She Carried Abandonment for Years, Then God Began Healing It - Georgette

What if your fear, people-pleasing, and pain are rooted in abandonment wounds that God wants to heal?

Abandonment does not always look loud. Sometimes it shows up as fear, people-pleasing, anxiety, and the belief that love will disappear if you are not enough. In this faith-filled episode, Jen talks with Georgette about healing abandonment wounds, generational trauma, divorce recovery, and Christian healing. 

Georgette shares how family patterns shaped her life, how blame weighed her down, and how God helped her release what was never hers to carry. This episode offers hope for women healing from rejection, breaking unhealthy cycles, and rebuilding their worth. Listen now, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review so more women can find these stories.

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Transcript

Welcome And A Circle Of Hope

SPEAKER_01 0:07

When God starts revealing your roots, what do you do? If you're like Georgette, you listen, reflect, and start to see how your past, generational patterns, pain, and growth all fit together into a beautiful picture of purpose. Today, Georgette lives that purpose through her podcast, Junk to Jewels, and her book, Junk to Jewels: A Journey from Brokenness and Despair to Beauty and Delight. As founder and CEO of Bella Healing Hearts Foundation, she helps people heal from the past in the present for their future. Georgia, your message is powerful, purposeful, and full of light. Thank you for joining me today.

SPEAKER_00 1:02

I am so glad to be here, Jennifer. Thank you so much for having me. It's so kind and I'm so happy. Um, your mission of creating a circle of hope really does resonate with me in so many ways, uh, especially with my heart. And I'm honored to share our story with your listeners.

SPEAKER_01 1:20

Absolutely. And you already provided space for me to come and share. Yes. Yes, to come and share on the Junk to Jules podcast.

SPEAKER_00 1:29

Yeah, it was so much fun.

SPEAKER_01 1:31

Yeah, when people enjoy our conversation today, then they can hear it on the flip side as well. So awesome, awesome. Much appreciation.

SPEAKER_00 1:41

But it's it's how God works, don't you know? We think we're helping someone else all the time, but then it reverts and they ended up being a blessing we needed. Like he does that all of the time, full circle, all the time.

Abandonment Triggers In Early Marriage

SPEAKER_00 1:54

I love that. We didn't talk about it, but the Poland trip when I was a little girl, you know, I was attached to my mom as a hip on the hip. She tried to bring me to preschool and it didn't work. And I couldn't be separated from my mother. Kindergarten was a very difficult thing to have me do. Preschool never worked out. So she tried later with kindergarten and finally I found my way and could be left. And that was before Poland. So before I turned seven, or no, I was gonna be turning eight, I think it was six and a half, seven.

SPEAKER_01 2:22

Do you feel like that early separation followed you into your relationships later in life?

SPEAKER_00 2:29

As an adult, a young adult, mind you, because I was 18 years old when I committed in a marriage and got married. I was in love and I just wanted a family. When I first got married, my husband had a hunting trip on the books. It was like right after we got married. Would you leave your new wife for a whole 10 days? Like it was over a week. He went to Vermont and hunting. Maybe not, but that was one of the other signs that this probably wasn't the best fit because that had been all along the unavailability and loneliness already in the relationship as we were dating. How old was he? He was young too. 19, 18, like he was, I think he's a year older. The thing is, I freaked out and I had no idea. And God reminded me of that time when I was freaking out when divorced, the word divorce was actually gonna be received and used and it was gonna happen. The marriage was ending. Don't say an N-word when you don't want it to end because you're speaking it into existence. So it ended, it needed to end. I learned later it was a generational repeat. I also learned later there was so much dysfunction on both sides. So it came slowly, Jennifer. It came slowly, that truth. And I also put my husband as an idol. Like I he was my God in a way, even though I had a relationship and loved God. I put him on that. Like he was my love source, he was everything's source. No, that's that's not how God desires for us because it's not true. We're human beings, we all fail each other. I learned, and even now I'm 57 and I don't mind sharing. A lot of us carry generational wounds and we don't even know it. It's important for the future generations to understand where you come from. It's key because it's it's enlightening information of why we are the way we are, why we talk the way we talk, why we believe, why we have certain, you know, reactions to situations.

