphasize that it's not your burden to fix your partner's shortcomings. This episode offers guidance on reflecting on your true desires in a relationship and identifying the qualities you should seek in a partner to prioritize your happiness.
But that's not all—navigating high-functioning anxiety is also on our agenda. It’s a common experience, and feeling anxious at times is perfectly normal. I'll share practical strategies to manage anxiety on your own and stress the importance of seeking professional help when needed. This episode is your invitation to focus on self-care and mental health, with actionable insights to support you through life's challenges. Whether you're contemplating a significant life change or seeking ways to manage anxiety, this episode is all about equipping you with the tools to enhance your personal peace and prosperity. Remember to support our growing community by liking, sharing, and subscribing, and don’t hesitate to reach out with feedback or suggestions for future topics!
Plus, remember to join our podcast community—like, share, subscribe, and let us know what topics you want us to cover next. Engage with us, send a DM, or leave a review. Let's continue this journey towards peace and prosperity together.
To stay connected with Jason and learn about coaching, connect with Jason on social media:
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/jphillipsmsw/
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/jphillipsmsw
Visit Jason's website for a consultation:
Website -https://www.jasonlphillips.com
To book Jason to speak to your team or organization:
https://peaceprosperitycoaching.hbportal.co/public/660d8068c9d2d600253b215b/1-Inquiry
All right, y'all, welcome back to another episode of the Peace and Prosperity Podcast. I'm your host, Jason Phillips, licensed therapist, confidence expert, and today we're diving into the conversation around how do you build up the confidence to leave a relationship, and this is one that could be really, really tricky, particularly if you've been in this relationship for a while. This is your first love. This is the person you thought was going to be the one, but now there's some indicators that are telling you he or she is not the one. But you don't know how to play it out. You know this is not what you want for yourself, but then you keep telling yourself maybe they'll change, maybe things will get better in the future, maybe if I just do this or if I just say that, they'll start to show up differently. But then these maybes just keep becoming more maybes and more maybes and it never happens. You never get any concrete change. So some of the signs that you need to leave is one if there's abuse so physical abuse, emotional abuse, verbal abuse you definitely want to get some help and get more counsel if you need to truly get out of this relationship and do it fast, because safety is always going to be first.
Speaker 1:Another sign that you need to leave is if this person or if you're only staying in a relationship because you don't want to like break up a happy home or you don't want the perception that you failed in your marriage or you failed with this relationship with your partner. You're staying in the relationship essentially out of pressure, whether it's external, internal, but you know it's not the relationship for you. So how do you do it? You're like, okay, jason, you're telling me this is where I'm at, but how do I build up the confidence to leave? First thing I want you to do is let go of the guilt.
Speaker 1:See, leaving it takes you having to communicate with your partner, with your spouse, that the relationship is coming to an end, but there may be some internal guilt that you feel that's preventing you from having that conversation. You don't want the blowback, you don't want the perception that you failed, but I want you to let go of all of that guilt. Now that takes work. So this may be talking to your therapist, writing in your journal, really getting into some, some, some healing, some spiritual healing that you have to do, but I want you to release the guilt that comes from leaving this relationship. That's the first and foremost hey Peace and Prosperity family. I want to take a moment to talk about something vital for all organizations employee wellness. Here's what some of the past organizations have shared about their experiences.
Speaker 2:So far, I've learned that my mental health has a huge impact as a leader on my team's health, but also to be looking out for signs that I've already been seeing and learning tips on how I can take those back to help myself as well as my team.
Speaker 3:So I really appreciate Jason because he really put a lot of stuff in perspective for me. I don't get a lot of days off you know what I'm saying so when I do take one off, I feel really, really guilty. It's like, oh my gosh, I got so much to do, but knowing that like, hey, it's okay, take a break, be yourself and then come back to this and you'll be better, it's just it's nice to keep hearing that, so that's good.
Speaker 2:But it was good to reevaluate and see that you know everyone has burnout things like that and also just learning how to deal with it more effectively. Be yourself, love yourself, and other people are going to love you too. Like regardless. And workplace is not just workplace, this is family. He was a great speaker.
Speaker 1:Yeah, probably one of the best ones that I've seen so far. If you're interested in investing in your team's mental health, visit jasonlphillipscom or visit the link below, and let's talk about creating a thriving work environment for your organization.
Speaker 3:Now back to the episode.
Speaker 1:The second thing I want you to do is you have to forgive yourself. See, a lot of times when we leave a relationship or when we know it's time to leave, we can see ourselves making the decision, but then we're like what? But if I only, or if they only do this, or if they can change that, and then we start to feel bad and beat ourself up. What did I do wrong? How did I let this happen? I don't want this to be me or my life. I don't want to quote unquote die alone. That does not have to be your future. But in order to execute and make this decision, I want you to forgive yourself for staying too long. If you knew the relationship should have ended a while ago, but also take some of that pressure off that you caused this problem. Did you cause your partner to cheat? Did you cause your partner to spend all the money? Did you cause your partner to call you out your name? Did you call your partner to neglect you? Did you cause your partner to stop working? Did you cause your partner to not show up for you and respect the family and the values? You didn't cause your partner to do any of these things. But what happens is we take more responsibility for someone else's action and think that it's all our fault. It's like it's all inclusive. All of this is something that I could have controlled. One. You don't have that much control I wish you did, but you don't and forgive yourself for thinking that you did in the first place. The third thing I want you to do is truly lean in and ask yourself what do you want for you? And this is where the clarity starts to come in. What is the relationship that I want? When I'm working with couples or individuals, I ask them to write down the trace that they want for their partner. So what happens when they when it is time, to date or when they are in a healthy space? These are the people that they start to attract Somebody who's loving, who's caring, who loves God, who's health conscious. But you have to be clear on that first, and let me throw in a bonus tip Let other people in. Don't isolate yourself and think that you're going to be able to work through this on your own. That's how you stay stuck in a relationship for so long in the first place. Be vulnerable, share your story, be authentic, take feedback. Don't take it personally when they tell you hey sis, hey bro, she for the streets Like to hear that about someone that you love. Yes, it's going to be hurtful, but it's also going to be honest. Let these people in. So let's recap One if you're trying to get out of a relationship and you feel really stuck, you have to let go of the guilt. Second thing, I want you to really, really truly do the work and forgive yourself. Lastly, identify who you want, what you want this person to look like, what the principles and the values you want them to embody. And that bonus let other people in. Don't try to go through this all on your own, because if you do, you'll likely find yourself staying in the same unhealthy situation. All right, y'all, we had to have this conversation. I think sometimes we shy away from it, but know that you got this and be blessed Peace.
Speaker 1:Thank you all for listening to another episode of the Peace and Prosperity Podcast. Again, if you are feeling like, hey, I'm experiencing high functioning anxiety, don't beat yourself up about it. It is OK. We all experience anxiety from time to time and I gave you a couple of things that you can do on your own, but don't hesitate to reach out to a professional to better manage what you're going through. Ok, and lastly, make sure, if you have not like, share, subscribe to the podcast and send this out to a friend, and if you want to hear certain episodes or have certain conversations, let me know. You can shoot me a DM or just leave a review and I will definitely follow up. All right, y'all be blessed, peace.