Barbara: Alienation Silenced Her—Then She Lost Her Daughter

I Need Blue

I Need Blue
Barbara: Alienation Silenced Her—Then She Lost Her Daughter
Nov 10, 2025 Season 5 Episode 16
Jennifer Lee/Barbara

Her daughter’s absence became Barbara’s purpose: to break cycles of alienation, pain, and silence.

For Barbara, it began with a lifetime of not belonging—first in her family, then in a broken marriage that spiraled into a fight not in court, but in the fragile space between mother and child no parent should ever face. Parental alienation twisted love into fear, turning her daughters against her with cult-like intensity. She watched in anguish as her children grew terrified of being seen with her, their innocence stolen by manipulation. And then the unthinkable happened: her 15-year-old daughter, Erin, ended her life—a tragedy Barbara had pleaded with professionals to prevent.

Out of that unbearable loss, Barbara chose purpose. Today, she is a wellness advocate, speaker, and author who helps women navigate divorce, heal generational wounds, and reclaim their lives. Through her program Own Your Life, she offers the support she once needed, guiding others to rise above the pain with courage and hope. Barbara’s story is proof that even in the aftermath of unimaginable heartbreak, healing and transformation are not only possible—they can become a beacon for others still fighting in the dark.

Connect with Barbara:

Instagram: 
WellnessMattersYouMatter

Facebook:

https://www.facebook.com/barbaradrtina

https://www.facebook.com/WellnessMattersYouMatter/

You Tube:

https://www.youtube.com/@WellnessMattersYouMatter

Website: 

https://wellnessmattersyoumatter.com/

Email:

bdrtina@gmail.com

Purchase my Book:

Amazon: Ignite Possibilities


Connect with Jen:
Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/ineedbluepodcast/
YouTube:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCp1q8SfA_hEXRJ4EaizlW8Q
Facebook:  
https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61567221068683
Website:
https://ineedblue.net/
Apple Podcasts:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-need-blue/id1567450935
Loved this episode? Leave a review and rating on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.
Purchase my book or Audiobook:
https://whyisurvived.com/


Support the show

Episode Artwork Barbara: Alienation Silenced Her—Then She Lost Her Daughter 33:10 Episode Artwork Sifu James DeFillips: Real-World Self-Defense & Awareness During the Holidays 24:54 Episode Artwork John: Recovery, Redemption, and Community Rebirth - Feed The Lambs 47:29 Episode Artwork Theresa: From Rape Survivor to a Voice of Strength, Breaking the 17-Year Silence 47:35 Episode Artwork Ashley: Tech Meets Trauma, Helping Domestic Violence Victims 38:15 Episode Artwork Jason: He Served His Country—Now He Serves His Brothers: A Military Veteran’s Journey to Healing 58:30 Episode Artwork Adam: Shots Fired; The Call That Changed Everything 58:02 Episode Artwork Furry First Responders: How Dogs Support Mental Health After Crisis 33:02 Episode Artwork Diane: When Goodbye Comes Without Warning 46:32 Episode Artwork A Drunk Driver Took Claudia's Life; Remember for Change 35:44 Episode Artwork Nichole: When Daddy's Love Comes with Bruises 48:28 Episode Artwork Shala: Breaking Generational Trauma, Building Futures - Treasure Coast Girls Coalition 50:35 Episode Artwork Jeff: A Badge, a Battle, a Breakthrough: The Real Story of a Florida Police Officer 42:58 Episode Artwork Safe Families for Children of the Treasure Coast Chapter- From Crisis to Support 34:11 Episode Artwork Mika: Her Dad Becomes a Hero, Saving Her from a Murderous Boyfriend 45:43 Episode Artwork Season 5 Introduction to I Need Blue 1:21 Episode Artwork Chad and Allison: Their Journey with Osteogenesis Imperfecta 39:58 Episode Artwork Nicole: Navigating Birth Trauma, Child Loss, and the Healing Power of Storytelling 49:30 Episode Artwork Doug: A Navy Veteran’s Journey of Surviving Suicide, Mental Health Advocacy, and Hope 45:31 Episode Artwork Trish: Surviving Stage Four Cancer and Finding Peace 26:54 Episode Artwork Ron: From Male Breast Cancer Survivor (Twice) Powerful Advocate 30:15 Episode Artwork Addressing Fetal & Infant Mortality with Compassion: Indian River County Healthy Start 31:29 Episode Artwork Hayley: Lincoln’s Legacy, 8 Days of Love, Loss, and a Mother’s Strength 1:09:26 Episode Artwork Edit B Kiss: From Petroleum Engineer to Energy Healer 42:52 Episode Artwork Molly: From Self-Harm to Strength, Resilience, and Hope 38:29