Generational Trauma And Family Patterns

SPEAKER_00 4:23

And then God showed me how I responded to abandonment because that's what it was. The the emotional unavailability from my mom and dad was from generational repeats of trauma. My mother was abandoned in every way, shape, or form, and definitely the emotional unavailability, and she was made to believe she was less than, and that's the message that carried on to our daughter, Georgette. My mom was hated by her mom, abused by her mom, and there was mental health in that family. And then my dad can grew up in a silent household. The mother agreed to have children, she didn't want to have children, so they raised themselves. No one's normal. Out of all the relatives, they showed up for each other and their family, they had their issues, they found each other. And then when each of them messed up in life or had crisis, they were there for each other. I, you know, my mom was pregnant with me, and my dad decided um I'm not abandoning her. Um, I love her and I want to make a family. And he committed to my mom in marriage. So we start, you know, they started a young family. Um, they were almost married 50 years, it was coming up to that mark. So I got to see separation lots of times, divorce, but God came in. When you invite God back into the crisis, he restored my family and he brought us back together and kept us. They remarried, but I'm so proud of my parents because they overcame where they came from, and that was with God and choice and decision. Dad, he was an entrepreneur back in the day when no one knew what that word was. He was a visionary, he was an immigrant from England, he came over as a little boy. Yeah, he he made it happen. He became a millionaire with his creative vision. He was an artist, but he he worked his talent in the land. His name is George, my dad, and I'm George Jad, I love it. But he was a farmer of the land, that's his name, that's the meaning of his name. And so he had a vision. He could see a mountain and a rock, and he could see right through and what could be created from it. That's how God sees us. Like he know he fashioned us in the womb, but he had a vision and a plan for each of us, Jeremiah 29, 11, and it's true. So we could show up and go along with the ride and let it come to pass and do our part to bring it because it is a co-partnership. God wants us to rise up with them, walk the earth with them, and have fellowship and love him, and he loves us, and and through that relationship, each of us bring gifts to the world.

Divorce Pressure And Being Blamed

SPEAKER_01 6:55

I'd like to ask with with your parents being married so long and having breaks in between, how did they deal with you then coming to them saying, I gotta get out of my marriage?

SPEAKER_00 7:08

Okay, well, the truth, the truth is, this is a lot of the healing I had to heal from. My ex-husband was the favored one in his family and in mine. My parents enjoyed him and loved him as his son, and that's good. It's good. They blamed me throughout the years of our marriage. When I would share some stuff, they they would blame me. Like, Drijjet, you're what are you doing wrong? They didn't understand that when I said my husband was never home, he was never home. And then I remember years later, my mom was going through her separation years. My husband was at her table in the middle of the night, like they late at night having a coffee chat. And then later she remembered, yeah, why was he with me? How come he wasn't with Georgette? Like that was one instance. So she was like, she saw that, and so when it broke, they thought it was on me to try to save it. I didn't want it to break. It was just all the dynamics up to that point. Listen, marriages take two parties 100%, and that was not happening. I was not in a good place mentally. It was the fact that I was alive, like I was not in a good place. I was about to move out of the house with my little girl. Like, I was not in the right mind. God intervened. He um moved upon my parents' heart to come to Connecticut in the middle of winter, Christmas time. And from that, God did a work. Um, my ex-husband had his whole family up north, he had a business, like everything was there. But that conversation, something God did, and my ex-husband said, Okay, fine, let's go to Florida. We'll give this marriage another try. We'll give it a go. God did that, put us all packed up in a box truck, and we drove down to Florida. He gave my husband opportunity and myself to get our act together and figure this out, and he wanted us to be healed, but it wasn't meant to be because it takes two. And so the separation was on, and then he eventually moved out. But in his mind, I was the one who caused it as well. I I knew my faults more than most, and I'm very hard on myself, and I want to do everything right, and that's not life, that's not realistic. So I was hard on myself, and then God in the middle of the night during prayers, like he's like, Drejette. Listen, marriage takes two. This was not your doing, like all the way. Like, you have certain things you're accountable for, responsible for, and he held me accountable, and I repented, I asked for forgiveness, but my ex had responsibility that's on him, and then I started to oh, you're right. And then when my parents still had that view towards me, like this is your fault, it broke. No, I started to say no, but later in life, through the years, after this was all, you know, when my parents also were going through a healing, they were also going through a very tough time at that same time, but then they later realized what I was bringing to the table, and I did my best.

SPEAKER_01 10:02

You know, I went to a therapist once, and and she said, in all honesty, Jen, she was like, Really, nobody should get married until they're 30, because in the 20s, I agree. There's so much self-discovery that it has to happen, right? It has to happen, it's gonna show up somewhere in your life. And like you said, marriage is it's a hundred, it's a hundred, but if you have no idea what is going on inside yourself, it's gonna trigger, it's gonna pop up. Yeah, you have no idea. No, none of us do.

