100 Episodes Later… and High Achievers Are Still Stuck Here - Episode #100

The Peace & Prosperity Podcast is a bi-weekly conversation with Dr. Jason Phillips, LCSW, licensed therapist and confidence expert in Raleigh, NC, discussing all things related to self-love and self-confidence, and how we can improve ourselves personally and professionally.

Perfectionism often looks like high standards, but it can quietly turn into self-sabotage—overthinking, second-guessing, and never feeling satisfied with your progress. In Episode 100 of the Peace and Prosperity Podcast, I reflect on what it really takes to grow without losing yourself, especially as a high achiever who looks successful on the outside but feels exhausted on the inside.

I share the habits and mindset shifts that helped me reach this milestone, including how discipline builds consistency, why waiting for perfection keeps you stuck, and how to keep going even when self-doubt shows up. We also talk about what makes growth sustainable—having the right support, being honest about your season, and learning how to receive help.

If you’ve been pushing forward but still feel stuck, this episode will help you find clarity and move with more intention. Plus, remember to join our podcast community—like, share, subscribe, and let us know what topics you want us to cover next. Engage with us, send a DM, or leave a review. Let's continue this journey towards peace and prosperity together.

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Transcript

Discipline Over Setbacks

Trust Yourself Through Doubt

Burnout, Self-Doubt, And Coaching

Build The Right Circle

Transparency And Asking For Support

Share The Show And Closing

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Welcome to the Peace and Prosperity Podcast, where we talk mental wellness, confidence, and real life tools to help high achievers thrive. I'm your host, Jason Phillips, licensed therapist, speaker, coach, and I'm glad you're here. Let's get into the episode. See, sometimes we think in order to be doing something, I have to be perfect. That perfectionistic mindset will trip you up, you'll start overthinking, second guessing yourself, and not really feeling good about the progress that you are making. And today, this is a special episode. Y'all, this is episode number 100. So, first I want to thank you all, the community, for the follows, the shares, spreading the podcast around. It truly means a lot to me. And it's hard to even believe that we're at episode number 100. So let's talk about what it really takes to grow without losing yourself. That's what we're gonna dive into on this episode because to get to 100 episodes, it took a lot and we're gonna talk about the journey. But also I want to share with you all if you are on the pursuit of growing your peace, enhancing your prosperity, how can you do so without losing yourself? Now, just because I know some of you are new to the community, the podcast, we started back May 5th, 2021. So we're coming up on almost five years to get to 100 episodes. Now, there's been some pauses in between there, and I'll talk about what that looked like. But staying consistent and being disciplined, honestly, that's what took or what helped us get here today. So when I talk to you about what it takes to grow without losing yourself, number one, growth takes discipline. Yeah. Now that doesn't mean that there won't be setbacks. I've had setbacks along this journey. I've had personal losses, things have happened, you know, in the career, moves, transitions, but we kept going. Milestones approached, you know, and, you know, have now a daughter, some a father now. All of these things were different, you know, great accomplishments, but also some barriers too to getting here. So when you are thinking about your journey, where you want to go in your life, don't think you're gonna be able to get there without going through different trials and tribulations. It's a part of the process. And it doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. It just means that you're human. Yes, you are going to experience different things. I can remember 2023, January, New Year approaching. I'm like, okay, we've been doing a podcast for about a year and a half, audio only, let's go video. Mmm. Okay, that was a challenge because I also started my doctoral program at the same month. Couldn't do both. But I still had to be disciplined enough to show up, deliver value, and give myself grace along that journey. So if you're struggling with staying committed to something, acknowledge where you're at, and then keep going. Like, what do you need to do to put that next foot forward and not be perfect? See, sometimes we think in order to be doing something, I have to be perfect. That perfect perfectionistic mindset will trip you up, you'll start overthinking, second guessing yourself, and not really feeling good about the progress that you are making. So that's first and foremost, growth takes discipline. The second skill that you have to have in the mindset is that you want to trust yourself on your journey. Now, this doesn't mean that there won't be some days or moments rather where you doubt yourself, but you still have to be trusting that what you're doing is working. I can't tell you how great it has been to have DMs, emails from you all, from the community. There are times where I may be in an event, somebody comes up to me, like, hey, I met you through or listened to the podcast, or my therapist recommended your podcast. That feels great. And it also lets me know that, okay, what I'm doing is working. I'm helping somebody. Do I know all of the people? Absolutely not. But just to be able to know that this work that's being done is helpful and it's helping somebody get through whatever they have going on in their life, that's enough for me to continue to trust myself, trust the process, and keep