Peace & Prosperity Podcast
In the Peace & Prosperity Podcast, Jason Phillips, licensed therapist and life coach, shares personal experiences that force you to think deeply about your values, beliefs, and behaviors to ensure you achieve peace, happiness, and success in your life.
Peace & Prosperity Podcast
Why Can't I Manage My Anxiety? - Episode #79
The Peace & Prosperity Podcast is a bi-weekly conversation with Jason Phillips, LCSW, licensed therapist and confidence expert in Raleigh, NC, discussing all things related to self-love and self-confidence, and how we can improve ourselves personally and professionally.
Can high achievers maintain success without sacrificing mental health? On the Peace and Prosperity Podcast, we explore the hidden pressures of overworking, anxiety, and perfectionism that lead to burnout. Discover actionable strategies to manage stress, achieve work-life balance, and prioritize self-care. You're not alone in navigating high-functioning anxiety, and this episode offers practical tips and professional guidance to help. Like, share, and subscribe—join us on this journey toward peace and prosperity!
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All right, y'all, Welcome to another episode of the Peace and Prosperity Podcast. We're back Super excited. It's been a minute. Well, we're going to get into one of the favorite, most common topics, which is anxiety, and we're going to talk about where that anxiety is coming from and why you are having a hard time managing your anxiety.
Speaker 1:So I see this a lot, especially in my high achievers, and when I say high achievers, these are the people you want to perform, you want to be great, you want to show up and deliver really nothing but excellence. If you identify with being a high achiever, you're probably someone who one does not like to fail, does not like to tell people no. So you end up stretching yourself a little bit too much because you know one, it's worked before. But you also don't want to let people down. But there are some downsides to that. I guess in the beginning it feels great and at the end of the day, even if you are overstretched, you feel like, well, I got it done, but at what cost?
Speaker 1:So let's look at one some of the mistakes that you're making to manage your anxiety. The first mistake is you're overworking. You're pushing, pushing, pushing and pushing yourself to the limit. But here's the thing nobody's going to tell you to ease up, especially if they benefit from you overworking, For example. You're at the job, you find yourself staying late, taking calls on a weekend, not taking your lunch break and essentially, your work life balance is terrible. It's non-existent. You want to slow down and look at how this is so ineffective to you, being a healthy version for yourself and for your family.
Speaker 1:So that's one reason it's not working because you continue to overwork. So that's one reason it's not working because you continue to overwork. Another thing that happens when you are you're trying to manage your anxiety is you get caught up in the perfectionism, like the little details. You want everything to be just right Now y'all. I can speak to this from a personal level and professional level because I've been there. I've had people tell me look, hey, jason, this is enough, this is done, this is good. And then sometimes I'm like, no, I need X, y, a, b, c, d. And they're like, no, no, no, just chill, relax, you're good. You may not have somebody encouraging you or coaching you in that manner, and that's why you're tapping into the podcast, because you're going to hear from me where I'm telling you give yourself a break, give yourself much more grace.
Speaker 1:So overworking and perfectionism is not helping your anxiety. If anything, it's probably pushing your anxiety more, because you're setting yourself up to operate at a standard or a level that is not sustainable. Yes, it's worked in the past. Yes, you've gotten great results, but what was the cost? And I'm not talking about the financial cost. What was the mental cost? Like? What toil did it take? Or toll did it take on your body, on your mindset, on your family, because you're putting so much effort into everything or everything else, and you're neglecting the things that seem to be so important to you. Hey, peace and Prosperity, family. I want to take a moment to talk about something vital for all organizations employee wellness. I focus on tackling issues such as low morale, burnout and helping teams thrive by improving their employee wellness. Here's what some of the past organizations have shared about their experiences.
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Speaker 1:Now back to the episode. So you probably are, jason. You talk to me. So what do I do about this? Yes, I know I'm overworking. Yes, I know I I'm striving for perfectionism, but what do I do about it? The first thing I want you to do is ask yourself where is this external pressure coming from? Who is telling you that you have to be perfect, you have to have it all together and you can't take a break? Was this something that was told to you, like growing up? Is this something that's new, with the boss you have or the team that you're working on? Or is this something, innately, that you feel like you have to do? It's not anybody else, but it's you telling yourself if I don't perform or if I don't overextend, then I'm not good enough, if I don't overwork, then I'm not worthy. What does that dialogue look like? What does that self-talk look like? And in order to really get crystal clear on what that looks like, one you got to slow down and really take inventory of the thoughts that you're having.
Speaker 1:Often, when I'm doing a session with somebody, we're going to look at what is the language that you're telling yourself Like, what conversations are you having? And we are often like we get surprised, like, oh, I didn't realize how much I'm putting on me. All this time I've been blaming my boss, I've been blaming my spouse, I've been putting pressure and saying that it's my clients that I work with or the people that I serve, but really it's been you. But we gotta get to the root of where's that pressure coming from. Did something happen in your life? And ever since that situation or experience happened, you're like never again. I'm not going to feel like this again. So let me do the most, like the absolute most that I can do to always be great or always be perfect. Hey, as you hear, as I'm saying right now, always is not sustainable. Perfection is not a sustainable goal. Yes, you want to still operate in a stance of excellence, you want to push yourself, but there has to be some limits and check and balance. So if you find yourself again not taking breaks, not taking vacation, not taking days off, you find yourself you can't sleep at night because you're worried about the next day. These are some of the indicators that you are overworking, you're operating out of that perfectionism or perfectionistic mindset and you're not giving yourself grace.
Speaker 1:So, again, as we wrap up, I want to give you some tips. One ask yourself where's the pressure coming from? Some tips One ask yourself where's the pressure coming from? Who is telling you that you have to overextend and push yourself without having any good boundaries?
Speaker 1:Secondly, I want you to slow down and identify what are the messages that you're telling yourself, and this is where you probably have to get off some pen and paper. You're going to probably have to allocate some time just for you. If you have your therapy session, great. If you don't, I'm going to advocate for you or promote you getting one, but take some time to just journal, sit back and get in touch with your thoughts, like what are the thoughts that are running through your mind? How do you feel about you? How is that coming out in the interactions you're having with people, in the interactions you're having at work? Are you not able to show up for your family because you're so focused on being perfect? And then, lastly, as you're giving yourself that grace, I want you to take some time out and relax, do something fun, do something enjoyable without feeling guilty. I know you like wait, jason. That's a lot, but I'm trusting that if you're listening to these messages, you can go back. It's going to take some time, but follow the steps to take some of that pressure off of you and just be you.
Speaker 1:All right, y'all. Thank you all for tuning in. Make sure you send this message out to a friend or, if you have not already subscribed to the podcast, because you are probably somebody who is putting so much on you. You don't feel like you can take a break. You're feeling the pressure, but it does not always have to be that way. As always, y'all be blessed Peace. That way, as always, y'all be blessed Peace.
Speaker 1:Thank you all for listening to another episode of the Peace and Prosperity Podcast. Again, if you are feeling like, hey, I'm experiencing high functioning anxiety, don't beat yourself up about it. It is okay. We all experience anxiety from time to time and I gave you a couple of things that you can do on your own. But don't hesitate to reach out to a professional to better manage what you're going through. Ok, and lastly, make sure if you have not like share, subscribe to the podcast and send this out to a friend. And if you want to hear certain episodes or have certain conversations, let me know. You can shoot me a DM or just leave a review and I will definitely follow up. All right, y'all be blessed Peace.