SPEAKER_00 10:38

I was supposed to go to university. Um education was my path. Dad P had the money and he was ready to send me to a good university. It was Oral Robinson University. We had my eye on because of music. Um, because I I have a passion for music. I played piano as a little girl. I could hear it by ear and learn by ear, and I sing like my mom. My mom was the singer, and my dad he wanted me in his business. I did not go to university because fear of loss of love and and and fear of leaving that relationship. A year after graduating high school, I married. It was the same pattern, like you just stay with what you know. So, yes, they were setting me up for college, like we should do that, but then they said, Okay, with that money, that money went to a big wedding, a very nice wedding.

Losses That Reveal Purpose

SPEAKER_01 11:26

At that point in your life, did you feel broken? Or did it feel more like something deeper you didn't understand yet?

SPEAKER_00 11:36

We're meant for something, and that's each of us. We're meant for something greater because there's beauty in all of us, there's greatness in all of us, and it it's it's revealed, and actually part of the losses and challenges bring it out. They they force us to the truth, they bring knowledge to us, they bring counselors, they bring other people to us that we never would have met if we didn't have the loss. It doesn't happen to us, it happens for us. Or it and God actually, as a scripture, he works all things out for our good. He didn't promise there'd be no pain in life, he promised he'd work it out for good. So even as I sit with you today, Jennifer, there's things in my heart I'm still waiting on for the Lord. I'm praying for healing, physical relationship, there's dreams that are yet fulfilled, but I I saw what he's done in the past brings me to the future. So there's heart wounds that stay heart wounds. He heals it to a point where we don't um cry when we talk about it, but it's still a wound. But he uses that wound and it becomes, I think, a beautiful, beautiful place because it's that wound that ministers to someone down the road that only we can understand heart to heart what they're going through. And it's that wound, and that's why God does use our pain for purpose.

Junk To Jewels And Real Healing

SPEAKER_01 12:57

And is that the wound that inspired you to then write junk to jewels?

SPEAKER_00 13:02

When I learned of my insecurity, like I learned about the insecurity, and God revealed and showed me as my little girl self, and all the years I was so afraid to go out in public. I thought I was fat and ugly, like, and I was like, No, it was through God I first felt my love for me. I never was loved like that before. God was the one who loved me the most and he showed up for me. Things broke. God intervened and he brought people into my life, people, places, and things. He would show truth. Now, truth hurts sometimes because it is something that you didn't know, or you have to be accountable for it. But he does it in a way with the firmness of a father who a loving father, but he he shows up and he hears you, he sees us, and as as God was healing me and he brought community around me, at first, like when he would he would show me one thing at a time, he would bring me to a counselor, free counseling, he would invite me into a small group setting. He used all the small groups, you know. Back in then it was Al Anon, AA, and then it was um, you know, Bible study. Oh my gosh, get yourself into a group, let other people see you because other people that's how we get love. We receive love from other people and us for them. It's so yeah, lean in because then you learn some really cool things about yourself you never would have known about. But yeah, we gotta we gotta get the band-aid off this stuff, and we might have to have the surgery, you know. And you're gonna you're gonna learn you're not alone. It's kind of like that frog in the bucket, never knows there's another world outside that bucket until it gets out of the bucket. Well, that's a lot of us. We're going on generational repeat, no one's knowing nothing, and they just keep doing the same old thing until someone gets out of that bucket through crisis, through great dream and ambition. But one person it takes in a whole family line to change the family history back to a positive, and then then the next generation's better.

SPEAKER_01 15:05

Everything you have shared today, from from growing up in that home to getting married early, to recognizing your feelings of abandonment, um, not being good enough, all of that brought you to the point where you found your

Building Bella Healing Hearts Foundation

SPEAKER_01 15:23

purpose. You listened to God, you surrendered, and you then start a podcast, you write a book. And there is also the Bella Healing Hearts Foundation. Let's start with talking about that.