going. And throughout that process, I've learned a lot. I've learned that, you know, I'll get to this toward the end, but there are some things that you have to do and some things you have to reflect on in order to really trust yourself at that level. So, number one, growth takes discipline. Number two, you have to trust yourself. From the outside, you look successful. But privately, you're exhausted and still second guessing yourself. I'm Dr. Jason Phillips and I help high achievers break through burnout and self-doubt so you can have more clarity in your life and career. Visit jasonlphillips.com to learn more about coaching and schedule a consultation. All right, let's get back to the episode. Number three, this is critical. Have the right circle around you. In order for me to grow without losing myself in the process, you know there's been solo episodes, there's been episodes with guests, but having that community helped tremendously. Shout out to Dr. Dominique Pritchett. When I launched the podcast almost five years ago, she was like, hey, Jason, I got you. I'm sending you all types of graphics to promote, do a countdown, all these things. I didn't even ask for them. That's having the right circle in your corner. You will get things that you don't even ask for, but they know what you need to keep you successful and to keep you out of your head and giving yourself one more excuse. Dr. Dominique has been super helpful. Uh, my photographer, Alicia Hunter, was super helpful because I already had graphics to promote and pictures and all of that. Now, those things matter. They do matter. But what matters even more so than those materialistic things is having the community support when you're feeling like, man, I don't know if I can keep going. This is getting to be weighing a lot on me. Who do you have? Who can you go to? Then there's been solo episodes, there's been episodes with guests. Hugh, shout out to Venus Austin. She's been a recurring guest on the podcast. We've given each other a lot of mutual support over the years. Good friend of mine. Also, uh Reverend Isaiah Petway. He's been on the podcast, helped out tremendously. Shout out to Marv Neo, again, another recurring guest. And I can't forget my guy Leon Walker. Great episodes, I think 25, 49, and maybe 88, something like that. My point is, y'all, we don't get to this, you know, this community, this breadth of resources all alone. So if you are growing, or maybe you feel a little bit stagnant in your growth process, who's in your circle? Do you have the right people, or do you need to maybe eliminate some people and then put the right people in, like make room for them? So remember, number one, you growth takes discipline. Number two, you must trust yourself. Number three, you have to have the right circle. Number four, the fourth thing that I've learned having the podcast and getting here is to be transparent. It helps for the information, the content, but it also helps me. Again, sharing that, okay, there have been some things that I've, you know, been through on this journey that have slowed me down from showing up as consistently as I would like, but being transparent has always helped me return back to the process. Being a new dad, that's something that I had no experience with at all, but I've loved the journey. Being married for 10 years, now going on 11, you know, there's ups and downs with that, but being consistent and then also, you know, showing up for the right people at the right time. So at times that means, okay, I don't record or I don't do this because it's all about the family right now. I'm in dad mode or husband mode. And that takes pressure from trying to be all things to all people. Now, the last point that I want to make that you have to have and get when you're trying to grow without losing yourself is be able to ask for support. Not only just your community, but I've had a lot of help with this, these uh the production of the podcast. I've had a lot of help when it comes to production of the podcast, meaning there have been editors and audio mixers, all of that, people outside of just me to help produce. Why is that critical? Sometimes support changes, you know, for whatever reason, people get in and out of the field or there's hiccups here and there, but you don't quit because that one person or that one resource is no longer working. If anything, you drill down and say, I really need to reflect and ask myself, where am I struggling? Where do I need more assistance? What am I trying to carry that I really don't have the bandwidth for anymore? When you answer those hard questions, things get easier. You can relax a little bit more and not feel like you're carrying everything. As high achievers, you know how to get things done and you know how to achieve. Where you've struggled is being able to receive support. So if you are listening and you're thinking, okay, I want to be more consistent in my life, ask yourself, where am I stuck? Where do I need support? What is stressing me out? What have I tried? What's working, what's not working, and then fill those gaps in. Y'all truly thank you for helping me get us to 100 episodes. I'm going to ask you to share this with 10 people in your community because now we want to grow to 100,000 more listeners. All right, thank you, and as always, be blessed. Peace. Thanks for tuning in to the Peace and Prosperity Podcast. If today's episode brought you clarity, encouragement, or even a moment of calm, share it with someone who needs to hear it too. Your support helps us keep these conversations going. And remember, you don't have to do it all alone. If you're navigating stress, burnout, or just need a space to reset, I'm here to support you. Connect with me at jasonlphillips.com or send me a message on social media. Until next time, protect your peace, pursue your purpose, and keep showing up for you. Be blessed.