SPEAKER_00 15:35

So in the middle of the night, I had an epiphany, and that was where go back to go apply to IRSC. That was a community college at the time. So when you have a thought, the Holy Spirit speaks to all of us, act on it. And I knew I wanted to help people like people helped me. I was a single mom, and everyone came up and just gave a leg up, brought Christmas gifts, they helped with my rent when I had an eviction notice, or they helped with this. Um, a friend gave a discount when a car crisis came, it kept me from being homeless, like it because we were always on that edge of it being a real-blown, horrible situation, but they kept us. I was a youth sponsor at the time, and I was in a meeting, and we were trying to think of a name for this new group we wanted to start, and God gave me healing hearts. They didn't use it, but healing hearts stayed. And now, mind you, when you know me, I'm a heart matters. I learned I'm a writer and speaker, heart matters because I read all those books. I was always the one up at the prayer altar. I shared my stuff and I also talk about it. I feel it's important to talk about it and be vulnerable, and then that's why my husband and I are lay ministers and we do the small groups and we we help people draw it out of them. And the podcast came, share it with others so I could pass it on because not everyone's a reader. But it all kind of morphed together. Like I knew there was gonna be an entrepreneurial side because you gotta have income to create the things to help people. So we knew we were gonna do educational scholarships or see a need, meet a need, but then okay, what about the business side to make the money to feed the nonprofit? So this will be the fourth year we're gonna partner with St. Lucie County Education Foundation to do scholarships for seniors from single-parent homes. We've done small groups with single parenting groups in partnership with um Calvary PSL. We did that for a few times, and now it's more like see and need when someone says something they need help with a bill. Um, if we have the funding, we we've done that. We've even gifted massages to single moms, you know, to bless them. We have a Junk to Jewel's Enterprises that houses books because writer and speaker, Heart Matter is my gifted purpose that God shared, and it comes slowly, all for the glory of God. So I was like, okay then.

SPEAKER_01 17:50

Yeah, it's beautiful how you found a way to give back. And I think I am like you. I have gone through things in my life, and God has brought angels in, and they come in and they come out, and they come in and they come out. And so, like you, I try to do the same thing in different ways that I can help. So we talked about the foundation. You mentioned junk to jewels in your in your book, and all of those links will be in the show notes so people can easily find them.

Fear Of Healing And Isaiah 41:10

SPEAKER_01 18:17

Now, uh, for the listener who is uh maybe feeling overwhelmed or exposed, what encouragement would you give them if they're afraid of what healing might uncover?

SPEAKER_00 18:30

So, and that's why God does it slow. Don't be afraid of the process because God, Abba Father, um, Yahweh, the when he says he loves us, it's through and through. I was listening to a podcast the other day, um other people's shoes, and they were talking about forgiveness, and here I'm dealing with things I need to forgive from my past, and I'm like, oh my gosh. But he was he showed up in the all kinds of situations where God's love flowed through him, and because God did it for him, and that was my why I wanted to do what I do in you, Jennifer. Like, God showed up for us, protected us, loved us, kept us, and showed us things, but and but he wants us to be that vessel that passed it on. So lean in. The beauty of the Lord is in us, and junk to jewels is God's purpose. Like, he wants to bring the jewels out, but you gotta clean it up. You gotta unbury the junk.

SPEAKER_01 19:23

Okay, do me a favor, close your eyes. And the scripture that pops in your head right now, I would like you to share with our audience.

SPEAKER_00 19:34

Isaiah 41, 10. Fear not, be not dismayed. I'm with you. I will I will not abandon you or leave you. And God is true on his word. I was on my knees at my job in the bathroom over and over when I had no idea what was going to happen. And it was the most fearful time in my life. And needing to be loved, but not receiving the love and being hated and and really trying to be loved, that God does not leave us.

SPEAKER_01 19:59

Thank you so much. And uh, that is the message my audience needed to hear. I knew if I just asked you to lean in that you would be able to deliver that message. So, Georgia, thank you so much for everything.

SPEAKER_00 20:13

Thank you, Jennifer. I love what you're doing, I love what you're doing, and how you support our community and our our folks in in service and those giving out and showing up in dangerous places and protecting people every single day. And I love that he turned your story around too and brought out the jewels, and he's still doing it, and that's what he does. Like he expands upon it. It's a risk, go for it, because it all our lives get better, more colorful, more vibrant, and we he adds more adjectives to who we are and not just what people told us. He'll he'll delete the adjectives that don't belong, and he'll bring us new words that who of who we really are. So lean in and go for it. Like just trust God in the process. It's a process, it's for all of us.

SPEAKER_01 20:58

Wow, that is like the perfect message to end on. That is beautiful. Scripture and a message. You are someone special, you know that. So are you, Georgette? Thank you so much for joining me today, and thank you for being with you. Yeah, thank you, Jennifer. Uh, and thank you for listening. And remember, you are stronger than you think.